Should I reach out to him again?

[Anonymous]

So me and a guy used to have bit of small talk on instagram. He seemed to like talking to me. We stopped talking because I was mainly the one who reached out to him first.

Months later he still views all of my instagram stories and he has been many times one of the first people to view them.

If he’s not that interested in me why is he viewing them so much...

[Jamie05rhs]

Maybe they just keep popping up in his notifications and he's like "F*ck it; let's see what this b*tch has to say today."

[Asker]

Lol. He won’t get notifications if he hasn’t delibarately put notifications on for my story updates...

[Jamie05rhs]

That's not true. I get notifications for all kinds of random people.

[Asker]

If you rarely watch stories then u will get notifications...

[Jamie05rhs]

Oh. Then maybe that's why.

[Asker]

So what do u now think...

[Jamie05rhs]

I think that you don't actually know why he stopped talking to you. I think you're just guessing.

[Asker]

I was mostly reaching out to him (he did reach out to me couple times too). I stopped reaching out to him and now we haven’t been in contact...

[Jamie05rhs]

"Reaching out" is vague. What did you say?

[Asker]

I replied to his stories relating to what he posted

[Jamie05rhs]

Oh. No offense, but that doesn't really count for much.

[Asker]

What I should do then...

[Jamie05rhs]

Send him a direct message.

[Asker]

by the way he updates his stories way less than before... do u think he could be waiting for a DM xD

[Jamie05rhs]

Maybe he is. Or maybe he's just lost interest in that website/app.

[OnTheLevel]

It wouldn't hurt to check in on him if you have some interest in him.

[Asker]

Do u think he’s interested or I’m just wasting my time?

[OnTheLevel]

If he's tracking your social media, he has some interest.

[Asker]

Really... he follows and he views every sibgle story of me. Usually it takes him at most 1h view them (at most 2h)

[OnTheLevel]

It sounds like he's into you.

[Asker]

We haven’t talked in months...

[OnTheLevel]

That's ok. Message him and tell him you've been thinking about him and haven't talked in way too long. See how he responds.

[Asker]

Could guy be interested but not reach out to me but instead View every story update?

[OnTheLevel]

Yeah, especially if he doesn't think you are interested. One thing I've learned from the short time I've been on here is that a lot of younger people REALLY fear rejection and are scared to death to approach someonethey like. It makes no sense to me because you aren't going to be with them if you don't approach them so why not at least take a chance.

[Asker]

He’s almost 30yrs...

[OnTheLevel]

Ok... is that a problem?

[Asker]

I meanb would a grown man fear rejection so much?

[OnTheLevel]

You'd be surprised.

[Asker]

I’ve couple times in the past replied to his stories wouldn’t that kinda let him know that I was interested in him?

[OnTheLevel]

You asked if he was afraid of rejection. Are you?

Guys don't always notice subtle hints and clues. Be blunt if you want them to know what you mean.

[Jamie05rhs]

@OnTheLevel is right.

[Jamie05rhs]

"I mean would a grown man fear rejection so much?". It's not so much about fearing rejection but more about not wanting to be a public nuisance. Those of us in our 30s are more established in the community and we have a reputation to uphold. No one wants to become known as that guy who hits on women and harasses them all the time. Therefore, we must operate with caution. If a woman gives no signs of being interested in us, we simply move on and leave her alone. We don't want any drama. No woman is worth it; sorry.

[Asker]

@Jamie05rhs I thought I gave him signs by replying to his stories?

[Jamie05rhs]

@Asker No. Lol. That just means you're friends.

[Asker]

@Jamie05rhs so I should just outright tell him that I like him?

[Jamie05rhs]

@Asker Yes! 😀

[Asker]

@Jamie05rhs my female friends have said that I shouldn’t do it and that guys like challenge. If I did that it would be desperate and I would look easy...

[Jamie05rhs]

Your female friends are ignorant.