Before leaving for a month trip to Europe, I met a great guy online who lives 1hr drive away. We FaceTime often and get along well. We plan that he drives down to go on a date and then we drive down for beach day this weekend.
Since I’ve gotten back from Europe he complains that I take longer to reply and thinks I’m not interested. I keep saying yes or I wouldn’t be talking to him. Today he texts me to promise that “it will be worth his time”. He doesn’t explain what it means but part of me thinks it may be sexual.
I reply that “this makes me uncomf bc I want it to be mutual and him to value my comfort”.
he says “well ur obviously not interested. If that’s the case, wish you luck”
I reply that “I just don’t want to feel pressured”
he finishes with “I have lots of girls interested in me who would love for me to take them out. It’s a shame that you are missing out on meeting an amazing guy”
is it worth it to reach out again? Maybe call him or text back “it’s a shame you lost a D1 athlete at an Ivy League who genuinely cared for you”. I rlly liked him and want to meet him irl, just not sure what’s happening with our communication.
I think his reaction is common, your new to talking to each other and suddenly disappear so it’s natural to assume he is being ghosted or compared to other guys, that’s also what I thought when a guy asked me out and went on vacation later that week, I later realized I was wrong but he said he did not want an insecure girlfriend and that was the end of of our connection until he showed interest later and I turned him down.