I’ve been in a 7 month relationship with my girlfriend Nivea. Me & Nivea have a good relationship. Nivea cooks for me, does my laundry, and spends money on me. When we don’t see each other for a couple days she calls me on her way to work and FaceTimes me for an hour before bed. I’ve never had a relationship like this. She even gave me a key to her home and told her dad about me.
I really like Nivea but I don’t like that most of her friends are guys. Her male bestie Mark lives a 5 min walk from her. She use to text Mark a lot until he got a girlfriend. She has her text messages on open screen. So I can see everything, but I’ve never seen anything suspicious.
One night me & Nivea were hanging with her friends. Gossip started about their friend Julio. They were saying Julio is secretly gay. Nivea explained why he’s gay. She talked about how she was sleeping over at his house years ago & Julio cuddled a gay guy instead of her.
Her exact words...”can you believe he has a beautiful woman laying in his bed and he’d rather cuddle a gay guy on his couch?”.
I got really upset and mentioned it the next day. Her response was “I know I’m hot and can have any guy I want. So obviously he’s gay”. I also mentioned I don’t like her friends with so many guys. She said she’s not attracted to them and I should trust.
I’ve nearly fallen in love with Nivea but I keep remembering her male friends. Am I an idiot for staying with her?
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The way you describe it she’s more like a mom to you than a girlfriend and you’re acting like a little boy. Letting her cook for you, do your laundry and spend money on you. If I were you I’d be embarrassed to admit something like that even on gag. The fact that you’re not says everything about your personality and mindset. And what Nivea said about she knows she’s hot and can have every guy she wants and if they’re not interested in her they’re gay says everything about her personality as well. Nasty and full of herself. You’re a boy, not a man, and she’s a bitch who has you wrapped around her fingers because your dick likes the way she looks and you love how takes care of your dirty clothes just like mommy, so you don’t need to grow the f up. Pathetic really. And yeah, she will cheat and/or leave you out of nowhere and find a new guy the next day. She’s just the type to do something like that.
I was unemployed for a year and living on $1500/month. So she offered to help me. Since I got a new job I’ve been putting tons of over time so I can buy her things she wants. I’m taking her on a carribean cruise once we both get vaccinated and able to travel.
As for the laundry, it is really expensive where I live and there’s many COVID cases in my building. Again, she offered to do it for me because it’ll be safer and it’s free at her place!
It doesn't make you a idiot. Men think that just because women have men as friends she can't be trusted which isn't true, but rather the men can't be trusted with the woman especially if they are alone.
If she is of a faithful spirit then she won't cheat on you but the dudes can sometimes cross a line with your girl.
i had this conversation with my girl and I have a lot of female friends. and she gets jealous. I'm not gonna cheat i told her id just leave u for the other chick. and I'm not attracted to my female friends
I think you’re being too paranoid she sounds like an awesome girl and you are letting something stupid get in the way of relationship. I support her leaving you and hooking up with someone better like me.
