Is this normal, what I am experience?

[Erica686]

So to those, who knows about my situation with my friends with benefits of 8 years. And y'all, know, I have been on this man, for A LONG TIME AND I MEAN, A LONG TIME. But anyways, I have asked many people for advice on here, there was some pros and cons with the answers. But I do appreciate everyone that has answer the most ridiculous questions to the most realistic ones. But anyways, him and I have about establishing a friendship. He doesn't want to leave me, and he doesn't want to lose me. And I came forward and told him how I felt and how I wanted a relationship. And truth is, after 8 years of dealing with this man. He isn't ready to commit. And it definitely has nothing to do with him giving him free sex. I know in most cases it might be. But let the truth be told. He still wants to be a hoe and fool around with others. He isn't ready to date or be with anyone. So I refuse to settle. But anyways. I put some distance between him and I on so I can collect all the pieces to my heart from him, and just move forwards. I don't think that I can be just his friend, at this point. I love him wayyy to much. But anyways, lately I have been experience something different. Like, I feel weird and awkward and a bit uncomfortable knowing that I have been dealing with a fuckboy this whole entire time. But also, thinking about him. It's like an up and down type of feeling. So I was wondering, if this is the process of the healing part?

[MrCommodore]

How you feel now is probably normal, because it is a difficult thing to process and comprehend.

[Erica686]

It's like I'm sad but happy at the same time. Like we are still connected on social media. But if I see him online- I'll log of immediately. And if I we're to see him. I would try my best to avoid him. Like something about the situation gives me anxiety. Ugh! 😒😒

[MrCommodore]

That's probably normal, you're happy that you seen the light and recognised this situation was hopeless, but feel anxiety now for participating in it for so long.
You hopefully realise that its not your fault, stuff like this happens everyday.

[Erica686]

Yes... he made a new IG account cuz there's other one got hacked. And the girls that he adds, they look like some ghetto hoochie mamas, and some of them aren't that cute. But he's a fuckboy and a hood dude. OMG!! I can't believe... I actually liked him. Like, he did say, if things are meant to be later- then it will be. But later... It's going to be to late. And I have had more than enough psychics tell me that this man was my soulmate. But if that is the case , then why does he keep running. But the last psychic told me. She said, this man is your soulmate- but right now he isn't really ready to be with you. She's like, he likes you.. But he also likes other girls too. So she said, it's just for the best that you just move on and stop wasting your time. She said, you and him will have many encounters with each, as far as meeting and seeing each other. But she said in the mean time. Just let him go. He doesn't want a commitment. She said, he just want to have fun. Nothing really serious with anyone of the girls he mess with. But after all, why would or should I listen to a psychic after all they just want my money. 🤷

[MrCommodore]

Psychics get it wrong sometimes too, so maybe focus on meeting someone decent and respectful who actually wants to be in a relationship with you. If Mr Player really is your soul mate or destiny or whatever, you don't have to worry about it, it will all eventually work our as that psychic predicted.

Just live life, let the future write itself

[Erica686]

Thank You and will do!! ☺☺☺☺☺

[MrCommodore]

You've done well, I know its not easy to break away from someone you're deeply into, but it will be fine, just give it time.

[Erica686]

Hi there. And also. Guys, Sexual chemistry, and why do people, certain people consider that, being the best thing when having sex? ↗ Could you answering this question as well. .. I wasn't going to throw my friend under the bus but she wanted me to ask this question. Once you read it I'll give you details of what she shared with me and I'll share that with you.

[Erica686]

Thank You

[MrCommodore]

I'm not sure about that question, of course I understand sexual chemistry, but not sure why you are asking why some people consider that the best thing when having sex.

[Erica686]

It's because someone said that to me and I just thought it was weird but it doesn't matter anymore

[Anonymous]

Yesss you go girl! It’s completely normal especially after 8 years of getting strung along. Give yourself some time to recover and don’t rush into it, you’re doing great!

[Erica686]

Awe thanks girly!! 💪😎

[es20490446e]

Didn't you suspected this situation when you started?

[Erica686]

No.. Tbh. Because he didn't project that player energy at the beginning. And plus I really didn't like him like that which is really weird because now I'm trying to focus on moving forwards and on. Like WTF! But I will say there was always something sketchy about him. Especially when he started to become inconsistent. So 🤷

[es20490446e]

Knowing what you now know, had you started that relationship?

[Erica686]

He says, if things are meant to be.. Later.. Then it will be. But my thing is, later- is going to be to late. So he should get that ish out his mind. .

If he wanted me then... He could have try... So don't try later.

[es20490446e]

I personally only date people that a full committed relationship from the beginning.

[Erica686]

Facts

[es20490446e]

Yes, otherwise they can be easily wasting you YEARS without making up their minds.

[Erica686]

Yeah. And I definitely don't have the time or patience for that

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes, it is. I congratulate you on taking this first step. You are doing the right thing. It will be hard at first, but just stay the course and you WILL get through this. And you will be a happier person on the other side.

[Erica686]

Oh thank you so very much and I'm sure I will

[Jamie05rhs]

You're welcome!

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

Nope