1 in 3 women are physically abused by there partners. Why is this so high?

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hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

I don't think it is. Just in your every day life, that would mean that at minimum either you, your mother, or a female friend would be abused, we know that isn't true. What is true is that a good way of screwing over a guy is to claim abuse, a good way for a woman to get out of some kind of wrong doing is to claim abuse, what is true is that a woman who claims an abusive husband is going to get way more out of a divorce settlement and is far more likely to get custody of her kids then if she didn't say these things.

I knew a man who was beaten by his girlfriend, she abused him all the time and it got so bad she even broke his ankle. He got drunk one night because obviously constantly being abused takes its toll on a person, when she decided to be abusive again. After she slammed a door on his cast, he slapped her. Guess who got arrested? It wasn't her. This is why a lot of bad women will use these claims to get what they want, to make an ex look bad etc.

Obviously not every case is this, but many are and its hard to sift through which are real and which are not. The issue is because their is no repercussions for lying about this and because women are incentivized to lie about it (again, claiming abuse gets them out of trouble (knew a woman who claimed she was abused and that is why she cheated on her husband (play the victim and her actions now look less sever, she was "driven" to it)), it means that bad women and women with little character are going to use that as an out.

So I think this is actually an artificially inflated number (because again, this would mean that a third of all the people you meet have been beaten or physically abused by a significant other and quite frankly I have not met that many people who have experienced domestic violence. In addition culturally we detest abusers of women, so much so that even in our stories we signify a person as bad based upon how they treat women i. e. if they are abusive towards her. That is not something that sits in the societies zeitgiest without reason.), though as to what the actual number is I don't know (could be close to that one or lower).

Jlegacy · Accepted Answer

The world on its own is cruel. It is also full of people selfish people and the sex lies that are believed to be true doesn't make things any easier. Very few mennsee woman as delicate or deserving of kindness.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

Most woman date 4 people before they marry so we could say 1 in 10 relationships involve hitting or slapping. And abuse is not always knives and guns and it’s not always one sided and sometimes it only happens once or twice during a ten year relationship, but that is why the stat is so high. Like my aunt and uncle take turns slapping each other on the arm when they fight and my cousin and her husband take turns slapping each other on their leg or butt with their hand palms during fights, it’s abusive but not homicidal like what you see in the news.

MzAsh · Accepted Answer

I’m very strict about checking a man’s aggression at the door. I don’t put up with it whatsoever. It’s not attractive to me and if anyone ever tried putting they’re hands on me, there would b consequences.

I’ve had too many relatives and friends in abusive relationships and I absolutely refuse to have that in mine.

As for why it happens, there are many reasons and variables to consider. But poor upbringing, cyclic relationship dynamics, mental health issues are among the top relating associations.

ohshee · Answer

I was on another chat site one day and there was a post by a girl who said she was raped and didn't go to the police,, and there was over 200 and more comments of girls saying the same thing, it made me sick to my stomach when I read all of of the post I was pissed off for a couple different reasons I was pissed up first of all because they didn't go to the police and some of the excuses were just stupid. I mean I do understand a little bit of it but you have to do something about it you have to say no this is not going to happen to me by putting them in fucking jail and I was more pissed off because the 200 and something post that I read and each girl saying the reason why they didn't go to the police piss me off because I felt old is going to take it's the wrong guy to read this and he's going to go out and do the same fucking because he knows that nobody's doing anything about it that really pissed me off I couldn't express myself because I couldn't find the words to let them know you fucked up one time but not going to the police now you're fucking up again by saying this out loud and in a roundabout way saying that it's okay because you didn't do anything about it but I couldn't write that all I all I can say is if it happens put them in jail do not be embarrassed it's not your fault put them fucking asses in jail

zeitgeist057 · Answer

Q: What type of men are successful with women?
A: The most aggressive.

If you can agree that men are the ones who approach, who do the "wooing", the ones who have to compete to get the woman. The guy asks for the girl's number the vast majority of the time, not the other way around. I could go on, but you live in the same world I do, so is there really a need?

Now take 100 men. The "top 10" are going to be the most competitive, aggressive/assertive, and yes, sometimes violent. You don't get to the top and stay there by letting people walk all over you, and in groups of men, especially competitive men, there will be times when push comes to shove. As (most) men mature, these battles as the pecking order gets sorted out usually become less physically violent and more subtle interactions, but the underlying aggression is still there.

Translated to the dating world, the guys who outdid all the other guys are now the ones who are out there feeling confident, approaching women, getting numbers, getting relationships. Those aggressive tactics of getting what they want then come into the relationship. When their partner doesn't do what they want, they probably start off with some subtle clues that would be quickly picked up on by fellow men in a locker room setting. Dudes know when they are being challenged and warned, but women come from a different world of communication, so she's not likely going to pick up on the cues. Next comes the violence.

I'm not condoning this in any way, I think it's fucked up and I came from an abusive home where my stepdad physically abused my mother and me. But that's the long and the short of it: "Top dog" type guy who beat up/out a bunch of other men to get the chick, and now the chick is in a relationship with this guy who got to the top by being aggressive. He's not going to change they bullying tactics that have been working to get him this far.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Including some reference to stats is always a good idea.

the UK tracks reported abuse and Office National Statistics produces reports on loads of stuff.

random year, however 2020 is expected to be off the charts due to lockdown etc.

https://www.ons.gov.uk/peoplepopulationandcommunity/crimeandjustice/articles/domesticabusefindingsfromthecrimesurveyforenglandandwales/yearendingmarch2017

yes women are far more likely to suffer abuse (anyone doubting that is just fucking stupid).

however men also suffer domestic abuse, so anyone saying it does not happen is also fucking stupid.

the scary thing is the UK is considered lower down the scale on domestic abuse (skewed as we report a lot, other countries don’t).

MrOracle · Answer

Let's say 1 man in 100 is abusive. If a woman dates 100 men, then, on average, she will have dated an abuser, even though she also dated 99 non-abusers. If a woman dates 33 men, then she has a 1 in 3 chance of having dated an abuser.

The point being, the average woman today has dated a LOT more men than women did in the past, and when you date more people, you're statistically more likely to eventually come across a bad one. That doesn't mean that most people are bad - in this example, only 1% are - it just means that dating more people increases your risks of encountering one of those bad people.

This is why you have to be careful with statistics - taken out of context, they can imply all kinds of things that may be technically true but aren't the real truth. Once you know the context around the statistic, you often find that the statistic itself isn't as outrageous as it initially seemed.

rjroy3 · Answer

Not sure I believe that statistic to start with. But a lot of domestic violence tends to happen at higher rate because partners stay. I'm not sure statistics account for repeat victims or if they just pull from domestic abuse claims without regard to multiple cases.

That aside, some categories have higher rates of violence than others. Like police domestic violence. Look up those statistics and they're staggering. You'd be surprised. Some studies show up to 40% police commit domestic violence against spouses and that's just reported

https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/police-brutality-and-domestic-violence/

There's other studies out there that show 24-40% reported. It still. 24% is the low of reported domestic violence? They have a problem and fuck up statistics too

RealMarek · Answer

This is because people with personality disorders (1 in 20) and abusive people (there is a lot of overlap between these populations) tend to cycle through many relationships. As a result, the odds of having a relationship by one are higher than one might expect.

Having seen some comments that suggest it is because women are attracted to “bad boys,” I would suggest that there are other dynamics that are more common. For example, a lot of abusive people tend to choose empathetic people who they can exploit.

J2ohhhhh · Answer

I had a girlfriend who loved that shit. If things were too quiet she thought something is wrong. She had low self-esteem and couldn't believe that someon who doesn't cheat on her or uses her would want her so she was always seeking evidence and when we fought - I mean verbal and emotional stuff we never went physical in this matter - she felt like she deserves me cus she puts up with my shit. She wasn't even a victim so it's not victim blaming, but many women had low self-esteem and think that they wouldn't deserve a decent man so they go for the abuser. I mean it's not the guy who says "hi I'm an abuser and had my black belt in domestic violence, wanna have a drink?" But the one who's just a bit too needy or possessive with some uncool vibes.

The-Wise-Phoenix · Answer

I no longer have any sympathy for women who get involved with abusive men.
Don't tell me that you didn't know what sort of man he was before you got involved with him. Because I am not buying it.
I have found that when you talk to abused women you almost always find out there were one or two men in her past that would have treated her better.
Women are and always have been the gate keepers of sex. They literally decided which men are getting laid. They do all the choosing.
That is the man you chose.
It sucks to be you.

Anonymous · Answer

Because even if you assume the data is accurate it is a statement with an agenda.

For example lets say that each woman dates 10 men, this would actually mean that only 3% of relationships were abusive but the way the information is presented wants to give the impression that in fact 30% of ALL relationships are abusive.

It also ignores the fact that there are many men who are abused by their female partners.

The agenda seeks to paint a picture of females commonly being the innoncent victims of violent men.

thotmas97 · Answer

So this isn’t accurate. The real number is that 1 in 3 women experience any form of violence in their lifetimes. This is not necessarily abuse from a partner, this is literally any form of violence, whether it be from a stranger, family member, etc. This is obviously still horrible, but the category itself is so vague that the number is artificially inflated, and I’d reckon that the number for men is likely higher. Not that this is a competition, and I’m not trying to minimize violence against women, but framing it like that is incredibly dishonest.

Mofunfour20 · Answer

Because a good father teachea his daughter what a good man is. Women pick abusive men because there's a lack of fathers showing women leadership. If more good fathers gave daughters advice, their relationship decisions will have a much better outcome. Women usually never know what they want anyway.

MCheetah · Answer

Because it's a false statistic feminists made up in the 2000's. Along with the "1 in 4/1 in 5/1 in 7 women have been raped on college campuses" BS. I honestly don't feel like doing all the research this disprove this statistic though, as I'm about to teach my first class and I'm already sleepy today. But it's false.

TheLawAroundHere · Answer

I think its because some women refure to read the warning signs. Nobody... and i mean NOOOOBODY... goes from zero to whipping your ass in the course of a conversation. He told u that a brating was coming. Either you missed the sign, or you read it and didn't believe it.

If you stick around for the ass whoopin, you get the ass whoopin.

iseekpinetrees · Answer

Is it though? I've never heard someone say this. Wait no one girl. Yea I've never had an issue like this with guys. Aggressive nature isn't my thing shows immaturity in my book. I wouldn't stand for it either someone would get shot stabbed or poisoned by me.

Novacane · Answer

This is something I always thought of, if we look at other stats like same-sex couples, Lesbian couples tend to have a higher rate of physical abuse than heterosexual and gay couples. Therefore there is one factor that remains the same, women. I would say women know how to press buttons and get under their skins which leads to abuse since one couple is always going the be more dominant than the other.

ChubbyKing · Answer

Humans are imperfect creatures. The number sits at 1 in 4 for men. A lot of people have mental and behavioral disorders that they're completely unaware of because our minds typically rationalize all of our thoughts, even the ones where we feel compelled to hurt or partners

Celtero · Answer

Women are very annoying and invoke their own many beatings...
Just kidding...

Women are the most likely to perpetrate and receive abuse... So this isn't a gendered problem as your question leads us to believe. It's more at the core of our society and how we deal with interpersonal relationships and the cycle of violence.

Often parent hits parent. Parent hits child. Child grows up to be a similar parent and partner.

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing justifies violence but it generally accelerates to that point with viscous things being said usually with specific goal to intent to enrage and sometimes even initiating the blows-hitting him. Not ever saying that this justifies violence in any way but its not usually that he comes home and then beats her because the soup is lukewarm. BTW-I work in Family Law

LeoElias · Answer

It can come from the guy or girl coming from an abusive home. Either it be physical or emotional. They learn from their parents that that behavior is ok and normal. So when they future partner exhibits the same behaviors they saw growing up at home, they don't know that it's unhealthy and unacceptable to be treated that way. So they accept it and even expect it. But this is not always the case of course.

SupremeWarlord · Answer

I suspect your stat is global, a lot of countries have very violent views about husband and wife, unfortunately.

But 1 in 3 seems suspiciously very high, a lot put 1 in 4 or 1 in 5, which is still high, but raises suspicion about how accurate these stats actually are.

Lionman95 · Answer

Because many guys haven´t learned to control their anger in their youth. If a guy can´t control himself and his use of any kind of drugs, he´s more likely to hit anyone around him.

MrMilti · Answer

Firstly, I really doubt this number.

Secondly, because people make bad choices. Dont ask me, why women choose "Bad Boys" as partners. Because Bad Boys might turn out to be actually Bad Boys. 🤷‍♂️

ThisAndThat · Answer

You mean where do the statistics come from? Allow the videos to explain why.

pjf1958 · Answer

Those individuals have an entitlement complex, that rationalizes shelfish behavior.

Lillie_xo · Answer

there are a lot of weak women and plenty (not the majority but plenty) of bad men who would do this. (｡•́︿•̀｡)

Explorer91 · Answer

Considering most domestic abuse, rape and assault doesn’t even get reported... you can only imagine how bad it is.

witness1 · Answer

My guess:
If it is worldwide, then it counts all the countriey, where women are treated like worthless neccessities.
If it is for a specific country, there are many individual national reasons. Most of them I would say are cultural or religious problems. (Forced marriage, non-acceptance of mental illnesses, economic depression).

But under all circumstances, and in my personal opinion, it is because men aren't raised and/or educated correctly.

BareNecessary · Answer

I dont think it is. I know it is an extremely high amount but not that high. Figuring out their mental stability should be first on the checklist for dating someone. For women too for sure. If Men's is every 3 I'd put a one for every 5 one abusive women.

Brianbrake · Answer

Your statistics are wrong for the simple reason that women lately accuse men for anything and the man who is abused rarely accuses for fear of mockery.

fr44c3iqqs · Answer

I have no idea. I didn’t know it was this high! It’s alarming as such, and no marriage or relationship should have that involved. Love and violence don’t mix.

Pyrofox · Answer

Probably cause women despite claiming to be "strong and independent" still end up in positions where they are the submissive ones.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Seeing as there are many men on here who say they can't find anyone, and might be really nice but are never given a chance? I can only assume the problem is poor taste in men.

exitseven · Answer

I do not believe this. Women can lie about this or exaggerate because the courts usually side with them.

EaterPeter · Answer

Giving so much power to other person. Be ready to walk away and walk away if needed. don't take too long.

Anonymous · Answer

Here are the majority of mena comments:
"Its their fault for chosing bad partners. They are attracted to agressive men."
- Agressive people hide who they are until they have you under their power.
"It's a false stat." Spoiler alert it isn't. It is on the WHO site. Well fine it says 30% there. One out of three is 33,(3)%. Still not much of reality.

Guys... Fuck you.

jshm2 · Answer

Because they don't fucking listen! Joking aside. It's probably underreported, if anything.

Anonymous · Answer

A lot of women have low self worth. A thought put in their head usually by the man abusing them. It's hard to dig yourself out of the mental hole and get away from the man. It's fear as well. You don't know what he is going to do.

monkeynutts · Answer

Possibly it is learned behaviour, like dad did it to mum, I think it can go both ways, like both partners can be violent and abusive to each other, it’s just men get in trouble for it.

Pj1981 · Answer

Because some guys are insecure and get off beating women AND Because some women push and push and push enough for the most patient man to break.

Smegskull · Answer

Because abuse is being defined by the people asking the question not the people giving the answer.

SwedishTwizz · Answer

Where? I mean which country is that happening to at that high rate?

rcljr · Answer

Did you know 2 out of 3 stats given on the internet as fact are false.

weeee · Answer

Most women love dominant 6ft muscular assertive men the most. Go figure.

Alvr_vrs2 · Answer

I think it has to do with the fact that most woman that are victims of domestic abuse are afraid to say anything because of what society might say or most times is because they are afraid of what their partner might do to them.

AdithyaR · Answer

A mix of boys not being taught how to express their images in their youth which leads to this stuff and also cause women are conditioned from childhood to cater to such men and "fix" them.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Lot of women encourage and reward aggressive behavior. Some girls are twisted in this topic because they confuse masculinity with violence.

Bakcula · Answer

Because when women had the choice in a nice guy to the bad guy. The girl picked the bad guy and then enjoyed all the abuse she could ever want. Good for her she is a smart woman.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Its not. These days they define telling a woman no as physical abuse. The real statistic for actual physical abuse is like 1 in 3000 which is still pretty bad but a lot better than 1 in 3

Shy_Steve · Answer

I think because most Girls are attracted to Confidence and Confident Guys are more likely to be Manipulative than a Shyer Guy.

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

I believe it! Id even say any person thats had at least 6 partners 1 of them was probably abusive.

Anonymous · Answer

Hahaha bullshit. Domestic violence is almost equally female to male  and 71% of non-reciprocated violence of female to male.

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

I don't think that number is correct but women should start going out with nice guys instead of jerks, if that's true. I know a lot of guys that would never hit a woman.

Zygum · Answer

Because male spent too much for his girlfriend and when that girl cheats or bluff her boyfriend, then they beat and sbuse physically to girls, Enjoy with money of his boyfriend and having sex with other men

007kingifrit · Answer

men are more likely to be physically abused by their partners than women actually

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

1 in 3, isn't that bad. just looks bad because it's such a small fraction.

when you put it into a percentage, it's 33% which means, if it were a school grade, that's an F. So, people fail, at getting beat up

MudRucker · Answer

One third are physically abused?  I believe that number is inflated. Supposedly rape culture exists on college campuses. If that is true what parent would send their daughter off to school?

Aquariusmystery · Answer

Because when the partner (I don’t think we should specify gender in this) sees they’re weak, they know they have an advantage. It’s psychotic

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

You get with a piece of trash, you subject yourself to trash conduct.

NightHawk99 · Answer

Too many of you keep chasing a bad guy. And that's exactly what they are. Bad guys.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why 1 in 3 men are physically abused by "there" partners and why it's so high

1 in 3 women are physically abused by there partners. Why is this so high?

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