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Truthfully why would a guy have loads of girl “friends”? (Page 2)
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He should focus more on you and not use so much time for his girls as just friends. I'd be pissed if I had a girlfriend that was doing all of that with other guys. What I suggest is talk to him about it and whenever those girls want to hang out, you go with him.
For the original question, one of those guys that decided friendship with women is totally ok and never went beyond that for any of them. I've tried this a few times in my life but they all eventually started liking me more then friends when I just wanted a friendship.
When I studied in the university, most of the students from my group were girls, so I inevitably made friends with some of them and am still in touch with them. With each of them I've had moments to share, talks to have, and all those moments have been 100% non-romantic.
The fact that your boyfriend has a lot of female friends alone should not be considered as a threat. I'd say it just means he's pretty social and, most importantly, treats women like people equal to himself, not mere objects meant for lust. It's his circle of acquaintance, and he has a right to be in it.
A threat could it possibly be only if he ignores you in favour of his friends. I treat my girlfriend as a friend too, but rather as THE friend whom I prioritize over any other people and all my other friends know I do. I value friends that I've made in the past, but I'm not interested in generating new ones for the sake of having more and more of them, because I've already found the ultimate one.
If it's one on one I can understand your issue with it, but speaking from personal experience it can just be friendship. My sister had a close guy friend and they went to Panera almost every day after school. He had a girlfriend and my sister didn't find him attractive. It was platonic and everyone involved was fine with it. My girlfriend has some close guy friends and I used to feel a bit insecure about it until they started telling me how much she loves me. If they could tell that just by hanging out with her as a friend, then I don't feel the need to worry.
That is weird. If it makes you feel uncomfortable and feel threatened from these relationships then he should consider your feelings and cut it out. You should be his number one. You should be his princess. Any other relationship he has with any other female should be mere casual visits with you present at all times and his attention directed to you while out with these females.
Honestly i find guys hard to get along with, I've as a fact only ever had 1 constant male friend. And even him tbh i struggle with sometimes. So of course my friends tend to be female.
But this is not a sign of unfaithfulness at all in fact i am one who actually got cheated on by a girl who went with of my male friends at the time who of course no longer is my friend.
So judging based on who is more friends with is not smart way to judge it.
You're insecure and it shows. Throughout my life I've always had very few female friends (<4) but always had many male friends. I just got along better with guys as I found girls being too catty and annoying. If you do not trust your boyfriend, then just end it now. If your relationship has no trust, then you have nothing.
Hey, can I get your opinion on a topic in your DM?
bet you slept with all your guy friends aswell. Moved from guy to guy
@RasberrySlushPuppy I never slept with any of them, they were truly only friends. They came to me for advice with their girlfriends. I was their wing man picking chicks up on occasion. They weren't my type, and I wasn't theirs. We were friends only.
My ex husband was also friends with many girls in high school throughout his 20's, and they were just friends. I met them all. He didn't have a relationship with any of them.
It's possible for men and women to be just friends.
@JohnyBoy133 sure
I'm like gingersnapz. Too often nothing to talk about with girls...
I've met 3 girls who each had more guy friends than girl and one of them had seven guys pussy footing around her everyday. They'd be at breakfast with her. My best friend tried a relationship with that one. 6months later she cheats on him with one of the 7guys. Another girl, I observe one of her male friends saying to her she slept with her other mates, when's my turn? She giggled and said I'm saving you til last. The 3rd girl was in my circle friends with 6 guys, she slept with 3 but I eluded her she called me her favourite and one night came to my room I asked her to go. On my last day of residence I open my my locked bedroom and she's hiding in my bed waiting (had the security guy help her get in).. smh. I go on my experiences not what im told on here 😃
@RasberrySlushPuppy NOT all women are whores. It's healthy to have friendships with all sorts of people, men and women. So what if your girlfriend was friends with all lesbians? Would you have a problem with that as well?
@Gingersnapz74 if she demonstrates signs of bisexuality then i would be concerned.
@RasberrySlushPuppy I think you have a very narrow view on life and that's fine considering your age and life experience. You need to realize others don't share your experiences and not everyone agrees with what that girl did. But her actions don't speak for all. There are many nuances here, and you really can't get to the bottom of the matter on this forum.
Men and women can be platonic friends. I am proof of that. I cannot tell you, however, what the males felt in their positions. None of them ever came to me with feelings, or attempting to hit on me ever. I can only assume they respected the friendships as much as I did.
For example... I had one male friend, who happened to me my upstairs neighbor. His wife jokingly called me his nerdy girlfriend & we were also very good friends. I did things with him (fishing, golfing, comic book conventions) that she couldn't stand doing and he loved his wife. I had no sexual attraction towards him.
If the OP knows these women, and if he introduces them to her and it's not made into a huge deal, then I just don't get it. It's insecurity. If he's being sly about it, which she didn't go into detail, that's a whole other story. Again there's nuisance here.
I like making friends with women because of their social intelligence. I like to talk about ideas and develop new ones in conversation, and most guys don't enjoy having that type of dialog.
I've found that ladies are more adept at talking about ideas and feelings than men, hence why I make friends with them.
I'm interested. what kind of ideas?
Only interesting ones lol, controversy is interesting to me though. I'll often like to play the devil's advocate for ideas that hold meritable truth but are generally seen as false or insensitive like weather or not abortions should be federally/state funded.
I have male friends. Going on nice places casually lile walk or cinema as you say (just I don't like cinema, so maybe theathre) with them, shall be okay, but never no1 priority before my partner. First partner, then friends, if he needs me, I can amd must be able to cancel those other plans. Is your boyfriend like that or just rather goes out with not really caring about your emotional need for him? Answer to your question is the answer you you've been looking for here.
I have girl friends almost exclusively. It's because I get along better with women so I prefer their company.
However, when I venture into a relationship, all of them know that they're basically dead to me 🤷♀️
Because that's what normal guys do when they find a partner : they focus on her and completely neglect any friendships they have
Almost all of my friends are female, though I've made a few male ones recently, but only a few. Usually I was loved by girls (in a plutonic way and maybe sometimes romantically?) And scorned by guys because I was extremely feminine looking facially and short. I looked almost as good as some of the women that I knew even. . . . .
So due to my feminine appearance, it was easier to make friends amongst women rather than men.
That's one reason why a guy would/might have female friends. Though, I'm not too sure on how common my particular scenario is. So yes, some of us can have female friends.
Other men don’t like him as a friend that much. That should tell you something. And I think it is already redflagging you hence why you are asking this, it’s okay to have a few opposite sex friends, but th vast majority should be same sex. Usually people who are a bit.. well they need someone to be attracted to them to keep “ffiends” so it’s much easier with opposite sex. You actually kind of have to be a top person to have same sex friends.
I agree. I'd like to think that people can be friends with whoever they want but whenever someone's vast majority of friends is the opposite sex it's usually a sign of something deeper going on. Many will claim "It's just who I get along with" but investigating further you often find there is some level of attraction between these "friends".
My personal opinion is guys being friends with women, 98% of the time, there is an underlying attraction. He likes being around women and flirting and being in some kind of relationship with them, because he thinks he may have some kind of a chance with them at some point. Also he might be gay and identifies with the feminine sex more. The odds that its all innocent and he is just a masculine guy who just likes to have tons of platonic female friends... I would say they are slim.
I'm gay, and most of my friends are woman because we have a lot of similar value, beliefs, and interests. I'm not just friends with more girls because I'm gay, I'm more than just my sexuality and my friends know that. We talk about TV shows, and pokemon, and horror movies, and all sorts of stuff that has nothing to do with who we want to bone.
I feel like it's the same for straight guys, too. Just as straight guys talk to other straight guys about the things they like, there's no reason straight guys can't do the same with straight girls or even other LGBTQ women.
People tend to think backwards on this, that because im gay and I have a lot of female friends, we have a lot of the same interests. In reality it's reversed, I have a lot of the same interests as my friends, and because of that we are friends, their gender and my sexuality play no part.
I had many female friends when I was your age. I had my guy friends too, but I regularly hung out with girls more often than guys. It was nice not to have to act like a fratboy jock asshole all the time. They said the same things. Some of them I was definitely romantically attracted to, sure. But a lot of them I just enjoyed being their friend and being able to be myself.
People should try it sometime.
To be honest I have many friends who are girls. I just get along better with friends who are girls than guys. I have no interest in them at all except just friendship and my girlfriend doesn’t seem to mind. It could be the same for your boyfriend too?
Would you be cool with him doing all that stuff with male friends?
It can still be suspicious especially if it's always 1 on 1 instead of most often being in a group with them though, and if you think somethings off definitely talk or try and figure out, maybe he has a reputation of pulling shit with this or something. But it is also entirely possible they are just good friends.
Lol you girls only complain that men don't pay attention women or treat them as equal his doing that so appreciate it his hanging out with you all so be proud of him he understands women.
Lol and of one or two women you could think he may be cheating but as you say he has many so it's just the way he is no threat at all
Umm I don't know for me I don’t really trust guys with a lot of female friends cuz I believe one of them will eventually develop feelings for the other. I had an ex who had shit load amount of female friends. One of his female friends was clearly flirting with him on Facebook but he kept insisting that they were only friends. Just have to say he was a piece of trash that’s why we broke up. But I don’t know for all guys.
That sucks.
My sister had a friend like that. He was a half Asian half white guy and he was just 'one of the girls'.
He was chatty. Into light superficial conversation. Popular. Tech savy. Quick witted. Into gossip and material things and new food places.
Just really gelled with women. I don't know how his girlfirend felt. I understand she didn't really like it.
Wow! I didn’t know anyone else says cinema except for me. Lol dude literally my friends are mostly guys. We are just that... friends. I wouldn’t consider just hanging at the cinema with them as a date. Is it one girl at a time or a group of the female mates if I may ask?