Truthfully why would a guy have loads of girl “friends”?

Question

My boyfriend has so many girl mates. His closest friend is a girl and he has loads of other girls that he’s very close with. They’ll message all the time and go out on one on one meals and for drinks and to the cinema and things- all which I’d consider date like activities. Does his desire to make loads of girl friends just mean he fancies them all or did at one point should I consider it as a threat? Because it’s making me feel sour about the whole relationship.

rjroy3 · Accepted Answer

In my experience, guys who have majority female friends fall into 2 camps.

1. Safe beta male like guy who would never try or doesn't stand a chance/effectively the "gay" bestfriend

2. Guy who has semi playerish tendencies or did at one point so many of his female friends either pined for his attention at one point or he fucked them, maintaining friendships after

Some guys fall somewhere in between the two. Where he's got some insecurities even tho he has some playerish wants. He just didn't pull the trigger with a lot of girls and went thr friend route, later getting with some girls.

So the friends are holdover from the past. Like I know this one guy from high school who was it really bad with girls, but he was too insecure to be real with girls

He was an attractive, and shape guy, that joke around a lot but tended to joke around a little bit too much because of his insecurity and because of that it costed him Chances with a lot of girls who ended up just being his friend

Like I remember even one time he said out loud that sometimes he feels as if a lot of people just tolerate him, rather than actually liking him.

We did go to the couple girls here and there, for the vast majority of his female friends came from him actively flirting with them but not really pulling the trigger, or backing off last minute because he wanted to pursue another girl that he failed with. So he was "friends" with both girls for different reasons lol

I've seen that happen several times. True male female friendships. True honest genuinely platonic friendships from day one are rare. End of story

If a guy isn't gay and doesn't have a sister like friendship with a girl from a very young age it is damn near unnatural for him to be 100% platonic with a girl he is at least a little bit attracted to.

As a general rule the only way you're going to find guys and girls who are truly just friends who never considered hooking up with or dating the other. Are two friends who don't find eachother attractive

wtf636 · Accepted Answer

In my opinion 4 options here. I even gave you percentages and ranked them by how likely I feel they are.

1. He is a typical "nice" guy. These dudes tend to hang out with a bunch of women as "friends" in the hopes that one day they will fuck him. But usually, they don't want him. Are they all attractive? Does he hang out with a lot of ugly women? If all of his "friends" tend to be hot women, that he would never have a chance with, then I would be worried this is the case. (60% chance)

2. He could be a kind of a player or ladies man. Is he attractive? Are his friends? Do they look at him in a loving/lustful way? Does he just enjoy the attention? He could be a hot guy, that likes hanging out with women because it's quite an ego boost when you have a bunch of beautiful women interested in you. Maybe he has slept with some of them. It's a hard thing to accomplish. Not saying he is cheating, obviously, he is with you now so that's saying something if he stays with you when all these women are chasing. But are you ok with this? (30% chance)

3. He just likes women better for some reason. Maybe he grew up in a single mom household, with a bunch of sisters, etc. Could just work out that way. (8% chance)

4. He is gay, gay dudes love female friends lol (2% chance)

ultimega · Accepted Answer

It all depends on his personality as you know him best, more than us.

Does he seem overly flirtatious especially around these friends?
Does he respect the relationship you both have and those boundaries?
Has he done anything outright that would make you question things?

Those are the type of questions you should ask yourself.

Yes there's many that like test the waters if there's a potential for something better. Of course those things you should be weary of and be alert.

But there's also guys who genuinely want platonic friendships with women. Especially when it comes to understanding the opposite gender. A lot of guys don't necessarily feel comfortable sharing their emotions with other guys as fear of being ridiculed for having a moments vulnerability. Wheres as women can be in tune with emotions more openly and are able to give their own perspective

Maybe ask him directly and if you can meet them sometime to hang out. If they are just friends then he should have no issues and be happy. You never know, you may end up making more friends in the process.
If he hesitates or makes excuses not to... then thats when you should worry

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

I believe men who are very comfortable with women as friends generally have older sisters they are close in age with who they like, so they see women as PEOPLE instead of ONLY as sex objects. I don't care if they're gay OR straight: it's the same.

I say OLDER because that usually means their older female siblings had strong influences on them as developing men. But, a younger sister close in age, say one or two years younger, could be just as important as a "friend."

What you experience at home is usually what you seek in outside relationships.

In addition, if a young boy witnesses a good relationship between his father and mother; one where his dad and mom are more or less equal, have a playful relationship, ARE friends, as well as lovers, he can imagine himself in a similar friendship with a woman.

Unless your boyfriend shows less interest in your relationship with him, I wouldn't worry about his friendships with women. They're far healhier than a man who CANNOT imagine a woman as a friend and is fearful of HIS woman's jealousy of his being with other women as friends. .

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Some guys like to look at pretty girls or respect pretty girls more than other girls, I know a guy who tried to befriend every pretty girl he saw because he thought they were popular but the first sentence that came out of his mouth every time he met one was he had a girlfriend, he was not looking to cheat, just liked their reputation.

Pinay_ako · Answer

If he’s not hiding them from you, then he’s ok to have as many friends as he wants. Do you go out with them too?

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

First off he should be open and honest about who is girl mates are.

You should also have met them and he should introduce you to them.

how many are, straight, bisexual or lesbian?

My best friend is a girl, have been since about 4.

I have various groups of friends, work, mountain biking, shooting and social.

Its often a mix of the above, however my social group is 4-6 girls and 2 guys, varies a bit.

there is nothing wrong with having friends predominantly from another gender.

also from some of the comments below about alpha and beta bollox 😂😂

One of the guys from my shooting group and mountain biking group is gay, he is hanging out with about 10 other guys and he does not feel the need to hit on us lol, he is however a girl magnate.

back to my social group, the girls are a mix of straight, bi, lesbian and a transexual.

we are friends because we chose to be, not because we want to jump each other’s bones. My girlfriend has had a number of nights out with them, and they have pretty much adopted my daughter as one of them.

I’ve been on nudist holidays with some of them and ex gf’s.

I can do it because they are friends and I introduce my GFs to them, let them get to know each other.

Trust, Respect, Honesty and Communication, try doing those with each other.

dustybiker · Answer

Question… how long has he known these woman?

I have always had male friends. All of my childhood closest friends were male and I’m still in contact with them. We grew up really close together, but nothing sexual. Perhaps it was timing and respect for each other’s relationships. Don’t really know.
They all had their girlfriends and I had my own relationships. They would do anything and have for my family, as I would theirs. They are all incredibly trustworthy. It took a long time for their parents to realize we weren’t going to hook up through teen years. Same went for their girlfriends and eventually wives. It’s just not like that.
Sometimes you are close with people, can tell them everything, but it’s just not sexual, more close chosen siblings. I get people don’t understand these pockets of lives that are faithful to those we are with, and is out of the ‘norm’. It’s not always about sex.
There is something about being close to another gender that makes bouncing problems off of and getting different feedback… people who have known you and know how you think and feel. I really don’t know how to describe it.. there is a safety there. Comfort.
On the other hand we also left going to movies and gaming, meals and all that in our teens before drinking age. There is a level of respect that gets raised when in relationships. It’s respect to each others partners. So that is a little off to me. Any kind of socializing is always in presence of their family or mine. We never go off and have a meal alone. They will come to the house to make repairs, but it’s all straight up. So I don’t know about that.

Halibut · Answer

So... I have an unusual personality type. I crave lots of shallow relationships with lots of people. That's not because I'm seeking their affection. It's just a craving for intellectual stimulation. That's one possible explanation: just a desire to socialize with lots of people that can't be solved strictly through a monogamous relationship.

Maybe he views his female friends like playing a sport he's passionate about, but he comes back from this hobby of his, and you're where he gets and focuses his affection and the bulk of his emotional support.

That's just one possible explanation. I'm sure there are others. I go to a website called Aven for asexuals and aromantics. Aromantics are people incapable of experiencing love, though they still can experience physical attraction. I'm aromantic. Oftentimes what my fellow aromantics want are better described as friendships with the opposite sex than romantic bonds. I suppose he could be somewhere on the aromantic spectrum but still crave monogomy too... maybe on the lighter side of the aromantic spectrum. That's another possible explaation.

onahole-san · Answer

No, it does not mean he fancies them all. He might just genuinely get along with women better as friends than he does with guy friends. Is he particularly feminine? I am completely straight, but more feminine than most. This has led to me having a LOT of girl friends. Many of them are lesbian, many are straight, in committed relationships.

Does he have a good amount of boy friends? Bromances are super important too,
it's important to have good dude friendships as well, it should never be lop-sided.

ohshee · Answer

I have a lot of friends that are girls and they used to come over to my house all the time or call me but if I get into a relationship I kinda put a stop to all that I remember one time I just started dating a girl two or three girls come over to my house good night and my girlfriend was there and just to look in her eyes I felt it I felt all the hurt I felt all the pain was going through her body and I had to put a stop to it so I mean I caused a lot of my friends or if they called me I would tell them hey look up I have a girlfriend right now and she doesn't really understand that we are just friends and I kind of have to respect her and I don't want to hurt her so just call me instead of just coming over and I'll introduce you to her but I feel sorry for you I feel bad for you I really do I can feel your heart breaking through all your words that you just said and that really sucks

NMMan · Answer

If the time he spends cultivating his female friendships bothers you to this degree, then I think you owe it to yourself to talk with him about it. You can ask him why he spends so much one-on-one time with women who aren't his significant other, which is a valid question. But I would be careful how you deliver this line of questioning... because if you come on too strong about it, all you'll succeed in doing is painting yourself as the jealous girlfriend, and that won't be good for anyone involved.

EmbraceThePain · Answer

If he’s not gay, then I would be extremely suspicious over a heterosexual man having a lot of female friends. Why? Well, biology is the first thing that I say. Rarely, can we 100% suppress our biological urges or inclinations. A heterosexual man with a lot of female friends most likely envisions being with them in some intimate manner or is using them to get with other or more women. In either case, I wouldn’t say the friendship amongst the parties is platonic. Also, if the women are heterosexual, they can develop feelings too. I don’t think men and women are meant to be platonic friends, assuming the men and women are heterosexual.

Anonymous · Answer

No I don’t think it’s acceptable and I think you should talk to your boyfriend about it. Many people will say “oh you should trust him blah blah” but truth is, it just doesn’t work that way. When I started my current relationship my boyfriend had loads of girl friends even had one particular one he kept a snap streak with and I said it was a pretty personal thing to send a girl a picture daily. I have loads of guy mates, now when I’m in a relationship they tend to vanish until I am single again. They say they wouldn’t be happy if their girlfriends had guy mates like I do so don’t feel comfy messaging when I’m in a relationship. That’s fair right? But if they found out my partner did as he pleased they would be cool with us messaging. So I told my boyfriend I would continue to see and text my guy mates if he continued to see and text his girl mates. All of a sudden, poof, girl mates vanished. Funny thing that

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

My stisters boyfriend had lots of female friends. He's actually very alpha. He's a total gym freak and loves sports but he does have a softer side too. He loves art and baking as well.

He actually met my stister through me as he was my work friend. His dad died when he was only 8 years old and he's pretty much been surrounded by females most his life.

He very innocent too he had no idea when girls are hitting on him. He says he just feels more comfortable around women. He was never one of the lads at work and a lot of the men at my work were pretty mean to him because he wasn't like them.

NicoletteXO · Answer

Yeah, he wants to fuck all of them. Doesn't mean he necessarily will while he's in the relationship with you, but he'll keep them on the back burner in case you break up or have serious problems.

He is likely doing this only quasi-consciously and will probably deny it vehemently if you suggest it. Most likely if you do, he'll accuse you of being jealous, unfair, controlling etc. If he truly cares for you and doesn't realize this impacts you, he won't react that way - but this is the least likely outcome.

hannahjo022 · Answer

That's the question I always ask myself whenever I talk to a new guy. It can be he grew up with a lot of women in his life like only his mother and sister without his father around. I know a lot of guys I have dated had daddy issues too and spent most of their life around their mother and sister. Maybe he likes having female energy around and he feels more comfortable with women. Maybe keep his options open if his current relationship fails and he has a lot of other options. The list can go on why. You have to talk to your boyfriend why he has tons of female friends to find out why. He's the only person who knows the true answer to your question

NathanDavis · Answer

in my early 20's... I had six to eight very good friends that were girls... half of them being very close friends (still, to this day) and we would hang out often, and some of these hangouts yes, could been mistaken by others as dates and having an interest beyond the friendship, which was just not the case

however... when I was in a relationship and I actually had a -girlfriend- these kind of things diminished drastically, first because my interest and priority was my girlfriend first and second, and then my friends.. but also because is not ideal to do this kind of stuff...

when me or my close friends that are girls are in relationships... we just hang out a lot less, because of that

t-8900 · Answer

For the same reason a girl has lots of guy friends. "Not your's, just your turn". Tell him you dont like him talking to a flock of women. If he says tough luck, move on. This is how men deal with hos and this is how women should deal with hos. As far as I'm concerned the term "slut" should be able to be applied to people of both genders. It's true, it's not fair that women will get slut shamed and men won't... they should both be slut shamed equally. Why? too many stds are spreading around, too many abortions, too many being abused physically and verbally as well as emotionally, too many broken homes, the deterioration of work ethic for men (the primary reason they worked hard at all was to have their own woman which is no longer a thing), narcissism, destruction of pair bonding (despite MGTOW rhetoric men also pair bond just not the same as women), elimination of incentive to marry, broken homes = broken children (can confirm).

libsaretards · Answer

This is a tricky one. I have 5 close friends, 3 of which are women. Life just happened that way and loyalty is a huge thing for me so meeting new friends is difficult. Because of that, I would not ditch any of my female friends over a relationship. However, when a relationship is serious, I tell the person I'm dating about those friends. I tell her she is free to talk to and hang out with my friends. I also tell them to ask any questions they want because ALL my friends are straight shooters, will not kiss my ass and will not cross lines that are not supposed to be crossed. However, my girlfriend has to understand that my friends are my friends and she either needs to trust me or go elsewhere. I personally think that if he is upfront about everything and you have no reason to mistrust him, then leave it be. If that still bothers you, then you have to decide if it bothers you enough to break things off.

RichardCranium6201 · Answer

If he's telling u they are all just friends, he's lying. Trust me. If they were friendly, y couldn't you go? Right? That gut feeling you are having is something telling u to bounce. Look, take it from me. I lived like that for a long time. I had a liv-in girlfriend. But if id tell her these were my friends. Then id tell the girls i would mess around with, that she was my roommate, who's sadly thinking we are more then what we were. So i was lying to everybody. And id set up all the outside chicks with middle of the day romantic sessions, so that i could be home and not get my girl tripping. So please, trust when i say u don't mean anything to him. If u even ment a little teeny meeny, he wouldn't be doing this to you. If u confront him, i can tell u what his exact actions will be to. Just to give you a little more solidity.

Anonymous · Answer

I would never put up with this if i was you. Never!! I think he should have them as casual "hey, Friends" and no texting is even needed, Just see them Like---In tyhe street. Or a Store if he runs into them. I think of them as his Entourage. You need to speak to this guy. I am not sure what each one means to him or what benefit but I'd be having a damn fit. My own husband always "Favors" females over males. He always said he got along better with them than with a man. I never like it when I feel he defends them or may even "eye" them but no tin a sexual way but just to notice a shoe or a piece of clothing or whatever. You need to speak to him. It is not proper.

Commander_Red · Answer

Not all the time. It really depends on the person, and for you to find out if that is the case or not, you really have to know who he is as a person. I for one grew up with a lot of men in my life, and I'm tomboyish in terms of personality, so I naturally make more male friends than female friends. A man having a lot of female friends doesn't necessarily mean he wants to be with any of them. He could be like me where he grew up around a lot of females and being friends with girls is also easier for him.

RasberrySlushPuppy · Answer

Roles reversed. I go back in time to a girl who had lots of guy friends around her (7 of them). So my bestfriend is dating her boyfriend/girlfriend...
I decide to go down to the breakfast hall early and there she is with all of the 7 guys. 7:45am! Next time i invite my bestfriend, he sits with me not her and i'm thinking this is weird and unfair on him.
Fast forward a few months later... she cheated with one of the 7guys. Caught in her room fucking.
People say shit like "oh you're insecure, immature etc etc" but the fact is that person made you feel it and has no respect for you.

Hairylegs222 · Answer

He should focus more on you and not use so much time for his girls as just friends. I'd be pissed if I had a girlfriend that was doing all of that with other guys. What I suggest is talk to him about it and whenever those girls want to hang out, you go with him.

For the original question, one of those guys that decided friendship with women is totally ok and never went beyond that for any of them. I've tried this a few times in my life but they all eventually started liking me more then friends when I just wanted a friendship.

Anonymous · Answer

When I studied in the university, most of the students from my group were girls, so I inevitably made friends with some of them and am still in touch with them. With each of them I've had moments to share, talks to have, and all those moments have been 100% non-romantic.

The fact that your boyfriend has a lot of female friends alone should not be considered as a threat. I'd say it just means he's pretty social and, most importantly, treats women like people equal to himself, not mere objects meant for lust. It's his circle of acquaintance, and he has a right to be in it.

A threat could it possibly be only if he ignores you in favour of his friends. I treat my girlfriend as a friend too, but rather as THE friend whom I prioritize over any other people and all my other friends know I do. I value friends that I've made in the past, but I'm not interested in generating new ones for the sake of having more and more of them, because I've already found the ultimate one.

Twalli · Answer

If it's one on one I can understand your issue with it, but speaking from personal experience it can just be friendship. My sister had a close guy friend and they went to Panera almost every day after school. He had a girlfriend and my sister didn't find him attractive. It was platonic and everyone involved was fine with it. My girlfriend has some close guy friends and I used to feel a bit insecure about it until they started telling me how much she loves me. If they could tell that just by hanging out with her as a friend, then I don't feel the need to worry.

Sohard · Answer

That is weird. If it makes you feel uncomfortable and feel threatened from these relationships then he should consider your feelings and cut it out. You should be his number one. You should be his princess. Any other relationship he has with any other female should be mere casual visits with you present at all times and his attention directed to you while out with these females.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Honestly i find guys hard to get along with, I've as a fact only ever had 1 constant male friend. And even him tbh i struggle with sometimes. So of course my friends tend to be female.
But this is not a sign of unfaithfulness at all in fact i am one who actually got cheated on by a girl who went with of my male friends at the time who of course no longer is my friend.

So judging based on who is more friends with is not smart way to judge it.

Gingersnapz74 · Answer

You're insecure and it shows. Throughout my life I've always had very few female friends (<4) but always had many male friends. I just got along better with guys as I found girls being too catty and annoying. If you do not trust your boyfriend, then just end it now. If your relationship has no trust, then you have nothing.

jgibsonian1986 · Answer

I like making friends with women because of their social intelligence. I like to talk about ideas and develop new ones in conversation, and most guys don't enjoy having that type of dialog.
I've found that ladies are more adept at talking about ideas and feelings than men, hence why I make friends with them.

sunshineglow · Answer

I have male friends. Going on nice places casually lile walk or cinema as you say (just I don't like cinema, so maybe theathre) with them, shall be okay, but never no1 priority before my partner. First partner, then friends, if he needs me, I can amd must be able to cancel those other plans. Is your boyfriend like that or just rather goes out with not really caring about your emotional need for him? Answer to your question is the answer you you've been looking for here.

have_a_good_day · Answer

I have girl friends almost exclusively. It's because I get along better with women so I prefer their company.
However, when I venture into a relationship, all of them know that they're basically dead to me 🤷‍♀️
Because that's what normal guys do when they find a partner : they focus on her and completely neglect any friendships they have

WhiplashMonkey · Answer

To be honest I have many friends who are girls. I just get along better with friends who are girls than guys. I have no interest in them at all except just friendship and my girlfriend doesn’t seem to mind. It could be the same for your boyfriend too?

Pax_eV · Answer

Almost all of my friends are female, though I've made a few male ones recently, but only a few. Usually I was loved by girls (in a plutonic way and maybe sometimes romantically?) And scorned by guys because I was extremely feminine looking facially and short. I looked almost as good as some of the women that I knew even. . . . .

So due to my feminine appearance, it was easier to make friends amongst women rather than men.

That's one reason why a guy would/might have female friends. Though, I'm not too sure on how common my particular scenario is. So yes, some of us can have female friends.

Explorer91 · Answer

Other men don’t like him as a friend that much. That should tell you something. And I think it is already redflagging you hence why you are asking this, it’s okay to have a few opposite sex friends, but th vast majority should be same sex. Usually people who are a bit.. well they need someone to be attracted to them to keep “ffiends” so it’s much easier with opposite sex. You actually kind of have to be a top person to have same sex friends.

Jake99999 · Answer

My personal opinion is guys being friends with women, 98% of the time, there is an underlying attraction. He likes being around women and flirting and being in some kind of relationship with them, because he thinks he may have some kind of a chance with them at some point. Also he might be gay and identifies with the feminine sex more. The odds that its all innocent and he is just a masculine guy who just likes to have tons of platonic female friends... I would say they are slim.

Pupbredr · Answer

I'm gay, and most of my friends are woman because we have a lot of similar value, beliefs, and interests. I'm not just friends with more girls because I'm gay, I'm more than just my sexuality and my friends know that. We talk about TV shows, and pokemon, and horror movies, and all sorts of stuff that has nothing to do with who we want to bone.

I feel like it's the same for straight guys, too. Just as straight guys talk to other straight guys about the things they like, there's no reason straight guys can't do the same with straight girls or even other LGBTQ women.

People tend to think backwards on this, that because im gay and I have a lot of female friends, we have a lot of the same interests. In reality it's reversed, I have a lot of the same interests as my friends, and because of that we are friends, their gender and my sexuality play no part.

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

I had many female friends when I was your age. I had my guy friends too, but I regularly hung out with girls more often than guys. It was nice not to have to act like a fratboy jock asshole all the time. They said the same things. Some of them I was definitely romantically attracted to, sure. But a lot of them I just enjoyed being their friend and being able to be myself.

People should try it sometime.

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

Would you be cool with him doing all that stuff with male friends?

It can still be suspicious especially if it's always 1 on 1 instead of most often being in a group with them though, and if you think somethings off definitely talk or try and figure out, maybe he has a reputation of pulling shit with this or something. But it is also entirely possible they are just good friends.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Lol you girls only complain that men don't pay attention women or treat them as equal his doing that so appreciate it his hanging out with you all so be proud of him he understands women.

Lol and of one or two women you could think he may be cheating but as you say he has many so it's just the way he is no threat at all

rienna888 · Answer

Umm I don't know for me I don’t really trust guys with a lot of female friends cuz I believe one of them will eventually develop feelings for the other. I had an ex who had shit load amount of female friends. One of his female friends was clearly flirting with him on Facebook but he kept insisting that they were only friends. Just have to say he was a piece of trash that’s why we broke up. But I don’t know for all guys.

Jaysonava · Answer

That sucks.

My sister had a friend like that. He was a half Asian half white guy and he was just 'one of the girls'.

He was chatty. Into light superficial conversation. Popular. Tech savy. Quick witted. Into gossip and material things and new food places.

Just really gelled with women. I don't know how his girlfirend felt. I understand she didn't really like it.

ClassyMe · Answer

Wow! I didn’t know anyone else says cinema except for me. Lol dude literally my friends are mostly guys. We are just that... friends. I wouldn’t consider just hanging at the cinema with them as a date. Is it one girl at a time or a group of the female mates if I may ask?

Birdlegs · Answer

Either they want to fuck or they already did. I don’t believe it’s possible to be really good friends with the opposite sex without someone having for the other. Unless ones gay but even then I’ve seen a girl catch feelings for her gay best friend

jasco · Answer

A i wanted to/ had dated them, b I don't really do well with online guys. C the only guy friends I do have are from school and gamer pals. As for why i follow so many girls in general its just free fap content. As of now tho i am slowly but surely getting rid of the people I don't need/ want to see. So sooner or later i will no longer have free fap content.

StraightAsArrow · Answer

I'm a rugged, traditional male who hunts, works out, shoot myself up with testosterone, and would still street fight if needed. And I strongly prefer female company. Love women friends. No dick measuring, if you will. Better connections, more honest relationships. I get too easily irritated with other guys and my natural aggressiveness starts coming out. I joined this site to talk to women and get their thoughts. I'd be fine is all the men were kicked off here.

red324 · Answer

Some guys just have a way with women. Maybe they grew up with them and are just comfortable around them, had lots of sisters etc. I don't necessarily consider the fact that he has lots of female friends a good thing. They probably find him attractive or fun or both.

FreeOhSeven · Answer

He could:
- be a slut,
- be insecure around men,
- have been raised by his mother, in an all girl household,
-unsure about his sexual identity,
- have more common interests with women than he does men (perhaps he likes knitting, scrapbooking, or Nicholas Sparks books/movies),
- have been shunned by other men who feel inadequate around him or,
- maybe it is just situational (his professional surrounds him with women so that’s who he develops relationships with)…

lovedejj_xo · Answer

My ex had tons of girl friends and was friends with all his ex they’d text him to do things he’s given them money to the point he thought it was okay to spend Mother’s Day with his ex’s mom while I was with my mom. List goes on. He had a rough childhood nonetheless he had mommy issues that I wasn’t willing to put up with any further. Everyone is different but he had severe issues.

dragoblack · Answer

Because sometimes guy stuff is boring as hell or just uninteresting. Not all of us guys like sports, cars, drinking beer, roughhousing,... etc. some guys like going out to clubs, drinking wine, watching romcoms,... etc. or maybe the women in the area are just really cool people compared to the guys

ChocoBat · Answer

I mean, I guess it's just shared interest, you don't necessarily have to be gay but more feminine gay guys seem to like a lot more typically girly things, but some straight guys also do, then again my friend "group" consists of pretty out of the ordinary people.

Weater67 · Answer

Because it serves as social validation. Pre selection by other women. Means other women have proven him to be up to par, up to snuff. Why waste time vetting boys when other girls have already vetted him. Before you all start complaining. It works the same in nature. Smash your ideology in to biology and see how long it lasts

exitseven · Answer

Sometimes it just works out that way. I had many when I was younger and spent lots of time with them.. There were plenty of rumors but none of them were true. In some respects I was closer to them than I was to my girlfriend at the time.

AngelMegumin · Answer

Why would a girl have a lot of boy "friends"? because life is big and you want to know as many people of various backgrounds and experiencez as you can, and it works both sides.

YollyM · Answer

He's a smart, funny and is a gentleman❤️. Girls like to be friends (just friends) with those guys, but then they date the a*holes and complain to their good guy friend🙄.

throwaway6994200 · Answer

could be either way. I've had girls that were friends that i had no sexual interest in.
could be he just doesn't like guys because guys suck or he is probably either already cheating or he's trying to have a plan b or you are smothering him in his eyes and he's using them as an escape from your behavior. idfk man

the_kisses_of_sun · Answer

The only guys I've seen with lots of girl friends were : one way gay and the other a player.
Maybe he gets along better with girls, who knows. But I would say he could them as sexual partners as well. 🤷‍♀️
Personally I wouldn't like my boyfriend to have lots of girl friends. I'm jealous.😊

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

Because I enjoy their company? We get along well and I'm relaxed around them. There's no underlying motive

Anonymous · Answer

He's alpha male and have other choices and probably have sex with them that's normal and all girl likes that including you.

One woman man exist but he's not attractive to women because he doesn't bring drama and chaos and sleepless nights. All girls like that till 30.

Ninani · Answer

How would you feel if he did the same with male friends?

hahahmm · Answer

So he's going on dates with lots of other females. He's not really your boyfriend. He just lets you think that he is.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

Maybe it just easier to hang out with girls instead of other guys. The same could be applied in the reverse because there are girls who prefer to hang out with guys instead of other women

Prettysammie · Answer

Maybe he’s good to his friends and has real lasting friendships. It’s like when people wonder why all my friends are guys. It’s because I like being friends with guys and not because I’m having sex with all of them at the same time.

Truthfully why would a guy have loads of girl “friends”?

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