Why would someone cheat without even telling their partner that they're not happy in the relationship?

Question

Why not at least give the partner a chance to fix things? Instead of letting them think everything is okay?

pushingrope · Accepted Answer

The cruelty is the point. Because they fundamentally, do not care, or respect you in the slightest. You can take his brain under an MRI scan and show him pics of you and a pic of a chair. His brain will be no more stimulated by you than the furniture. People who chest do not love their partner. People who cheat do not see you as a human being. People who cheat actively HATE you, and WANT you to suffer. The cruelty is the point. The pain it causes you is the point. Hurting you is the point. Making you feel bad is the point. He's not doing it to satisfy himself. He is doing it to hurt you, on purpose, for fun.

Interstate · Accepted Answer

"Wandering" is the easy way out. They don't want smacked or yelled at, so they sneak out the back door. It just goes to show they care that little about the other person, that their feelings are of no concern, so they move to the next SUCKER in line.

Finchie40 · Answer

Because they are selfish and only thinking of themselves , and they aren’t sure if they are making the right decision or not , people
That cheat know it’s wrong so they try to convince themselves that the reason they did it was their partners fault , No one likes to consider themselves a piece of shit they rather play victim and blame their partner for justifying their actions. My ex wife pulled this shit with me when she was having an affair , she tried playing a victim and making me look like I was a bad guy when I knew I treated her like gold , so if someone cheats on you never take the blame for their actions , they should of just ended the relationship if they were that unhappy , if someone can cheat on you then that don’t value or love you , so never take a cheater back period , because they are talking out of their asses

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

Mostly because it's the easy way, but also because often the entire thing was pre-planned. As with most compulsive acts, affairs don't start in that split second the cheater and the prospective lover's eyes meet - the affair can be set up and planned hours, days, months and sometimes years in advance.

For many people sex clearly plays a huge part in the allure of a new relationship or exciting adventure. Feeling attractive to someone is exhilarating and gratifying. Seducing someone can be a powerful ego boost. And, alongside being a tension reliever, sex can give them a sense of wellbeing - for some people, it can be addictive and even become an obsession.
But some people do it because they really don't feel understood or appreciated by their current spouse or partner and look for someone who can - in that case, they lack in communicating what they need or feel it's lacking and choose the easy way out.

RealMarek · Answer

It depends on the person and circumstances. For example, some people are impulsive due to mental issues or low IQ. Some people are so selfish that they will seek out a different partner and establish a new relationship before leaving the security of their existing relationship. Some people’s desire to indulge in the feeling of validation they get from an attractive pursuing them even though they are already in a relationship is greater than their desire to respect their partner. Sometimes cheating is an act of cruelty designed to hurt or take revenge on a partner. Sometimes people cheat for variety’s sake, again, in selfish disregard for their partner.

DonkeyDan · Answer

I honestly can't say as I've never cheated before, but something I do know is that many men are cowards and just don't want the confrontation or maybe even don't want the situation fixed. I certainly know that once you have fallen out of love with someone it isn't something you can fix, you can't get that feeling back again.

Belgie · Answer

One of the first things to break in a relationship, long before cheating happens, is communication. They stop listening to each other and treat the complaints they hear as personal attacks rather than something to be fixed in a relationship.

The one who moans about how they didn't know their partner was unhappy and didn't have a chance to fix things, is often the one who wasn't listening and didn't pay attention to the warning signs.

Like the woman who thinks she will just have sex once a month and eventually the husband will learn to accept that... she's the sort who always seems surprised that her husband cheats. Because sex is not important to her and she cannot understand why or how it's so important to him that he's willing to throw his relationship/family away to get it.

YollyM · Answer

Sometimes people cheat just for the sake of being with someone new not because they are unhappy in their relationship, some people are immoral and that's that.

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

I agree with you, don't cheat, try to fix it or break up instead.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

People cheat cause their immature and I would not waste my time on someone like that I see things this way you can do better

Bricealan · Answer

My wife told me she was unhappy, many months before, but I did not know how to fix what was wrong.

boggboss · Answer

Being happy dont mean they are fulfilled or even care about there partner

ToastyOats · Answer

Have you ever seen the Godfather movie? Remember that scene where Sunny beat the shit out of his sisters husband?
Sometimes you need people in your life that are solution oriented rather than constantly wondering why.

Petermorgan34 · Answer

Sometimes it is a spur of the moment mistake and wasn’t intentional/not planned to happen

yulbsari · Answer

Most people have a larger helping of cowardice and selfishness than they would like to admit...

pink_and_inlove · Answer

Because they’re immature or greedy ( want both people)

Nazgol · Answer

Because it's easier said than done and they feel guilty. They want to take the easy way out

Lonely888 · Answer

Usually it's because they are looking for something better, but want to string you along

Starman5 · Answer

you're right. If there is a reason, it should be said.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Desire best of both world that of thing. Keep one at home and the side chick for fun and refreshment when needed.

EaterPeter · Answer

They may have tried everything to convey their partner what they need / want

beebella · Answer

Some people are scum.

Rob17792 · Answer

because they're pieces of shits

AllThatSweetJazz · Answer

Because there isn’t a problem in the relationship.

krin_m · Answer

Yeah, that is not right.

Yourman84 · Answer

Maybe they are happy? Just wanted something new?

Slim57 · Answer

Emotionally dead

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