My wife never wants to be intimate?

[Southcoastradwolf]

We haven’t had oral sex with each other for over five years. And the Sex we do have, I feel is put out so she can shut me up. There’s no desire from her anymore.

[ArrRenn]

I was married to a wonderful, beautiful, sweet, amazing woman for 17 years... and she had no libido. She did not enjoy sex and did not understand why other people did. We were together until death did us part. I think of her with love all of the time.

There is more to a relationship than sex. There is more to sex than a relationship. Trying to make both about nothing but the other will result in dissatisfaction quickly.

If you want more happiness in your marriage, you might try adding something else to the definition of the relationship. Sure, she might still not put out, but you will be happier together than you appear to be now.

[kc_4308]

Thank you 😊 breathe if fresh air to feed this

[kc_4308]

Read “

[mobiusforniner]

Finally someone with a real reaponse regarding true married life

[slatyb]

Five years? Why didn’t you divorce four years ago? Children? Don’t let that stop you. It will be hard on them fir a while but they will get over it. If you can make a happier match it will be good for them.

[kc_4308]

Menopause that’s why.. low sex drive when women gets older. This is why it’s not important to marry based on sex. I hear this a lot from married men than when the sex goes dry so does the marriage. Encourage her that you need more from her in the bedroom and in your sex life. Buy her sex clothing and encourage her to wear it. There’s no spark in your marriage because she’s not preforming the way she use to when you married her. If this falls, make a health appointment it could be depression or menopause.

[kc_4308]

She simply maybe tired of you and no longer wants this marriage too. Either way good luck ! 🍀👍 Gotta put the spark back in your marriage. Don’t be like one of these guys who divorces his wife because of lack of sex

[iBeowulf]

Women like older men and women hit menopause at 40 at the earliest. However, statistically speaking the sex dries up after commitment, so I think you're wrong.

[kc_4308]

It’s best to marry young buddy not older ! I know a lot of women pass 40 who are still performing well in the bedroom. The average American man if he gets marries ( marries late ) when there are health issues and you’re tired of playing in the streets.

[iBeowulf]

Tbe average American man is single.

[kc_4308]

It’s best to marry young ! You American men don’t seem to grasp that ! Nor do your value marriage either ! Marriage is a commitment- God knows I refuse to bed with any man playing in the streets !

[kc_4308]

That speaks volume you’re not candidates for marriage! I guess situationships, friends with benefits, and casual sex is cool though !

[iBeowulf]

I turned away the would be wife of my youth because relationships aren't worth the financial and legal risks.
Her kids/his money, guys!

[kc_4308]

No you men don’t value marriage anymore and women like me keep our legs closed and our wombs off limit. You can enjoy the jezbels now ! 💯 gotta protect my daughters now !!

[iBeowulf]

Childbirth rates are at all time lows and women will do anything to get daughters; cougars are desperate for kids, single mothers for a man and younger women are more slutty than ever. 🦒🍆🇺🇸🎲

[kc_4308]

My daughters will not be tied up with sex driven boys - sorry - their father is active in their lives!

[kc_4308]

No guidance in the younger generation and none with the older generation either !

[iBeowulf]

Irrelevant. Your mother said the same thing and active isn't living in the home. These things are biochemical, not just psychological. Get made at Chad.

[kc_4308]

My mom is with me happily divorced

[kc_4308]

I have 3 sisters married and 2 of them are struggling because the husbands are cheating and abusive

[iBeowulf]

This poor bastard learned the hard way.
Why restrict daddy issues to one generation?

[kc_4308]

I feel sorry for my sisters , but I’m free and content with out the issues of men and their sex crave !!

[iBeowulf]

All four sisters... and the mom.
Can't you see the patterns I saw from lightyears away?

[kc_4308]

Most men are not worth marriage -

[kc_4308]

That’s the pattern -

[kc_4308]

Not suitable mates nope

[kc_4308]

You’re not active in church or have God in your life

[iBeowulf]

It's not our fault you all picked wrong.

[kc_4308]

I have no experiences with men other than my ex husband

[kc_4308]

Haha

[kc_4308]

Who is y’all?

[iBeowulf]

That doesn't negate my observation.
Imagine being this guy and realizing what I knew at twelve at fucking 40 years old... the wreckage... the indecision... the regret... the frustration!

[Southcoastradwolf]

I didn’t marry based on sex but I’ve been sexually active since I was 13. I’ve always had a high sex drive. I don’t know, maybe it’s abandonment issues from my childhood but intimacy is so important to me and I get none from my wife. She’s even paid for a sex worker to come over before so I didn’t get upset. I’ve done everything to try and turn her in from buying her sexy underwear and sex toys to arranging photo shoots of us. I even signed up for a porn film because she said it might turn her on.

[kc_4308]

A sex worker? Wow 😯 I wish my husband would.. at this point go see a sex therapist- and get an evaluation done on your wife to see why there’s a decline in sexual response. Intimacy isn’t the base for marriage- you lust for sex. Yes you may have a high sex drive , but this isn’t the solution for a successful marriage. When a marriage is based on sex it fails - you may need to get therapy for why you feel sex is the answer. Is it for pleasure because you love your wife or simply because you desire the satisfaction that sex gives you?

[kc_4308]

If you’re not sexually attracted to your wife than that means there is a lack of - you have to find what pleases you despite she’s not giving you the physical satisfaction. Incorporating sex workers isn’t a holy marriage. It’s room temptation and sin.

[kc_4308]

There is a lack of go back to the beginning when you frost fell in love with your wife. How did that feel and what was that like? What made you happy?

[iBeowulf]

The female therapist will just blame him. His wife got what she wanted then changed the deal in accordance with Briffault's Law of anthropology. (🧐)
www.psychologytoday.com/.../briffaults-law-women-rule

[kc_4308]

Sex isn’t the answer - I’m the type of woman who doesn’t believe in make up sex either

[kc_4308]

No the female therapist will help him understand why him and his wife is not corresponding physically. Sex is a bind between a woman and man. Something has his wife turned away. My guess the spark that kept their marriage is burning away.

[kc_4308]

Sex is a physical , emotional , and spiritual level

[iBeowulf]

Blah, blah, feelings, blah < all of anthropological history

[kc_4308]

Making love bonds all this together-

[kc_4308]

It’s no blah blah blah you probably just bend them over and go to town - you probably don’t even make love. Those bonds are spiritual ties having sex with multiple women yuck 🤢

[kc_4308]

Throw in some sex toys - fire play and do a nice dinner for her

[kc_4308]

Role play “

[iBeowulf]

I can fuck for just under two hours nonstop; I'm a sex demigod... sluts fall in love after the 15th orgasm in a row... hoe. I used to be a good Christian boy who wanted to get married and so did this poor bastard.

[kc_4308]

Do you want a trophy 🏆 for spreading your yoke? 👏 🎉

[kc_4308]

A hoe - is that what you called me no sir a hoe is a garden shed tool 😆 - 🤣

[kc_4308]

Enjoy those women

[kc_4308]

“ Glad it’s not me “‘

[iBeowulf]

I don't put out anymore... to many clingers. I just watch porn, engage in misogyny and pretend to date women before ghosting them.

[kc_4308]

We come from two different worlds

[kc_4308]

That’s you

[iBeowulf]

Hurt people hurt people; I'm just doing my part to perpetuate the cycle. People don't learn until the pain starts.

[kc_4308]

I’m not a mans punching bag - if having wreckless sex than enjoy

[iBeowulf]

Did you not read my last comment? I jerk off and troll relationship hungry women after dancing with them. Go ahead and tell me to enjoy masturbation.

[kc_4308]

I’m not desperate for either you’ve been a complete arsehole but yet you love arguing with me

[iBeowulf]

Guilty as charged! Hold me?

[kc_4308]

Do what?

[kc_4308]

at least you admitted to screwing up

[iBeowulf]

I do love... umm... arguing with you. Can we spoon or do you prefer to fork?

[kc_4308]

Excuse me

[kc_4308]

I prefer spooning

[iBeowulf]

*excuse us
Deal! (Snuggles you all up!) 😍🥰🤗🤗🥰😍

[joeblow123]

@kc_4308

What country are you from?

[iBeowulf]

She's American. Slide into her DMs.

[kc_4308]

No don’t slide in my DM sorry

[iBeowulf]

She's just playing it coy. Women like assertive men.

[kc_4308]

I’m not most women. Thanks for the gesture , but no thanks

[iBeowulf]

That's just what she says to cute guys. DMs: slide into them.

[kc_4308]

…. I don’t think so

[kc_4308]

I’m well off @iBeowulf

[kc_4308]

Want to keep it that way

[iBeowulf]

She wants you to show 🐓 she just likes to front.

[kc_4308]

I’ve been single since the mid 2000s I’m not remotely interested in dating sorry. Not so much no. No thanks

[iBeowulf]

She said sarcastically

[kc_4308]

Hidden, USA @joeblow123

[iBeowulf]

That's a sexual euphemism broseph. She wants to you hunt her down.

[kc_4308]

Can you just stop 🛑 stop ✋ please! No I don’t want to be found - SORRY

[kc_4308]

You’re a pest geez 🙄

[kc_4308]

Now -

[iBeowulf]

She whispered breathlessly... her pulse quickening.

[kc_4308]

What is going on here ^^

[iBeowulf]

She asked quietly, her anticipation grow.

[iBeowulf]

*ing (you know how I get around hot girls)

[kc_4308]

There’s plenty around

[kc_4308]

Trashy too

[iBeowulf]

Oh, like lesbian, Christian, single mothers that have a chip on their shoulder big enough to sink the titanic? Didn't you already have me deplatformed for expressing this truth?

[kc_4308]

I’m not dealing with the modern day American man sorry - refuse too

[kc_4308]

I guess so - I’m Christian and just not gonna deal with the climate anymore

[kc_4308]

I guess that’s what’s out there -

[iBeowulf]

You're Christian in name only and doing us a favor by leaving us alone.

[kc_4308]

This doesn’t apply for you - it’s for all men in general ( no hate just won’t participate)

[kc_4308]

So know we’re even and fair and men like you can entertain all the women that are easy

[iBeowulf]

Says the Christian lesbian single mother who's going to hell for fornication with another woman. Report me again.

[kc_4308]

I’m not lesbian/ the only reason why I explored with women was to understand men. I have full clarity now and I healed from men including my ex husband. I’m full throttle now ! If you need attention go back to the playground and throw mud else where.

[kc_4308]

We can’t have an intellectual conversation you can’t manage it you result to name calling and immature insults - childish and immature of you ask me typical of a response from a male not a man.

[iBeowulf]

I'm not the one sending you to hell for your wickedness?

[kc_4308]

I’m on the path Hod has me on he forgave me too and now I’m on the right path.

[kc_4308]

Have a good night this back and forth isn’t me especially childish immature behavior - I don’t do this and it’s been over 24 hours I invested with you - adios

[kc_4308]

Last I checked , being gay or anything via a sin for a traditional marriage it’s best to be married under those laws. It was a temporary derail - nothing has changed where I’m at with the modern day man

[Apple1996]

That is really sad 😔 have you ever thought about couples/sex therapy?

[kc_4308]

I suggested it for him

[Southcoastradwolf]

@kc_4308 I suggested to my wife but she didn’t want to go. She was happy how we are

[kc_4308]

You’re not happy @Southcoastradwplf

[Southcoastradwolf]

@kc_4308 I had an affair ten years ago and I fantasies about how I made her feel. She used to look into my eyes with pure desire and passion. And the sex was out of this world.

[kc_4308]

Wow I’m so sorry this spark is gone you have to find it. Save your marriage because it’s hard finding true love nowadays

[Southcoastradwolf]

@kc_4308 I’m trying to find it but it’s been so long now that it always feels like it’s just to keep me off her back. If I don’t make a move I get told “well you didn’t instigate either.”

[kc_4308]

Makes she’s sleeping around

[TheFlak38]

yes thats what happens when you get married. she got you by the balls now and has legal power over you. She doesn't have to give you any intimacy. Thats what a woman does to make the man fall in love and commit. After that she stops giving anything and becomes fat and ugly.

[Kw8989]

Try and romance her like you used to random flowers and stuff like that. A little effort goes a long way. Then try to kiss her in bed and put your mouth near her pussy she what she does. If she says no on a few different occasions tell her how much you miss oral.

[Southcoastradwolf]

I’ve tried believe me😢

[Anonymous]

Every married guy I've fucked has the same story. It's not like, "oh I want to fuck this hot young girl," it's they don't get any sex or affection from their wives. And then they like the talking and the backrubs and the cuddling even more than the sex, so they make better lovers overall.

[Interstate]

It would be advisable to sit down some time and talk about this with her! And if that goes nowhere, then you'd be best seeking Marriage Counseling. Intimacy problems are known for causing breakups in Marriages.

[Flower7]

Wow, that’s a very long time! And I see you’re only 41. I’m guessing she’s close to your age or maybe younger. That’s very young for her to lose sex drive already.

[Southcoastradwolf]

I know. I don’t want to feel it’s the end of my sex life with her. But the fact she’s happy for me to see prostitutes doesn’t bode well although it has meant I can fulfill some fantasies.

[Flower7]

So you’ve seen some prostitutes already?

[Southcoastradwolf]

Yes.

[iBeowulf]

You got married? Wrong move. Statistically speaking, the sex fries up after commitment. Don't be her golden parachute, boys!

[kc_4308]

WRONG- he got married because he valued his wife and wanted commitment.

[iBeowulf]

Yes, and she got married for money. Who's winning here?
Don't. Do. It. Boys.

[kc_4308]

Women are more successful than men dog eat world! Nowadays both men and women need an income to sustain a marriage with the COLA

[iBeowulf]

Only because of Affirmative Action, but they still want men to make more, as evidenced by women filing 80-90% of divorces and the rate going up from 50% to 75% when the woman makes more money.
You sowed the wind, now, you reap the whirlwind.

[kc_4308]

Marriages are based on sex, money and materlisti things why they don’t last pass 10, 15 , 30 years- my grandma married as a virgin and stayed married 40 years to both my grandfathers ! Men of then are not the same of today !

[kc_4308]

Hey I’m fine I rather stay single then settle and be tied to this world. I’m married to God as a celibate woman ! I refuse to bring men of today home ( my family knows this )

[iBeowulf]

Marriage is dead and you'll be single for life.

[kc_4308]

Hey that’s fine ! I’ve accepted it ! I’m not losing any sleep !

[kc_4308]

I remain pure

[kc_4308]

I can ward of horn dogs looking for @ss now

[iBeowulf]

You're old hat. Greener pastures await.

[kc_4308]

😅😂😂😂

[kc_4308]

Not an ounce of sleep loss at this point

[kc_4308]

I have my dignity and essence !

[iBeowulf]

"I'm a pure Christian single mother who's strong and independent!" [Posts about relationships constantly]
You're done.

[kc_4308]

I’m not choosing to deal with men of today

[kc_4308]

Sorry

[kc_4308]

It’s not worth it and yes I’m Christian ! 💯.. I’ll die knowing I remain pure to God and was consumed by lust.

[iBeowulf]

The bible is riddled with contradictions. No beta male jesus is waiting for you. This is just the beginning of your isolation.

[kc_4308]

You gotta go back to the streets conditioning is real

[kc_4308]

I told a former friend this after he paid a hooker $200 for a lap dance 💃

[iBeowulf]

I tell random women to show me their tits and they obey. Hippity hoppity; women are property. 🦒🍆🇺🇸🎲

[kc_4308]

I have to finish my series of Nicholas Sparks and indulge in wine and cheese

[kc_4308]

Maybe the trash who listens. I have my self esteem and self worth

[kc_4308]

Last check my last name is not that of a man

[iBeowulf]

Living vicariously... drugging away the pain.

[kc_4308]

I’m still carrying my maiden name

[kc_4308]

I enjoy wine and cheese festivals around this time - anything of the arts if this pandemic didn’t exist

[iBeowulf]

Oh, you mean your grandfather's last name?
Whatever gets that pain numbed, bb.

[kc_4308]

I drink wine for recreational purposes this is my life lol

[kc_4308]

That and cheese tastings

[iBeowulf]

Drink, drink, drink; think, think, think.

[kc_4308]

Yes happyily 💯😃

[iBeowulf]

Imagine if you were childless. Those girls are a wreck. Then here comes Ryan with his big dick, bible verses, 1k+ jokes, intense dance moves and unrelenting confidence and a complete lack of family... the perfect bait. 😎

[kc_4308]

Not without my husband and approval

[kc_4308]

Sorry not sorry

[iBeowulf]

Im. not talking about your ugly daughter's, but your mother probably said the same thing... oops.

[kc_4308]

Stop taking about your mom like that

[kc_4308]

How do you talk to your mother? Like trash

[iBeowulf]

I don't talk to her at all. Last I heard she tried to commit suicide.

[kc_4308]

The way how you talk to women I wouldn’t want to cross paths with you. Butter and toxic / very disrespectful

[iBeowulf]

Boring ass moralfagging. The bible is fake and you're getting what you deserve.

[kc_4308]

What am I getting? No std , pure , in celibacy and the right man will make love to me when God puts him in my life

[kc_4308]

What am I getting?

[iBeowulf]

Hahahaha! You keep waiting sweetie.

[kc_4308]

I sure will one day the right man will come alone it’s been 6 years, but he’s out there

[kc_4308]

Not lowering myself sorry not sorry

[mobiusforniner]

Marriage ain't about sex, man. Got plenty of sex until kids were born. Ironically kids are a great form of birth control

[kc_4308]

I have to stay away from you iBeoeolf I’m sorry - I have to keep faith on the vision before me and God. You’re a bad influence and I’m being tested and preparation for the man God has for me

[joeblow123]

It sounds like she is having an affair. However, I suggest you hire a private investigator to find out for certain. If she is cheating on you you will have the evidence to support your case in divorce court.

[casenpoint]

You had an affair. I’m assuming kids are involved or she would have hit the road already. You messed up. As a man, cheating is basically my only dealbreaker.

[The-Wise-Phoenix]

Personally I would walk away from that.
You can't fix that. Sexual desire is not something that can be negotiated in a relationship. It's either there or it isn't.

[lizchill]

Have yiu tried talking about these issues with her?

[Southcoastradwolf]

Of course. But she avoids the subject

[Anonymous]

Sorry to tell you but there's someone else behind the scene.

I think you're good man who keep family together and you rarely say no to her. Did see any red flags lately? Is your gut telling you something?

[Whizzy83]

Just move on or have a side piece. It will save the marriage. You are the one in need. Not her.

[kc_4308]

If that’s what he wants

[kc_4308]

Morally wrong

[Yourfriend2021]

People change over time, that's why there are so many divorces.

[Anonymous]

Walk away or start cheating. She is breaking the agreement and even if she isn't she isn't into it

[Katielattee]

START CHEATING? Sometimes when a woman hits a certain stage of life, her hormones change drastically. This can leave a woman with a lack of desire for intimacy, and sex can even be extremely painful for her. The solution is not for him to “break the agreement.” The solution is for them to sit down and have an adult discussion about the situation. The solution is for them to work it out reasonably. Not be unfaithful. Next time, have the balls to say your opinion and not hit the “answer anonymously” button. You’re a fucking coward.

[Opinion Owner]

@Katielattee you dont really understand guys. most dont care about being in a relationship and regular sex might be the most important thing to them. She doesn't care enough to proactively address the issue so what benefit is he getting from their sham marriage? Maybe women should only marry other women who want the same things that they do,. Men usually dont want the same thing

[Katielattee]

Or maybe you don’t understand men. Or marriages. The question asker makes no indication that they have tried to talk about it. Maybe he should COMMUNICATE better to his wife rather than “break the agreement.”

[Opinion Owner]

@Katielattee and how does this affect your life? His wife failed and since it is the only thing that most guys care about then I say ghost her. Tell me why a man would stay in a relationship with a women like that? What else does he get out of it?

[Katielattee]

Not everyone gets married for sex. If that’s your view on it, you need some serious help.

[Southcoastradwolf]

@Katielattee I have tried to talk about it with her many times.

[Katielattee]

Thank you for responding. Have you tried going to counseling or sex/couples therapy? As I stated before, a woman’s hormones change drastically and that can lead to a serious change in libido

[Anonymous]

she's either cheating on you or she has some kind of mental problem going on

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Ouch. That's horrible.

[In_Trance]

so... what are you asking?

[Joker_]

Damn