Nowadays my wife doesn't want to spend time with me. Why does she do this?

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I feel like there's a distance growing between my wife and me. We used to value the time we spent together. But recently, she always seems busy or prefers to spend time alone rather than with me. I'm struggling to understand what's going on; maybe something’s bothering her, but she isn’t sharing it with me. This situation is starting to make me anxious. What should I do, and how can we bridge this gap?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because something is missing in your marriage, something happened for the spark to fade away , she might have resentments towards you Do you still take her on dates ,? Do you surprise her with gifts or buy her flowers? Most females’ love spontaneous things , so if you want to save your marriage and want things to be good you have to reignite the passion by being spontaneous, Both of your busy schedules and responsibilities are getting in the way , plan a date night with her and don’t tell her where you are taking her , just tell her to not make plans on a certain date and time and tell her to be ready by then and keep it at that , if she isn’t looking
Forward to going out with you then she is up to no good , but if she is excited to go , then your marriage can be saved

Angelo75 · Accepted Answer

Go out with her and do "out-of-the-routine" stuff.

If you guys are used to go to restaurant... take her to a movie instead.
If you two are used to movies... go to a concert of her favorite artist.
Go take dancing lessons (TOGETHER!!!)

Just change the things that you usually do together. It will give a bit of that "something new" feeling.
Don't need to be expensive like a carribean cruise. Just something different.

Hell... just try to pick up an outside-the-box hobby together like handcrafting... knitting or something that you can do together.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Ask to sit down and have a serious conversation with her. Agree no judgement either side. Listen. Every relationship reaches points where air needs to be cleared.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

talk to her, describe to her what you see and feel without judging her, and ask for her perspective it's your relationship, we can't guess what is happening

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the dreaded distance dance! 🤔 It sounds like you’ve hit a bit of a relationship traffic jam, but don’t worry, every couple faces this at some point. Communication, my dear friend, is your best wingman here. Sit her down, express your concerns calmly, and let her know how much you value your time together. Maybe create a special “date night” ritual or find a shared interest to reignite that lovely connection. Dive into her world, listen with an open heart, and let her know you're there. It's all about rekindling those sparks without setting the place on fire! 💘🔥

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fabio · Answer

I get that this feels frustrating and confusing. Maybe something’s bothering your wife that she hasn’t talked about yet, or she’s feeling distant for her own reasons. Instead of guessing, try having an honest conversation. Ask her how she’s feeling and let her know you’re there to figure things out together.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I look over at my wife just sitting there ignoring me as she stares into her phone... I finish my beer and throw the empty beer can at her head. She stops ignoring me when I do that.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Short speculation : Something untold in the air? Long speculation : You have to have an history with your wife, there were some or many rehearsals already, communication habits made a certain way, prior disagreements handled a certain way, heavy silences handled a certain way. Use that experience with her to handle this. She may resist if she feels unusually unwell, then you'll need to adapt your approach, to reach the goal. The goal is to hear her telling what is untold.

Mangospacho · Answer

It depends on a lot of things. Her just not wanting to spend time with you can just boil down to her personality. It depends on her and your behavior up until this point. It may not have anything to do with you and may be a bit of a personal crisis she’s going through. Ask if there’s anything you can do to help. Otherwise, let her work through it.

KingslayerC · Answer

99% of the time there's another guy, 1% of the time it's because you suck to be around and she's not willing to divorce you until she finds a replacement.

daniel · Answer

Try talking to your wife calmly and asking if something’s on her mind. Let her know you’re there to listen and that you miss spending time together. Maybe plan a small date or surprise her with something thoughtful to show you care. Little efforts can make a big difference!

Keyboardkat · Answer

Did things suddenly stop at one point? If so, focus on that. Exactly what happened? Why did it happen? Is there anything you could do about it?

Nikki1989 · Answer

Unresolved issues or resentments can build up over time, leading to a breakdown in communication. You have to talk this out.

candycane · Answer

I don't think this should be a big problem. It's something that can happen in every marriage. Sometimes people want to be alone. I think you should set a day and let that day be a personal time day.

shades777 · Answer

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KrakenAttackin · Answer

She is having an affair. Check her phone, it knows everything.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

That’s very sad. You should talk to her about what went wrong. And have some romantic dinner and movie night.

CarolinaGirl5 · Answer

Why don't you have a life ans friends of your own?

Anonymous · Answer

Chances are she found new dik

slatyb · Answer

Ask her.

jahaims · Answer

Communicate

Nowadays my wife doesn't want to spend time with me. Why does she do this?

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