Nowadays my wife doesn't want to spend time with me. Why does she do this?

[young]

I feel like there's a distance growing between my wife and me. We used to value the time we spent together. But recently, she always seems busy or prefers to spend time alone rather than with me. I'm struggling to understand what's going on; maybe something’s bothering her, but she isn’t sharing it with me. This situation is starting to make me anxious. What should I do, and how can we bridge this gap?

[Finchie40]

Because something is missing in your marriage, something happened for the spark to fade away , she might have resentments towards you Do you still take her on dates ,? Do you surprise her with gifts or buy her flowers? Most females’ love spontaneous things , so if you want to save your marriage and want things to be good you have to reignite the passion by being spontaneous, Both of your busy schedules and responsibilities are getting in the way , plan a date night with her and don’t tell her where you are taking her , just tell her to not make plans on a certain date and time and tell her to be ready by then and keep it at that , if she isn’t looking
Forward to going out with you then she is up to no good , but if she is excited to go , then your marriage can be saved

[Angelo75]

Go out with her and do "out-of-the-routine" stuff.

If you guys are used to go to restaurant... take her to a movie instead.
If you two are used to movies... go to a concert of her favorite artist.
Go take dancing lessons (TOGETHER!!!)

Just change the things that you usually do together. It will give a bit of that "something new" feeling.
Don't need to be expensive like a carribean cruise. Just something different.

Hell... just try to pick up an outside-the-box hobby together like handcrafting... knitting or something that you can do together.

[IslaTheWitch]

talk to her, describe to her what you see and feel without judging her, and ask for her perspective

it's your relationship, we can't guess what is happening

[Anonymous]

Ask to sit down and have a serious conversation with her. Agree no judgement either side. Listen. Every relationship reaches points where air needs to be cleared.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the dreaded distance dance! 🤔 It sounds like you’ve hit a bit of a relationship traffic jam, but don’t worry, every couple faces this at some point. Communication, my dear friend, is your best wingman here. Sit her down, express your concerns calmly, and let her know how much you value your time together. Maybe create a special “date night” ritual or find a shared interest to reignite that lovely connection. Dive into her world, listen with an open heart, and let her know you're there. It's all about rekindling those sparks without setting the place on fire! 💘🔥

[Mangospacho]

Wow. Another marriage saved by AI.

[fabio]

I get that this feels frustrating and confusing. Maybe something’s bothering your wife that she hasn’t talked about yet, or she’s feeling distant for her own reasons. Instead of guessing, try having an honest conversation. Ask her how she’s feeling and let her know you’re there to figure things out together.

[young]

communication is key, thank you

[D_Bone_Steak]

I look over at my wife just sitting there ignoring me as she stares into her phone...

I finish my beer and throw the empty beer can at her head. She stops ignoring me when I do that.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Short speculation: Something untold in the air?

Long speculation: You have to have an history with your wife, there were some or many rehearsals already, communication habits made a certain way, prior disagreements handled a certain way, heavy silences handled a certain way. Use that experience with her to handle this. She may resist if she feels unusually unwell, then you'll need to adapt your approach, to reach the goal. The goal is to hear her telling what is untold.

[Mangospacho]

It depends on a lot of things. Her just not wanting to spend time with you can just boil down to her personality. It depends on her and your behavior up until this point. It may not have anything to do with you and may be a bit of a personal crisis she’s going through. Ask if there’s anything you can do to help. Otherwise, let her work through it.

[KingslayerC]

99% of the time there's another guy, 1% of the time it's because you suck to be around and she's not willing to divorce you until she finds a replacement.

[daniel]

Try talking to your wife calmly and asking if something’s on her mind. Let her know you’re there to listen and that you miss spending time together. Maybe plan a small date or surprise her with something thoughtful to show you care. Little efforts can make a big difference!

[young]

Thank you for your advice! I will definitely try to have a calm conversation and plan something special.

[Nikki1989]

Unresolved issues or resentments can build up over time, leading to a breakdown in communication. You have to talk this out.

[young]

actually I dont know how should i start the conversation

[Nikki1989]

Choose a calm and quiet setting to discuss your feelings openly and honestly. Focus on expressing your feelings and needs, but without putting any blame on her. If you do that, it might become counter-productive very quickly.

[Keyboardkat]

Did things suddenly stop at one point? If so, focus on that. Exactly what happened? Why did it happen? Is there anything you could do about it?

[candycane]

I don't think this should be a big problem. It's something that can happen in every marriage. Sometimes people want to be alone. I think you should set a day and let that day be a personal time day.

[young]

I’ll suggest setting aside some personal time for both of us, thanks

[shades777]

Time to find a girlfriend re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[Ariesman81]

Probably the most accurate advice... painful... but accurate

[shades777]

I wouldn't recommend divorce because that's basically rewarding her for her behavior. At least he can do is just do what she's doing and find someone else to appreciates him

[Ariesman81]

And if nothing else... she'll probably feel the distance and come crawling back

[Keyboardkat]

That will DEFINITELY make things much worse! The asker wants to rebuild his relationship with his wife, not destroy it! Cheating is NEVER the answer in such a case!

[shades777]

Cheating is the answer! She's not putting out, what are the chances she's riding some other guy, that's usually the case 9/10 times they clam up.

[Keyboardkat]

Not if there's a serious chance to repair the marriage. Once trust is gone, it becomes almost impossible.

[Ariesman81]

@Keyboardkat I can guarantee you that therapy and him giving more to the relationship will not fix the problem.

[Keyboardkat]

@Ariesman81 You cannot guarantee anything that you're not in control of, including other people's minds. I'm a great believer in second chances. Sometimes that's not possible. Sometimes it is. I was given a second chance once, and I've always been very grateful for that. Life doesn't offer us many of those.

[Crazzyyworld]

That’s very sad. You should talk to her about what went wrong. And have some romantic dinner and movie night.

[KrakenAttackin]

She is having an affair. Check her phone, it knows everything.

[CarolinaGirl5]

Why don't you have a life ans friends of your own?

[Anonymous]

Chances are she found new dik

[slatyb]

Ask her.

[jahaims]

Communicate