Well, it is not an interpretation but a fact. People just decide to take it any way they perceive it. In fact, while I know you say only 2, I believe you need to know actually 4. And I may use some examples other users have said to help describe it. just remember that what I have to say is a matter of self-awareness and observation and less on experiences and personal beliefs. I rather not be biased for the sake of protecting your heart and wellbeing, especially the matters of romance. It is a very important life skill you need to have.
In-Love
Fallen in love/Falling out of it
Infatuation/Crush
Love (True love) <-- Either way you want to say it
There is, however, a DIFFERENCE. And it is not a matter of opinion but a fact people must be serious about examining in their lives and your relationships.
Being In-Love... is just that, being IN, love. It doesn't mean you love a person. It is similar and sometimes interchangeable. you are IN the process after fallen in love. This is the stage after you fell in love. But it is not love. Remember IN is in English grammar is a Proposition of Time. It also is to describe your location. You in SCHOOL, you're in the Train Station, you in the car. Your "in" love. This means you are in the emotional highs of what love MAY, and that is a big may/maybe, can give you. I say this because if you don't already have love in you or love to give, it can affect your outlook. Which is why you do not be in love. And The next one will tell you why.
Fallen in love
... is the beginning stages of just that. Falling and being in love. It is no different. It is a current process of starting to be in love. It is strictly feelings of the highs of the moment, that have 0 to do with love. You are just attracted to a person mostly physically and sexually. There is nothing emotional about this UNLESS, you already knew the person on a emotional level, or you're creating a reality that is only in your head (that becomes a fantasy after a while), that only comes from the perception of your own eyes. THE EYES is the most important part of communication. How you project through sensory is how you view the world. And how you view the world is not the same. You may be in love, but that doesn't mean the other is another. However, this is not healthy, because what happens when you fall OUT of love? Then all those things you say you had in the beginning are irrelevant and you never loved the person. This brings us to the issue of Infatuation or a Crush.
An Infatuation depending, is when you find a person you're attracted to, usually a person you don't personally know and you are already determined based on that alone what you want. You see a person, you know you want them, because of what they can and may GIVE what you already wanted. Be it money, sex, children, in other words, it can be shallow. But not always. It's based on the idea of what you wish you can have, but may never happen. A crush, however, is an infatuation taken a step further. A crush is just that, a crush. HOWEVER, depending on how deep and serious this crush is, most people confuse that with being in love, and yes, it can happen. But it is not love.
This is a fabulous question and is a good indication that you are an aware and thinking individual.
Yes, in my experience there is a difference, and it is a significant one. For starters "falling" into love is neuro-chemical process. Oxytocin is the main culprit here. This process is viceral, purely instinctive and governed by hormonal other unspoken and subconscious players. We either are or are not attracted to our potential partners. The evolutionary purpose of this is of course procreation. It's also very temporary, fleeting and can be viciously fickle. Ever have a coyote ugly moment? When you met he/she was a dream. But the morning after? You're looking for an escape without waking him/her up. Even more common is to wake up 6 months later wondering why you're with your partner, the magic seems to have magically vanished. In this instance the Oxy intoxication has gone and you did not find the impetus for lasting and commited love. It's even more apparent if children have not been produced. You see biologically that's what the oxytocin is for. Then when the high wears off... about 6 to 9 months we're supposed to have the responsibility of children to raise, a damn good reason to stay together...100 years ago. We've all heard it, " we stayed together for the sake of the kids, and over time we learned to trust and rely upon each other..."
This is where the choice to love and be loved comes into play. People are notoriously bad at making this choice for various reasons too numerous to get into here.
That being said, here is where grown up love begins. It's the choice to honor the commitment to place the needs of another equal to your own. And I'm not talking about just when it's convenient. I'm talking moment to moment, hour after hour, week after week, month after month and so on. Hopefully at this point you'll have found numerous reasons to hold on to someone. You've come to really trust each other, to rely without reservation upon each other. You know without second guessing that your partner will do as promised, show up without fail, be there no matter what or die trying to get there. They are willing to be held accountable to you and bend over backwards if needed to keep their word. Sounds like a lot doesn't it? It is. It's also why we, generally speaking are notoriously bad at picking the right one. The commitment is huge, but most of us either run from it or enter into it without giving it the respect that it's gravity demands. As a result hope gets crushed, we become fearful of being vulnerable and we hesitate to be trustful. We neglectfully hurt the ones we've commited ourselves too because we're just not "feeling it" any more.
On the upside, that "feeling it" will come and go over the distance. It can be sparked and rekindled as needed with the proper attention to detail and a strong commitment to the partnership itself. It's the union here that's important. You can identify couples that have it. They use words like "we", "us", "our" on a consistent regular basis. You'll hear" well I'll need to check with my wife/husband/pertner". They approach everything as a single unit.
Now this is not to say that they don't have individual lives. Quite the opposite in healthy unions. In a healthy relationship they will both still have individual lives, friends, hobbies etc etc. They will also have ones that they share. The key is they have both chosen with intent to place the needs of the other in a position of constant equal priority to their own needs. This becomes the unbreakable union. They become the unstoppable power couple. The envy of the rest. This is the goal. This is the unbreakable circle that the wedding ring symbolically represents.
It's not easy. In fact it will test you to your limits, again and again. And even if you do achieve it, it's potentially fragile if either let go of the commitment to continually place the needs of the other as an equal priority to their own
u I think the differences come from the wording... and the key word is, "falling"
Falling in love can be seen as a first stage, in which there's mostly an infatuation, and when it's very new, and maybe sudden or unexpected, it's exciting and full of feelings that can even make you idealize the situation... it also gives me the impression that falling in love can be one sided as well... or tilted to one side in the relationship.
Basically, you're falling in love with everything that's great about someone else... or also falling in love with one, great thing of someone else...
Being in love can be taken differently, to me, it represents a later stage... when you're already past the rush of the first stages, it's a love that has been more settled, it has been tested, it has been proved... being in love with someone "more properly" you're beyond all the awe and the first excitement, you know way better about the other person, now you know their shortcomings, their flaws, all the few things that are not so good about them and yet, you're still very much in love with them and they are also in love with you.
There's definitely a difference between the two, in my opinion. Falling in love is all excitement and butterflies. Being in love feels a little calmer, safer, like you're exactly where you're supposed to be. When you're falling in love, it's more a feeling of "I can't wait to learn more about this person". When you're IN love, it's more like, "I know this person inside and out and I still wouldn't change a thing". My boyfriend has quirks - he can be messy and forgetful. With other exes, those things might have driven me crazy. With my boyfriend, I find everything he does completely adorable.
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’In love’ is sweet and beautiful. Light feeling of joy and happiness.
Burning passion, endless desire, often can’t breathe thinking of them. Out of mind. Can’t get enough touching and feeling. An almost pain when separating from them for the day. That is having ‘fallen in love’. Zero control and there’s nothing better. in my opinion :)
I've fallen in love several times. Falling in love is the way to eventually come to the words “i love you.” However, I've rarely been “in love”. Those i was in love with was very toxic but i was willing to go to extremes to be withh them. “In love” is a scary place and i only wanna say that aloud if its meant to be and not toxic
Yes there is a major difference because there are 5000 different types of love and they are all beautiful but they are all different. Once you found yourself and once you know who you truly are did you understand all these different types of love then it becomes one love and that's unconditional and when you can love everything the same unconditionally I think that's the true meaning of love
u I don't "fall in love" easily at all. I have been in love before, but that took time to develop. I can't put my finger on the magic moment where I came to the realization that "I really love this man and want to spend the rest of my life with him" though.
I think ultimately it's a semantic difference, but it is focusing on different aspects of romantic love. Being in love is more general and is a state that could be either deeply passionate like a bonfire, or more steady and deep like hot coals. But falling in love speaks to the early stages of that when more infatuatatory feelings are present.
I think there’s a big difference between loving someone and being “in love” with someone. That’s also what separates something like parental love from relationship love which includes the whole sexual vibe.
There's a massive difference between being in love and falling in love.
I fell in love with my wife nearly 20 years ago. I love her deeply but I'm not "in love" that way now. I wouldn't be capable of functioning if it hadn't changed.
I've fallen in love 7 times. Dated 3, married 1.
I have times I still wonder what could have happened if I'd had the nerve to ask the other girls out.
I have been in love, I'm not in love at the moment. Regards to the "In love" and "Fallen in love", well I don't know. Fallen in love would suggest growing to love someone rather than an instant feeling of love.
I feel like falling in love borders on obsession when you fall so hard for someone it may not end well or be reciprocated being in love more of a slow burn and to me a better chance of staying together
I think i am in love or maybe i fell in love at the beginning and it has turned to just being in love. It means we both trust and value each other.
I'm not in love. I wish I was. And I'm certainly open to that happening. There are a few people I'm talking to that I am interested in. I would be happy to be in a relationship with any one of them. Just hasn't happened.
Falling in love you can feel yourself falling into some kind of drug (love), but being in love means you care about the other person more than yourself and you can't live without them, and that develops over time.
i am still single.. so can't give any views. Sorry...
Being in love is painful and beautiful at the same time
If love means being in debt together then shit Im lovesick. But my girl is definitely the softer side to my masculinity that I can't do without for nothing.
Falling in love the easy bit being in love the hard part especially in long relaniships there going be good and bad times
Inn love is completly emotionaly, soul, sexyaly, fallen is only with ayes
I am single nowadays... not sure about love, trying to talk and find a good girl for me nowadays
Well right now I'm single. I haven't fallen in love in such a long time.
I think it is just a matter of semantics.
You are "in love" after you have "fallen in love".
In other words being "in love" is the continuation of the act of falling in love.
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