Does it make sense to lie just to make your partner happy or say the truth and make them sad. If you are to lie, where would you draw the line?

[Jemma87899]

[Anonymous]

If I should choose one or the other in all the possible situations, I would rather want the truth. One can also deliver the truth in a more or less negative way. Like if you don't like the clothes your partner is wearing, you actually find it ugly, then no need to use such a word, but if asked you can say it is not your taste.
Lying about important things would mean your partners do not even know your real feelings and thoughts, that is part of who you are. Besides, it can also be difficult to hide. I dated men where I several times could sense something was off, tried talking about it, but they would just way everything is fine. One was for example very easily jealous, he just did only admit it AFTER we had broken up. He wanted to work with it within himself and not blame me. But that way it had a more negative effect on me.. felt like I did something wrong because he shot me out.

[dustybiker]

It’s the way you say things when it’s a tough topic. Always tell the truth, no matter how hard it is. Everyone would rather know. Communication only happens with trust and respect. If you start white lies or withholding it breaks down the system.

[slatyb]

Lying is pretty destructive. More or less so depending on the lie. If your partner would make a different decision if they knew the truth, then lying is highly unethical and very possibly a deal-breaker.

If you are lying about some mundane occurrence to prevent your partner from becoming angry, then you need to end the relationship.

[Ironic_Method]

I always tell the truth. If you do it early and encourage truth over hurt feelings and are able to resolve issues then your relationship will be all the better for it. I can tell my wife anything.

[LisaRaven]

Always the truth. Sooner or later it comes out anyhow. I knew some people in school that got caught in lies simply cause they had to tell so many lies one right after another to cover up for the lie before that they forgot what their story was to start with.

[Miristheiss]

You should basically always tell the truth.
Tell the truth with kindness and love... not harshness.

I can't say there could never be a situation to bend the truth... I can't think of a good example though.

Give me a "for instance" of a reason they may lie?

[Fireguy17]

white lies yes,
your hair looks great, your butt looks great in those jeans, sure I would rather go to your parents house rather than watch the big game or what ever you had your heart set on.
Stuff like that yes, other more important stuff, no I did not have sex with your sister, not so much.

[Jlegacy]

I don't think you can love someone and lie to them.. if you lie to them, you don't love or should not be in that relationship.

Personally I could tease her but she is darn perceptive, I doubt it would work. There is no lie also that can comfort her because the truth is she is perfect. My girl I mean.

[PrettyPriya]

Always tell the truth. Otherwise, where do the lies stop? Also, how much sadder do they feel if they find out it was a lie?

[anylolone]

For important shit you always say the true, what's banal can be covered with "white lies", so to speak, but can doesn't mean should.

For one example, you are late because of a series of factors, you can just pick one most important and say that's the reason.
Or the famous "I'm fine".

[MrOracle]

Tell the truth. If they can't handle the truth, you're in an unhealthy relationship, and a time bomb is ticking, and it will usually go off at the worst possible time.

[Bandon94853]

tbh it rlly depends on how big the lie is i have most def lied about one thing to my person because i think its for the best that she doesn't know and what you dont know won hurt you im not saying you should lie to her but if its for the best that she doesn't know than do not tell her.

[rcljr]

There are little white lies that are harmless, “ honey ! Do this dress make my ass look big? NO dear, you look BEAUTIFUL ! As you look through Amazon to buy her a back up alarm….

[t-8900]

Once you tell a lie it's hard to stop and the relationship will feel cheap and itself a lie. It's a sickening feeling

[boggboss]

Depends on the lie as that goes down the road of potential cheating if its a petty lie maybe but not much more then that

[TheSpaceGnome]

Never lie. When you lie you hide who you are, then you won't know who is right for you, and vise versa.

[Made4sex]

It makes some sense some times. But really truth as a rule is the best way. Like no one wants to find out that they have been getting lied to.

[Iron_Man]

Sometimes a good wake up call is necessary but mostly try to build your partner up

[Wise4myage]

No, because sooner or later your real feelings will surface.

[EaterPeter]

Never lie. Only lie if the lie is totally harmless to others and causing benefit to someone.

[Anonymous]

Never lie. Your just covering up the crap thats gonna come out anyway. Keep your dignity and say things with gentleness and respect

[flyingace671]

Always be truthful no matter what cause sooner or later that lie will come. out and hurt them. more

[Twalli]

Lie if they ask if they look good and they don't

[Bklynbadboy12]

Not me I'm gonna keep it 100