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Objectively age is just a number. That said, norms for different age groups vary wildly by location, culture, and so on. There is such thing as being mature and clear thinking at 17 and immature at 25.
In the US more often than not age matters not because of a mysterious force that changes with age. It's just about where you personally are at in your development.
Like for me I pretty much won't consider a girl unless she's at least 22, because just having experience with drinking alcohol doesn't matter. It's different, you're different when you can buy and drink your own legally.
Because I know that I add on the additional wanting a girl with 1 years experience with that change because it does make a difference and how she handles it. How things may or may not change with her personally. How she deals with stress and so on.
Most of the time if I'm annoyed with a girl at 23, she was the same or worse at 22, and the same or worse at 21. 22 is a good minimum assessment age in my opinion.
As for girls over 35 there's a different set of criteria i have. Some girls have certain common issues. Others don't. It's not an age thing. It's how many people tend to act in response to their age and experiences at those age ranges00 Reply
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+1 yWomen are 3-5 years ahead of men in maturity. A guy's brain doesn't even fully form till about 25. So he has no business making any life-changing decisions until then. Marriage is way off the charts.
No, maturity comes with age and experience. You can't just magically get that - it has to be EARNED. And no, you're just not ready. Sure, lots do get married and start a family, and lots break up and leave the children broken as well.
Are you 18? Or 24? It makes a difference. The former knows everything already, the latter comes to realize the more they learn the more they realize they'll never know everything.10 Reply
age is just a number but it is universally a bad idea to get married at 16. My mother married at 17 to someone she is still married to and loves very much, they got married because they wanted to rather than because of pregnancy or manipulation, and they've had a happier marriage than most people I know. She still strongly advises against getting married that young and says that while she wouldn't go back and change the past she thinks it would have been better if she would have waited until she was older because she wishes she had had time to live her life as an adult before getting married.
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+1 ywell, many years ago people used to get married very young. I think that it is all up to being sure you are marrying your one and true love, and it will be beautiful. it is all so beautiful when you marry your first love. some people meet their true love after their 50s. as long as there is love and the will to take care of each others that's the right time
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When the world says you're ready to sign a death warrant to go die for your country as needed you aren't a child anymore. At that point age is just a number and that's it. Relationship quirks and struggles can come from age gaps. But if you actually are patient they resolve themselves. I'm currently 13 years older than girlfriend. Before I hear some nonsense about that when I was 19 i went out with a 36 year old woman. So idc her age as long as she's a good person and treats me with dignity and respect.
00 Reply982 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Some people mature mentally earlier and some people mature later, or never mature at all.
If you are lucky enough to find someone that you are compatible with for long term then go for it.
And if you want a good partner for a long term exclusive relationship and to create a family with, don't be promiscuous because they often avoid those kinds of people.10 ReplyYes, to a degree. Maturity is not a specific number, but I don't believe such young people are capable of full maturity, especially when it comes to making life altering decisions. Age is just a number amoung ADULTS because we all have different paths and experiences in life.
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yLet's see at 19 the average person doesn't have a steady job, doesn't have a good career and will likely end up on welfare. Go live in a third world country instead of a pampering weak-kneed bend-over-backwards-for-society's-rejects country like America for a well needed life lesson.
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Asker+1 yWell I hope I didn't offend you on this question.
11.2K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Age is just a number as long as you’re an adult but I don’t date women my age they can’t have kids plus you’re a lot more mature than me and have a lot more experience on the naughty side which I don’t like if you know what I mean because I’m pretty pure myself
00 Reply521 opinions shared on Relationships topic. I know it sounds clichè but I reckon if you both love eachother it doesn't matter.
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Asker+1 yI 100% agree with you thank you for sharing
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+1 yAge is just a number because its not equal to maturity. That being said being married and having kids at a younger age doesn't mean they matured fast. That is normal for humans and why we are sexually developed young. It the ones trying to wait till 30 that are very immature trying to be children as long as possible.
00 Reply 6.7K opinions shared on Relationships topic. I don't. Marriages between teenagers or even people in their early twenties have a poor success rate.
10 Reply604 opinions shared on Relationships topic. i mean, while it is just a number for certain things. thats also a lovely way for pedos to get access to tiny children for sex and just no.
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+1 yYou are correct, except that in most cases, mental maturity doesn't actually ever develop enough (throughout the person's entire life), to make them equipped for parenting.
00 Reply No, I don't like that saying. It's one of those that can be misinterpreted easily and willfully. No, age isn't just a number.
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yYou can be young and mature, however, you will never have the experiences to give you the perspective in life no matter how mature. That being said go ahead get married it could still work and if it doesn’t you will be okay.
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+1 yto some extend there is some variance in the levels of experience and competence in the age stratification of people. but it's not infinitely variable. unless there's some mental condition involved.
00 Reply 860 opinions shared on Relationships topic. I think the only people who say that are old dudes who want to bang firm young ass.
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+1 yThey're wasting away their golden years but it's not for you and I to judge. Code word : free will
10 Reply When all parties involved become adults, yes.
No, I do not like little girls.
I won't even date below twenty five.00 Reply
Anonymous(36-45)+1 yYou can have very immature 40-year olds and very mature 20-year olds but experience is very valuable and irreplaceable.
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+1 yOnce you reach adulthood is just a number.
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Asker+1 ySo you like little girls?
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Why would you even ask me such a disgusting question like that? I clearly said when a person becomes an adult.
Asker+1 yMy fault home boy I just wanted you to clarify
7.2K opinions shared on Relationships topic. I am 50 and I still feel like I am in my 20's
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+1 yIt's probability, but not hard fact.
00 Reply Lol, age is more than a number.
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+1 yOnly to an extent but most of the time, I don't
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prison is just a room00 ReplyAs long they're legal.
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+1 yYes it is expressed numerically so pretty much is
00 Reply 1.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic. No of course its not
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Asker+1 yCan you explain why?
Asker+1 yNo it's not that's werid, and not illegal. Obviously I mean people who are illegal. Like Ex; 14 dating a 15 or 19 with a 20.
+1 yI think so too.
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+1 yAfter 21 yes
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Asker+1 yWhy do you think so?
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Mature enough to have some idea what you want in life.
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But I don't get the rush
Asker+1 yGood point
Asker+1 yWhat rush?
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+1 yIt depends.
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+1 yNope
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03 Reply1.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Just a number
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