Is age truly just a number?

[Justneedtokno]

I’m 28 and I’m considering a 25 yr old I have so many concerns.

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I’ve always wanted somebody older than me so they would teach me stuff not really the other way around

[Massageman]

Age is what you make of it, nothing more and nothing less. I am older than my dad or mom were, but I am still learning to implement facts, comments, viewpoints from their upbringing of me.

In another respect, I have a "young-ish" face from my maternal side. When we went to the amusement park, my grandpa would hit the "guess my age" booth- they always wanted to see a driver's license because he looked 10 years younger than he was. My face may look younger than my age, but some of my physical issues can change that impression rather quickly.

If only I can take what I know and have learned/experienced mentally and stick it in a newer body!

I have seen younger people who must use their head for a hat-rack and nothing else. There is an 80 year-old lady who visits our church's food pantry each week and despite walking issues, she shops, helps others, drives her son (who has cancer) to the doc, etc and is still a very happy lady and a pleasure to be with!

Life is what you make it - at any age.

[DaveJord]

At 28 to 25, I would say it's just a number. It does not really become more than just number depending on the actual age. Anything more or less than 4 years in nothing. Anything more than 8 to 10 years you start getting into a different category.

Like 42 and 50, is 8 eight years and that is not so bad. Bcause by the age of 42 you really know what you want and expect from a relationship.

But 22 to 30... there is so much maturing that goes on between the ages of 22 to 30... it can kind of be creepy... unless you honestly set boundaries for yourself as far as expectations go.

To me 18 to 22 is only four years, but its creep to me. Because 18 to 22 is big gap when you consider the 18 is either in or just getting out of highschool and 22 year is 4 years removed from highschool. But by the time the 18-year-old is 25 and the 22-year-old is 29, or 22 to 26, its 100% normal and okay.

I just think anyone in their 20's dating a teen, should never be more than 2 years apart.

[DaveJord]

I am 46 dating a 42-year-old, and before that I was dating a 46-year-old and before that it was a 44-year-old. So, for me anything with in 4 years is perfect.

[DizzyDesii]

Its important to me. I’ve always preferred someone close in age, honestly same age. Not because of similar interests, because I can relate with anyone of any age. I just simply like knowing we were born around the same time. But I’m willing to go up/down 3 years, no more than 4. Plus I just always wanted to have kids with someone who was also in their 20s

[Paulalove98]

3 years is nothing! My boyfriend is 20 and I'm 24. Age really can be JUST a number if you're really into someone of course as long as their a legal age adult.

[Summeroflove]

Obviously age matters. This comes down to someone’s standards and preferences. If you like someone by all means pursue it. This is why we date to see who were compatible with. Ir something doesn’t work then it isn’t meant to be.

Your romantic feelings are worth exploring and I wish you the absolute best. Every potential relationship has some risk to it

[AviatorTom]

I married a woman 4 years younger than me, and we were married for 20 years with 3 kids before an amicable divorce. Age is not that important... it's what you make of the relationship that counts.

[Guy13]

Dating younger for women never works out…

[Smoothing]

You sound so certain. Are you sure?

[VIVANT]

How can one person know what will or won’t work for billions of strangers with no other info

[abc3643]

My wife is 5.5 years younger than me and we've been married for 21 years. Our friends are a man my age and his wife 10 years older than us; they've been married for 33 years.

[abc3643]

Excuse me: I am 5.5 years younger than my wife.

[AmeerX]

@VIVANT I have sent you a PM. Please read and reply

[QuadDamage]

This is very individual, a girl I had relations with when at 22 was 18. She was still more mature then me in a lot ways. I think it's pretty common for women to be on a higher level mentally in this ages though.

Another was 22 and I 28 and she was also very mature for her age.

My longest relationship of 4,5 years was to a girl 8 years younger. She was 23 and I 31. Same there, very stable, calm, good sense of reasoning, witty, quick, tough. I learnt a lot being with that one! She was special 👍

I would never date someone being 10 years younger. That's where I draw the line. It'd be okey if she was 45 and I 35 though.

You need to get to know what kind of person it is your dating to make anything out of it. Genuinely interested in getting to know too, that part is hard for me. I've gotten attached to women who turned out to be very different once they sunk into their real selves.

That's life I suppose even if it stings, you learn. And nothing that worth having comes easy.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Nope. I really believe, the statement is just for consolation. Not realistic.

You will not be as innocent when you are 32 as you were when you were 21, right? I think that should give you the answer.

We learn something everyday, known or unknown to us, but we sure do. Hence age is just not a number. Yes, your mental attitude can be a young one, but what you know makes you the age you are.

[boggboss]

No I wouldn't say it is although equally it's just down to the person in the UK its legal to have sex at 16 but it physically makes me yuck at the thought of being in a relationship of with someone that young

[abc3643]

Don't. You should be fine - especially considering he is beginning to get out of the idiot phase. Your maturity will help mentor him into a fully functional adult male.

[HighValue]

Age gaps are fine, but if you want kids, the woman needs to be under 35 when you have them and the man needs to be under 55. Having healthy kids is the main reason for age to matter in a relationship.

[Smoothing]

Since you are both in your 20s, you should be fine. You are just three years apart. I don't see any problem arising from this othere than any other common relationship issues.

In the context of your relationship, age is truly just a number.

[20yearsolder]

What are your concerns? It's only 3 years. As long as he acts like an adult, I don't see the issue. Trust your judgment

[LittleMelissa9614]

Age is just a number. Why worry. It also depends on the age too.

[Havthrills]

That's only 3 years. What's wrong with that? Barely anything. I knew two married couples that were 20+ years apart. One had a child too. Another, the guys daughter was 3 years younger than the "mom." So yes, age is just a number.

[Phoenix98]

Your acting like your decades apart it’s only a 3 year difference that’s not much of a age gap.

[Justneedtokno]

It’s a lot if you don’t involve yourself in the same things or knows some of the same movies growing up

[Phoenix98]

3 years is really not that much of a difference.

[exitseven]

It really is up to a point. I do not feel my age. I try to stay in shape and chllenge myself all the time. I think I have kore in common with people my kids aga than people who are my age.

[AmeerX]

It's just a number. Go for whoever you love. You are in an open society. Don't worry no one can come in the way of your soulmate.

[AmeerX]

Good lord, you think someone younger will not be able to tell you that. You should be happy about it that you have a young boyfriend.

[NathanDavis]

to reduce and simplify things is always a bad idea

[Jamie05rhs]

You can date a 25-year-old. There's nothing wrong with that.

[Berethor]

Cougar! just kidding, age matter but it's only 3 years age gap, it's not much at those ages.

[Alex8736]

age is just number but intelligence and sense of humor is key. some people grow up while others just get older

[CoolCatMar1]

Nope if a 35 year old dude or woman dates a 17, year old guy or girl

[Philyouup]

i am 58. my girlfriend is 25. we met when she was 22 we get a long we’ll and she make
love to me with enthusiasm and is kinky AF

[LiamJHayden]

Depends upon the couple. Ritchie Blackmore and his wife met when she was 18 and he was 44 or 45. Over 30 years later they are still together.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

3 years apart is nothing. Both of you were wearing diapers around the same time.

[msc545]

It's just a number except that when it gets to a certain point people die

[Redstang88]

No, but 3 years is no big deal. What are you concerned about?

[LimitedBenefits101]

Sounds like he has mommy issues and see you as mother type.

That's the only reason young guys go for older women.

[bamesjond0069]

It's just a number for sex but not relationships.

[bamesjond0069]

But it's fine as long as the man is older than the woman. Then it's no big deal.

[Z1pTD]

Couple years give or take make nooo difference

[krin_m]

Just go with the flow and not worry about the age would be my suggestion!

[Anonymous]

3 years is nothing. Ask again when it's 30 years. Maybe.

[panamared1]

age is what you make it, it can be a difference maker or just a number

[DevikaButts95]

3 years is nothing though?

[eagle1951]

it is, and what concerns

[Agape93]

Like what

[Ms_Facesitter]

To some.

[Teriyaki70]

Yep...

[dudeinohio]

3 years is nothing