Is age just a number?

[lexxiliesbae]

Would you ever consider dating someone who's 10+ years younger than you? How about 10+ years older?

[ohsheeT]

Yes, I have done both. You can look at it as its just a number. Or how many birthday cakes you have has . And there are perfect ages in the moment where all that works out

But as you get older and older you don't want to hold the younger person back. You want them to keep living life? If you're getting older and your health starts to fail

I personally wouldn't want the girl. That was 10 years younger than me to have to take care of me. Obviously, I would rather witches. Say Goodbye and she goes in lives life.

[OneViewpoint]

I've dated women 25 - 37 in my 50's. In fact I've only dated one woman (51) in her 50's in the last 10 years. It wasn't planned on my part. I didn't chase younger women. It just kept happening that younger women seemed to be the ones approaching me. At the moment I have a 35 year old software engineer who's ben chatting me up for the last 2 weeks. To be continued tomorrow night...

There are very few people I want to be around (male or female). Very few compatible people for me. So if one shows up who really intrigues me, and I enjoy being around them, I'm not gonna tell them to get lost over an age gap.

[nastyb]

you probably aged very well if you have women 25-37 approach you.

[OneViewpoint]

@nastyb ,

I guess so. People get my age wrong all the time. I'm 8 lbs heavier than the day I graduated from University. I've always been muscular, fit, and active. I eat healthy. My first job (15 years military) sort of set my lifestyle for the rest of my life. I still have a full head of hair. No thinning or receding. I guess it's part genetic lottery and part discipline / lifestyle.

But I don't think it's my looks that are the primary, or at least not the only, attraction. I dress better than 95% of the guys out there. I'm better groomed than most guys. I have standards and boundaries and I enforce them pretty ruthlessly. I don't make it easy for anyone to approach me. All of that (I think) creates curiosity.

The 35 year old I mentioned above... she keeps interacting with me because she wanted to know who the asshole is who sits in only one seat at the end of the bar and interacts with very few people. Why I always have that seat. Why other people defer to me.

She also got a hint of my background from other people who know me a little. She just had to come "find out for herself". That's the other reason people want to talk to me. Maybe the main reason people want to talk to me. I get the comment all the time, "you've led an interesting life". That's probably true for most people who have never been outside of the US or even the state they were born in and have been stuck in one job or career their entire adult life.

And finally, I'm smarter than most men women run into. I can talk on a wide range of topics and turn the wit in a playful direction instantly if I want to. It can keep a woman off balance and they seem to like that challenge.

So as I've said here on GAG many times, looks are only one facet of attraction. It's the whole package that makes me fall for a woman and I think it's the same for women.

[nastyb]

@OneViewpoint

nobody would approach you for looking smart or looking like you have a good career. When people approach you, it means you are likely very attractive person.

Consider yourself extremely lucky because vast majority of men your age tend to look like shit. They could only dream of getting a woman 27-35

[OneViewpoint]

@nastyb ,

Thanks.

Annnnnd... you just touched on the other reason I get a lot of attention from women. A lot of men in the US just stop caring as early as age 35 or so. They dress like they're still in high school. Bad haircuts or no haircut for 3 months. Dirty untrimmed fingernails. Worn sneakers or leather shoes that have never been polished once since they were new. They're flabby and probably couldn't run 5 miles to save their life. Their bellies are bigger than their chest. And yeah, I'm 6'2". The average guy is about 5'9" in the US.

So my thanks to all those guys. They make me look good standing next to them. Seriously, I think that's a major factor. The competition just isn't that great in my age range. Or even with guys 20-25 years younger than me.

[nastyb]

@OneViewpoint

men lose their hair as they age. their faces start to wrinkle and chop up too. Its not something men can control. Genes determine most of how well you are.

[nastyb]

@OneViewpoint

Taking care of yourself can be extremely hard for young people nowadays too. Cost of living is increasing exponentially and young people are going for additional college degrees, trying to stay afloat. This means working a full time job and then going to school full time.

I, myself, am an example of one. I haven't slept in the past 2 days.

When I was in nursing school, I went 4 days without a shower.

[PeachyPie93]

Nah.. I would never date with a big age gap.. men tend to die first so why would I want it to be years before me? And younger dudes get bored and will want someone younger in 10 years so again that would be pointless. I tend to stick to zero to two years difference..

[Abbycado]

That wouldn't work at my age for younger, and I'm not at this age interested in someone that much older. Perhaps if I were in my forties or fifties it might be a different story.

[lexxiliesbae]

That’s reall

[DishLady]

Yeah age is a number… sometimes it’s higher or lower, but the value of experience should never be taken for granted just to chase a younger p. o. a.

[BonzoInBitburg]

My wife is 20 years younger and I've dated younger than that. If you notice an age difference then the age gap is too big. Some people are old souls are relate better to other old souls or older people. Once you're early thirties, you generally are who you are and an age gap isn't as much of an issue.

[nastyb]

age won't be an issue if you are 55 and she is 35. but by the time you are 75 and she is 55, there will be issues.

[BonzoInBitburg]

@nastyb No it won't. Her culture believes in taking care of the elderly. Her family is very proud of how they take care of the elderly and I know I have many in-laws who will look after me when I get old. There's no worries about that because I have the best in-laws. My parents are 80 and look like they are in their 50s and longevity runs in my family.

[nastyb]

@BonzoInBitburg

you sound kinda predatory as if you married her just so you can have someone take care of your once you get old. you don't seem to care about her happiness or satisfaction at all.

this is why I never respect large age gaps.

There is a reason why they rarely ever work or end happily.

[nastyb]

but I think she will realize the mistake she has made once she hits her 40s. It will only get worse as she enter her 50s. there is a huge price you pay for large age gaps. It very rarely ends well.

[BonzoInBitburg]

@nastyb Predatory? My former mother-in-law started a woman's shelter and I've spent enough time there and I don't see the point of being a predator. Those guys are never happy. There are cultures that value age gaps and a 20 year age gap is normal and preferred. Age isn't a reason to be in a relationship or a reason to avoid a relationship. It has to be more than that.
She'll most likely regret it if the money runs out but most women leave when the money's gone

[TrimmedTip]

Age is a number, but context matters.
A 10+ year gap can work with maturity, shared values, and life stage alignment, but legality, power balance, and social compatibility matter too.

Love can span ages, but respect must bridge the gap. ❤️⚖️

[Anonymous]

Yes and no.

Attraction doesn't really have an age

But long term compatibility success is much higher with someone around the same age

[lexxiliesbae]

True

[valentina4eva]

i would date a guy 10 years older than me for sure, but 10 years younger would only be 19 and that’s wayyy too young!!😅😲

[Ask105]

Yes in both circumstances i even talked to people at both those ages that were friends young and old that mentioned those year differences and they wouldn’t put love on a age number

[Panthero80]

Yes. I think that is fine, unless you are 10 or 20.

[lexxiliesbae]

That’s the kinda age gap where your family sales you for 3 goats and a chicken

[Panthero80]

Haha, yup!

[jazzy34]

I would not date a 25 year old, but I would date a 45 year old. :)

[Anonymous]

10+ years younger yes. 10+ years. Older, less likely.

No age is not just a number. Can wide age gaps work? Yes. Do they usually? No. I would never ACTIVELY look to date outside the 10 +or- range.

[WonderingManII]

no age means you get more health problems and death.

[lexxiliesbae]

Not if you take care of yourself

[WonderingManII]

you still will and still will die anyone who thinks otherwise is dumb.

[lexxiliesbae]

Of course, we all die. When I die I’ll be frozen and then I’ll come back as a robot later

[jamesgoldman]

Older absolutely
Younger no a chance

[lexxiliesbae]

10 years younger at your age puts you in jail.

[jamesgoldman]

Correct but hell anyone younger doesn't float my boat

[Jennz6]

Yes I have and I will again

[Marcia1218]

I'm 32 and my FIL is 53.

[es20490446e]

I need to get someone pregnant.

[lexxiliesbae]

Why do you feel like this?

[es20490446e]

Drastic confusion maybe.

[lexxiliesbae]

Sounds like a deeply rooted issue, maybe you shouldn’t do that.

[es20490446e]

The issue is being a serial ghostee.

[soe11]

• It's for will power.

[lexxiliesbae]

Oooo-Kay

[Elena_adobra]

I almost only date guys 10 years older than me

[MasterKS]

Age is just number for me.

[Jennz6]

Me too

[Jennz6]

@MasterKS
We finally agreed

[AgentG111]

Yes and I have.

[Anonymous]

Depends, there is a limit.

[lexxiliesbae]

There is always a limit. But the question was Would you ever consider dating someone who's 10+ years younger than you? How about 10+ years older? So What is your limit?

[Opinion Owner]

10+ years younger than me - Yes, even younger.
10+ years older than me - No, I'm already too old to date any older if I want to have kids.