There really isn't a specific amount of time you should spend in the talking stage. It really depends on how comfortable you're with the other person and if you're confident in being in a relationship with this person. It usually takes time to know if you want to be with that person which is what the talking stage is meant for, but there isn't a deadline. I've talked to some people for a couple weeks and I talked to my boyfriend that I am with currently for 3 months and we've been together almost 3 years. If you're comfortable with someone and want to pursue them then I would say go for it, however, if you're questioning yourself or questioning whether or not you want to be with them then I would take a step back and reevaluate the situation. I do however, recommend getting to know someone on a deep level and get to know them as much as possible before deciding if you want to be with them especially since the pandemic, COVID-19 has brought out the ugliest sides of people that I've never seen before. Also, people tend to be on their best behavior when they are trying to get someone to want to be with them and may act completely different later on...
Understand there is a big difference between talking and communicating. Most people focus on talking, yet that only touches the surface. Communication is about depth and understanding. You can talk for 20 years and still not scratch what lies below the surface. The issue isn't about how much time... but how much quality.
Here are some questions you can explore with a potential partner, giving both of you a clearer understanding of how each of you views relationships:
When you were young (8-10 years old) and saw people in relationships, what did you believe were the reasons they chose to be in those relationships?
After you had relationship experiences of your own, how did that picture change?
What did you discover about yourself and potential partners as a result of your relationship experiences?
What did you learn from your relationship experiences?
What changes did you make in yourself as a result of that acquired knowledge?
What would be your reason for wanting to be in a relationship? In other words, what can you get from being in a relationship that you can't get by not being in a relationship?
What do you expect of a partner in a relationship?
What can a partner expect of you in a relationship?
Relationship-wise, how do you see your life 20 years from now?
I think these questions would give you a good starting point and foundation to build on.
I don't even understand the question. "Talking stage?" Is that new?
It truly depends on the relationship and the people involved. There really isn't a timeline that you need to follow.
If you don't feel comfortable with taking relationship to the next step, then you wait until you're ready. No need to rush. If that means talking for 4 months or more, then so be it.
If you feel comfortable after a day (and they are also comfortable), then go for it.
You do what you feel comfortable (so long as the other is comfortable also).
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I usually give someone a half of a year at most. Anything more, you can be wasting your time or that person is holding onto a reason why not to date you, which is not always good. I really can’t picture myself waiting anymore than that for someone to make up their mind
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