I would not considering I want children. Pretty foolish of him to marry you with the hopes you would change.
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Some people say they don’t want children but they later change their mind so he probably thought because you were both still young that you were just saying that you didn’t want kids because you were young but was secretly hoping as you got older that maybe you would change your mind
Good on you for divorcing his cheating butt and having high self esteem to walk away from him
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i think my current partner is like this… we aren't near marriage yet but its definitely on the table IF everything goes well so its a little scary. I've told him in detail multiple times my dislike towards children, the fact i will be a negligent mother and the fact i jst have no interest to ruin my own life just because i have the ability to. he likes kids and even once replied to me with “youll change your mind”… no, i won't. i really, really won't.
No. But it's a very personal choice and varied greatly from person to person. I wouldn't be happy without a family but was in a relationship with a man who said he didn't want it. It eventually destroyed what love we had
Well at the age of 25 almost everyone I know including myself doesn't want kids. And if they do, they are mostly from lower classes. But honestly that guy was very selfish, tried to manipulate you into changing your mind and then hop to the next one because you didn't want to.
Ty 😊 yes I warn women of this as well as the reverse for guys. People trying to force you to stay is a horrifying and terrible thing. And that's what he likely thought until he realized she was always going to be super vigilant and safe and that's when he showed his true colors in my estimation.
He should have thought, "I could have a daughter one day. This would piss me off" and then be smart enough to refrain. Ahh hypocrite and self centered bastard...
that's tough, but I guess for many the desire to have kids is great. he should have probably had a serious conversation with you about his changing feelings towards kids. I know a guy that at the age of 24 got snipped. that's how positive he was that he would never want kids.
There are A LOT of Women out there who will say "NO!!!" to kids, get married then change their mind. He was probably banking on the possibility you would be one of them.
I'm sorry that happened. I think marriage is overheated and not needed. And it's religious people that push, oh you must marry, oh you must have kids. Nope all wrong. And another reason not to get married early. Enjoy life first. Like you are a adult and can't make up your mind on a serious thing as in making a kid? Good thing he will be out of your life. That other woman might get f'd in the future by him. Why do idiots keep winning in life?
Profile photo looks fake, not even a country of residence, no badges besides the "logged in" and "posted" badges and supposedly 24 and yet married and now divorcing.
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I would not considering I want children. Pretty foolish of him to marry you with the hopes you would change.
Some people say they don’t want children but they later change their mind so he probably thought because you were both still young that you were just saying that you didn’t want kids because you were young but was secretly hoping as you got older that maybe you would change your mind
Good on you for divorcing his cheating butt and having high self esteem to walk away from him
i think my current partner is like this… we aren't near marriage yet but its definitely on the table IF everything goes well so its a little scary. I've told him in detail multiple times my dislike towards children, the fact i will be a negligent mother and the fact i jst have no interest to ruin my own life just because i have the ability to. he likes kids and even once replied to me with “youll change your mind”… no, i won't. i really, really won't.
No. But it's a very personal choice and varied greatly from person to person. I wouldn't be happy without a family but was in a relationship with a man who said he didn't want it. It eventually destroyed what love we had
Well at the age of 25 almost everyone I know including myself doesn't want kids. And if they do, they are mostly from lower classes. But honestly that guy was very selfish, tried to manipulate you into changing your mind and then hop to the next one because you didn't want to.
I agree with @t-8900, namely on the notion of ambush impregnation. Probably would try to guilt you into keeping it.
Ty 😊 yes I warn women of this as well as the reverse for guys. People trying to force you to stay is a horrifying and terrible thing. And that's what he likely thought until he realized she was always going to be super vigilant and safe and that's when he showed his true colors in my estimation.
Sounds about right, and I agree. Also, good I'm glad you're warning people. Nobody should be forced to stay with someone so toxic and manipulative.
He should have thought, "I could have a daughter one day. This would piss me off" and then be smart enough to refrain. Ahh hypocrite and self centered bastard...
Unless he's the creepy type that views said daughter as "an opportunity "
Personally, I wouldn't. That would definitely be a deal-breaker for me.
You're in the right though, he deserves to be cut loose for the cheating alone.
Because I still live them and even if they or we don't want children I don't care I would still love them anyways.
that's tough, but I guess for many the desire to have kids is great. he should have probably had a serious conversation with you about his changing feelings towards kids. I know a guy that at the age of 24 got snipped. that's how positive he was that he would never want kids.
Out of the slim chance I ever get married, I don't want kids, too. So if she doesn't either, then all is right with the world.
There are A LOT of Women out there who will say "NO!!!" to kids, get married then change their mind. He was probably banking on the possibility you would be one of them.
I'm sorry that happened. I think marriage is overheated and not needed. And it's religious people that push, oh you must marry, oh you must have kids. Nope all wrong. And another reason not to get married early. Enjoy life first. Like you are a adult and can't make up your mind on a serious thing as in making a kid? Good thing he will be out of your life. That other woman might get f'd in the future by him. Why do idiots keep winning in life?
Profile photo looks fake, not even a country of residence, no badges besides the "logged in" and "posted" badges and supposedly 24 and yet married and now divorcing.
Mmmm, I'm gonna call bullshit here.
Yeah, she looks fake as Hell. I'm glad I'm not the only one calling hogwash on this.
In my case that would work out. No kids for me either. But mostly i want to ask what STBXH means
Soon to be ex husband is what STBXH means
@AintNooAngel thank you!
I wouldn’t I’m not gonna make a life long commitment with someone who doesn’t my long term plan or who’s goals don’t align with mine.
I would and did. Can’t understand why anyone wants kids.
No idea. That would be an automatic relationship killer.
I would do it, because i don't want to have children either.
Same here
There are a lot of reasons..
Like I want her to myself
I have a bad feeling that whether if you had his kids or not he would have still cheated. I’m so sorry💜
If you didn't want children, you two could be a perfect match.
Now, if you really want to have a family (have children), this could be a deal-breaker for you and her.