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What was she? Friend? Foe?

Ok, i know this is long, but the background is important

I've known this girl at work for 10 years. Lets call her Caitlyn. Caitlyn and I were close friends. I used to ask her out. She eventually changed jobs and I lost all contact with her. Met my now wife and have two kids.

Three years ago Caitlyn returns to the same job. She visited me often. I enjoyed seeing her again and approached her as a friend. I introduced her to my wife. Over the past years my "friendship" with caitlyn became a problem for me and my family. We exhanged gifts for special events and holidays. She visited me often at work and id often share coffee at her office. I felt caitlyn cared about me. Shed make me food, be an ear for me, and make time for me when i asked. I really valued this. We hung out a lot out outside of work.

Little things added up. Caitlyn would only hug me outside my wife's presence. She occasionally asked my wife for time alone with me. Caitlyn gave me keys to her place with open invitation to come by when i wanted. Caitlyn felt guilty calling me without my wifes knowledge and apologized when she did. Shed seek me out for emotional support. I developed a crush on caitlyn again and recognized this was an issue.

I called caitlyn and told her i was having feelings for her that was not appropriate for a friendship, that I felt something between us. I said we could not be friends because of this. Caitlyn got very upset, said I misjudged her, and hung up on me.

She called HR and reported me for harassment. I was directed to stay away from her. Caitlyn immediately requested a transfer. Its been an embarrassment.

I felt I did the right thing to tell her, because it was going too far for me.

What was caitlyn? Was she really a friend or was she the other woman? Did I assume too much about her feelings for me?
What was she? Friend? Foe?
What was she? Friend? Foe?
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