If you're busy would you let your partner have a playmate to fill their time?

Question

Imagine you're too busy to satisfy the normal role you play in your relationships would you mind if your partner gained another to satisfy their needs?
This is something my ex suggested to me. I ended it because he was actively pressuring me to do so, despite me not needing/wanting it.

Jaximus-Lion · Accepted Answer

I used to work night shift long time ago, so the Mrs was all alone or a sleep pretty often. She has her girlfriends to waste time with and on the XXX note! I made a (Clone your willy) for her and everything worked out, mostly everything :D
We never felt the need for someone to be in there to fill the time.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

That's what I definitely need right now I don't have a partner but I am wanting a playmate for sure there's just something about pleasing a woman that is so hot and sexy and not having a significant other or girlfriend really kind of sucks each and every day because I like to please

Prettygurl12 · Accepted Answer

If I were too busy for a romantic relationship I would end the relationship as it wouldn't be fair to either of us.

I'm married now, though, so I would adjust my schedule to accommodate my husband.

No extra curriculars though. That's how you get shot lmao

ItsMeElliana · Accepted Answer

No, I would just never be that busy in my life, he would also be a priority. and I'll try my best to fulfill him. and he'd understand if I am busy, and will have patience until I'm home or until I'm done with my work.

Anajuxr · Answer

Wow. Well, that never happened to be since I'm that "clingy" person.
I honestly don't know what to think about this...
OK, it's wrong, but in a open relationship, it maybe work.
I would do the same thing you did. He shouldn't pressure you to do something you don't want.

Andres77 · Answer

This was our engagement.
She lived in another country and I knew she was going to be tempted so I just told her to have fun until our wedding. So she did. We made the most out of it but then we've both been faithful for almost 19 years now.

NathanDavis · Answer

if I cannot be a partner I don't get involved in a partnership... it's as simple as that...  for me, of course

Finchie40 · Answer

She wouldn’t be my partner if she needed someone else to fulfill her , and if I couldn’t fulfill her I would let her go and move on , I don’t commit to someone to be single

Wgatap999 · Answer

Absolutely not. It would be cheating and plus once you start messing with someone else you're not going to have the same feelings for the first person.

average-j0e · Answer

if im not able to pull or if the relationship started off different then no i wouldn't be okay with that. but if its open from day one then thats somewhat the point of an open relationship, fulfilling your sexual needs

menina · Answer

No, I wouldn't. He has to understand that even though we are in a relationship I still need time to be myself and to do what I have to do. Just like I would understand that if he was busy.

RobT312 · Answer

OMG never. Not cool with that at all. I think sex is too important and intimate for both of us, we’d always make time for each other

mark000h · Answer

No way. If someone wants that they shouldn't be in a relationship. Be on their own, then they can f as many people as they want without me.

Leonharted · Answer

I would have a huge problem with it, and you did the right thing. If he's not willing to make you happy, instead wanting you to go with someone else, then why be with him at all?

TheBootyChest · Answer

I think I would be okay with this. But I would hope that I can still be the main person when the time comes. Or that they were wishing I was the other person instead when I am right there in front of their face.

Miristheiss · Answer

She has her sister and some girlfriends she can hang out with.  If you are implying another man? No... I'd divorce her.

serious · Answer

That situation will never arise because I have decided to remain single for life.

John1972 · Answer

Yes I would but I’ve been in open relationships most of my adult life

dustybiker · Answer

If you would want other people a person shouldn’t be in a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

I'd think if he was pressuring me into someone else cause he was too busy, that I might fall the new guy and leave him... so no I would not allow that, super bad idea for either person.

AviatorTom · Answer

I wouldn't pressure my partner, but if it was important to her to play (I used to travel a lot and be away from home for weeks at a time), that would be okay with me. I recently offered to get her a handsome hunk for her birthday... she declined.

EaterPeter · Answer

Definitely not. If I am busy I am busy to arrange to provide for them. As much I want them to have fun that would not be fair to me.

Bdsmaster · Answer

Yeah, that will be a pass from my side luv, whatever you might think of me but I am quite possessive of the person I am with, so bringing her a playmate. That would be a no.

Joshua0213 · Answer

No if she needs more than me then fuck her, she can be gone

rod23 · Answer

Sorry that's not right, you have to be 100 percent into the relationship if not move on

TrillXHippy · Answer

Like Stone Cold says

jasco · Answer

Well a play mate is what we call pets ( dogs/cats or anything else)

Anonymous · Answer

anyone who does is a piece of shit and actively looking to cheat or be in a threesome

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Wait, are you talking about a wee hookup? If so, I would start questioning the relationship. When I first read this, I thought you meant just someone to keep them company

collie22 · Answer

doesn't sound like a good idea. you guys probably should find some time everyday

RealMarek · Answer

I would never agree to it.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Heck no. We’d just break up

roro_hlbi · Answer

Never. He has to divorce or die lol.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

No. I would not want that for myself or him.

Agape93 · Answer

Long as my rules are obeyed, sure

JosyJosy · Answer

No I need to find a balance somehow

Wester1967 · Answer

Only boring people get bored

Tim-loves-it · Answer

Absolutely!!! as long as she tells me all the gooey details!

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

No! Even if it was another female.

prosmind · Answer

It's the beginning of end. You will later repent.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah when I used to be gone a lot on business I let my girlfriend have a playmate

jahaims · Answer

Not a chance nor would she want to

jonibravo · Answer

if both of them are ok with it then why not

Rupani · Answer

It depends on the mutual consent.

najekim · Answer

My wife can have as many ladies she wants.

Daphne00 · Answer

No I also always have time for my partners.

Pharez · Answer

I love and that makes me a jealous type

Anonymous · Answer

I can't see this working for most people.

Anonymous · Answer

Never. I am not a degenerate cuckold.

Sanyyy · Answer

Never! Would try to make out time for him

lycanthrope3 · Answer

We all deserve to be happy

EmmaMary · Answer

No, absolutely not.

Subarugirl · Answer

Depends on what needs.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Yup absolutely

Guardian45 · Answer

I'm open poly, so yes it's possible.

StrawberryShake · Answer

Fuck. No.

Wise4myage · Answer

Nope, no way.

Wonderer12 · Answer

Not at all

Abdulwahh · Answer

Lol that is weird

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn’t mind it.

emperor90 · Answer

Yeah i won't mind

Anonymous · Answer

For sure Yes.

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