Do you think a cheater can ever change their ways?

[Hellothere543212]

I am curious about whether people think that a cheat is always a cheat. Has anyone personally cheated and can vouch for whether they have truly changed?

I do sometimes wonder whether cheats stop being cheaters because they suppress their urges rather than wanting to be loyal - therefore they surely haven’t changed but simply hide their desires

[Fayeleo]

I do not believe "once a cheater always a cheater". I do believe people cheat in different circumstances for different reasons. Some have extremely high level of libido - those are their inner physical thirst. It would be harder to ask them to "change" if what they are physically battling is not the same as you and me.

Others might have a mental thirst of thrill-seeking which they need to seek to professional help to find the root causes and find a better/healthier/not-hurting-anyone replacement.

That being said, I also do believe many others are basically learning to deal with relationships, and along the way they make mistakes, like any other mistakes you make while learning something.

That being said, devoting yourself to a cheater hoping for a change is at everyone's own risk.

[Nikki102002]

I doubt it my dad cheated on my mom twist she forgave him once. Second time she was done my mom kicked them both out tossed their cloths into the pool.

[t-8900]

No one deserves to be treated like shit by their spouse. Especially after she bore him children on top of it all. My sympathies to your mother. Hope the rest of you are doing better today though.

[t-8900]

Cheating is betrayal. Where one betrayal happens others shortly follow. I know I've seen it, experienced it, know it. Cheaters should only be allowed with other cheaters and leave people that actually care about love tr alone. One dude in here messing with all types of girls preying in their insecuo like a predator. Such people should be rounded up by mobs, hung by their feet... y'know what I won't talk too much about what predators deserve here. Cheaters are garbage human beings. They don't deserve love, they should be ostracized by society, labeled forever for the pieces of crap they are.

[Hellothere543212]

Honestly I definitely agree! It may seem extreme but you’re 1000% right. People criticise gas lighting and things like that - but I do like repeatedly cheating is a form of abuse. Cheating lowers a person’s confidence, trust in others… It can really destroy your self esteem and emotional stability. It is wrong and abusive.

So people like that should be restricted to see people like them. They can make each other miserable and leave the decent people out of it!

[Hellothere543212]

But I do think*

[t-8900]

Why half my comments get randomly anonymized on my phone I will never understand. Anyways let me fix that because I stand by what I said

[Anonymous]

If your ringer finger is longer than your index finger forget it, you'll always have the need to vary the menu! Jokes aside, some people have stronger sexual urges than others and no matter how much they try to commit they'll always end up in this dilema.

There's a very famous surgeon in my country who said that correlation doesn't mean correspondence. Just because a person cheated once it doesn't mean they'll cheat again, but if a person has a history of cheating innumerous times, make sure to be prepared to handle the situation when it happens to you.

[VikingWarLord]

I'll be straight-up, it depends on how hot she is.

If she's under 7 out of 10 in looks, I'm definitely gonna cheat or push her to share me with other hot women. I've cheated on every ex with small T! ts too, since I'm always able to snag hotter B! tches with at least a Full C Cup. I've been pleasantly surprised though, most of these chics with smaller T! ts are insecure enough that they either don't mind me cheating and/or I get them to join in with the other hot chics I find with nicer bodies and bigger racks.

[Petermorgan34]

Tough question Id say it depends on many factors, I think it depends on if it was a one time mistake in youth, or if it has been a serial thing, if more than once or twice than no, but it can also happen in a sour of the moment one time deal too

[jahaims]

Probably but it's unlikely. If you are cheating you aren't the self reflecting type

[Hellothere543212]

I am not cheating :)

[Leonharted]

I totally think its possible, just like a murderer can change their ways. However, its not something I'm going to gamble my life or happiness on.

[sensible27]

Last para is logical, you almost need a sort of drastic change. It can't be okay I just won't do it again, there are other problems generally and the result is just a reflection

[FamilyGuy2020]

To be perfectly honest as a guy 56Yo, I have not ever cheated on any girl I have ever been with, to be perfectly honest I haven't had sex since my wife passed away 5 years ago.

[exitseven]

I cheated on somebody once and I didn't get caught. I still regretted it and would never do it again.

[Hellothere543212]

Why would you do that?

[exitseven]

It was a crime of opportunity. I met somebody at a party and she invited me to her dorm room and it just happened. I never saw her again.

[emperor90]

Probably but not really

[andy530]

Yes I do. People can change that’s just a fact

[Wise4myage]

Yes I do think that's possible.

[EmmaMary]

No, absolutely not.

[Hellothere543212]

How come? :)

[EmmaMary]

No matter how much you try sugar coating this, the temptation to repeatedly cheat will always be evident, therefore trust is lost forever.

[Kelly6]

Yes they can change

[PeterSmith1983]

Possibly