I have told my boyfriend that I got molested as a child and I don't know what to do?

[Anonymous]

He told me he couldn't even sleep because he kept thinking about it. I feel like I burdened him with this and he is constantly thinking about it. It was a long time ago, I have learned to accept it and now I am okay, but I don't know what I could tell him to feel at ease.

[ChrisMaster69]

Here in the UK you can get couples counselling for this.

basically where on partner has suffered historical trauma and wants to or has informed their partner (or family).

a counselling centre where you are should have something about it.

the following are pretty much all UK orientated, however advice should be the same wherever, also it will give you an idea what to Google where you are.

https://www.dabs.uk.com/information/guidance-for-partners-of-survivors-of-childhood-abuse

https://www.supportforpartners.org

https://www.moodcafe.co.uk/media/24916/Advice_for_partners_of_CSA_-_Moodcafe_Layout[1].pdf

[Anonymous]

He’s upset FOR you. Remember that. Also sharing that horrible secret is something of trust for you and him.

If I dated a girl like this I would support her. But my only concern is if that incident could psychologically impact our intimacy. I would be understanding if it did but it is something I need to watch for.

[BarryLiverstone]

He just needs time to process this. Keep consistent feedback praising him when he does the right thing so he knows he isn’t the source of any abuse. Certainly hold him accountable at the same time. He is just unsure how to treat you moving forward.

[Anonymous]

Why do guys do this to women? You were the victim in this, not him. I really hope you’re okay from what happened to you in the past but this is something your boyfriend should’ve handled better.

[Wise4myage]

Tell him to get over it and accept your view on it.

I hope you're ok.

[Wise4myage]

Thanks, likewise.😊