Should I tell my family my brother in law molested me when I was a kid?

A long time ago, my sisters husband molested me when I was around 7-9 years old.
i didn't tell anyone back then because I didn't know it was a bad thing.
i didn't even remember or realize how bad it was till I was 14. And then I just thought it was too late to tell anyone.
but I have been thinking about it a lot lately. I feel like I should tell someone.

The thing is they have a child together. If I told them, my sister would probably break up with him and she would be left a single mother. And he would probably never even see his kid. I would break up a family... and I break up a couple that has been together for 18 years.. I don't feel like it's even worth ruining a family over something that happened over 10 years ago.

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Im also nervous that it would happen to their daughter, who is 3.
Plus I have a 13 year old niece, it could of happened to her too. She seems to dislike him, maybe that dislike came from him molesting her? I don't know. It's hard to tell them. But I think I will try

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  • You wouldn't be his first and only there would definitely be other victims and future victims.
    Two of aunties were molested by their brother inlaw. He also molested his 2 nieces , his own 3 daughters, daughters friends and the neighbors kids. He is a monster. 18 women came forward but only 11 of them were strong enough to take him to court.
    Think not only about yourself but think of the other potential victims.
    Did they have a boy or a girl?

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  • A classmate was put up to something like this in her childhood, she is 15 now but earlier this year she found out her whole family has been molested by that 1 person and they all held it secret for the whole time.. You should really share it with her, that girl is miserable right now, if you have the chance don't let it reoccur, it's difficult for people around them to even see them the same way sometimes :(

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What Girls Said 14

  • Most definitely, there's only one answer to this question and it's a yes. Find someone to talk to, and I'm sure everyone else here in the comments have said the same. Good luck💛 Dont be nervous, in this situation you're never to blame. Better now then never~

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  • Yes you should before she ruins more kids (I'm not saying you're ruined) but sometimes that can put a huge emotional toll on children in some cases to kids even try to commit suicide also if I had a husband that molested my brother and I found out about it I would raise 7 kinds of hell and I would be incredibly glad someone told me

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  • Tell someone about it (better your mother and father).
    Sorry that you went through that. I hope things get better for you. 💜

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  • No, he could be doing it to the little kid. Tell your sister

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  • I'd tell, especially if he has a kid. People who do that shit often reoffend.

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What Guys Said 14

  • If i was you, I'd speak to a mental health professional to get to the bottom of it all and make sure you are actually remembering things correctly.. especially at that age.. 7 to 9 is a big gap to not know exactly what age this supposedly happened.. could be a false memories caused by a different trauma..

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  • yeah! you need to tell them man. I'm so sorry it happened to you, but you need to make sure it doesn't happen to anyone else

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  • Damn this is serious... I would tell someone though, he could be doing this to other unsuspecting kids too

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  • I think you should tell. You could spare someone else what happened to you.

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  • Yeah you should tell them. He could be a danger to his own kid, if not then to other kids.

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