Why are some girls so insecure in relationships?

[Anonymous]

Everyother day

"You're cheating on me"

"Who is she"

Blah blah.

Honestly I'm sick of it.
It's me I'm the girl

[Tee_12]

People with low self esteem get jealous and insecure and try to control their partner in relationship also they might have experienced cheating in past relationship so find it hard to trust again they first need to heal that part then enter into a relationship your present partner doesn't deserve to suffer because your ex did something to you in past

[sheikalana]

Perhaps because they had bad experiences in the past or the person they're dating doesn't give them much stability.

[mark000h]

Unless you have good reason to think someone is cheating, you shouldn't assume they are. There's a difference between red flags and jealousy.

[Ironic_Method]

I was with a girl like that for a few years. She was great despite that one thing.

Never again.

[Finchie40]

Because of all the shit she hears about from her friends’ or social media etc. that basically imply that all men are cheaters and backstabbers which is a bunch of bullshit , The hard truth is her friends’ are the cheaters and backstabbers in most cases. Which she is clearly blinded by Why I no longer will be with a girl that is easily influenced by her so called friends’ , if she is influenced by her friends’ she isn’t ever going to succeed in a long term relationship period. I have witnessed and experienced so many so called friends’ ruining their friend’s relationships , because of jealousy , because they wanted her all to themselves , because her friend might be gay for her , or her friend is attracted to to her boyfriend. and little does she know the second they influence her to break up with her boyfriend, her so called friends’ are trying to get with him behind her back. Most of
My ex girlfriends’ friends’ have tried getting with me after her and I broke up Why I tell people all the time to never prioritize friends’ over your partner period , Friends’ can easily influence you and can easily backstab you as well , especially if they want something that you have that they don’t , A good friend is going to be supportive of your relationship and happy for your relationship, a toxic friend is not , they will do everything in their power to get you away from your partner because they are jealous or they want a turn at them. I have witnessed and experienced this so many times to the point , the truth needs to be laid out on the table. Never allow your friends’ to influence you away from your partner , unless they have solid proof your partner is up to no good , because in most cases your friends’ are the ones that are up to no good. Another thing is the second your so called friend meets someone , they will disappear out of your life , so never choose friends’ over your partner period , Mark my words and I guarantee you will experience a long lasting loving relationship with your partner

[jshm2]

They aren't. You are just fucking clingy, scared or ignorant.

Being "insecure" means there is "doubt and lack of confidence". Which is not often the case. As in fact you don't have confidence as you know you have either lied or are not reliable enough for them to trust as they do.

[Crankor]

Sometimes its a conflict of how you perceive a good relationship to be. doesn't mean that's the right and or only way. it can be tough sometimes to just stop thinking the negative thoughts in certain cases when you hear about so many bad turn outs these days. But at what point are you just sabotaging yourself.

[Jayleenxo]

Maybe they didn’t get a good example from their parents or maybe because they had a bad past with the wrong people. Social media could also be pretty traumatizing and scare you about relationships

[dwreborn]

Maybe they have been cheated on before jealous of someone or thing could be childhood issues lots of things make women and men insecure ask what the problem is and try to reassure them that your with them

[beenherebefore]

It has a lot to do with past trauma. Most of the time people are not even aware of it but once you realize what's causing your insecurities you really need to work on it otherwise you'll end up messing up all your relationships.

[LiamJHayden]

Cheated on before, codependent, told she was worthless by parents, and on and on. Unless she is projecting because she is herself a cheater, she just needs a faithful guy with a lot of patience.

[scooogy]

I'm rather sick of this "you don't show me your love anymore, I need to quit with you" 🙄

[zagor]

In my experience the ones who are always paranoid about their partner cheating are the ones who end up cheating.

[LesterJester]

Yup, I know this first hand to be true. Never cheated in my life. Even when I was single and had an opportunity with a girl I really liked, the girl was also dating my cousin so family comes first and I turned the opportunity down. Kind of shit that they broke up a week later but it was about principle.

So never cheated, but the bitch who kept creating drama over everything and snooping through my stuff was the one who was chatting to another guy and hooked up from her home town.

Fk that shit. If I was ever in a new relationship in the future, the moment she raised any questions like in the OP would be an insta dump. I ain't going through that shit ever again.

[zagor]

@LesterJester Happened to a couple I worked with. Knew them both BEFORE they got married. They got married, had a couple kids. He was a very good-looking guy and always had girls checking him out. She was average. She was always paranoid and would get upset that he would connect on Facebook with girls he knew in HS. But he never cheated. And she took a job at another company and would up screwing around.

[msc545]

@zagor you are not wrong about this. Not wrong at all my friend.

[Miristheiss]

It is in your nature to never be content and to always worry about something.

[DrPepper12]

You need Stoicism!!

[janemarie15]

Because maybe, the relationship that they have is not happier than others. Or maybe their expectation or want relationship have is not their fantasy. Same in the Korean drama lol

[In_Trance]

My guess is unresolved issues from the past. Now, you don't believe you're good enough and you don't trust yourself

[Xoirwinkan]

Women tend to be less self secure in general. Guys usually only worry if they see signs of her cheating.

[Richardjd]

Because they have been hurt before it's same for men not just girls

[andy530]

Sounds like either an attachment injury or low self esteem

[noohair]

Social media has not had a positive effect on relationships.

[2021biguy]

They don't know what trust means and maybe they are afraid of someone doing what they will do.

[Anonymous]

I don't know, I prefer self-confident girls who are not insecure.

[FilmGuy93]

Because they're insecure people?

[JSmuve]

Fear
of
Abandonment

[jahaims]

No self confidence or they are projecting

[beefcakebradybatson]

Because lots of lads are liars.

[emperor90]

Because they are not happy

[SkyCastle90]

It's lack of trust.

[Allmenrsick]

We all need more crack

[Luckycharms12]

Lol 😂