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Boyfriend won some money in the lottery but won't share because I was "unsupportive." Is he being unfair or am I being unreasonable? (Page 2)
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He has a point, but you do too. If he's going to act like a dink where money is concerned 🤑, than what kind of future can you look forward to living with him?
I think that a middle ground can be found if you are both flexible enough to find it and meet each other half way. If not, than I would be too optimistic about your future together.
Typo on wouldn't
He's holding you accountable for mocking him. You're acting like an entitled brat. Nothing is "ours" unless we're married. The fact that he ended up giving you what he did and you're still not appreciative is very telling on what type of woman you are. You're not entitled to your bfs money. Wake up lol
You are his girlfriend NOT his wife. That's his money , What makes you think you deserve any of his money? Oh lord sure times had changed.
Even after marriage
@cookiecrusher True I don't understand why would someone be lazy and think their entitled to someone else's winning trophy. You are right.
Well, it totally is HIS money and he doesn't have to share it with you...
But to be honest, if you're together for 3 years and living together and he knows you have debts and yet he's not willing to help you out then in my opinion you'd do better looking for a new boyfriend. That's just not how a partner acts, let alone a man.
(but wait a couple of days before you make any rash decisions, he might be joking)
What the hell?đ
Why do women always want money so badly?
Fix your own damn problems, why bring it on your spouse? You took the loan, you aren't starving and need a handout to survive.
What about his plans, maybe has dreamed of nice car or maybe he used his brains and wants to invest, which is way better than paying of loans.
I swear women with these types of mentalities are the worse.
Men are nothing but walking wallets to you
@cookiecrusher
because fact of the matter is, men like to date poor women with financial problems. Financially stable women scare men off. So thats why you always see guys dating girls with money problems. then guys complain about why women only like rich men or why women always want money so badly?
because you like to surround yourself around BROKE women.
No, because men have always dated down, across, up and women only date up.
Aside the ones selling their ass, how many rich women are there? Not enaugh to go around.
That's why you mostly see poor women with more wealthy men.
@cookiecrusher
Actually wealthy men tend to date wealthy women. Poor men tend to date poor women. Or men who earn medicine salaries dating women who make less than them
But regardless , people still tend to marry someone close to their own social class.
If youâre rich , there is a good chance all your friends are rich. Typically your girlfriend or wife will also be rich
â Or men who earn mediocre*** salaries dating women who make less than them â
Nope, wealthy men date the most beautiful women. Who are often young and trophy wives, stay at home moms etc.
Men don't care about womens money. Only looks, femininity, sex, her purity, submissiveness, someone they can trust, and someone who they can chill with.
Most guys don't care about your education, income or income or income potential, or that women typically don't have a car etc.
@cookiecrusher well, when you are planning a future together then their problems are also your problems. If you don't like that then don't date a woman who has debts. Nowhere does it say she's not trying to pay them off, but he has this extra cash and after 3 years together I think it should be safe to assume they're planning to stay together, have a family etc... it actually goes both ways, both men and women should support their partner in that situation if they can. Like if they suddenly get so much extra money. If a man is not willing then in my opinion what's an indication he's not seriously thinking about us together so I'm just wasting my time.
Sienna.
First off, why to feel it's okay for you to spend and make poor financial decisions, and then throw it on your partner?
You, as a loving partner should try to better your spouses life, trying to make them happy, not drown them with your own issues.
Secondly. He should invest that money. Paying off some low monthly pay loan with a huge part of your investing portfolio is just retarded, and will result in loss over a million in 20-30 years.
Allowing the two of you to retire earlier and leaving your kids set.
He should teach you how to make better decisions and how to make your own money. So when he dies, get sick or loses his money, you and the kids would be fine and not on the streets like would right now.
And he is also free to waste it if he so pleases. He made it he spends it.
Be happy for your partner enjoying his life for a moment instead of feeling butt hurt and entitled, especially after nagging him for yearsđ
@cookiecrusher
Thatâs only what you see in Hollywood Ans movies. But thatâs not true. I come from New York City , this city is filled with rich people. I can tell you that rich folks tend to marry other rich folks. Rich guys have hookups and flings with models at bars but it rarely ever end up in marriage.
Rich marry the rich. Poor marry the poor. The bullshit you see in movies is not real.
I live near Wall Street. I would know
@cookiecrusher
By the way, most rich guys donât have trophy wives. It sounds like the only exposure you have to rich people is the tv
I don't know mam, i'm rich and don't have a tvđ
I'm from Europe by the way. What you described is a corporate wife.
A good decent respectable wife you show and take in to your work related events.
At some level they expect you to be married and not walk in there with a young model plaything. At some level of income, depending on the location. But that's only in the corporate world, just rich guys marry who the hell they want.
Also, do the math, there aren't even close to the amount of rich women to rich men.
And most men don't care for that, not all want models (too much ego to deal with) but will date and marry down all the time.
@cookiecrusher so men demanding young and submissive women who wants kids and to takes care of the house is perfectly fine but women demanding a partner with financial stability is golddigging? lol ok..
Are we talking about wanting a financial stability from a partner here or being entitled to his money?
I don't know if you learned that yet, but there is a difference.
@cookiecrusher
The ones that you are describing are trophy wives where old guys who are still single in their 40s try to use their âmoneyâ to look for a wife. He needs her to look hot so he can parade her around to boost his image. Often times many of these arenât even wives but are just girlfriends. Most of them donât even ever marry
The reality is most rich corporate guys are typically Married with kids by the time they hit 40 to the woman they have dated since they were 30. Most of these wives arenât housewives but are educated career women themselves. None of these women are bimbos without an education.
@poof_22
Donât listen to this guy. He doesnât have any real exposure to any rich people. The only rich people heâs exposed to is the ones he sees on tv. I live in a city filled with high achieving corporate folks And a city filled with millionaires.
I can assure you that most of these men aren't married to models but are married to very intelligent, college educated women.
Take a look at the most famous millionaires in the US: warren buffet , mark cuban, Robert herjavec , Elon musk.
Look at All the wives of high power politicians.
98% of them do not have a trophy wife.
Yes as college degree counts as highly educatedđ
You are the one talking about bimbos and throphy wives.
I did say they marry good decent presentable women. Does that mean throphy wives?
Men in general don't care if women have money, nothing changes about then with when men get richer.
Keep dreaming.
Some like to pick women who have their money because it is less likely that she will be a gold digger or a social climber.
Most of these guys still sleep around on the side, with young women.
Nice statistic, have any more of those stored in your butt.
Every major city in the world is a filled with millionaires. Even my parents live in a tiny town, has about 17 millionaires that i know of. Town population about 10k people.
And on paper i'm a multi millionaire too, though, not going to cash that out yet too.
Might be your states thing but here in Europe we see a lot more younger women married to rich dudes, riding around in fancy cars and etc.
As a side note new york is an overpriced shit show, what keeps you there?
@cookiecrusher
If you really take a close look at most wives of these rich men, they arenât models or super gorgeous women but very educated intelligent and often successful women
Most don't work as model sure, but they are great looking.
Often get successful after meeting their man and going to business schools. Parking expensive cars in handycap places etc
That is what is popular in most of Europe.
@cookiecrusher
This is not what itâs like in most of the world. Just take a look at the wives of most presidents and politicians around the world , are they models or gorgeous? They arenât!!
Frequently many poor people never met any rich people other than the celebrities they see on tv.
"Take a look at the wives of most presidents and politicians"
"Other than celebrities they see on tv"
"Can't, make this shit up" KS đ
These guys are old 50-80 while most of their wives are 30-60.
Most of it is just for public image. And they were obviously nicer when younger
Most have young side pieces, the politicians. You hear it in the news every month.
Anyway you are free to believe what you want
@cookiecrusher
Continue watching keeping up with the kardashians. Because Hollywood is the only exposure you get
@cookiecrusher
plus if a man is looking for a trophy wife , he would go for a girl 18-30 , not 30-60.
@shaysh87 Rich people marry within their circle, doubt an average dude who doesn't have much going on with his life and spams a whole thread would know about such things.
Oh i dunno, i do have some free time, don't have to go to work on Monday, unlike you, tick tock mfđ¤Ł
Plus entitled women like you really gets our blood boiling. It's actually a bit fun to call you out on your BS
You have such a misguided sense of entitlement that you are already making plans for his money. How very considerate of you. You're not his wife, you discouraged him over $5 a week that would not change his life if he lost, you are entitled to nothing. Stop worrying about his money, it's not yours to worry about. You're the selfish one.
Your debts are not his debts, you're just thinking about yourself when he got some money.
Wow, you need to step back and not get dollar signs in your eyes.
And now you know what happens to money grubbing mutts when their true colors are revealed. If you kept your mouth shut and stopped trying to run his finances for him when he won, he probably would have given you more money and you would still be together.
And he wasn't just investing in his future, he was investing in your too. Now just his future, because you couldn't stay in your lane.
Getting gold digger vibes no offense. I wouldn't have expected anything from him. Let him do smart shit with that money not pay off your debts. He can pay off yours after he makes more money being smart with it, but that's only if he wants to.
Your debts are your problem not his.
Wow. Imagine berating your boyfriends gambling habits, telling him against gambling (which is fine) and when he actually won, you dare want a piece of the winnings. How fucking hypocritical.
you shouldn't have done that. Now its too late. learn from it.
Man I'm so glad there are normal pinks commenting here too, that don't agree with "forcing" him to share his won money. It is up to him for the courtesy and forgiveness.
You're being unreasonable. You made your own debts, your responsibility to clear it up.
If you are genuinely happy for him, make sure to show it. Such a pity to let jealousy ruin a good moment for him.
Exactly, thank youđ
How is he being selfish?
I'm confused as to why you think you're entitled to his money?
Exactly, thank you.
I actually shocked about the majority of female comments. Guys are only like walking wallets to them and their needs.
They don't seem to posses the ability to be happy for the love of their life.đ¤
@cookiecrusher Kinda gross, tbh.
Taking up your own credit card bill then expecting others to pay for it.
To each their own i guess.
Glad i don't have people like that in my life.
Yeah, wasn't chocked really, i was certain there was also a credit card or two maxed. New iphone did come out recentlyđ¤Ł
sounds totally resonable to me. Like if you told me not to buy my 80 inch tv and i did anyhow, then as soon as i plug it in you think your going to control the remote control? HaHa. you should be more understanding of his choice to spend 5 bucks on a lottery. its a form of enjoyment to play for him probly so you should be kind about something someone wants to do to feel good.
Very good analogy!
It's technically his winnings. I understand your point of view, but asking after he won, is a huge red flag for guys. Just don't ask him about it, treat him like a person, be a supportive & caring girlfriend like he never won the money, and he might consider doing it on his own.
Yeah, however women are quick to manipulateđ¤
Supportive or not, you're still his "girlfriend", right... in all other ways. If he excludes you from any "benefits" of his windfall, the scenario is clear: the money is more precious to him than you are. Your opinion on the odds of winning a lottery are sound. He's one of the fortunate ones, but his feelings for you are obviously, unfortunate. Good luck as you move on.
What a bunch of losers here. They agree that because you didn't support the idea of lottery investing, that you should be cut out of his lucky hit... even THOUGH you're still his girlfriend, no matter what. Money changes everything. I'm sticking with my comment. You deserve better. Pay off your credit card debt and be gone.
He is your boyfriend not your ATMA. He doesnât owe you any money. Itâs his money and he has 100% ownership over it all. Itâs pretty shameless to even wonder about receiving a bit of it. Clear up your own debts on your own feet.
He won it, you didn't. Unless you happen to be married in a community property state, you have no say in it.
I would not be surprised though if he ends up wasting a good chunk of it on buying more tickets trying to win more.
If a guy broke up with me, I'd have moved on by now. No second chances, up to you though.
He is being fair.
You judged him & didn't support him.
Just because you don't believe in it, doesn't mean he shouldn't. It's his money & choice.
You should not of asked him for money he won without you.
Clear your own debt.
I wouldn't share with you either.
Thank you
You were unsupportive and judgmental. Glad heâs not giving you any.
You messed up! Hahaha I'm happy for your boyfriend.
So many people will ridicule others for their risks or ventures that may not not seem wise. I'm glad it worked out for him.
You're looking to jump on the gravy train now that he's succeeded.
You'd just as easily leave him if it didn't work out and he lost most his money.
Plus you didn't pay anything in so equality works both ways :P
Well for starters he's your boyfriend, not your husband so he has no financial obligation to you whatsoever. You may have been "realistic" with him but can't expect to be unsupportive then cash in when he hits. You should be thankful if he takes you out for dinner or a nice little weekend getaway
"I really would have liked more but thus will be enough to pay off my credit card (((so itâs a win))) I guess" THIS comment, those words speak volumes about your character and fitness to be his girlfriend. Relationships are not a win-loss thing. I'm going to stop right here.
Pay attention the way he's treating you because no matter what the excuses it is not hand you any money and you are a team you are a couple boyfriend girlfriend whatever that's exactly how he's going to treat you later on in life except for Worse
Did you forget the part where she nagged him for years, and now is entitled to it?
You can start talking about a team after marriage.
The way most women just use men for money, paying off debt and such then moving on in regular dating is great reason not to.
And we all know he would have given her some if she was a supportive girlfriend and after winning wouldn't act entitled and bitchy.
Lol I hear you and to this day she probably still nagging she has to understand that they're not married he can do whatever he wants with it my point to her was she gets to see him for his true colors of who he really is I doubt this relationship will last much longer anyway because she's going to beg him to death and he will always play on her mind videos of stingy person it's a part of life she either accept it or she doesn't it sounds like the guy's smart if he's going to invest 70,000 that's what should be done with it
Like I said take this as a learning moment he right now is showing you his true colors who he really is in life you're either going to accept him or you're not if you didn't accept him and you walked away I guarantee you in the $70,000 is over with his girlfriend cuz he will have a new girlfriend will break up with him because he's a straight-up Jerk it sounds like but no matter what that's his money and forget about that forget about all the money look and see who the guy really is right now in life he's big and he's bald and he has control he thinks because he has money when the money is gone he's right back down to zero if you're looking at the money you're looking at the wrong thing you should be looking at the person and you re really is he's telling you something right now it has nothing to do with money you're telling you exactly who he is I mean is he taking you out to dinner as a bunch of sexy clothes or is he bought you a pair of shoes as he bought you a dinner
On your up date you ask what you should do and do about the money re read everything you called him said about him then look at yourself do your same words towards him apply to you you getting back together with him or meeting with him is it about your love for him or the money you need to take a stand and pick one or the other what is the most important to you I understand where you're coming from to a point only and then there's a bigger better picture out there but you need to step out of and then look into I mean it's your choice I hope you guys can figure it out but I think everything you guys are gone through it's for all the wrong reasons good luck
sorry, that money doesn't belong to you. you should have taken a different approach. you could let him know that a little debt help would be very appreciated and maybe you could do something nice in return. but you can't expect him to divide his winnings with you.
your fucked! you should say thank you for the 2 grand. he's the one investing it for "your" future because your "partners". maybe you should learn how to pay off your debts that way you'll learn how to not rack up credit card debt in the first place
If you were married, not fair. But I do side with him on this.
While if it were me, I'd pay off my GFs debts.
BUT... he is in no obligation to share you anything. Barring the unsupportive attitude, you are not married. You are not entitled to anything he owns.
I do think it's selfish but he's not your husband and he does have the right to be selfish. You need to decide if you want to be with someone like that.
where does it became your money? he played it he won it end of the story your depts are your problems not his he doesn't have to give you money.
So heâs being financially irresponsible by playing the lottery, but you want his winnings to help get you out of debt? Lol. Typical female mindset. Sounds like you have some growing up to do, young lady.
Yea honestly no, as his boyfriend, you should be willing to support him or at least talk to him about why? You just made fun of him and that hurt his pride cause he was simply trying to make a better life for both of you
It is technically his money and you did tell him it was a waste of money so youâre not entitled to his money. But, this wonât be an issue for very long considering most lottery winners spend all of their money within a couple years of winning.
Well, since heâs broken up with you, he will go broke officially because of cocaine and hookers.
He must be out of money by now.
He had the desire, he paid the expenses, he played the lottery, he won the money.
You made fun of it, you have debts, and if you want some of that lottery money I would say...
GET YOUR OWN!!!
He is under zero obligation to share any of it with you. Your being bothered and feeling entitled as his girlfriend doesnât really ingratiate you either.
Well, you LITERALLY mocked and made fun of him for playing the lottery, so you don't deserve diddly squat.
Simples...
LMAO i would have kicked you out
"so what are we going to do with the money?" THERE'S NO WE 🤣
Breaking up is the next best thing he did after winning the lottery
What's fair in you thinking you are entitled to part of his winnings?
Thank youđ
Omg 😂😂 okay heâs acting like a kid but when youâre in a relationship it becomes âoursâ. If heâs a nice guy heâd give you some even if you did make fun of him for it
Or heâd at least put it towards something for the both of them. Three years, and i find it hard to believe they havenât been mutually supporting each other. Though we donât know the whole story, maybe sheâs been selfish throughout the three years. But maybe he has been too, and based off of what we know id put the money on him being selfish.
Doesnât make sense of ânot supportingâ just because he won on this rare chance, it doesnât mean she was wrong to say it was a waste. Lots people do what he does and spend that amount and never get anything. Likely heâs gonna spend most his money on buying more tickets.
1) She never said anything about him not being a provider, she just said he refused to share HIS lottery money with her. He could be providing from his income for all I know.
2) She mocked homeboy and then asked for a cut when he won because she has "debt". Her debt is HER RESPONSIBILITY. Ain't nobody gonna pay that shit for you but you.
3) Had she been more patient and supportive, she could've been taking a cut of the cash prize, but she wasn't. This just makes her look like a gold digger.
@Datboi65 I just know if it was my man he would pay off my debt even if I did clown him about it playing the lottery (which I would never do unless he was using all his money) but like she said we donât know the whole story. I wonât be surprised if he breaks up with her
@Pink2000 No, your man isn't obligated to pay your debt. If he feels like it, then he will pay it off. If he doesn't, then too bad. Only time he would is when y'all get married, because then legally your debt becomes his debt, but if you guys are just dating, no way in hell you can force a man to pay for debt you have accumulated before the relationship.
@Datboi65 I wouldnât have to force him. He would feel obligated to. We take care of eachother.
He's acting like a kid because he's holding her accountable for mocking him? You're acting like an entitled brat. Nothing is "ours" unless we're married. The fact that he ended up giving her what he did and she's still not appreciative is very telling on what type of woman she is. You're not entitled to your bfs money. Wake up lol
@sirderpsalot123 well my boyfriend and I have an understanding and Iâm very much entitled to it âŚ. If I need something, as my boyfriend he should provide me with what I need. If I won some money I would definitely without question provide him with what he needs.
Ok YOU and YOUR boyfriend have an understanding. That doesn't mean everyone else is a "kid" for having a different perspective. And its great that your guy takes care of you, but, proving isn't the obligation of a boyfriend. It's the obligation of a husband. I'm not married yet, but I would help my girl out if I won the lottery along with my close friends but only because they know they aren't entitled and aren't ungrateful. They are supportive people who I love so I would want to do that for them. The girl who made this post is a brat and is 100% in the wrong.
@Pink2000 Like I already said, you cannot FORCE someone to do that for you. Your guy would help you out? Cool, good for him. Please don't spread this misinformation to other women because it's harmful, and men are tired. Unless your assets are LEGALLY TOGETHER, you CANNOT force him to pay for anything. This girl's problem is her's only. Apparently her dude doesn't feel like paying for her debt, so who am I to blame him? đ¤ˇđžââď¸
@Datboi65 when did I say I could force him? If you could read youâd know that I said that if he was a nice guy he would⌠if youâre tired of being used then just say that. Stop projecting though.
@Pink2000 You're not literally forcing a guy, but you're placing expectations. "If he's a nice guy". No, he could be a nice guy and still say no. and why you go straight for the personal insults? You don't no nothing about me to say that I'm "projecting". You obviously have a lot to work on.
@Datboi65 you mean âknowâ and itâs evident that you are projecting
Girl drop this boy, he ainât worth the headache of explanation đ
@pink2000I'm with @sirderpsalot123 @Datboi65 on this. The guy is not obligated to help her in her debt that he most likely did not partake in. She is NOT his wife. And like the others said, just because you're in a relationship, doesn't obligate the other to pay stuff for you. Good for you that you found that guy, but don't shove your own selfish expectations on others.
"when youâre in a relationship it becomes âoursâ ". No it does fucking not. A relationship does not automatically mean marriage. And even within marriage there is something called a pre-nup. So not everything that is his would become yours. And vice versa.
My girlfriend received a big sum from her family to go on a vacation with me. I told her to keep the money in her savings and that it is her money and that I don't need to use it. I can pay for myself. So wen it comes to this dude and his lottery money, it is nice if he spends some on the both of them (like a vacation or buy a new phone or whatever), but even that he isn't obligated. And it seems like he did give her 2000 bucks and she STILL isn't satisfied with it.
Even though I have no animosity towards you, I honestly advice men to stay the fuck away from women like you. You reek of entitlement for things that you have no right to.
@TruthBringer yâall are just lame
@Pink2000 Wow, that's what you got out of all of ths. You're obviously closed minded. And then you have the audacity to tell others that they are "projecting". Ever heard of the pot calling the kettle black? I wonder what the next ad hominem is going to be.
Note how she said in a previous comment"I AM entitled to his money" instead of "he gives me money and I am very app because he doesn't have to give me his money" chick is a walking red flag and I bet she gets her man socks on his birthday. I blame her boyfriend more for enabling her toxic way of thinking though
*I am very appreciative
@sirderpsalot123 I swear women like her make me appreciate my girlfriend more and more. She is a perfect example of why so many men don't want to step in to the dating pool (again).
Same here, brother. I'll be honest, I enjoy spoiling my girlfriend, almost as much as she enjoys being spoiled but she has always remained grateful and humble. It's all about respect. Flat out saying you are entitled to everything someone has just because you've dating for a couple of years isn't respectful.
@sirderpsalot123 Trust me, if the roles were reversed, this girl would be bitching about her boyfriend being entitled to her shit. She may deny this, but I've seen enough narcissists to know they change their morality based on that which benefits them
@sirderpsalot123 Check out her update. The dude grabbed his balls and did the right thing for breaking up with that broad. She had it coming to her. Everyone warned her but chose to cherry pick the answers that would support her narcissim only to have it all backfire at her. Women like her get what they deserve. If I see that guy irl, I would definitely buy him a drink
Haha yeah man. I saw her update. We call that king shi. t
@Datboi65 and itâs an issue because my black boyfriend isnât a loser and likes taking care of me and supporting me and making sure Iâm good? If yâall get used then itâs your own fault. I know how to make my own money but my man and I take care of eachother.
@Pink2000 I don't care about your dude, I'm not talking to him right now. Lord knows he should've chosen better. You sister have some issues of your own. You are spoiled and entitled. The whole discussion was not about what your man was gonna do with the money, it is about what YOU think ANY MAN should do with the money, and you said they should share it. That's basically your words. You would look down on a guy in another relationship with another woman if he decides that he doesn't want to split his lottery money with her because she wasn't supportive, as you feel it's her God-given right to HIS money. They aren't married and they don't have shared assets. You are entitled. Like I said, this isn't about your man, this is about your mindset more than anything, and there are a lot of women in our community that think just like you. Good for that guy for breaking up with this chick, I don't blame him at all.
@Datboi65 Iâm a college student , double major in finance and African American studies and a minor in pre medicine. I have 2 businesses and working on 3rd. Iâm not spoiled and my man doesnât think so. He chose a wonderful girl (me) and I used my own man as a reference. Go on somewhere else with your pathetic lonely life. Have a good day.
@Pink2000 OH you're studying and have so many companies, yet you feel entitled to money not your own. Either you're full of shit or think your coochie is made out of gold for you to think you are entitled to money from someone who has not signed a written contract with you. As I've said before, people like you are the reason why so many people stray away from relationships. I don't blame them at all. Thanks for making me appreciate my girlfriend more.
@TruthBringer If Iâm cooking for you cleaning for you taking care of you like I should then damn right Iâm entitled. This is the man I plan to marry âŚ
You have the right AFTER marriage. You're cooking and cleaning for me, but I as a man am providing, protecting, being the leader, making damn sure you're satisfied in the bedroom, giving you love, help you within the house and raising your self-esteem. You make it sound like women are the only ones putting effort in a relationship. You're using weak arguments to justify an entitlement you have no right over.
@Pink2000 You're a business major? Good for you. I'm a Medical Student. Your 2 "businesses" don't yield that much clearly if you are asking your man to share his money with you. You call yourself "wonderful" but that's not something that you decide, other people make that assumption of whether or not you are. I find it hilarious why anyone who criticizes you is directly "lonely". I am happy exactly where I am ma'am, not with an entitled modern woman like yourself. I plan to save myself for marriage if that's what you're asking. Now that I got that out of the way, I hope for the sake of your guy that he wakes up and breaks up with you, just like her guy left her. Dude deserves better.
@Datboi65 Any person who tells you they are wonderful is obviously the complete opposite, so they are just trying to convince themselves.
@Datboi65 Also, for a person who is supposed to be running 3 businesses, she sure has a lot of time on her hands to be active on G@G, let alone be at the level she currently is. So she is either full of shit, her business not being anything special or she is one of those women who claim to be running a "business', but what they actually do is have something like an OnlyFans. Not saying it is her, but considering the amount of women out there who claim to be entrepreneurs via OnlyFans, it wouldn't strike me as a surprise.
@TruthBringer I personally wouldn't be surprised. Her attitude makes that a possibility. I don't like to brag about my academic accomplishments, but she wanted to grace us with the fact that she is a business major, which NOBODY ASKED FOR. Anyone can claim to have a business nowadays. You can literally become an Amazon partner and boom, that's a "business". The word "entrepreneur" has clearly lost its meaning in this age of degeneracy.
@Datboi65 itâs crazy because he isnât complaining. Yâall are the ones complaining and I bet yâall are single đ. Been together almost 5 years now. If I won money damn right Iâd give him half just like I know he would give me half without a problem. You all sound lonely and bitter. I get yâall are tired of being used but at this point yâall sound pathetic.
We are only talking about your relationship because YOU keep bringing it up. We didn't ask for any details about your personal life. It isn't relevant. What you and your boyfriend do is your business. All we're saying is that nobody should feel entitled to anything from anyone if they aren't married to that person. It doesn't mean that you're a bum if you let your boyfriend financially take care you. You just shouldn't feel entitled to it. The same way your boyfriend shouldn't feel entitled to you cooking/cleaning for him because you are under no obligation to act like his wife. You're wrong to decide the girls boyfriend is a "acting like a child" just because he didn't share his money with her. It's not your relationship and they didn't come to the same understanding that you and your boyfriend did.
@Pink2000 Lady. You came over here talking about your "businesses" and that your guy would split with you and whatever. I already told you that I don't give a damn about your guy in this scenario. The question is simple. Hypothetically, should a man who won the lottery give his unsupportive girlfriend any amount of his money? According to you he should. I called bs on that. Unless you're married, you're not entitled to someone's money. Marriage means you have a join bank account, and joint assets, so it would make sense because then legally you debt becomes his debt and vice versa. However, of you're not at that point, then it's only your problem. Also, why does being a single person automatically have to mean that you are lonely? I rather be single than deal with a narcissist like yourself. Like I said, I'm saving myself for marriage.
@sirderpsalot123 My thing with this isn't about him providing for her. I maintain that I believe in a dating scenario at some point they will have to make that adjustment where a guy pays and a woman cooks and cleans. However, a lottery is a different story. My point is that I wouldn't hesitate to provide out of my income, but my lottery money is MINE because the girl didn't think it was a good idea and wasn't supportive. Does that make sense? Also she talks about how he should pay her debt, when he wasn't the one who took the loans.
@Pink2000 Jokes on you, love. I'm in a relationship for many years now. With a woman who clearly isn't on the entitlement train as you are. The fact you felt the need to attack our relationship status is evident to the fact you're projecting your own bitterness onto us. No wonder you feel the need to bring up the fact you have a boyfriend, are "wonderful" and have 2 "businesses". Those are tactics a person who is desperate to prove something would engage in. We call it a defence mechanism. Keep coping, love.
@TruthBringer yâall are kinda retarded
@tiajoka y'all kInDa rEtArdEd. If you have nothing relevant to say, then be on your way
Honestly is he's money period and he's decision if he wants to share or not. Point is the your debt is yours alone not he's. He's right you where not supported enough. Now is to late.😒
Itâs his. He doesnât have to share it. Youâre not married and you didnât support him therefore you donât deserve it. Respectfully.
His reaction to the situation is reasonable you wasn't being a supportive girlfriend, now you expect him to share the money despite bringing him down. I logically don't see the issue here!
I would not date any man who play, drink and smoke and i dont care how much money you win. I watched a documentary about corruption in such games and so did you know that athletes get paid to play unfair? So it is more corrupted than you think.
It's your own fault for making fun of him for buying tickets. He invested, you didn't, he earned it, you didn't.
It is his money.
If a woman demonstrated the Socialistic/parasitic mentality that you have shown I would kick her to the kerb.
You're not married. It's his money. You don't have a right to any of it.
Facts
That update makes me laugh. Greedy cow gets nothing in the end, lucky guy avoids marrying a greedy cow, and dodges a seriously bad bullet. And best of all, she did it to herself.
He's being completely fair. You were extremely unsupportive and judgmental. Now that he won, you want him to share the money. I'm glad he's not giving you any.
He should divide what he has soent on the lottery to that point by half and add a fair interest rate if it was both your money buying the tickets. Or if he loves you he would just blindly let you spend it and you wouldn't be posting this
Satisfying story I have to say. Yeah you're being unreasonable.
My question is
Why do you think you should get some money?
Did you support your boyfriend?
Let this be lesson
I agree with your boyfriend
You don't deserve a penny
Be lucky he doesn't upgrade to another girlfriend
Check yourself before you wreck yourself
I think its fair. He won the lottery its his own winnings unless its your money he spent on playing that game you would get a share.
Nah, he's being fair.
You're his girlfriend, not wife. You're only due what he wants to give you.
If you didn't spend money on the ticket/card whatever it was, it's not your money.. you didn't spend money on it, so therefore, it's not your money
SORRY
I hope you don't get that money either
ITS NOT YOUR FUCKING MONEY. YOU DIDN"T FUCKING GAMBLE IT. IT IS NOT YOURS
He may be being a little selfish, but he doesn't owe you shit. Especially because you weren't supportive. You should have established before that if he wins he'd give you some percentage...
âPunishâ you? Really? If I was him Iâd be out the door
It is his money and his to do with as he pleases... If he wants to give it all away to the homeless guy on the corner can't he do that? It is his to do with as he pleases...
Just out of curiosity, what street corner are we talking about?đ¤đŠ
I will have to agree with your boyfriend. But make no mistake, this is the perfect time for you to leave him and find someone who will consider your good advice
Key word your his GIRLFRIEND your not entitled to anything of his. are you married to him no do you have kids by him probably not so why should he share any of it with you then?
Your boyfriend is right.
Do you love him or love his money.
If i was him or his mste. I would make you an ex
Even warn the police his life is endanger from you.
Stop over pricing your vagina
This made me laugh. You're not married so he owes you nothing.
Maybe he's just teasing you. But he doesn't have to share it with you.
I am disgusted at this question and many of the female responses here, including some women who have claimed elsewhere to be feminists. Truly disgusting.
The hypocrisy and entitlement of so many modern women is just insane.
I'm happy to hear he dumped you. Smart move.
Don't say anything about the money. It's his, not yours, and you have no right to any of it. If you care about HIM, and not his MONEY, then be contrite and try to be a good woman. Otherwise, leave the poor guy to find a good woman who isn't a gold digger.
I mean youâve been together 3 years and youâre not married? Then he doesnât want to share? Where is this relationship even going, whatâre you doing?
The relationship ain't gonna last. Op better leave the relationship lol
What's not being married got to do with it?
And it's only been 3 years, so what if they aren't married?
You are very disobedient
you should not backtalk your master
and if you live together he she manage
all the money
Master? This is not the 1700's
Sorry Master, I was super busy yesterday. I'll PM you later.
FYI, it's 2022, and his name is Master.
@youngmix I am so pleased with you right now, it's orgasmic.
If you won I bet youd share with him. Sadly a lot of people are self absorbed. He doesn't have to share it with you its too bad he doesn't see it as an investment to help you with your debt.
Enabling somebodies debt habbit, is not investing.
He should invest that money into realestate rentals or plot of land and 5x it in 20 years. That's investing
You can invest into people as well. Its not enabling it. Its looking out for the woman he loves unless he doesn't see her as forever but temporary.
I get it she wasn't supportive of it and at the end of the day its his money. But why rub it in her face?
The end of the day the money means more than her.
Investing into self or others is learning/teaching them. Not throwing money at their poor decisions, and doing the opposite of teaching. She isn't starving, she is doing fine, just feels entitled.
If she nagged him for years, you think she didn't nag him when he won to share? And we also only hear her side, which is already sugarcoated to make her look better.
How do you know her debt = poor decisions?
I know my debt was from someone who stole from me.. bank was a piece of shit didn't believe me so I left the bank won't ever return!
Its paid off now just have student loan debt. Which education isn't ever a waste!
Each to their own. If I won I would share with my man. I hope hed share with me but if he didn't that be fine cause of how well he treats me and how we communicate.
Money isn't everything but sadly this world revolves around it.
As it often is, most people use loans to buy shit they can't afford, yes even pointless degrees fall under that.
Money isn't everything, yet universaly none of you women date down? Stop the BS đ
And how is throwing your own đŠ at the love of your life to handle, when you are doing fine? Just selfish and entitled.
And her degree is shit if she can't even pay it off, and makes a huge drama over 7k
Thats why you dont get a loan without a budget... didn't go to university went to college its the same thing and mine is pretty much gone now.
I hate the term dating down!!! A person isn't determined valuable cause of their education, credit rating, looks. Why do people forget that. He didn't even finish high school past grade 10. he's extremely wise and he taught himself he also teaches me cool things.. like how to build a computer or light socket , how to change a tire... I enjoy those things... I want him to teach me how to use a powersaw I kinda wanna get into carpentry not go to school for it just make furniture on the side for fun. We made a sliding barn door together. Why put useless limits on love?
I dont understand the last paragraph.. I paid off the roommate that stole from me before I met him. I didn't throw any of my shit at him.
Anyone one who knows me knows im not selfish or entitled. So you can shove that up your ass!
Was talking about the question poster and most women here and there being very selfish and entitled.
Trust me, us men hate that term too.
But that is how women judge men, based certain height, make more than them, they handle making less for a short period of time when the guy is trying to make more.
If he can't or doesn't want to it's bye bye.
Tiny % of women are different. Although i do wonder how would you look at him if he didn't have anything to teach you, like most men have it with their women partners.
Women in general likes to make her problems our problems. Thus throwing their problems at their partner.
We have to educate ourselves cause I know I didn't learn many life skills in high school, college or from my parents at some point people have to learn for themselves and stop making excuses for why they dont know.
We are all born into dumbness đ, so it's pretty equal for men and women, the starting point.
Yes I agree most people are selfish why I tried to word mine kindly. But still say its his money and its okay if he doesn't want to invest it into her.. like she would for him... I assumed cause I learnt not everyone has the same heart as me so I guard my heart and I dont lend money anymore.. I give money away when I feel led too... not to organizations that I dont know if it ever gets to the person but to random strangers.. I dont give beggers money I give them gift cards to grocery stores or restaurants.. put today a gift bag with toliet trees (sp? Lol I think you know what I mean) if the person is just lazy than that could be a thing but I like giving directly to the source in a way I know it won't go towards a bad habbit.
Not everyone who begs I feel led to give to. I trust that inner voice.
Yes the height thing makes me angry just hearing through my mans eyes he told me this is the first time he has ever felt truly loved. I have dated short and tall men.. I wish more women realized height has nothing to do with a good man!
I've dated from 5 ft - 6 ft 5.. im 5ft.. 6ft 5 was the shortest relationship I ever had.. met him at work seemed nice first week of dating he wantd sex I am someone who honestly believes any man and woman can have sex but what about life ambitions and goals? He attempted to force himself on me I felt trapped so I just said okay let me undress you first pulled down his pants didn't even look at his package and ran to my car. Anyone who jumps into bed without really knowing them is a red flag he was definitely the hottest guy I dated looks wise.. he tried to apologize at work saying most girls think its hot but he thought I was hot... I said dude your attitude makes you the worst I have absolutely no interest in you at all anymore... please leave me alone lets go back to being strangers.. height has nothing to do with if a guy is a good guy or not. My man now is 5ft 4.. I couldnt ask for better.. when I was dating another short guy this tall guy tried to hit on me in a coffee shop about 7 years ago now... my man at the time and I would take turns paying for each others drinks.. this guy held the door for us.. I said since you held the door you can go ahead of us he said no im in no rush.. so its my turn to pay and this stranger comes up on my side and says shame on you to my ex letting a lady pay for you.. the cashier is laughing I said debt a few times and the stranger hands her the cash for both of us.. he said you need a real man and puts his arm around me.. I threw it off me and said thanks I have one.. grabbed Brentons hand and walked out.
Tall guys sometimes think they are more desirable I think before women mature or aren't babied they have those stupid expectations. We can't determine our height. I want to fall in love with the person inside the outter shell... the outter shell changed but if you find a genuinely good person thats all that matters.. as much as I like to say I dont have a type I do but im not shallow to only date my type when I thought it could work I tried it.
I used to think without an education youd be in a dead end job but my man makes almost $2 more than me an hour and I couldnt be more proud of him so many times we grow up with our parents opinions abd they become our own without investing things for ourselves. So those women who have thought they were above you for whatever reason.. aren't good enough for you.. think of it this way you dodged a bullet! Be confident in who you are abd what you have to offer and the right woman will love you entirely and essentially the rest of the women's opinions dont matter!
I believe I would cause most the men I dated didn't teach me anything thats what makes this one so unique.
You said women in general likes to make her problems our problems. Thus throwing their problems at their partner.
This is true. Personally why I think this happens because women have a hard time thinking logically when they are emotional. Men have a better ability with it. Also women feel safe sharing their problems with their man... men seem to think we want them to fix it but a lot of times all we want is an ear to vent to. To get it out so its not troubling us... what safer place is there than with your man? Also might have to do with her relationship before she was with you some men can be very controling and make her feel like her wants her choices aren't good enough hense why I think people are indecisive they are afraid of upsetting someones feelings. It may not be a pervious boyfriend but also a family dynamic that caused it.
Essentially none of us perfect.. a relationship takes work not just starting a relationship but making it last. Loving beyond the mistakes up front tell them your under no circumstances will I continue in this relationship if this happens fill in the blank... ours are unfaithfulness and abuse. A relationship is a two way street whats good for one should be good for the other. Also I find talking through flashbacks that happen make them feel less real even tho that threat is no longer here.
I guess I have come to realize the grass may look greener on the other side of the fence. Figure out why I think that.. what is it that I think is missing and speak to Matt about it. he's done the same with me. I wish this or that. Or it bug me when you do this or that... too much of the time we are too concerned with defending ourselves we dont put the effort in to change the behavior or its just a miscommunication.. when you focus on your own grass it will be the greenest on the block! Perfect love casts out all fear! Also so many times we take what happened to us previously into our new relationship.. the past is the past leave it there. there's a reason the windshield is so big and the rearview window is so small. I wish you all the best!
You don't have to look at porn to know that "assholes" come in all shapes and sizes.
Tall guys have bigger egos as most women prefer them, so they think they can get away with much more, and often can. Then again, short guys tend to have a complex and over compensate.
Yeah, education isn't everything, i started as a regular welder, now i'm pretty much retired.
Youtube has a pretty interesting channel called "its complicated" asks a lot of deep questions from men and women about dating and relationships.
I think most people would benefit from learning how the opposite gender thinks/acts
Haha so true!
Yes thats definitely a part of it I think another part of it might be their upbringing! My man was raised by a single mom as the oldest; he had to quit school to work to put food on the table. His sisters both finished plus have secondary education. To this day he still does all the upkeep to his moms house. I think the more the parents spoil the child the more entitled they act. We can be our own worst enemies.
Retired cause of covid? Could go into business for yourself!
Never heard of it. I really enjoy the youtube channel women of impact.. im not a feminist so dont even go there.. it covers really good topics! Ill check that out yes definitely wed be better off learning about the other gender but also each individual man/woman will handle things differently. Cause not all of us fit the status quo for example I have always hated shopping even long before covid.. much rather walk in nature with my dogs thats probably my favorite thing to do!
We all learn as we go... we never finish learning even sometimes we have to unlearn things that aren't beneficial to our growth example all men ever want is sex. Or a woman only loves a man with deep pockets sometimes they want to create division among us cause were not us strong if were divided.
I'm sure that this experience and the need grow up fast both helped him and also holds him back to enjoy his life more.
Nah, because i don't have to work anymore, i have plenty. I also have 2 running businesses, in making welding robots and other welding stuff.
Yes, apes together strongđ (i don't know if you got the reference)
Yes he has big dreams hense mentioning id pay for his GED cause I believe in him. His mom I love her I appreciate her a lot but she hold him back guilting him to take care of her being the only boy in the family. Not his fault she hasn't tried to find another man... putting fear into him about everything... I litterly had to ask him who is he dating me or his mom? She tries to help but sometimes keeping your nose in your own business is helping. We discuss things she over hears abd says Matt do you really want that? Things we have talked about for years but when push comes to pull his mom guilts him back to do what she wants of him. At the same time I have never met a man like him. That what he does is enough. I moved in during covid after the second wave so thankful for everything can never repay them enough. But ill be moving out shortly. I can't afford anything close to his work. Plus Id prefer country life. He understands that and we will go back to seeing each other on weekends cause I was in a better state mentally. Not having his mom say Matt doesn't like that but yet he asked me for it. I miss my own space not sharing everything with his mom and sister. His other sister lives 5 mins away.
Was a big adjustment for me to go from my own space to sharing everything to things I want being in the way! He knows im not happy and he agrees very supportive. They also used to smoke in the house it bothers me... now they smoke in the garage.. I smoke weed outside cause the smell bothers his mom so I wait 10 mins before I come in. Just miss my own space.. dont care if he just comes up weekends or if he gets a new job. I am satisfied with his love that having him immediately beside me 24/7 isn't needed. If he wants he can break up with me.. but as for me I know there's no one else for me. I was on my own for years before him id be fine again.
Thats amazing at 32! Wow! Im impressed!
Yes we are apes together strong! Honestly I googled it.
Yeah, his mom, needs to step up and send his kid free.
Needs to realize that she is wasting his best years and causing him more stress and hindering his romantic relationships.
It's a very common problem, it's called a son-husband.
Huh ill have to look into that didn't know it had a term thank you! I didn't realize it until I moved in.. he's worth it tho but at 36.. at this point I have started to wonder if he's just telling me what I want to hear. I am happy with him I love his mom more than my own his mom has been to me like what I wish my mom would be like.
Im thankful for everything but there comes a point I want my own space and he can choose where he wants to be. Sorry I ended up venting hah see its a female thing. I swear. Last thing I want to do is cause problems between him and his mom. Thats all ill say about it!
I am prefectly happy on my own but the right man does add value to your life! He does bit he's different around his mom. Shits gonna hit the fan when I move out. I can see it now so im gonna give her an extra months rent even tho I won't be here.
Some people just complain about everything thats bad never get up and fix it. I had seizure in 2020 was hard for me to take care of myself my landlord raised the rent. My dad abd Matt were helping me.. I was an hour away from Matt.. where I grew up.. things were going up abd down so dad said I had to move back in with them abd give my cats to Matt. I said no their cat doesn't get along with other cats. As I was praying about what to do. Matt asked me if the animals and I wanted to move in with him so thats what I did.
I have figured out how to manage things now better. They helped me get back on my feet. Gave me a wonderful environment to heal now its time this birdy flyes away hopefully her mate follows but I have no control over it. I have made peace with whatever happens. Time for a change.
He might need your help getting out of that situation, i'd suggest talking to him about what he wants in life and etc could lead the convo there.
Could maybe find a solution that works for everybody, decent men and women (partners) don't come by very often, so could be a good idea to fight a bit for it, even if uncomfortable, like living together etcđ
So true!
Gonna surprise him with supper made when he comes home today. I think I found something new wed both like. He has a hair appointment right after work so he's probably gonna be hungry when he comes home
"Sadly a lot of people are self absorbed" You're saying this while ironically standing up for the very woman who is self absorbed and thinks she is entitled to things she has no entitlement for. Just because he (in his very right) doesn't want to pay off HER debts, because she is NOT his wife and she was NOT supportive, in the first place, doesn't make him "self absorbed". It's funny how she doesn't support him in the lottery tickets, but then wants to benefit when things DID go right, despite never actually supporting him on it. That's called wanting your cake and eating it too.
Learn the difference between investing and giving away money to people who are not only not entitled to the money, but are probably going to leave eventually.