Boyfriend won some money in the lottery but won't share because I was "unsupportive." Is he being unfair or am I being unreasonable?

[Anonymous]

So, I Was always told growing up that playing the lottery is waste of money, so I've never played.

My boyfriend of 3 years who I live with now plays with a few of the guys at work once a week , they all chip in like $5 and buy a ticket, they've been at it for about a year and had some minor wins here and there.

I was always telling him it's a waste of money and even added up how much he had spent and told him what he could have bought with that money but he wouldn't listen.

So, about two weeks ago, they won a substantial amount, and each walked away with around $75000 after tax! I couldn't believe it, he actually had a big win!

However, once I asked him "so what are we going to do with the money?" and he said "We? There's no WE in this money, you always made fun of me for playing the lottery, so, yeah, you're not getting any" and this has really upset me, even 10% of that would clear up all my debts and I told him he was being selfish and punishing me for being realistic, but he's not budging.

Surely he's not being fair?

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+1 y

So I’ve talked to him and he’s investing $70,000 and is giving me $2000 and they’ve decided they will never get a win like this again so stopped playing lottery, I really would have liked more but thus will be enough to pay off my credit card so it’s a win I guess and he said he’s still really annoyed at my assumption that I would get some instead of waiting and now I wonder if he’d planned to give me more and I pissed him off

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+1 y

Okay, following some of the better advice in this thread, I’m going to talk to him and remind him we are partners, we should help and support each other, punishing me for not supporting gambling is childish, and as we live together it should be OUR money and that $2000 (which I haven’t gotten yet by the way) is really selfish on his part. Will update after.

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+1 y

I called him selfish, we had a big fight, he said he was investing for his future and I said he should have discussed it with me, he said it was his win to do with, as he pleased, I said when we marry it will be ours, he said he doesn’t know if he wants to marry me anymore, we argued extensively, he broke up with me and gave me a month to move out, won’t talk now even after calming down. That’s all I will say on the matter except he’s a selfish jerk and won’t even give me the $2000 now

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+1 y

So, he called yesterday and says he wants to meet up and talk and give me another chance.

What do I say?

What should I Say about the money?

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

There's nothing empirically or logically wrong with what he said, or what he does with the money. It IS his money, NOT yours, after all.

That said, I think the issue you're having here is that you was hoping for some emotional reassurance that you're both part of a "team". I think you'd actually be fine with not seeing any of that money yourself, if you felt some of this reassurance in the tone of his initial response. So while I basically agree with him when it comes to it being his earnings, I do think he could've conveyed this with a more reassuring manner, since it's clearly upset you enough to come here looking to us for that reassurance. But then, you did kinda broach the subject in a way that implied you had some automatic stake in his earnings, which is also kind of insensitive, since you were so admonishing of his lottery spendings right up until the precise moment you see them potentially benefiting you. Ideally you should've just been glad for him, asked him what he had in mind for "his" winnings, and not given any indication that you expected anything for yourself. That would've made him feel validated in his independence (nobody wants their autonomy to feel threatened), which would set his mind at ease, and since his mind would be at ease, HE might have actually approached YOU later on about spending part of the money together. But you jumped the gun by making that presumption on his behalf, which from his perspective violated his right to autonomy over his earnings. You denied him the opportunity to decide for himself whether to let you in on those earnings, and as such, probably made him feel a bit emasculated, and thus he became overly defensive, and reacted by snapping at you in such a way that led you to feel emotionally invalidated. It's a lose-lose scenario, when really you should both just be glad that one of you had a "win" today. Because if you came home a week from now with a "win" of your own, surely you'd want him to just celebrate with you, rather than jumping the gun and acting like he "owns" a stake in your win. I think you can both take this as a learning experience. You need to learn to let him come to his own decisions about how he profits from events you had no part in; and he needs to learn to be more reassuring and less defensive, even if his pride feels pricked in the moment because someone said the wrong thing.

[DWornock]

You are absolutely right. It is unwise to buy lottery tickets. Even if you collected 100% as a lump sum and didn't pay taxes, the payout percentage is too low. Far better odds Los Vagas is creating your own lottery. That is, bet $1 on a roulette number and let it ride 1 or more times. If you win twice before taking the money you win $1,295 if you let it ride again you win $46,655. That is an 85% payout which, considering the lum sum payment, the lottery payout is about 25% and only about 20% after taxes. That means for every $5 you win (on average) $1. In other words, a lottery is like trading your $5 for $1.

Regardless, if you inherited 100% from some relative, would you consider it your money and not "OUR" money? I believe there is zero change that you would share it. In effect, the situations are identical. It doesn't matter whether or not you encouraged him to buy lottery tickets. That is not relevant. Even if you supported his buying lottery tickets, if you didn't pay part of cost of the lottery tickets, it is all his money. It would be foolish to share it with you because, if you breakup, you wouldn't pay it back.

[DWornock]

Giving you $2,000 is stupid because that will not satisfy you since you would not be satisfied with anything less than half. Therefore, the relationship will not last.

In any event, he bought you with what he already had. Therefore, why pay more after the fact. The situation is identical to buying a car. If after agreeing on a price, you inherited or win a lot of money, why should you then agree to pay more than the agreed to price?

[malwins]

OP would u share it in the same situation

[Anonymous]

I mean...you're technically not wrong in your assumptions. Statistically, there are hundreds of thousands of people who never win more than a few dollars playing the lotto, and if you're already in poverty, you are basically wasting good money on a statistical crap shoot.

...that is, up until it is you actually win, which is what he did. His money, I'm sure he has some dreams he'd like to fulfill with that money, and I'm sure he will. You've admitted you didn't support his playing the lotto, but now want to reap the rewards, so he's also not wrong. It has always been up to you to pay off your own debts, so probably should hop to that. You've learned an important lesson that a lot of couples do, what supporting someone really means...doesn't just mean through the good times, it means through the lean and the bad times. There are a lot of people who have "insane" dreams, but make it happen and they want people around them that were there for them from the jump, not who jump on the bandwagon at the end.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

Ah money, you rear your ugly head again and cause relationship issues.

Iunno, not gonna lie, I'm kinda with him on this one. If he was earning his own income and paying off his other bills then what he does with his extra money is his. You weren't being supportive and while overall you are right about the lottery, in this case you just happened to be wrong.

Be happy for him and his success, but you accumulated that debt on your own, so it really is your responsibility. Hopefully you won't let this fortuitous event cause a rift between you two.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I'm sorry but you said 10% of that would clear up "your" debt, yours not yours and his. Why do you think you're entitled to his lottery winnings? Is he entitled to a percentage of your earnings? You're not married, so what's his is his and what's yours is yours... While it would be nice if he "wanted"to help you, he's not obligated to..

[Desconhecida]

Uhn... you guys are not married, he won the cash fair and square using his own money and without your support. The question here shouldn't even be why you think you are entitled to his money but if the fact he got it changed you somehow. I mean, you say he could pay your debts but have you ever paid anything for him? Did you help him pay the ticket?
You are going to ruin your relationship if you keep claiming his money.

[cookiecrusher]

Even if married, should remain the same, especially if she was against it at first and he used his own money.

[Desconhecida]

Yeah, but if they were married she could at least have some chance to claim half. That's why we should always have prenups! Lol

[cookiecrusher]

Chance and such yeah, legally. But why?
I would be super happy for my wife if she won something. I wouldn't accept a cent from her.
Like the love of my life gets to finally buy what she has dreamed of for so long, or invest or burn it whatever.

[Desconhecida]

@cookiecrusher I agree with you 100%

[OlderAndWiser]

You are not married and he is not obligated to give you anything. I, also, do not play the lottery, as I think it is a waste of time. But having taken that position, I understand him not wanting to share.

If you want all the benefits of being married, find a husband.

[JasM0]

I agree with the respondent. You’re not his wife or common-law/civil partner. With that being said, I think you should ask his intentions of marriage now that finances are an issue.

Best of luck!

[JasM0]

*aren’t an issue

[DaveJord]

Wow, base upon the update he must really love here. I would send $2,000 easily on doing something together with my girl friend... like taking a trip or something... maybe by her some cloths or something... but I would never straight give a girlfriend $2000.00.

But I guess once you put it into perspective the guy is keeping $70,000 to himself, which is just under 3% of the total winnings. So he has placed a 3% monetary value on her, and she seems pretty happy with that. I think high class escorts' make 2 to 3 grand a night. So she's probably worth it.

[OlderAndWiser]

@DaveJord I'm not sure that he is valuing her in monetary terms. He may just be throwing her a bone to keep her happy and to avoid criticism about being selfish. Frankly, if a girlfriend reacted to me in this way, I ould be re-evaluating whether I wanted to keep her as my girlfriend.

[DaveJord]

@OlderAndWiser Once again my friend we are in total agreement.

[OlderAndWiser]

@DaveJord Check out the latest update from Asker. She kept haranguing him about the money and he told her that he was tired of her nonsense and is giving her a month to vacate the premises. She made a statement about her priorities and he responded with a statement about what he thnks of her behavior.

SO predictable! SO utterly predictable!

[OlderAndWiser]

If he ants to give you another chance (stpid decision by him,) then he probably wants to give you a chance to show that you are not all about the money. He will soon learn otherwise.

[MzAsh]

You shouldn’t have mocked him. But his attitude is pretty childish, regardless. This is a perfect opportunity to study how he is as a person. Stand back and observe. The money won’t last long at all. And neither will this relationship.

[malwins]

yeah. sure she is not entitled to the money but if he was a good boyfriend hed help her out

[cookiecrusher]

Heck he probably will, then again why should he? Maybe he has better plans with the money, investing etc.

Maybe she should be a better girlfriend and not throw her problems on his shoulders.

This looks like a perfecr opportunity to study how she is as a person. So far she is the one who was nagging him before he won and now after. And i'm sure she sugarcoated it a little too.

[MzAsh]

For most, the lottery IS a waste of money. She wasn’t wrong on that note.

[cookiecrusher]

Not really. Such low 5-30 dollars are a very cheap form of therapy for guys.

Most buy it for a dream, for an escape, that maybe, very unlikely, but maybe.

And it was his money to waste. Such as you women have your own makeup, hair, clothes and whatnot stuff. You could live without them too, and they cost way more in time and money 😗

[malwins]

how come all the women agree with me and the guys dont

[cookiecrusher]

Because guys don't pick women for money/support etc 😗

[MzAsh]

Playing the lottery is irrational, based on economic math. It’s one thing to buy a ticket here and there, but it’s another if it’s a part of your every day spending. It can get addicting. If you’re buying into a dream or an escape without actually working towards earning that yourself (like building your own business), I’d say that’s a red flag on their mentality and rational thinking. This isn’t a healthy form of “therapy.”

[cookiecrusher]

Nobody said it was rational financially or even healthy therapy. Most guys wouldn't go to an actual theraphist.

It one of our things, as men are expected to bring in the bacon. Even rich dudes play it, business owners, doing business on the side. Buy a ticket every now and then.

A ticket a month over 20 years is less than a thousand, it's not a big deal for us, for that maybe.

People who buy a lot have issues and need help for sure, or count on it to drive their life forward

[MzAsh]

Indeed. Honestly, if I were this lady, I wouldn’t have said anything to him unless it became more of a habit. In relationships, you have to pick your battles and from what I’ve been through, I wouldn’t consider this a priority at this level.

[cookiecrusher]

Yes, i was actually suprised how many women were saying to dump him quick.

Instead of working on their relationships. Then people wonder why they don't last.😒

[MzAsh]

Yeah I wouldn’t consider it a deal breaker at this point, at least not in terms of this isolated issue. That reminds me, I once had a dream that my guy quit his job to dedicate all his time to gambling. In the dream, I got so furious and started packing my bags and told him I was heading out because “I’m not going to be with some casino scumbag!” Lol so I woke up and told him about the dream. He said, “Ha you know I’m not that stupid, but if I did do that you should leave me.” Yeah, that would be a deal breaker lol

[cookiecrusher]

Women aren't usually very caring with their male partners so can understand where it comes from. A guy needs to stay at a certain level or move up.

Guys like to fix things, we have no problem taking broke women and fixing their finances, skills, habbits etc etc.

We date down while most of you women don't. It's pretty evolutionary so can really blame either.

Just can say guys would stay with a woman longer, a woman with gambling issue, trying to fix her.

[Datboi65]

@malwins No shit. If she was a good girlfriend, she would've been more supportive. Can't wait at the finish line without taking part in the process.

[Shamalien]

You women are insane. She’s not his wife. Why on earth would he give her his money? Why would she feel entitled to his money? What the hell is going on in her and your head?

[MzAsh]

He’s not obligated to give her anything. But a generous man is better than a stingy one.

[Shamalien]

So because he’s not giving her free money, he’s childish and immature and the relationship won’t last long?

[MzAsh]

No, that’s not what I said.

[MzAsh]

To the asker in response to your update, you’ll never know if he ever intended to give you more or not. Say nothing more to him. I think he’s decided to be kind to give you any at all. Take it with gratitude, and next time learn how to pick your battles.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I am late to party lol , but your reply suprised me

[MzAsh]

Oh yeah?

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Hmm really it was weird coming from you

[Paris13]

What a Cheap ass!!! He is being Selfish and even if You Cared to Share, He would NOT give you a Penny!!! Let him Rot with his Money, honey!!! xxoo

[Paris13]

@Daniela1982 She has a tight wad. What woman would Care to Go NONPINK? He will ONLY give her a Few Bucks when He feels Like it. xx

[cookiecrusher]

Gold digger alert🤣,

I'm joking, just sound like a lazy and entitled brat. Men really are just walking wallets to you?

Can't you just be happy that the person you love gets to buy whatever they dreamed of for so long, especially after nagging him for years about it?

Most likely it will trickle down to you anyway. When he feels like spoiling you, because while everybody was after the money, you actually had his best interest at heart.

[Daniela1982]

What happened to my comment?

[cookiecrusher]

I'm guessing the question asker/paris/or admin deleted it

[Daniela1982]

@cookiecrusher I don't know why, I wasn't saying anything different than what other people are saying.

[DaveJord]

Well, he's not your husband honestly. I was married for 24 year and my ex was totally unsupportive about a lot of things. She hassled me about my finical decisions and many other things. Constantly being called stupid, dumb or lazy... told I was wasting my time.

I wish I cut her off way sooner... divorce time came and you bet she was all about the 6 properties and 600,000 in the in the investment accounts... we started with nothing but a $26,000 a year income and no savings. And she never pulled her weight, when all she had to do was be supportive and give some sense of gratitude and appreciation and safe all the criticisms.

Since we were married she got her fair share in the end, but it was no where what she thought she would get... your just a girl friend and you think you can hassle your boyfriend about what he does with his money?

Yeah your relationship is not going in the right direction, and I will assume it will not end well if you can be more supportive or leave his ass and find someone you don't feel you will have to criticize or hassle.

But yeah you don't deserve anything more than you give.

[DaveJord]

Reply to update be ready to lose your boyfriend, brace for impact and break up.
😆 🤣 😂

[Jamie05rhs]

@DaveJord IKR? Sheesh. She's so dumb.

[Jamie05rhs]

@DaveJord

[Lov2PlezUgurl]

That's really hard for me to believe that you've got a relationship with someone for 3 years and he won some money and he won't give you enough money to get you out of debt now if you then owe any money to any body that would be different I mean he should still give you money but you wouldn't need it that bad as it is you need that money that he can help you out with and he will not let you have it or even let you borrow it sounds to me like... That's so damn selfish and childish he's probably going to blow every penny of it and I have nothing to show for it and all you was trying to do was get him to save his money if he doesn't help you out with your bills I know you've been together with 3 years but you will have to weigh the pros and cons in this relationship I really don't have enough information to tell you to leave him break up with him over a few hundred dollars and I wouldn't tell you that anyways depends on how your relationship is going to what decision you're going to have to make I mean I wouldn't want to be with someone that is that selfish and childish and uncaring because to me that shows that he does not love you that's just my opinion someone that loves you will help you out no matter what someone that loves you unconditionally and that is what relationship love is supposed to be I think if it were me I would talk to him show him how hurt you are and don't raise your voice to him just tell him I can't believe that you're not going to help me out all I was trying to do was to get you to save your money and not waste it you have a better chance of an airplane falling out the sky on top of your head then you do to win the lottery so chances where he was never going to win the lottery but it seems like the airplane fell on him and he won the lottery if he doesn't share with you and help you out he doesn't love you and you'll just have to go from there

[Itsok2behapp-e]

He's being fair so deal with it.

He earns money. His earnt money is his.
You earn money. Your earnt money is yours.
However, as a woman you have this entitled mindset of his money is also your money. No it's not. It's his.

Whether you got your debts before you met him or not is irrelevant. They're your debts. Not his.

Just because he's your boyfriend he's not entitled to pay your debts for you.

Ask yourself, could you survive on your own? Earn your way in the world? Pay off your own debts all by yourself?

You want to live a life you can't achieve yourself. Hence, having a boyfriend and that entitled mindset above makes you delusional into thinking you can.

So what if it's 75K? It's just a number. What have you done to earn it? Nothing.

Work hard. Earn your own money. Take responsibility of your own debts and your own finances rather than expecting others to do it for you.

You've said it yourself you're unsupportive. Why on earth does he still keep you around?

If that money is so important to you, consider what you need to do differently moving forward to be supportive of him?

If he's your boyfriend only you know if he loves you or not, right? If he does, as a man he'll give it his all. You must understand that you too are part of this relationship and have to give your all too. If not, don't expect anything and everything from him.

No doubt he loves you and he has your heart. Are you truly in it, in love with him and you have his heart? Or does the small matter of 75K change all that?

Would you give up him up, break his heart, if it meant you could have all 75K to yourself?

With a lottery, there's a saying "You've got to be in it to win it."
You don't realise it now, but you're already a winner. Don't lose him. Be in it. 100%.

No amount of money will ever compensate if you walk away and lose what you already have.

[Anonymous]

As someone who plays the lottery weekly let me say I see both sides of this. I drop 12 bucks a week 6 on the PowerBall, 2 on the lotto America, and 4 on the mega millions. I know my odds of winning are astronomical so why do I do it? Because 1. It's just 12 dollars. 12 dollars a week is not going to make or break me. Also I'm buying 1 ticket for each drawing that's 7 drawings a week. Buying more tickets really won't increase your odds. But 1 ticket does give you a shot no matter how astronomical. And sometimes those odds hit. Just ask the dinosaurs.
But on top of this let's say I never win a jackpot. You CAN still win lesser prizes. I have hit a 10k winner. That was a nice payday.
And that brings me to my last point and probably the biggest reason I do it. I do it because I'm buying a dream for a day. I buy that lottery ticket and when I go home after work. There's thought in my mind that if this baby hits I'll never have to work again! And to me that dream is worth burning 1 or 2 dollars.
Now let me also say I fund my retirement plan fully with a maximum contribution before I buy a lottery ticket. There's an old Jeff Foxworth joke that people have retirement plans while rednecks play the lottery. Well do both. But I know my odds of ever winning a jackpot. So I hedge my bets by maximizing my retirement first.

Honestly I'd have to know you and your boyfriends money history to know whether to back him or you On this. There is nothing wrong with RESPONSIBLE gambling.

[Opinion Owner]

What lesson did you learn then?

[Opinion Owner]

:::: sigh::::: and you were doing so well in your last update. Then you got greedy! You're right, you should have supported your partner before. If your premise was you were right before then you're still right. right? Then why would you want any of that money? It's I'll gotten right? Or do your morals change when he wins? 🤣

[shaysh87]

The fact that you're "upset" about this shows your lack of immaturity.

You're not his family, girl. You're not his wife. You both have separate bank accounts. HIs money is not your money. Any income he makes is HIS income. Any income you make is YOUR income. There is no "WE", even if you are desperately thirsty for some money. Your debt is not his debt.

He even never proposed to you at all. What would give you the impression that he should share his money with you?

And a guy with an attitude like that towards you is also unlikely to propose to you. It doesn't sound like a relationship like that would last.

[youngmix]

It wasn't your money in the first place, you're not entitled to his money just because you have a romantic relationship. Just take whatever he gives you, like in any other situation.
Also, if what he says is true, and you tried to discourage him in his endeavor, then you definitely should not expect a penny. I'm not saying that you were incorrect in your assumption that his wining was highly improbable, but you were unlucky enough to wager against his winning with your words.

It would have cost you nothing to stay out of his business, and hold your tongue when it came to someone else's money. But apparently, not minding your business just cost you some free money or mutual enjoyment. Hopefully you have learned a lesson.

[youngmix]

You just doubled down on his property being yours... He's going to leave you, and you deserve it.

[TruthBringer]

Lo and behold, he ended up leaving her as he should (check out her latest update)

[origami_cranes]

I hate to tell you this, but this is a situation that really leaves you both in the wrong.

It was wrong for you to assume he'd want to share a prize he won without you (it was a guys thing, wasn't it?) You are in no way entitled to a cent of that money. It isn't yours.

However, it shows his character that he doesn't care enough about you to WANT to help clear up your debt. You're his girlfriend, right? He loves you?

It's one of those shitty proprietary things where it's be NICE if he shared, but he is in no way obligated to. It would just make him a kinder person. But not a bad person it he doesn't.

Sorry, babe. I agree it's a waste. Because the catch is, he will keep playing, and over the years, of gambling MORE in high hopes of winning again, he'll lose that $75,000 penny by penny. It is a mind game, and he took the bait. He should stop while he's ahead. Forever.

[cookiecrusher]

Clearing up low monthly rate loan with a big part of your investment portfolio is a pretty dumb idea. Will lose millions over 20-30 years.

And judging how easily people change their partners these days, nobody should pay off their partners loans.

Better invest it, and retire early with your partner and your kids.

F her entitled instant gratification feelings😅

[TruthBringer]

It shows his character that he doesn't care enough? Excuse me? Do tell us, what kind of assurance is he going to have for paying off HER debt? So he ends up paying her debt and then over a year they say "bye bye" to each other? She is not his wife. Just because he doesn't want to pay off HER debt, which he most likely didn't partake in, he actuallly would be WISE to not give her a cent. Unless he had a play in her accumilated debt that is.

Her debt is her problem. That money he could invest in things that will benefit him (and potentially her) in the long term. Like buying a house or whatever.

[TruthBringer]

@cookiecrusher "And judging how easily people change their partners these days, nobody should pay off their partners loans. "

EXACTLY MY POINT. These people here demonize the guy for not seeing the benefits in a (potentially) unstable relationship. I would NEVER pay off my girlfriend's debts unless she actually becomes my wife. And even then SHE has to work the hardest in paying off any debts that SHE accumilated. Just as I would not burden her with my debt. Jesus Christ, seeing so many entitled broads demonizing this guy, it goes to show why so many men stay the f away from relationships.

[Junior__]

Appalling behavior on his behalf. So his itty bitty feelings got hurt. So fucking what? Do you think the girlfriends I've had haven't made light of some of my hobbies from time to time? That's life. I didn't act like a fucking five year old and hold grudges. Real men don't do that. Real men share their hearts, minds, and money with the women they claim to love. He didn't even earn the money. He didn't sweat for it. He didn't put in long hours for it. He bought a fucking lottery ticket and happened to get lucky.
You should dump him and his fucking money. Find yourself a young man that isn't so selfish and who has a backbone.

[AviatorTom]

You've told him over and over that playing the lottery is a waste of money, which means that you have no interest in the lottery. He won the money... without you. You are the one being unfair, thinking that you have some kind of say about what he does with the money that he won.

Unless you have a written agreement that his lottery winnings would be shared with you, back off. He can do whatever he wants with his winnings.

You have no right to believe he's being unfair. In fact, he may have been thinking of using some of the money for the two of you, and now that you're being greedy, thinking that you have a say in how the money is used, that might no longer be on his mind.

[FunkyMonkee]

If my girlfriend won a bunch of money inn the lottery or anywhere else, I would never expect her to share it with me! If she really loves me, she will, of her own volition, anyway. ever since I heard of them, I wanted a set of Simmons drums and, one day, I found a used set for sale. I never asked her for the money, I just mentioned something about them being for sale and she GAVE me the money to buy them! I would've eventually bought a set on my own at some point so, it was REALLY nice of her to buy these for me!!

[FunkyMonkee]

Yeah it's a good possibility you pissed him off and got less than you would've. Unlike my ex-fiance, I would never let money come between me and my love interest! But, she let her greed get the best of her!

[FunkyMonkee]

I agree with him. It's HIS money and, if you get married, THEN it COULD belong to both of you. As with my ex-if she had money, that was HER money, NOT mine and I would NEVER ask her for any of it or assume that, just because she's got it, she should give half to me! If she WANTED to spend any of on me or give a large sum of it to me, that was up to HER! If not, ooh well!! That's her choice and I'm CERTAINLY NOT gonna erect a wall between us over it!!

[FunkyMonkee]

@nangt6635 Can I have just 1,000,000? Hell, just half a mil should sate me. My ex-sisters already stole my parent's house from me and there's a good chance I'm gonna lose this one, too, if I can't buy it back from the bank!

[FunkyMonkee]

@nangt6635 Can I have at least $250,000?

[Lionman95]

I don´t know why he´s unfair sorry. It´s his money (as long as you guys have seperated bank accounts) so it´s his choice what he does with the money. I don´t see how you could make him give you money because you haven´t taken part in the game with him.
So it´s his decision what he makes with it.
Maybe you shouldn´t have started the conversation with "so what are WE going to do with the money" because that way you show him that you take for granted that he´s going to share it with you and that you feel entitled to getting anything from him because that clearly made him so angry that he wasn´t willing to give you any money.
If you´ve started to ask "what are YOU going to do with it?", it would have been more decent and he might have been more willing to help you out.

[BCRanger10]

Was it fair of you to make fun of him and tell him he was wasting time and money? It's one thing if you were to tell him every other week or month, or if he didn't have other guys pitching in or if he was in borderline poverty. But if you were "always telling him", that's another story.

And while small amounts like that add up over time, ultimately, $5 per week, the use of which is a matter of prudence, isn't all that much money. This should especially be considered even if they'd had "smaller wins" in the past.

Also, the fact that you are not married adds another layer to this. Legally speaking, he doesn't have to do anything.

You might not think it's fair or reasonable. I disagree.

[BCRanger10]

@update That was kind of him. And yes, you should not have assumed anything. Based on what you'd said in the original post, I don't think he was planning to give you anything.

Take the win, apologize (if you haven't already), and learn your lesson.

[BCRanger10]

@next update No! DON'T tell him he's being childish and selfish! He's not. He's not being petty. You have no claim to anything and insulting him now as you did then is just going to make things worse. Living together does NOT equal a legal marriage contract.

You ought to be grateful that he offered what he did in the first place, which he did not have to.

[Diodoro]

If we're being honest you're going to benefit from the money through dates, gifts, dinners and so on. You'll benefit indirectly so I'm not sure what the major complaint is here.

But as far as him straight up giving you money? Na. That ship sailed by you making fun of him. Had you supported him and sharing in that dream with him this would be a different story.

Consider it a lesson and let it go? Brcause really you don't have a right to that money in any sense and most people in general wouldn't want to share money with someone who looked down on them for doing what they did only to look for a handout later on.

Just be happy your man got a win like a good girlfriend who loves her man would be doing right now.

[Diodoro]

You probably did piss him off. You've really been a shitty partner in all of this

[Diodoro]

Because even now. He's investing 70k. Something that will benefit both of you longterm and you're still focused on how he didn't give you more cash outright. Wtf girl lol

[Diodoro]

Gonna damage his trust in you as a partner, but okay

[Diodoro]

Now you're going to complain about him to the next guy who will fake agree with you to have sex but never take you seriously.

Or

You grow from this and learn

[admles]

"If you're absent during my struggle, don't expect to be present during my success."

You didn't support and mocked him, but now that it's reaped rewards, you want a share? You're a joke.

Also, debt repayment is at minimum fiance-level privileges, if not wife level. Not for girlfriends.

You're literally expecting him to give you $7500 to pay off your debts? Wow, the entitlement. I'm amazed people here actually support you, he's done nothing wrong, has received a nice windfall and you're first thought is to decide it belongs to both of you? Grow up.

[admles]

You know, I'd be willing to bet he would initially have been happy to have shared this with you, but your entitled assumption straight up that you would get some put him off.

Try apologising to him for your attitude and lack of support, maybe he'll help you.

[TruthBringer]

Read her update. He gave her 2k and she still isn't appreciative. I would have dumped her ass a long time ago

[admles]

@TruthBringer yep it’s about $1999 more than she deserves

[admles]

oooh *gets popcorn* I'm curious to see how badly you mess this next bit up!

[TruthBringer]

@admles Leave some popcorn for me as well. I love how she just gaslit 95% of the users here into "supporting" gambling. Would love to see how hard she falls on her face as well. Although the guy she is with does sound like a complete moron given the fact he decided to grant her a dime, let alone 2k that she had no right of. He is basically enabling her narcissism & misplaced entitlement

[Jamie05rhs]

@TruthBringer You might change your opinion when you see the update. Lol

[Jamie05rhs]

@admles How does that popcorn taste? Lol. I'm having some myself as we speak. 😆

[admles]

@Jamie05rhs it’s pretty tasty 🤣 this girl is the reason why so many guys want a prenup. I’m convinced this thread was her way of getting people to support her notion that she deserves half this money.

[Jamie05rhs]

@admles IKR? And yet she completely ignored the voices of reason giving her advice to help save her ass.
Oh well. Can't say we didn't try.

[admles]

@Jamie05rhs and she’s complaining her now-ex isn’t giving her $2000? 😂🤣

[TruthBringer]

@Jamie05rhs Oh how glad I am to be proven the opposite! Glad he actually grabbed his balls and did the right thing by dumping her ass. @admles I normally do not drink bu I would definitely open a beer and say cheers to the lad for breaking up with her 😂🍺

[Jamie05rhs]

@TruthBringer Yep!

@admles Ikr? Lol. So entertaining.

[admles]

@Jamie05rhs I can't believe people actually support her and think he is in the wrong. He's literally planning long term by investing that money, making it worth much, much more in the long run, but all she cares about is her short-term gain.

[Jamie05rhs]

Welp, doesn't matter now. It's over for her.

[Jamie05rhs]

He definitely made the right call investing in HIMSELF.

[TruthBringer]

@admles Not only surprising (honestly I don't find it surprising at all) that so many women support her in her narcissitic mindset, but as you can see, it clearly backfired at her because she chose to ignore all the rational comments telling her the money isn't her's, but she chose to stick to the comments who reinforce her pathetic entitlement. Well look where it got her now LMFAO

[admles]

Regarding your update, you're an idiot. An absolute moron.

He broke up with you over your selfish, entitled attitude, is prepared to give you a chance, and yet you want to bring up the exact reason you were dumped in the first place?

[libsaretards]

I do not like some of the names being directed towards women, but I agree with the main point of other posts. Your boyfriend won the money. You nagged him against playing the lottery then decided you are entitled to the money he won. Yes, maybe he could be generous, but that is his choice. You two need to have a long talk about where your relationship is going and what your expectations for the future are. If you cannot agree, then separate. Other than the lottery, are there any other financial disagreements?