I would prefer to keep my family name cause I don’t want my enemies to know who I’m married to because they might stalk my future husband. Also I know people who changed their name after marriage and when they changed it back to their maiden name, everyone immediately knew they were divorced and they became the victim of gossip and slanderous remarks and criticism.
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Sadly most people that don’t take their partner’s last name end up divorced cuz it’s a one sided decision , It shows that girl only really cares about herself and is very selfish , she should feel honored to take her husbands name and shouldn’t be a big deal, unless he has an embarrassing last name then I can see her not taking that lol but if she makes it a big deal out of it she is more than likely just using the guy for her selfishness and she truly doesn’t love him , and it’s disrespectful , Just like people that have tattoos of their exes name on their bodies. , and won’t get it removed when they start a new relationship, people that can’t let go of their past are selfish people , your partner should be your future , so by taking your husbands last name shouldn’t be an issue , you should be proud to be a family and considered as one
Not at all. I would prefer that she does not. I think that's an old misogynistic convention dating to the time when women were first the chattel of their father, then their husband.
This is a good question. I couldn't wait to change my name. When I married my husband, he kept asking if I really thought it was necessary. The country he is from doesn't have that tradition. Wives keep their maiden name and only clarify when necessary that they are "of" (their husband's name).
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Nope not at all... changing your name is huge pain in the ass.
Nope. She can keep her last name... it is hers, after all.
My ex-wife took my last name, and kept it after our divorce, until she remarried and took his last name. Interestingly, her email address has my last name in it.No not at all.
The only issue could be if you had kids together, but there are so many second or more marriages today it really wouldn't be too bad, not sure about buying a house, but you would have proof of marriage as well.- u
Not particularly.
Going through the hassle of changing all of their records has got to be a pain in the ass, and my last name sucks, anyway. 🤷♂️ - u
nope... because my last name is not even mine, I did not pick it, I didn't choose it... it was stamped on me without being asked... lol
and... it's just a name at the end of the day I’m fine with it. It would be a problem if she wanted the children to only have her surname. I appreciate the Latin approach of the child having both surnames with the maternal proceeding the fraternal. It honors both lineages.
CheersNope, I wouldn't take someone elses last name.. unless it's prettier than mine but I doubt it
Ya i wouldn’t really be happy , because it would make me feel like she wants to hide something. like maybe she really doesn’t want to get married or she’s just using me? If i’m getting married and it’s a problem to use my last name, i’d think she ain’t the one for me. just my opinion
If I were to ever agree to get married, then yes, absolutely. Why would you not want the same name as your son (s) and/or daughter (s)? I assume that is why you would want to get married in the first place: to start a family, yes?
Where I live it cost a lot to change a lot of money to change it about $700 dollars so " No" I wouldn't
Not really if my partner didn’t want to it wouldn’t bother me but my partner wanted to change her last name before we are actually committed then I was like you Anabel Lee are now Anabel Tweed when we’re not actually committed yet ok
Yes. That is the only benefit the man gets in marriage is to have the family have his name. No other benefits for the guy at all.
Id settle with a dash. I wouldn’t care which name cane first before the dash
I do not know about offended but certainly disappointed because I would want a son named after me or a daughter named after my wife meaning with my last name.
I wouldn't be offended but I'd want to know why though.
I would be offended. A marriage is a partnership and one way to solidify it, is by sharing one name. It's a family.
I could care less. I would not want her to keep exes last name either.
I would actually be a bit hurt. If want to marry me think I'm good enough to be your husband then why wouldn't you like to take my last name.
No, because she’ll cease being my “partner”. She can find a ‘modern’ man elsewhere.
Yes and no. If she is willing to pay half for everything then she can keep her last name to herself
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