Because very few treat a relationship like best friends with romantic benefits, but instead tend to not communicate, take out their insecurities on others, instead of working out issues, they tend to ignore them, they don't know how to be ok with what they have, don't plan things out properly, have many issues they stubbornly don't want to acknowledge, build their relationship on sex instead of compatibility, jump into marriage too quickly, have unrealistic expectations, think that what is optional in a relationship is mandatory, and/or one of them turns into a super toxic person.
Because love and relationships have been tailored twords survival with another person rather than growing as two people you also have things like the media's influence, stereotypes and the fact that people filter out what they do not like about a person with the assumption they would never work, which in turn filters out the dating pool a great deal. Or on the flip side, only seeing the good in someone and a few years later realizing they have settled for someone they did not even know. Although there are a lot of other factors for divorce you cannot put focus on just one, however I am still young and this is just my opinion based on observation.
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Because people are too impulsive the smallest issue in their couple is said to be "toxic" and instead of fighting for their coupe they just divorce. I doubt people are becoming more toxic than before cause in hundred of centuries people have always had the same personality.
Actually, there is research that says divorces have been going down. BUT divorce is still extremely common. Probably because unlike the old days, it is not frowned upon so much to get a divorce. Also, marraige can be hard for people. ALSO, things like social media make it much easier for people to have affairs and cheat.
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Its not like that in here but if its about western world then id say a few things/reasons
1. Women getting half or almost half of money of men if they divorve (in most cases) which makes it easy for a lot of women to see their life in good/normal/not bad condition without their current husband for which the patience does not remain as it couldve in the marriage
2. Usage of alchohol is involved too no matter how one tries to deny but that ruins a lot of marriages n relations... for men in most cases
3. A lot men not being able to give em kids (cuz of low sperm count) or give em sexual satisfaction like having premature ejaculation problem and erectile dysfunction problem for years... also id add lack of emotional presence
I do know the answer to this. It is because people should be using the dating process to find the person they want to spend their lives with. Instead though all I hear and read is this one jumping into bed with that one and so on. Don't get me wrong, I'm not against sexual relationships, but unless you get to know someone properly and all it is is sex, then you'll probably miss out on the right person and end up settling.
Not sure about other countries but the divorce rate is dropping, admittedly so are marriages (mainly as a lot of people don’t see point of a piece of paper).
I have to add only 22 words that is —This only happens in the US—
We know why let’s not pretend we don’t know America is the country of freedom but it seems like 99% of populations are using Freedom with their ass rather then their Brain. Americans are tired work work work day and night working like vending machines plus a county without moral ethics and culture. Ofc the end will be high divorces and what not.. not surprised.
A big part of it is people spending more time at home with their partner. It's causing people who rushed into a marriage or relationship to realize who they are with a hell of a lot quicker. Also the divorce rate always jumps in times of crisis no matter how big or small the crisis is. So in a way the pandemic is a double whammy.
Because people rush into relationships Because people get married too young Because people change as they get older, and the spouse might not like those changes Because people look at their intended with rose colored glasses ... I could go on.
I think it’s partially due to how accessible porn is which causes decreased sperm count (harder to conceive) and less emotion during intimacy. I think the other reason is because women have more rights now so they don’t have to rely on a man for their income and protection anymore.
Because nobody is talking about the elephant in the room - TRUTH - two modern, educated, independent individual minds can’t coexist with equal rights and opportunities. People be out there marrying expecting traditional marriages to operate with modern rules, women expecting to be independent, dependent and more equal, it’s like forcing water & oil to mix up.
Lol. Women and men should have equal rights. The only reason divorce wasn’t that high back then is because women couldn’t get jobs so they couldn’t leave their ABUSIVE husbands. Lol.
Then am damn right baby, with absence of some means presence of some vis-à-vis, modern men and women should have business- modern crafted marriages characterized by renewable contracts. No, bride prize, no special treatment, equal rights, equal shared responsibilities with no special gender preference on a terminated contract.
Its a lot of work and a lot of people don't want to put in the work to make it work anymore. Once they start to go in different directions it's over and no one wants to sit down and talk or communicate, which is about talking and listening and caring. They would rather end it. there's also a lot of cheating too as so many more opportunities with social media. If people are unhappy, they look for new opportunities instead of fixing what they already have.
People have lost the ability to communicate effectively, and women have gained independence. The latter means they can survive on their own and leave abusive, as well as less than satisfactory relationships, without worrying about whether or not they can support themselves.
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Because there was a time when divorce was considered unthinkable. Now today in this instant gratification-disposable world we live in it's just so easy to quit and make all kinds of excuses of why it couldn't work anymore. Honestly I think some people enter into marriage with the idea that " if they turn out to be not quite what I expected I can always just divorce". And if the thought isn't being with that person FOREVER then you have no business in talking marriage plain and simple.
There's multiple reasons many users already discussed but many missed that "No fault" divorce laws were passed under the Reagan administration. Since then, there is a giant industry of divorce lawyers and now a large portion of kids do not grow up in a two parent household. Nearly 4/5 divorces are initiated by women and that's no surprise when women suffer few consequences from divorce but have everything to gain (especially financially, particularly alimony payments).
1. People aren't willing to compromise, work, and meet each other halfway. 2. People think the initial rush of a new lover/sex lasts forever. 3. Too many options. I made a fake tinder with my girlfriend's pictures and said looking for casual. She had 100 matches within 4 hours. That would be like if I was car shopping and could pick from 100 free rentals.
Divorce rates and infidelity rates would be high in all generations, it's just not as stigmatized as it used to be.
The question you should ask is, why do monogamous relationships fail so frequently? It's because monogamy is NOT NATURAL for us as primate mammalian species. Read the book "SEX AT DAWN" by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan.
Because the whole world today have changed to the worst, a lot of people have lost their morals, values and faith in god and do not actually know what a real sacred marriage is, also the waves of feminism have abolished something called real love and a real family and the most important a REAL LADY!
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Because very few treat a relationship like best friends with romantic benefits, but instead tend to not communicate, take out their insecurities on others, instead of working out issues, they tend to ignore them, they don't know how to be ok with what they have, don't plan things out properly, have many issues they stubbornly don't want to acknowledge, build their relationship on sex instead of compatibility, jump into marriage too quickly, have unrealistic expectations, think that what is optional in a relationship is mandatory, and/or one of them turns into a super toxic person.
Because love and relationships have been tailored twords survival with another person rather than growing as two people you also have things like the media's influence, stereotypes and the fact that people filter out what they do not like about a person with the assumption they would never work, which in turn filters out the dating pool a great deal. Or on the flip side, only seeing the good in someone and a few years later realizing they have settled for someone they did not even know. Although there are a lot of other factors for divorce you cannot put focus on just one, however I am still young and this is just my opinion based on observation.
Because people are too impulsive the smallest issue in their couple is said to be "toxic" and instead of fighting for their coupe they just divorce. I doubt people are becoming more toxic than before cause in hundred of centuries people have always had the same personality.
Actually, there is research that says divorces have been going down. BUT divorce is still extremely common. Probably because unlike the old days, it is not frowned upon so much to get a divorce. Also, marraige can be hard for people. ALSO, things like social media make it much easier for people to have affairs and cheat.
Its not like that in here but if its about western world then id say a few things/reasons
1. Women getting half or almost half of money of men if they divorve (in most cases) which makes it easy for a lot of women to see their life in good/normal/not bad condition without their current husband for which the patience does not remain as it couldve in the marriage
2. Usage of alchohol is involved too no matter how one tries to deny but that ruins a lot of marriages n relations... for men in most cases
3. A lot men not being able to give em kids (cuz of low sperm count) or give em sexual satisfaction like having premature ejaculation problem and erectile dysfunction problem for years... also id add lack of emotional presence
For the last one it is usually the mens fault for watching porn so much as a teen, It ruins relationships and is very harmful to reproductive health
Yes i agree to this totally
Because people are selfish and don't know what real love is, and because they don't take seriously any vows much less a vow to God Almighty.
You can't have real love when you're motivated by lust. Lust is selfish. Love is selfless. They are polar opposites to one another.
I do know the answer to this. It is because people should be using the dating process to find the person they want to spend their lives with. Instead though all I hear and read is this one jumping into bed with that one and so on.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not against sexual relationships, but unless you get to know someone properly and all it is is sex, then you'll probably miss out on the right person and end up settling.
I agree, sex used to be just between married people because of the bond it creates.
Not sure about other countries but the divorce rate is dropping, admittedly so are marriages (mainly as a lot of people don’t see point of a piece of paper).
https://www.nimblefins.co.uk/divorce-statistics-uk
I have to add only 22 words that is
—This only happens in the US—
We know why let’s not pretend we don’t know
America is the country of freedom but it seems like 99% of populations are using Freedom with their ass rather then their Brain. Americans are tired work work work day and night working like vending machines plus a county without moral ethics and culture.
Ofc the end will be high divorces and what not.. not surprised.
A big part of it is people spending more time at home with their partner. It's causing people who rushed into a marriage or relationship to realize who they are with a hell of a lot quicker. Also the divorce rate always jumps in times of crisis no matter how big or small the crisis is. So in a way the pandemic is a double whammy.
Because people rush into relationships
Because people get married too young
Because people change as they get older, and the spouse might not like those changes
Because people look at their intended with rose colored glasses
... I could go on.
I think it’s partially due to how accessible porn is which causes decreased sperm count (harder to conceive) and less emotion during intimacy. I think the other reason is because women have more rights now so they don’t have to rely on a man for their income and protection anymore.
And women are less happy now which is funny
@Frauensindobjekte we are because men won't stop wanking off to girls they know they can't get.
Because nobody is talking about the elephant in the room - TRUTH - two modern, educated, independent individual minds can’t coexist with equal rights and opportunities. People be out there marrying expecting traditional marriages to operate with modern rules, women expecting to be independent, dependent and more equal, it’s like forcing water & oil to mix up.
Lol. Women and men should have equal rights. The only reason divorce wasn’t that high back then is because women couldn’t get jobs so they couldn’t leave their ABUSIVE husbands. Lol.
Then am damn right baby, with absence of some means presence of some vis-à-vis, modern men and women should have business- modern crafted marriages characterized by renewable contracts. No, bride prize, no special treatment, equal rights, equal shared responsibilities with no special gender preference on a terminated contract.
Its a lot of work and a lot of people don't want to put in the work to make it work anymore. Once they start to go in different directions it's over and no one wants to sit down and talk or communicate, which is about talking and listening and caring. They would rather end it. there's also a lot of cheating too as so many more opportunities with social media. If people are unhappy, they look for new opportunities instead of fixing what they already have.
People have lost the ability to communicate effectively, and women have gained independence. The latter means they can survive on their own and leave abusive, as well as less than satisfactory relationships, without worrying about whether or not they can support themselves.
Because there was a time when divorce was considered unthinkable. Now today in this instant gratification-disposable world we live in it's just so easy to quit and make all kinds of excuses of why it couldn't work anymore. Honestly I think some people enter into marriage with the idea that " if they turn out to be not quite what I expected I can always just divorce". And if the thought isn't being with that person FOREVER then you have no business in talking marriage plain and simple.
There's multiple reasons many users already discussed but many missed that "No fault" divorce laws were passed under the Reagan administration. Since then, there is a giant industry of divorce lawyers and now a large portion of kids do not grow up in a two parent household. Nearly 4/5 divorces are initiated by women and that's no surprise when women suffer few consequences from divorce but have everything to gain (especially financially, particularly alimony payments).
@front2back Wow!! It WAS Reagan! When he was governor of California.
1. People aren't willing to compromise, work, and meet each other halfway.
2. People think the initial rush of a new lover/sex lasts forever.
3. Too many options. I made a fake tinder with my girlfriend's pictures and said looking for casual. She had 100 matches within 4 hours. That would be like if I was car shopping and could pick from 100 free rentals.
Divorce rates and infidelity rates would be high in all generations, it's just not as stigmatized as it used to be.
The question you should ask is, why do monogamous relationships fail so frequently? It's because monogamy is NOT NATURAL for us as primate mammalian species. Read the book "SEX AT DAWN" by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan.
Because the whole world today have changed to the worst, a lot of people have lost their morals, values and faith in god and do not actually know what a real sacred marriage is, also the waves of feminism have abolished something called real love and a real family and the most important a REAL LADY!