Why do we live in a society that blames a person who cheats in their relation, but doesn't get on the partner who caused the other to cheat?

[TickleMe4ForFun]

If a guy is caught cheating with another girl, that means his girlfriend wasn't providing him with something... so he looked elsewhere for it. Why is this seen as worse than the girlfriend not fulfilling the needs of her man? If the girlfriend was sufficient in taking care of her man, he wouldn't need to be satisfied by someone else.

(Can swap the genders in the above post, and still would hold true.)

[KatieB713]

Has anyone on this site heard of communication?
If you are unhappy, you could say and discuss it? Then either work together to make things better and if it is beyond help then really you shouldn't be together (so break up and spread your seed, rather than breaking someone's trust)

[DizzyDesii]

Actions speak louder than words. So im coming for the bastard who acted on it first and foremost. Then im turning to the partner to ask if they did something that led up to it

[TickleMe4ForFun]

But why would you first get after the one who cheated, instead of starting with "Why did you push them to the point of needing to cheat?"

[DizzyDesii]

The cheater will always be worse. They lacked self control.

[NamerOfStars]

Because your romantic partner is a PARTNER, not a controller; you're responsible for your actions, no one else.

[Realbanger87]

Because leaving such a relationship is an option, so there's no reason to cheat

[jahaims]

Because you can't make someone cheat. It's a choice that only trash humans make.

[In_Trance]

You're 100% correct. People that believe otherwise are idiots. I'm not justifying the act of cheating, but both people are responsible

[sarcasticluz]

If that SO isn’t giving you what you want leave them don’t cheat that is just trash rather go through a heartbreak then being cheated on

[TickleMe4ForFun]

But if they are filling 75% of what you need, then keep them for that... and just seek the other 25% from elsewhere. Why end the relationship? If they truly care about you, they will understand they are not satisfying you... so they won't mind you filling in that other 25% that they have failed.

[sarcasticluz]

I agree with you, even then most still don’t see that 75% finding that 25% a lot more better till they realize it’s not way to late :[