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Is showing off your money a bad idea in a relationship? Should I hide that I have money?
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(36-45) 
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If showing off your money secures your relationship then move on very quickly. Too many people these days like to show off, all that does is make the other person feel inferior. If honest I have a lot more that 95% of people my age and when in a relationship I like to get to know the person first before spending what most normal people wouldn't spend on gift or holidays. If your partner is only with you for money you may swell stay single move to Thailand, that way you know what you're getting without the commitment and expectations. I know a lot will disagree but I have been faced with the situation of the other person being jealous, envious etc all because I had more than them. When in a relationship to many people these days want what's theirs there's until they find out the other person has more. I now look at relationships and money in a different way. It's as simple as what I had before meeting you stays mine and what they had before stays theirs. I don't expect them to join me in my world and I don't expect to join them in theirs. You make your own world, build a happy future that way what you build together is yours as a couple, no more, no less. You will find the money issues more within mixed relationships mainly when western people date Asian women. I understand it to a point but your together to inherence each others lives not bleed the other dry. The old excuse of its culture is total rubbish. If you're not prepare to make changes to how you lived your life before then don't date someone from a different culture or someone with different beliefs to your own. All relationships are two way streets. If its good for one its good for both. This goes for everyone.
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The answer to the question differs on whether a man or woman is asking it (presuming a heterosexual relationship). A relationship is traditionally an exchange between the male's resource commitment and a females sexual-reproductive exclusivity commitment. So a man should show off that he has wealth, however, how to extract the maximum female commitment using that wealth or perception of it is completely up to him, and his skills, experience, culture, etc.
Women on the other hand are not required to expend resources on a man, and thus if they do have it, it is irrelevant factor in determining her sexual mean value (SMV) on the sexual-relationship marketplace. In order to not attract the wrong type of man (free loader) she should not disclose that she has liquid wealth.
Man or woman: If you lead with your possessions best believe that’s all that person will want out of you. Showing money off in general is such a tacky trait to have. Wealthy individuals don’t have to announce to the world that their wealthy in the way the conduct themselves, dress or talk.
Personally, I’d you’re a show off you’re a red flag. I look for substance in people then again. Which is rare and probably explains the decay of our society at the moment.
It definitely wouldn't be one of the first things I bring up to a potential date. Once things get serious enough for you to trust the person, things may be different, but unfortunately money is something that can attract a lot of people who don't want to associate with you for the right reasons (including friends and acquaintances, not just romantic partners).
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4.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic. She already knows or she would not be up on you so much. Simply do your thing your way, within your personality’s comfort zone, and don’t worry about. Don’t worry about what they think/say.-hopefully they will have an obvious opinion.-It pays off in long run.
-Let me gift 🎁 you as it’s from my ❤️ …I’m not flashy and that has not worked for some that I have known. It’s a personality thing…while some of her friends say “Wow, lucky sweetheart” others say that’s nice but really why not just make it a show kind of thing…
Don't lie because you like him…. cause then you will “ have changed from the person I know.-That will eventually blow-up.4.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic. You don’t have to hide the fact that you have money. There’s nothing wrong with having money and being successful or doing well finically.
But don’t flaunt it and be a show off going look how much money I have.
I can’t speak for other people but I really hate that and find that not only really unattractive but also really annoying among other things.
so you don’t have to hide it just be humble about it and wait until that person has earned your trust first so you don’t get used by a gold digger.5.6K opinions shared on Relationships topic. What do you want from the relationship? Are you going it becomes permanent? If so, then at some point you will need to disclose your financial situation. In the beginning of the relationship it's reasonable to keep that private as you don't want someone chasing you because you have money.
Only when the relationship gets very serious and you completely trust your partner. I wouldn't show off or brag about it lol, just share what your money situation is in your life. Also it's pretty obvious anyways when someone has lots of money. I've dated mostly poor women and that really shows lol.
You shouldn't advertise the fact you have money. It's not a horrible thing to demonstrate your money in other ways like wearing nice clothes, but if you make a point of flexing your money to me; all you're telling me is that you haven't arrived yet.
Bragging about money is a massive turn off.- 631 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Showing off your money to impress your date is a huge turnoff for the right woman. She won't be impressed and will think you're shallow and that you don't think highly of her. If you're looking to impress a gold digger or bimbo, then by all means, flaunt everything you have!
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Your call ultimately. But it depends how you want the relationship ton progress. Do you want a person to be with you for money or love. Etc. If you go on a few dates and then become official. Then it's perfectly fine especially if yoi decide to live together.
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Any showing off is a bad idea.
using it because you have it and it’s just cash, is not showing off.
it’s about not making a big deal of it.
There is a line between showing off n ‘flashing the cash’ to simply just paying the bill quietly without fuss.
Usually it’s about paying the bill before it gets to the table.
For me I often get stereotyped with my accent and they assume I am skint. -
Showing off shows arrogance which is a turn off. Also if he's not that into you it makes it more likely for him to use you. I'm really well off and although I've had some girls notice. The few that weren't really about me faked interest to try to get spoiled
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If you have money I’d keep it to yourself. Everyone gets used in this life. Male and female. Don’t think it’s just the girls who do this, I’ve seen plenty of guys do this too. A little word beginning with “L” gets a lot of people confused with the other person’s intentions.
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I think that depends on if you want a partner who loves you for who you are, then keeping your money out of the equation would be a good idea. If you're looking for a gold digger who will do as you wish, in return for showering her with money, then go for it.
1.6K opinions shared on Relationships topic. I'd stay low key and not flaunt it. Showing off is like bragging. Plus, it could put you in danger of being robbed or taken advantage of. But I wouldn't lie to cover it up if the subject came up and I was asked by someone with whom I was already in a committed relationship, because lying and concealing destroys trust.
I don’t understand the question. Are you hiding it because you think he will judge you/ see u differently, he will take advantage of you, or because he might steal from you? I don’t think you should hide it either way but if it’s a lot of money… maybe wait to tell them your rich to see if they are interested in you as a person rather than your money.
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It's dangerous in Detroit, Michigan. It also invites human sponges. You don't want someone taking an interest in your money instead of you.
- Anonymous(45 Plus)
A poor man's wad? You know, mostly ones with the big bills on the outside, so it looks like more?
Hide it. No one wants to see nothing, lol.
I suppose it'd be nice to know you're wanted for you, rather than your money, or have you never seen one of those romance flicks where one is rich and the other isn't? Doesn't the rich one always want to know if it's them, or their money?
Drawing from that information, extrapolate. Depends really. Some people might only date you for money, so maybe keep it under wraps to start. But don't feel you should pretend to be broke...
And in relationships, it isn't a bad thing, I love spoiling my partner sometimes-
To get past the dating stage without 'showing you have money' must show you he isn't interested in it.
777 opinions shared on Relationships topic. It is a weird thing to announce at the start of a relationship, just because it says you're the sort of person who likes to show off their money.
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Hmm. I'm going to go with yes. I think it's a bad idea for men, and it's probably also a bad idea for women as well.
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I guess it would depend on the type of person you are dating and whether you trust them or not. I would want my relationship to be open and honest, but understandably some people like to keep this sort of thing private.
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