Is showing off your money a bad idea in a relationship? Should I hide that I have money?

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stevef73 · Accepted Answer

If showing off your money secures your relationship then move on very quickly. Too many people these days like to show off, all that does is make the other person feel inferior. If honest I have a lot more that 95% of people my age and when in a relationship I like to get to know the person first before spending what most normal people wouldn't spend on gift or holidays. If your partner is only with you for money you may swell stay single move to Thailand, that way you know what you're getting without the commitment and expectations. I know a lot will disagree but I have been faced with the situation of the other person being jealous, envious etc all because I had more than them. When in a relationship to many people these days want what's theirs there's until they find out the other person has more. I now look at relationships and money in a different way. It's as simple as what I had before meeting you stays mine and what they had before stays theirs. I don't expect them to join me in my world and I don't expect to join them in theirs. You make your own world, build a happy future that way what you build together is yours as a couple, no more, no less. You will find the money issues more within mixed relationships mainly when western people date Asian women. I understand it to a point but your together to inherence each others lives not bleed the other dry. The old excuse of its culture is total rubbish. If you're not prepare to make changes to how you lived your life before then don't date someone from a different culture or someone with different beliefs to your own. All relationships are two way streets. If its good for one its good for both. This goes for everyone.

Kaamraj · Accepted Answer

The answer to the question differs on whether a man or woman is asking it (presuming a heterosexual relationship). A relationship is traditionally an exchange between the male's resource commitment and a females sexual-reproductive exclusivity commitment. So a man should show off that he has wealth, however, how to extract the maximum female commitment using that wealth or perception of it is completely up to him, and his skills, experience, culture, etc.

Women on the other hand are not required to expend resources on a man, and thus if they do have it, it is irrelevant factor in determining her sexual mean value (SMV) on the sexual-relationship marketplace. In order to not attract the wrong type of man (free loader) she should not disclose that she has liquid wealth.

Gorge95 · Accepted Answer

Man or woman: If you lead with your possessions best believe that’s all that person will want out of you. Showing money off in general is such a tacky trait to have. Wealthy individuals don’t have to announce to the world that their wealthy in the way the conduct themselves, dress or talk.

Personally, I’d you’re a show off you’re a red flag. I look for substance in people then again. Which is rare and probably explains the decay of our society at the moment.

aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

It definitely wouldn't be one of the first things I bring up to a potential date. Once things get serious enough for you to trust the person, things may be different, but unfortunately money is something that can attract a lot of people who don't want to associate with you for the right reasons (including friends and acquaintances, not just romantic partners).

Guy13 · Answer

She already knows or she would not be up on you so much. Simply do your thing your way, within your personality’s comfort zone, and don’t worry about. Don’t worry about what they think/say.-hopefully they will have an obvious opinion.-It pays off in long run.
-Let me gift 🎁 you as it’s from my ❤️ …I’m not flashy and that has not worked for some that I have known. It’s a personality thing…while some of her friends say “Wow, lucky sweetheart” others say that’s nice but really why not just make it a show kind of thing…
Don't lie because you like him…. cause then you will “ have changed from the person I know.-That will eventually blow-up.

Phoenix98 · Answer

You don’t have to hide the fact that you have money. There’s nothing wrong with having money and being successful or doing well finically.

But don’t flaunt it and be a show off going look how much money I have.

I can’t speak for other people but I really hate that and find that not only really unattractive but also really annoying among other things.

so you don’t have to hide it just be humble about it and wait until that person has earned your trust first so you don’t get used by a gold digger.

Hairylegs222 · Answer

Only when the relationship gets very serious and you completely trust your partner. I wouldn't show off or brag about it lol, just share what your money situation is in your life. Also it's pretty obvious anyways when someone has lots of money. I've dated mostly poor women and that really shows lol.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

You shouldn't advertise the fact you have money. It's not a horrible thing to demonstrate your money in other ways like wearing nice clothes, but if you make a point of flexing your money to me; all you're telling me is that you haven't arrived yet.

Bragging about money is a massive turn off.

slatyb · Answer

What do you want from the relationship? Are you going it becomes permanent? If so, then at some point you will need to disclose your financial situation. In the beginning of the relationship it's reasonable to keep that private as you don't want someone chasing you because you have money.

TrueConfection · Answer

Showing off your money to impress your date is a huge turnoff for the right woman. She won't be impressed and will think you're shallow and that you don't think highly of her. If you're looking to impress a gold digger or bimbo, then by all means, flaunt everything you have!

TazzyRazzy13 · Answer

Your call ultimately. But it depends how you want the relationship ton progress. Do you want a person to be with you for money or love. Etc. If you go on a few dates and then become official. Then it's perfectly fine especially if yoi decide to live together.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Any showing off is a bad idea.

using it because you have it and it’s just cash, is not showing off.

it’s about not making a big deal of it.

There is a line between showing off n ‘flashing the cash’ to simply just paying the bill quietly without fuss.

Usually it’s about paying the bill before it gets to the table.

For me I often get stereotyped with my accent and they assume I am skint.

Achilles8827 · Answer

Showing off shows arrogance which is a turn off. Also if he's not that into you it makes it more likely for him to use you. I'm really well off and although I've had some girls notice. The few that weren't really about me faked interest to try to get spoiled

England4eva · Answer

If you have money I’d keep it to yourself. Everyone gets used in this life. Male and female. Don’t think it’s just the girls who do this, I’ve seen plenty of guys do this too. A little word beginning with “L” gets a lot of people confused with the other person’s intentions.

KarinMcDonald · Answer

I think that depends on if you want a partner who loves you for who you are, then keeping your money out of the equation would be a good idea. If you're looking for a gold digger who will do as you wish, in return for showering her with money, then go for it.

Lliam · Answer

I'd stay low key and not flaunt it. Showing off is like bragging. Plus, it could put you in danger of being robbed or taken advantage of. But I wouldn't lie to cover it up if the subject came up and I was asked by someone with whom I was already in a committed relationship, because lying and concealing destroys trust.

designer1 · Answer

I don’t understand the question. Are you hiding it because you think he will judge you/ see u differently, he will take advantage of you, or because he might steal from you? I don’t think you should hide it either way but if it’s a lot of money… maybe wait to tell them your rich to see if they are interested in you as a person rather than your money.

Citizenkirk · Answer

It's dangerous in Detroit, Michigan. It also invites human sponges. You don't want someone taking an interest in your money instead of you.

Anonymous · Answer

A poor man's wad? You know, mostly ones with the big bills on the outside, so it looks like more?

Hide it. No one wants to see nothing, lol.

I suppose it'd be nice to know you're wanted for you, rather than your money, or have you never seen one of those romance flicks where one is rich and the other isn't? Doesn't the rich one always want to know if it's them, or their money?

Drawing from that information, extrapolate.

KatieB713 · Answer

Depends really. Some people might only date you for money, so maybe keep it under wraps to start. But don't feel you should pretend to be broke...
And in relationships, it isn't a bad thing, I love spoiling my partner sometimes

Harleigh90 · Answer

To get past the dating stage without 'showing you have money' must show you he isn't interested in it.

normalice · Answer

It is a weird thing to announce at the start of a relationship, just because it says you're the sort of person who likes to show off their money.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Hmm. I'm going to go with yes. I think it's a bad idea for men, and it's probably also a bad idea for women as well.

Lauren-green · Answer

I guess it would depend on the type of person you are dating and whether you trust them or not. I would want my relationship to be open and honest, but understandably some people like to keep this sort of thing private.

Hürrem · Answer

Yes it is a bad idea to show off. And yes it is better to keep it private to yourself. You do not want him to be tempted of taking advantage of you nor play with his ego (especially if you have more money than him).

RasmusAiken · Answer

Don't reveal that you have money until you trust your partner enough to have them fully manage it. (Not that you would ever do that, but that's the degree of trust I would need)

Tiptoetamm · Answer

You don't necessarily need to hide it just say no to buying things make it equal unless your comfortable paying. I pay for half the dates when I'm seeing someone men should be spoiled to

spartan55 · Answer

What good could possibly come out of revealing your finances?

exitseven · Answer

It is a bad idea on many different levels. You won;t be sure if you are just being used for your money and maybe she tells people about how loaded you are and you end up getting ripped off.

fonduegirl · Answer

Depends on the source of money. Is it like legacy that your rich parents left you? Or is it because you're outstanding in your career? If it's the latter, I guess showing off makes sense (as would being careful).

Alyssa_11 · Answer

I think it is. I’m never going to be transparent about how much I make or what I own until I’m actually married and trust my partner.

supercutebutt · Answer

Yes it is bad. Instead of hiding it, you should probably donate all of your money to the cutebutt foundation in an effort to save your relationship.

Apulu_3 · Answer

Don't say about it unless he asked because hiding is bad as well as showing will be considered arrogance. Don't show at all if he isn't into you much.

sunflower00 · Answer

Don’t hide it, because relationships shouldn’t be built on secrets, but don’t brag about it/show it off

Brutus977 · Answer

Showing off cash in a picture is just about the most jogger thing one can do. Oh wow $227 with all of the ones. That's my electric bill chimp!

jshm2 · Answer

Depends how much.  But if you're not husband and wife, then it's best not to let them get ideas.

HighValue · Answer

Showing that you have a video game console or that you can cook a good meal is usually much more impressive to guys than your money.

DaveJord · Answer

Nope you should not hide it, just be careful on how you spend it and use it with any guy.

Dmony45 · Answer

Yes showing off your money is a bad thing because what if you were dating someone that could start scamming u for my money

sp33d · Answer

I have money, too. It would be obvious, wouldn't it? The car doesn't run on hopes and dreams. Food doesn't magically appear in the fridge. No extra "showing off" is necessary.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Hiding from him the fact that you have money is dishonest. Flaunting your money in front of him is patronising and disrespectful. In the best relationships the money is a minor issue.

Anonymous · Answer

If relatives are habitual of asking loan but seldom pay back, there is no alternative but to refuse if you experience it repeatedly. It's my personal experience.

Jay3344 · Answer

Great question, I have the same issue. I usually hide it from everyone and would only tell someone after years of ever. Not sure if it’s a good idea but it’s not the worst play.

red324 · Answer

I don't know. I personally don't care how much money she has as long as she has a job. I think hiding whether you have money or not is more something the guy should do.

sheikalana · Answer

is not very elegant to show off anything. keep some mystery especially when it comes to money.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't like when men show off, it's uncomfortable. Just be normal. If I like you, I like you, not about the money.

Anonymous · Answer

It's less that you need to hide it, and more that you don't want to be seen as I pay check, superficial and superior.

Nazgol · Answer

No, some people don't care. It doesn't matter to them. It depends on the person, really. I don't see what's the big deal, unless you turn it into something negative..

anton_dee · Answer

Money is a game changer and also an opinion changer. If she not into you, she will force it for your money (not all mind you). But then sooner or later she gonna drift away.

Anonymous · Answer

Showing off and hiding money are both bad. There's a reasonable amount we can share and a reasonable amount that's off limits but not kept a secret.

annabananna · Answer

It’s kinda tacky to talk about money rap in the beginning of a relationship.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

hiding anything instead of being honest is a bad idea in relationships.

SmokyOne · Answer

I wouldn't hide it but I wouldn't be showing it off either.

Twalli · Answer

It can help you find real love rather than someone who wants your money.

Crankor · Answer

Its not a good idea. It for one can give who your with the wrong impression aside from the obvious risk of that person talking advantage it

larry69 · Answer

Men need to share their assets.  Women should hide theirs. If men can't spend money on women then they should not date.

Quidthonian · Answer

Hide your money if you want true love.  Show your money if you want fake love and want to be used.

888theGreat · Answer

I try not to have much cash since it loses value everyday

will34 · Answer

Are you talking about dating? Honestly people shouldn’t be showing off there money to anyone actually

michael1469 · Answer

I would rather know you have it and vice versa... otherwise people date and move in to save money for the purpose of self preservation and not real feelings.

Recurrence · Answer

I personally would find it a turn off if the person I was seeing was Flaunty with their money

McKellar · Answer

Just to gain some clarity here, why would you show off your money in the first place?

Joshua0213 · Answer

You shouldn't shoe it off or hide it in my opinion. Just live like you usually would. He would find out eventually anyway

driven159 · Answer

when someone shows off money means they don't have much money people with money real money don't flaunt it

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