Does money really matter in a relationship?

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Tiffany_Taylor_Made · Accepted Answer

Yes, money is extremely important in relationships. Adults have responsibilities in life that cost money and whenever two adults form a relationship, especially when they start a family, they must be financially stable enough to cover their expenses. Such expenses mainly involve bills, food budget, clothes, child needs, and entertainment funds. If couples struggle to cover their essential life expenses, then they would financially struggle together. In addition, if a person in the relationship earns much less money than the other person, that person becomes more likely to be a moocher in the relationship and force the other person to work harder to cover their expenses, even though he or she is capable of working.

Being with someone that you have to take care of like a child, that mooches off you, and forces you to work harder only threatens the health of the relationship. Some people might say that money doesn't matter in relationships and that love is much more important. However, people that make such statements are often young and/or have little relationship experience. Mind you, I'm not arguing that money is the only thing that should matter in relationships. While I strongly agree that love is extremely important in relationships, money doesn't matter too much only when you're still living with your parents and barely supporting yourself financially. Such a situation is more common with younger people in their teens and early 20s. When you reach an age where you're expected to provide for yourself and your family, the more money you make, the better.

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

Yes absolutely. You have to pay your bills somehow, and I’m sure as shit not paying their bills.

Dragonpurple · Accepted Answer

When I was younger and first married, I used to think it didn't... that if all we had was love we'd be fine.

Turns out I was wrong, if you want stability and not having to move every few months for not being able to pay rent, have bill collectors hunting you down... then yeah it matters.

Of course one could always choose to be homeless.

It matters to ensure stability in the relationship, it also matters for trust. If one partner spends like crazy into debt... then that will put stress and issues.

Here is a ironic funny side story on it.

This couple decided they would have 100 dollars a month to do whatever they wanted with. The girl spent all her money each month, the guy saved all his up until he had thousands of dollars and then decided he was going to have a vacation to Hawaii.

Despite it being fair and equal his wife thought it was pretty unfair that she couldn't go.

Obviously money matters in certain situations, in this case it caused a lot of hard feelings... because in he end he shared the money he saved up by sacrificing with her so she could go. Had he left her she would have been hurt and upset but taking her meant he was hurt and upset.

skeetskeetskeet · Accepted Answer

Sure you can be broke and in love... but thats no fun... personally I like money... getting paid is one of my favorite things to do

OlderAndWiser · Answer

if you don' have enough money to pay for your basic expenses. that stress will take a heavy toll on many relationships. If you are able to pay your monthly expenses without worry, then additional money will not bring you happiness in your relationship.

PeacefulRainDrop · Answer

Yes the world revolves around money sadly.. now what someone makes an hour or salary is none of my business I know my own thats it.. my man and I have been together over a year he knows how much im making now noda thing my EI ran out and disability hasn't kicked in yet.. him and my dad are supporting me.. I am surprised he's still by my side inspite of my relapse but have a nearology appointment on the 25th been waiting since Sept.. he said I was up front about from the beginning I was seizure free for over 2 years.. he knows I want to work but my brain just shuts down.. I am very fortunate to have his love.. oddly enough every serious relationship I have been in I had a seizure never laid up this long since 2011 when I had to learn to walk again.. every other guy promised the world knowing that I have them then when one happened they leave and attempt to come back.. so I assumed he would even thought he was better off without me but he prefers his life with me that when I told him I had them he couldnt believe it now he has an idea how much I struggle sometimes and he says he loves me more for it cause of my attitude during it.. he said we will get to the bottom of whats going on he suggests things im like wow that helps or that makes sense of why my body reacts to things the way it does... I debated suicide a few months ago cause of the way I wasn't contributing to things he said he's never been so happy as he is with me and I dont have to contribute to be valuable he's knows I want to and can't.. so he's changed my outlook cause if he lost his job then I wouldn't leave him.. you may need money for everything cause the world revolves around it.. as long as our needs are met im happy.. so money matters to a degree but love matters more to me!!

pinkster · Answer

No it doesn't matter at all love is what matters the most in a rdlashionship caring is whats more important the time you spend together me and my boyfriend by loads of gifts for each other
nd spend tones of money on each other because we are not selfish with money we buy each other stuff that cost loads of money but its only money ure spending it on your lover so who cares if it goes it will come bck but when a love goes away its not that easy to get love back so love one another strongly before there is no returning

TruthBringer · Answer

It is important to be able to cover the basic of expenses while also having enough for fun stuff is what's crucial. Financial issues is one of the biggest reasons why people divorce.

We live in a world that whatever you do, it could or even would cost money. Not having that money to do stuff that allows you to live and enjoy your life with your partner will only hurt the relationship. One doesn't need to be making 6 figures, but enough to cover all expenses and able to do fun stuff spontaniously.

Floppy2112 · Answer

If having the lights on, a roof that doesn't leak, air conditioning in the summer and heat in the winter then money matters. If you can happily live without these things then money does not matter.
Money doesn't fix everything, but it sure makes money problems go away. And money problems rank among the highest of problems, for couples, families and singles.
So it's not a question of does money matter, of course it does. The question is, how much money do you deem necessary once the necessities are paid for. Then do you want to work after you are pregnant to pay significant bills? How much of the family income do you want to be responsible for? Depending on your answers, you have to move in different ways.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

With money you can buy:
Clocks and Watches but not Time;
A House but not a Home;
Security but not Safety;
A Wedding but not a Marriage;
Sex but not Love;
Good Servants but not Good Service;
Accountants but not Accountability;
Beds but not Sleep;
Cameras but not Transparency;
Pleasures but not Happiness;
Doctors and Medicine but not Health;
Drugs but not Peace of mind.
"Money protects you, as does Wisdom; but Wisdom profits you more because it can save your life if you have it."(from Ecclesiastes 7:12).
To me, money doesn't seem that important, after all.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

It shouldn't matter, but it usually does.

People say they want one thing but then they respond to situations in ways that contradict their stated wants.

That said, money problems can often be indicative of other, deeper problems. So I don't think relationships fail because of cashflow troubles. I think they fail because of how either partner acts during those times of constrained finances. Its easy to pretend you're such a perfect catch when you're sitting pretty. But it's when times a tough that people reveal themselves.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

It should not, however even after things like bills are paid, and other expenses simply to live. Then being able to take your partner out for a meal, do things that help them physically and emotionally, have holidays etc really help when things are going bad.

For paying basics, absolutely.

for things after that baseline, yes definitely as it makes life so much bearable.

TodsShadow · Answer

As for survival yes. If we were back in the early 1900s and still made the money we made now it wouldn’t matter. It’s usually when things are falling apart it matters. In life we condition ourselves living lifestyles that we could afford. If you were ever to hit a rough patch in life a lot of people don’t recover. Stress over money is a big concern in America. We depend apon it to gain status, power, and to feed and provide for ourselves.
Depending on how you view yourself in the spectrum it can lead to treating people differently.

IndieScent · Answer

To a certain extent, yes. It doesn't necessarily mean that more money means happier relationship, but if you don't have enough money to occasionally take your partner on dates or get them gifts then it will wear down on the relationship. This is also generally more of a responsibility put on men then on women in straight relationships.

Crazybeeguy · Answer

Yes, if the relationship is a partnership, having money available for "bills" and not stressing from paycheck to paycheck. If my car breaks down, stolen, or gets destroyed, I can take the day off and get another; It won't be a junker either.
Having that feeling of security was worth the hard work. Also, that stability for a women makes her happy. I recommend investing for your future. On another note, if someone uses money to control you then that is when it's unhealthy.

WhiteWolf69 · Answer

I really dont think it should. I've had several relationships end because I didn't make enough money and didn't work enough to take the woman out, or made enough money and worked way too much to take her out, or I didn't have a nice car or whatever materialistic needs they wanted filled. I dont want a relationship based around money and I dont think it should matter until you're at that point to where you're loving together, paying bills together and building a life together. This is the point in a relationship where both parties come together and work together with finances.

proNutro · Answer

Yes and no. Yes because you don’t want to struggle, worry and stress. You want to be happy and comfortable. When married id hate to be broke snd can’t have kids because we don’t have the money to take care of them. So yes it matters but only to an extent.

ohshee · Answer

It does for me and that's because I like being spontaneous and doing crazy things and in order to do that you need money I like to be able to do things when I want to do them at the spur of the moment

boggboss · Answer

Love won't pay the bills put food in your belly or keep u warm i agree it shouldn't be the priority but a relationship won't survive if both parties can't keep the lights on so to speak

MasseurDeMojo · Answer

Money should not be the one thing that makes a relationship work. Yes, money does help you to live comfortably, but, you can survive off of the land for a long time, without a lot of money.

If the only reason you love someone is because of how much money they have, then your life will never be great, and happy. When you love someone because of who they are, and not their money; you will always e happy, because it is their heart that has won you, not their pocketbook.

Joey_007 · Answer

Considering that it's important even when you're not in a relationship, no shiz Sherly of course it is but in a relationship maybe even more so as it can become a point of conflict if one is able to support them self but the other couldn't, the one who can may be forced to take care of the other and if they're unable to support both them self and their partner, when they weren't expecting to the relationship can become a burden.

worldscolide · Answer

I really want to say no to this, But i can't. It matters in so much as both people should be in a place where dating and the relationship won't break the bank, and they aren't a burden on each other.

TallAnon · Answer

To a certain extent. It's more the effort that goes into earning money and the passion for your work.
I would date a female police officer making barely any money, because she's still passionate and the job she loves just earns her less. If she's a surgeon that works once a week because she's lazy, but still makes a shit ton of money, I would be way more reluctant.

Phoenix98 · Answer

It doesn't matter to me regarding things like attraction being rich isn't gonna make me attracted to you or like you just like being poor won't affect it. Nor is someone's wealth gonna make me want to be with someone.

It's just not a factor for me.

dmgstarfleet · Answer

Are you kidding? Its the number one item for most women on their "list" of "requirements" (Not the one they share on dating sites because they know what that sounds like but its prominent on their "real" list).

Anpu23 · Answer

Having been both very wealthy and very poor I can tell you that things are easier with wealth. Including relationships.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

It sure does. I personally like to travel and do a lot of activities but I have a decent paying job and a good career so I can afford to. I’d need someone in that bracket as well. As well as someone that knows how to save.

red324 · Answer

Honestly i don't work as much as I used to. My parents died so I got their money which means all my shit is paid for. House, car, boat etc. It's a real eye opener when something like that happens. I used to work all the time, but since really all I need to do is make enough to pay for food and basic bills that's pretty much what I do. So I would hope I wouldn't be judged for that. I have plenty of money.

SirJohn42 · Answer

Well in away it does. Its not everything but if you in a relationship. But with a gambler and he or she gambles to much and puts you in a finacial bind or debt it can ruin your relationship.
Also money does not bring you happiness. As long as your bills are paid and you have all your needs covered then you will be blessed.

Joshua0213 · Answer

No as long as you can afford all your bills and such

Avicenna · Answer

To most women, yes, to at least some extent. It’s a big part of hypergamy as well.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Money matters for survival and luxuries, but it doesn't matter in a relationship to me, I don't want a spouse to be the source of my income.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

It can help a lot. Stresses over paying bills and mortgages, buying the house you both want, can be reduced by having the resources to get you what you want. Lack of resources can cause arguments.

0112358 · Answer

If you're just dating then only in extreme cases. But if you're going to live together or more, yes. Arguments around money are one of the main causes of divorce (along with sec related issues)

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

It matters to a certain extent, the man must be able to provide the basic life necessaties, a roof for his family and food to eat, also the bills must be paid...

Marriage is a responsibility but love makes such things easier...

Manab · Answer

If you are a guy hugely , for getting dates money is a huge factor. Most women like car/bike rides , men paying for dates and taking care of them. Although there are few exceptions but finding those girls are almost hard to impossible. With money you chances will be better. That's also a reason for prefer old guys. Young guys can be hardworking too , working for a future but they still are " immature " to women without money.

AlysonM · Answer

80% of the things we do evolves around money.. It will be a tall order if a relationship lacks money.. It doesn't really have to be millions but when you and your partner never lack basic essentials, the relationship is liable to last..

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Not to me but to some people it does

kyleelyn199723 · Answer

Honestly I think it does. If both people aren’t making money it’s really hard to push forward and deem either really reliable. If my boyfriend ever lost his job , I’d be able to pick up the bills immediately

Jjpayne · Answer

I hope it doesn't. To me, if we both had a job I would hope that would be enough. We could both work at the same type of place and be able to afford something decent and livable without having the need to always be struggling financially

Tunasub · Answer

Money does matter but it's not needed for happiness. We all need food and shelter clothing. etc.. so we can not go totally without.

BoobMan · Answer

Naaaaahhhhhh! I've never heard of money being an issue in any relationship before. Never once. Never ever ever.

KatherineJ · Answer

One of the leading causes of divorce is financial strain.

Shihab91 · Answer

To a certain point. Its important to be financially stable and able to provide a good life for your kids ... but Not important to be rich...

JDavid25 · Answer

Yeah, it does seem to matter a lot.. I mean can a dude get a girl walking down the street still living with his mother? Maybe.. But uuuh highly unlikely these days.. LOL..

Redred56 · Answer

It’s been called for many years "The root of all evil" and it’s a pretty good description. ruin marriages/relationships or friendships etc.

JustACuriousLady · Answer

More than anything actually and it's why most couples fail.

Ksudb20 · Answer

If you cannot afford the simple necessaties to survive. Than in my POV it will not work. There's a difference between helping and enabling you.

kamalravi25 · Answer

If both partners are not having any expectations from eachother. And each of them is independent. Then money will not be any problem.

Massageman · Answer

Yes. As a counselor, my wife is seeing more and more couples AND singles with financial/employment problems than ever before.

Finchie40 · Answer

It does to a certain extent, but only for living contently , but it shouldn’t be the main thing that keeps a relationship together , you should both work as a team

pikachu337 · Answer

I think money is not the problem. The problem is human greed. Just be satisfied with what you have if you can afford basic needs and some entertainment. Anything additional is greed.

genericname85 · Answer

i mean given that you can make rent and have food on the table and clothes on your body, money is not an issue in a relationship. if you don't have those things, then money generally becomes a big issue.

monkeynutts · Answer

Well it really depends on standards, and values if my wife is happy with flowers and a nice meal, maybe giving her a diamond is not necessary.

pleasestopthis · Answer

When you got a home and kids to support, yes, it sure does matter. A lot of couples get divorced because of stress caused by financial struggles and/or bad decisions of a spouse who's manages finances very poorly.

PetrovaFire92 · Answer

Yes and no.. my friend says money doesn't matter. But he wants me to marry his friend. I can't make him cuz I need a co-sponsor to bring in there cuz I'm broke. 😢💔 Does money matter now... Yes.

Account · Answer

Both parts should be able to contribute into paying their bills and buying groceries/food.  I don't give a shit about anything more than that.

Levin · Answer

The only thing I have to say is,  'guurrl, if I was down, and out,  would you still,  have love for me guurrl?'. Would you fuck!

exitseven · Answer

Money is a big issue in a relationship. Both people have expectations and if their values are in direct conflict there is usually problems down the road.

bannacookies · Answer

Yes in the sense that both can have enough money to survive.

BossBilly · Answer

Hell yes it does no matter what the situation is, the answer you are really looking for is,. we nees money the more the better, but all the money in the world can't help someone who feels scared alone and unloved, it is devastating and ruins lives.

itsdeaaa_94 · Answer

Yes. Whoever says otherwise, is simply deceiving himself.

Slartybartfast · Answer

As I guy I don't have that option. I knew as a teen a guy without a good job will never get a girlfriend.

humanearth · Answer

Not in my book, I been poor my whole life. It's a way of life for us. As long as I have my guns, I Have food

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