Does money matter in a relationship?

[Erik_30]

I know it's important to have a decent job, but if given a choice what would women settle for.. a guy with a normal job who loves her a lot and treats her just like the way she would want to be treated or a guy who has a fancy job with lot of money and doesn't really care much about her but it's all about the image and showing off to society? And with him she gets to live the posh life?

[Tdieseler]

Different women, different tastes and needs and wants. Money matters... but the thing that ticks me is that the requirement is made of men only. No one seems to ask about the woman. What if SHE doesn't have money?
can't count the number of times of heard women talk about how they want a guy with a job, money, his own place, car... etc blah blah, but they are unemployed, living with parents, 2 kids different baby daddies, use the bus... etc... i mean... really?
So... i simply reverse it. If you don't have what you ask for... get to walking.
Does money matter? To me? not really. I don't mind paying, BUT... women fought for equality... and equality they got. I pay my half, she pays hers :)
That mentality has garnered me a lot of hate from tons of women, hahahaha... they can go fuck themselves... im only doing what they want lol... equals.

[bubbatxman]

Money is a huge deal in a relationship, especially when the wealth is imbalanced (one partner is rich while the other is not). Two partners in the same income level and social class will generally behave in patterns and expectations consistent with that class. My wife and I have been married many years and it’s still an issue with us, because her family is rich and left her a lot, and my family is poor and frequently asks for help. It comes up in nearly every holiday, in gifts, in assistance to family members both service and financial. Even being married, I see her wealth as hers, not ours. She blesses me from time to time with nice gifts but it is difficult for me to reciprocate. I feel guilty asking her for money for a nice gift, when I didn’t earn that money.

[blkhermano]

Does she take into consideration if it was her role to provide? How would she feel?

[bubbatxman]

@blkhermano She contributes proportionally from her income to the bills. The challenge becomes when we want to go on vacation, or give big Christmas or birthday gifts because even with our good combined income, we have to go into her family’s Money to cover it and I feel inadequate, and she gets defensive.

[blkhermano]

Well, do you just have to buy big gifts? Why not create some gifts that are more cost effective

[Alice2398]

To some degree definitely. My mother always told me not to marry for money and for love instead like she did.

But if he spends money like a idiot and pisses it up the walls and that's why he's poor I'm not sticking around and same goes for rich guys if he thinks his money going to do all the work for him, he's going to be sadly disappointed. I want a hard working man who makes a honest living and is smart enough to be responsible with the money he earns so me and him and have a comfortable future together

[TisforTori]

Of course money matters. I work hard & I love my job. So I need a partner who has the same. I enjoy travel & love experiencing that with my lover. I don’t however need name brand clothes, new cars, big houses or to be popular because of status in my community. I need a partner that is present, loving, honest and my best friend.

[Erik_30]

But given a choice between the 2

[TisforTori]

I don’t settle in life. If you feel you are settling then you probably shouldn’t spend your life with that person

[jennifer_bloom]

I have a lot of rich people in my family and I would rather be with somebody who will treat me well. My parents abused me emotionally and I know how traumatizing emotional abuse can be and would not tolerate that no matter how many billions or trillions i was getting paid to be in the relationship.

[McKellar]

Well money is important to make sure you are well financially leveled. Getting a very well paid job & a high position & better pay is always nice,... especially if you are trying to better your life through blood & sweat. Well I always look at the bigger pay cheque as survival pay anyways considering of the country I live in. If you have your shit together, that's great. If you decently or for the most part have your shit together, that's still good. It's not 100% dead-on, but you are making that effort to better yourself. To me, that counts greatly.

As for money being the key core focus point in any romantic relationship,... no. I think that's just stupid & ridiculous. If a girl is merely going after a rich guy considering he's loaded with money & he's high-class,.. there's no love in that. There's no romance in that. That tells me you are just chasing after the guy for the cash, not him. You are just using him for the cash & not in love with him at all.

If you are going to be attracted to a guy or be in love with a guy,... be in love with him for him. Not his cash flow.

Even if the girl gets to live a posh life,... apparently according to what I've heard,... the posh life is not exactly what it's cracked up to be. If anything there are a lot of couples with that high class status have the same or more issues in that kind of life style than the middle & lower class status people. ... according to what I've heard anyways

[blkhermano]

Bu society standards, yes. By my standards, no. I was born into this world as a Male, so I was already branded as the bread winner, provider, and protector. Which I would have been perfectly okay with... until I received a medical condition. So, the money I make goes towards me and my little baby (medical condition). So, I always bring that to a woman's attention.

It can come off selfish, but if the role was reversed it would be expected of a guy to be considerate if a woman had a condition, and her funds were used towards that. She still would want to be treated as an equal right? Same goes for me.

Money does matter, but it's not the most important thing. I have friends who have good paying jobs, but are now divorced or working on the second marriage. So, now they HAVE to keep those jobs in order to finance the divorce/other marriage. Basically they're breaking even.

I know other friends who have money, but they are not happy. I saw those scenarios coming from a long time ago.

Money will not provide happiness or provide stability. It just smooths things out... for a bit.

[Mmmaybe]

Money matters the most, if you want to start a family and a life together; eventually leading to have children. As long as a man has a good job that is a respectful title (nothing illegal) then there shouldn't be an issue. Unless, the woman makes more money than her boyfriend, then maybe there will be resentfulness.

[passinby]

Up vote for honesty

[jimyee]

Isn't that a double standard though? Why should the guy have to make more money?

[Mmmaybe]

All I'm saying is, dating wise. Money isn't really important, but if you want to get married and have children. All of that adds up and the need for more money without struggle is preferred over struggling over finances.

[Mmmaybe]

@passinby thanks for the up vote.

[Mmmaybe]

@jimyee, They don't, it's just in my personal experiences with friends and myself. Some guys have ego issues for not being the "main bread winner" -- of course we're only talking about bf's in this scenario but I have an exbf who had turned resentful towards me when I made money tban he did.

[depeche2015]

i don't care about money at all, he can make min wage and i'd still love him i hate people who think money is everything. it's not. i don't care if i make more than him or if he makes more than me. as long as we love each other and are fine together it shouldn't matter.

[Ilvmycountryman]

HELL NO what matters is the relationship
No matter if y'all are rich, poor , homeless , no matter nothing
What matters is the relationship.. what matters is how y'all treat each other.. what matters is how y'all do the relationship... and etc

But if u think money matters then you are just greedy
Because if u r in a relationship for money then that is bad that is stupid

[Love_yourself]

Money is always an important factor in relationship... Money problems lead to mental depressions and ultimately it has effect on the relationship... It's important to be financially settled in a relationship... Means.. Having a job and some bank balance.. In today's world.. We never know when we gonna lose our job.. So I feel it's important to have the bank balance for our survival... Love is attached to emotions and feelings.. But money is the source for survival in this world.. Without money nothing is possible in the world.. We don't need to be rich but we should have enough money to survive in this fast growing and expensive world..

[WalterRadio]

Money is extremely important in a relationship. Marriage is legally nothing more than a business partnership and the number one cause of divorce is over money.

Money determines one's standard of living and that in turn is a major factor in happiness.

[Tiffers2154]

Money adds to stability, so of course it matters. But most women want a guy who knows the value of hard work so they can grow their lives TOGETHER, not so she can have a "posh life" and play princess. You don't have to be a millionaire, but you need to know how to work hard. Its been my experience with guys my age that a lot of them just want to skate through life, and I want more than that. Work hard now so I won't have to later.

[Mikayla3]

Exactly!

[Seppelson]

Money only makes antisozial

[jmac23]

That's called a gold digger man. Don't mess with gold diggers unless you have the money and don't care about keeping it. Most women want a guy with some kind of income so they know that he can provide when necessary. It's like having a friend that's a doctor so when you have a injury or a bump that doesn't look right. Call your friend over. The profession isn't the overall reason why your with them but it's a good bonus to have.

[Mikayla3]

Hey you are really smart. Great analogy!

[TrixiePooch]

Money isn't everything, but you definitely need money to survive in this world. But in the end it is whatever makes you happy. Not all women who marry for money are truly happy. I would go with the one who treats you right and loves you for what you are, not what you have.

[KAF87]

Yes and no. Lets be honest here, dates, flowers, meals, etc all cost money. Later life things like children, houses, etc are pricey.

You should love someone for who they are not how much they make. There is a certain aspect of being able to provide for / support the other person.

[madhatters4]

certainly depends on the girl some girls will see a man making a lot of money as essential, some what to at least know they are financially stable, and some don't really care so much

but ultimately money does matter to an extent in nearly all relationships

[TPatB93]

I think that this is a person to person type of thing. I dont think you can generalize all girls or guys into one of these categories.
Yes, money does matter, but on the same note, it shouldn't be anywhere near the main focal point of a relationship of any kind. I believe that when the "right one" for an individual person comes along, that he/she won't truly care about how much money is "on the table". He/she will just love that person for who they are... not materialistic things.

Besides, I don't think that having a bunch of money, and nice material things will attract "the one". That will just happen naturally without having to potentially flaunt or show off what you have.

I don't know if this helps or not... but it made sense in my head. Lol

[redpanda_]

Defo first option. Yes, it's nice having someone who wants to spend money on you, but what isn't nice is feeling like you're at someone's beck and call - which is how I'd imagine the second option being.

I'd rather have an honest man who went to work everyday and treated me from time to time but also treated me with respect everyday. To love someone cause they have money, it's not really love - you're in love with their bank account!

[aceexp]

It matters. Otherwise you can't do anything such as going out. Concerts, events, dinner, traveling. Need money to share those experiences, and they can even strengthen the relationship. And a normal job can usually give that security. So yes, it doesn't matter.

[Anonymous]

Money and financial comfort does not make a relationship. My guy makes more money than I do but I still insist on paying for myself most of the time because I don't want him thinking I'm using him. I have a job. I'm an adult. I'm not whoring myself out to a well off guy who barely likes me just so I can call out of work a little more frequently.

[runningmakeup]

I'd pick the guy with a normal job who loves me. As long as he has a job, I don't mind. Staying home and cooking is a date to me. I mean, I work too, so I wouldn't be 100% dependent on him, but you don't need money to be happy. You need a partner who loves and supports you. Screw having a lot of money and a huge house. 😂

[mbc1234]

Well people shouldn't be like that and guys shouldn't want to get to third base with the women on the first date but it seems men and women aren't where they should be in relationships. But money shouldn't be important to women and getting some action shouldn't be important to a man

[Isssssz]

Personal experience;

It does NOT matter.
Of course it helps out to be richer. But both of my sisters are married to guys who weren't rich at all. Both have kids and build there life together with their husband.
Money is a mean to an end.
So why do people always want "the end", instead of working together for it?