Girls, Do you worry about your husband or future husband leaving you for a younger girl?

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Maybe I watch too much tv or have heard too many bad stories but it’s one of my fears that I’ll marry a man and I’ll get older and less attractive and then he’ll leave me for a younger girl that’s like 22. Because I’m attractive now and get a lot of attention, I’ve had a lot of married and taken guys pursue me as well so I know it exists. Or like I’ll meet a guy on tinder who is cheating on his wife (this just happened and he didn’t have any pictures of himself, just 2 black photos but super liked me and talked to me). Right now I’m watching a tv show and her and her husband divorce because he starts sleeping around with girls that are like 22 despite them having a family. It’s just a serious concern and disappointment of mine. My dad cheated on my mom sexually as well. They got through it and are together and stronger now but I don’t think I’d be as forgiving. Is this a common concern for women?

GlassTop · Accepted Answer

Whether or not a man cheats on his wife is up to the wife. When you got married, what qualities did you have besides being pretty and young? Did you have amazing sex? Did you share a ton of hobbies together? Did you both workout and work together on finances? The more you have in common with your husband, the more he will respect and love you and be loyal to you. If you were just a pretty face and you don’t satisfy him like you used to, chances are pretty high he will look for someone younger. Especially if you don’t sexually satisfy. Ever hesrd of married men complaining that after they got married tjeir sex life tanked? “She doesn’t give blowjobs or anal or dance for me anymore”. It’s usually the best sex happens when they first get with a girl. The girl is willing to put out more and do more things they wouldn’t normally do. I guess because they do it for the guys approval or something. I currently am married and plan on cheating on my wife. Only because she cheated on me. I was completely loyal to her and she betrayed me. I will use her youth and toss it away, while I maintain and increase my value as I get a better career and earn $300,000 annually while she is still making minimum wage. That will be devastating to her and i’ll love it.

Intothevoid666 · Accepted Answer

I think if u date a guy within your league and u make sure he actually loves u and he is a decent guy then u shouldn’t have this issue. Like from a male POV I’d never leave a woman I’d been married to for years for a younger girl unless I was unhappy with the marriage. I don’t think many guys would divorce their wife for a younger women just cuz. Believe it or not the vast majority of men do care about romance and love. And guys I think really tend to enjoy sex the most with who they are in love with and not simply just the hottest youngest woman. I don't know if that helps

FiguringItOutGirl · Accepted Answer

I'm married and wouldn't be surprised if he wanted to be with a different girl! We got married really young, well before we became our adult selves.

He's athletic, impulsive, disorderly, not intellectual, and likes big things like trucks, steak, and dogs. I'm an overthinker and analyzer, clean, practical, financially inclined, eco-conscious, and I love wine and cats. I could see him falling for a more outdoorsy & carefree dog lover if things get rocky enough.

Opposites attract until they don't. Lol

DogsAndWine1996 · Accepted Answer

I started worrying about that too but it’s mostly from Alpha Male podcast types of places that make women feel this way.
Most men I know in real life, especially well to do types of men, are in love with their wives. I see them only having eyes for her even if I’m in the room, and I’m really young.

Genie23 · Answer

No, that is if I ever get married. I don't think I'll ever get married unless I meet someone who I could completely trust and love the way he treats me and makes me feel. So, if I meet someone like that and end up getting married, I wouldn't ever feel insecure. I wouldn't worry even if he has lot of prettier friends that he hangs out with often. I'll simply trust him.

Apple1996 · Answer

Not worried about that at all. My husband already isn't sex crazy like most men so I don't ever see him trying to chase younger women when we are old. And if he does want that then I'd just agree to being in a open relationship

Babygirl_S · Answer

No that kind of stuff doesn't happen in my culture. A man who dates anyone 10 or more years younger than him is not praised. He becomes a butt of jokes and people hate him. This part of my culture is awesome. Men who are older are also seen as less desirable just like older women.
All that my future husband will be able to do is fantasise about those girls he can never actually be with.
I know this isn't the case in Western countries. Any old man can have younger women.
Here women also prefer younger men within their age group. It is considered a taboo to be with a man 10 or more years older. These women also get mocked. Even celebrities are judged if they do it so you can imagine what a regular person will go through.

Siren777 · Answer

No. I've realized sometimes things don't work out and it's for the best. I think all this information you getting online might mess with your head and trigger old wounds. It will make you doubt your partner, jump to conclusions and end what could be a beautiful relationship. Not every guy cheats, but I do understand as I encounter many cheats. You need to weed them out and go for a good guy that will treat you better. If in the beginning he has a wandering eye, he cheats or gets you in any 3rd party situation... he isn't the guy for you. You have to choose someone who has better intentions for you.

shaysh87 · Answer

Most married men do not hit on attractive women. It really boils down to the type of guy you marry. You must marry a man of good character and values. The type of guy who never goes to strip clubs, doesn’t sleep around , the type of guy who texts you first thing after he’s off work. The type of guy who isn’t shallow and say “women hit the wall by 30 so they’re undatable”. Take a look at his dating history. Does he have a history of dating women significantly younger than him? Does he talk about how beautiful other women are while he is around you? How does he react when he sees a hot girl? Ans most importantly of all, is he willing to marry you? From my experience, many guys avoid getting married in order to avoid serious commitment. A lot of these boyfriends think it’s ok to hit on other women

these are all things that can show whether or not a man will make a good figure husband

Finchie40 · Answer

Understand that you can’t force someone to love you and to not cheat on you but you can love and respect them not to , relationships only work when 2 people remove selfishness for each other and sacrifice for one another , The best thing to do is love them the same way you want to be loved , it won’t always be perfect and you both won’t always agree on things because you are both imperfect people , but when you wear their shoes before wearing your own and making them a priority like they should be making you love will grow , The only way you can be happy in a relationship is to value your self worth and don’t depend on them to make you happy , you have to be happy with yourself and love yourself before you can love someone else , Communicating and compromising is key to having a healthy relationship

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Anyone has the potential for cheating. Whether it is because there are issues in the marriage, usually lack of sex or intimacy or the “I can do better than this” mentality.
Most “high value” guys are very active in the dating market, but won’t be looking to settle down until they’re older. When women go after these guys it’s similar to all the guys throwing themselves at the hottest girl in the room. It usually doesn’t work out.
Look for the guys that have a lot to offer but may not be 100% everything you want. The dating market isn’t like buying a car. Figure out only what is truly important for you. If the two of you are truly in love that will minimize the risk of outside temptation for the both of you.

Juan_Sheet · Answer

I wouldn't leave my wife for a younger woman. If I was going to leave her at all, it would be because she's a hoarder and it can make life stressful for myself to have no-where in my own home to sit and just be at rest. Marriage is a battle of wills, her versus mine. But I can survive for a few more years. One day I'll I'll see the light. (Through a window, perhaps)

Justerino · Answer

just take good care of your health, if you’re cooking good food a man ain’t gonna care if you put on weight but if it’s all fast food he’ll probably be a little upset.

my grandfather cheated on my grandmother, ended up dying broke after living in a $2m house, second wife took everything and left him when he got sick.

my grandma will sell her house this summer and get $1m for it and hopefully has 20years left of ballet and travel

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Men don't generally leave serious relationships. But yes we do cheat or negotiate infidelity. Thats normal for very aggressive masculine men. Usually more passive men will remain more faithful both because they have less drive to cheat and because they have less ability to. So just depends on the kind of man you like which circled back most women want more aggressive masculine men but this comes with the territory. Most women of the past and the present (although not discussed as much since its not cool with the feminists) stay and accept this and just look the other way or even support such arrangements.

Anonymous · Answer

I understand the fear, but it's just that, fear and insecurities. If you really love each other, and the relationship is GOOD, with lots of communication etc (often lacking), then there's no reason for him to cheat. And temptation is always out there, for you women also. While people do make mistakes, it's mostly the type of guy that will cheat I believe. Like I believe myself, I would never cheat, and if I ever considered it, that tells me something is VERY wrong with our relationship and that either needs to be fixed, or needs to be ended. But I'm not going to cheat. I think women tend to see this as a black and white things based solely on age and looks. Nope! The type of person he is and your relationship are the bigger reasons.

Anonymous · Answer

A cheater is gonna cheat regardless of age. If you stay confident, keep yourself up, exercise, take care of your health you can still be sexy in your 30s. And if a guy cheats on you over your age, he’s got major issues and is a total creep and horn dog. It’s natural that some guys like younger women but if a man really LOVES you, I’ll repeat REALLY loves you, he won’t ever cheat on you and your age won’t be a factor if you believe in yourself and have confidence.

HighValue · Answer

Try to avoid anyone that has a past of casual sex/hook ups. That should lessen the chances of that happening.
Just because someone wants a young woman to begin a new relationship, that doesn't mean that they will want to leave her as she gets older, at least not for the actual good guys.
The kind of people that cheat will always be that way and immoral, regardless of how you are.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Age isn't a factor. I had an affair with a woman a few years older than me. If you dont want him to leave you, you need to communicate and respond to what's important to him. Unless your husband is a dirt bag, most people who cheat is because there was something lacking in the relationship and nothing was being done about it

Vegasrunner · Answer

Depends on the quality of husband you get. If you get a no body then he probably won't cheat on you because he can't attract anyone better. If you get a high value man then yes he's going to cheat men are only as fai6as their options.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

No. He will see what happens to him when he does that. You can't just stole a woman's youth which is very valueable on the dating market but then leave her after she has losen her youth. This is like stealing all of man's money or like breaking his legs so he ain't tall anymore forever. People should not waste someone's dating value.

MTC29 · Answer

Don't put on weight. Maybe you've had two kids... that doesn't matter. Get rid of the extra 20 pounds.

My SO is age 54. She has had two kids and she still look's great. Why? it is because she hasn't added any extra weight.

VanillaSalt · Answer

All people worry their partners will leave them or even cheat. However as a man I feel we get screwed more by both. Men bring home STDs if their not careful and women bring home babies. But when divorce happens it gets skewed. Harsh truth is men get screwed by alimony and child support often. Women rarely deal with either.

Mango-man · Answer

I would never end relationship/marriage due to outside influences whatever they might be.

As long as there is trust and love in the relationship, and she wouldn't be actively trying to destroy what we would have, we would remain together.

dustybiker · Answer

Never worry about this. We’re too gooey over each other, and bluntly honest, even after 17 years.

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