What should I do if my happiness depends on a woman who doesn't care about me as much as I do?

[Anonymous]

Please, don't only say to move on... I would done it before if it were that simple

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Thank you all for sharing your opinions, after reading every single opinion, I think the best is to combine your ideas. First of all, my happiness shouldn't depend on another person, I need to toward on myself at the same time, I must become more attractive as a person in every way. Thank you very much!

[ShadezMcgee]

Your happiness should not revolve on another person. That is codependency and it is unhealthy.

Your best bet is to leave and learn how to have value and love yourself and a set purpose with good friends and family relationships. If you can't be happy without someone else, you are setting yourself up for misery.

Bottom line, you have no identity of your own. Figure out who you are. Values, goals, hobbies, style, humor, interests, purpose. Explore that and focus on that.

[Adam1978]

Never put your happiness in the hands of other people period. Sure people can always ruin your happiness by being nasty but if they don't you should be happy independent of other people. And those who actually are sabotaging your life you should cut out of your life.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Become more attractive.

Work out, cook artistically, climb the career ladder, take regular dance classes, learn a new language, save money and splurge on yourself, buy new clothes (real grown up clothes that fit nice), go to therapy, get a haircut etc.

If you're already in a relationship, she will notice and enjoy being with a more attractive partner.

If she doesn't know you exist, you will be more attractive to someone else.

[Switch91]

This here is the correct answer.

[LadyKayy]

Couldn't have said it better girlll!

[DermalPunch]

If your happiness depends in a woman that means you need to work on yourself. You are seeking external spurces to bandage whatever is going on inside of you instead of treating the issues that you are probably ignoring.

[DermalPunch]

Now, I will say it doesn't matter who loves or ares about who more as long as both partners are willing to respect one another and their relationship.

[skytatoe]

Well you answered your own question really. Until you find that inner strength to rip off the bandaid, you're stuck in suffering.

You could have friends or family help out in cutting contact and keeping you distracted if its really that difficult.

[Moose304]

It sounds to me that this female is the pivot person in a threeway! Happens more than I care to admit. You have 3 basic options. Improve yourself someway to maybe make yourself more attractive to her, stay in this clearly toxic situation, or move on! Take your pick! I'm not going to blow sunshine up your ass this situation stinks!

[rabbitzzz]

Try to be her friend. Keep in touch. Understand what she wants. It's so nice to help her, to see her smile isn't it. You will feel pain in your heart. If she doesn't understand you. Care about you. But that's ok. Keep wishing well for her. That's the living.

[lonewolf2233]

You gotta work on yourself my guy and get out of the shell of your dependence on this women either that or if you really in for her that much ask her what type of guy she's into and work yo achieve that standard.

[InferiorElegy]

It is that simple and I don't get that people who have something that takes away their happiness just can't move on from it. I wish I could understand but I don't, I don't remember what it felt like to have something that made me happy without faking it in plenty of years. If it causes you pain leave it, it's just going to get worse.

[lightbulb27]

you mean "as much as I care about her"... right?

you have to adapt to that choice and make it ok or make a change.. or fall into ruins. those are the choices.

[Asker]

You're right, that's what I mean

[Heartache0405]

Find a new way to be happy. If women are the only cause for your happiness, than you will always be unhappy, dissatisfied, disappointed and miserable

[Sour-rose]

Move on. :)

Honestly, it's for the best. Or you can keep trying to make her care for you and she get tired of you and get a restraining order.

[Kaamraj]

Seek therapy and self improvement; exercise, new skill, better socio-economic status.

[SnakeBoop]

it will never depend on that. thats only your desperation talking

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm sorry, but I have to keep it real: you don't need her in your life. Dump her ass.

[Anonymous]

Well, it looks like you want to choose misery. I won't stop you.
Get a courtesan. Ask her the same question.

[Anonymous]

So you want us to answer the question without giving you the answer? Maybe stop being bitch made bro.

[Kenzy009]

Better to have happiness with a women who does not care about you, then be missreble alone