Should I cheat on my boyfriend back?

Question

He cheated on me with another girls and he told me it’s because I send another guys nudes!! So I said it’s not the same between send nudes and have sex!! Then he said he doesn’t have feelings for them? I was yelled at him of what he said to me and it makes me go insane cuz he talked about the girl he cheated on me with on internet, should I cheat back?

honeynut-scenarios · Accepted Answer

Is he worth cheating on? Consider how you felt when he slept with another woman. Multiple other women it sounds like. It’s going to take time to heal from that, and who knows if it will happen again. He was hurt when he found out about the nudes, and that was his reaction. Do you want to be with someone like that? He’s going to be even more hurt if you actually become physical with someone else. His reaction is a huge issue over something that could have been discussed. Are you okay with losing him by sending nudes to other guys? Or are you prepared to bring more toxicity to your relationship, hurting him even more? What kind of reaction will he have next? You’re actively destroying your trust for one another, and without trust there will never be a healthy relationship.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Neither of you sound mature enough to even be in a relationship... Why send nudes to other guys if you have a boyfriend.. And cheat because he did? That's an excuse to do what you'd do anyway.. If someone cheated on me, I wouldn't cheat on them, I'd just get them out of my life, because I'm not a cheater... You just want to have sex with someone else and put the blame on him, but if you cheat on someone, there's no excuses or justifications and you're the only one at fault... You both need to just end the relationship, and grow up before getting into another relationship

integrale77 · Accepted Answer

You are both so messed up.

First he over reacted to you sending nudes to someone else by going to a prostitute it's should have been something to talk about and possibly recover the relationship. But he crossed a line sex with a 3rd person is going to end things unless you pre agreed this in your relationship.

What next well you don't want to get your own back because that will become never ending issue if he thinks you went too far he will get his own back again!
Should you try and recover things by talking you could try but what's going to happen if you have a big argument you can always bring up when he cheated on you and you forgave him and then your back to this all over again.

So what you do now is your own choice

TheorionMage · Accepted Answer

REMOVE yourself from this toxicity.

Stooping to HIS level of behavior is like rolling in the dirt
because HE refuses to wash ~

As for the sending nudes,
recently was in the news about a young woman who'd
acquired a determined stalker who'd researched her Tik-Toc IP URL
to the point she needed to
petition the Court for a restraining order.
When you make a noise like cheese, you attract opportune Vermin.

20 years ago, there was a nationwide cult who used what they termed as 'flirty fishing'---

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Yes, demonstrate to the rest of the world that your behavior is as low class as his behavior. Remove all doubts!

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Well, if neither of you is gonna be loyal to the other, for that matter, if he's not gonna be loyal to you, why the fuck don't you just split the fuck up and go after whoever you'd rather be with? Why flog an obviously dead horse? You're DONE!! Game over!! You both lose!! do you REALLY think that he''s gonna be pissed if he comes home after a night of fucking her to find out that you're gone for good? Probably not!! He's gonna call her up and tell her the good news and invite her over so they can openly fuck like bunnies, now!! DUMP his skanky ass and go get some of your own!!

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

You'll ultimately do what you like but if my g/f sent round nudes to other guys? I wouldn't lower my standards by cheating on you, I would simply wave bye bye as I closed the door behind me!
Playing these games is ultimately what causes so much hatred between couples.

In my eyes you both cheated.

Solution? Break up before the hatred between you grows SO strong, that we end up reading about you killing each other in the papers!

Daniela1982 · Answer

Your trolling is showing again. Sending nudes is as good as cheating. Maybe not in deed but in thought. Don't you ever get tired of making up stories? Good thing you aren't Pinocchio.  Liar, liar, pants on fire, nose as long as a telephone wire!

Mofunfour20 · Answer

It's the same shit for me because I wouldn't be able to trust that the baby is mine if she gets pregnant. That's definitely not wife material behavior. My respect lever for her would go to negative 13 because she needs sexual attention from other men. SHE BELONGS TO THE STREETS

globetrotter22 · Answer

Two wrongs don’t make a right. In principle you could “cheat on him back” but at this point do you and him even have a relationship? Just break up. This is completely disfuncional.

You did do very wrong sending another guy nudes by the way. Yes it wasn’t as bad as cheating but it was bad. Instead of cheating i would of broke up with you over that then go do my business.

garykingg · Answer

A lack of communication in this relationship is what I see.

Why are you sending other guys nudes? Is it cause your boyfriend doesn't give you enough attention? Then talk about it.

He is cheating because sending nudes to other guys is also a form of cheating and he's trying to one-up you.

This all could have been avoided if you actually had good communication.

Peace.

luvstoned4him · Answer

This whole relationship sounds toxic af. He cheats? U send other men nudes? What and what?  U both should just end it no, there is no respect, no love, soon no trust. It's a bad note to be on

AydenHazor · Answer

Just end the relationship with him, neither if you are really invested if you're sending nudes to other guys and he's cheating in you and tie considering doing the same to him. Just get it and enjoy being single and having fun as that sounds like what you really want right now.

007kingifrit · Answer

didn't i JUST answer this?

no. equality and fairness are not synonyms. your motivations are different and if his actions are bad... yours are worse as you are doing it to hurt another. not even for the basic human reasons he probably did it

just break up with him

Tiptoetamm · Answer

Absolutely not 2 wrongs do not make a right. If your unhappy break up. Cheating on each other is unhealthy for a relationship and won't fix anything. It will just cause more resentment and anger between the two of you

HighValue · Answer

In my opinion, you were already cheating b y sending those pictures to other guys. Neither of you are mature enough for a good committed relationship yet.

Guy13 · Answer

You are justifying his actions.-You did it too…. Just break-up and move on. Take the high road…. You are only hurting yourself, lowering, your Being to the level of dog in heat

bones_20 · Answer

Ok so the two of you are in a relationship. You’re sending other guys nudes, so he cheats on you as payback and now you want to cheat on him for more payback?  You both need to grow up.

EmmaMary · Answer

Congratulations on winning a  Troll  of the day award.

wittymilf · Answer

Just stop trying to own each other. Seems you like attention and arousing other random males and he likes the same with other random chicks. Why not just let ever Do what they wanna do 🤷‍♀️

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Break up, cause sex and nudes are not the same things. Otherwise if you do cheat your lowering yourself to his level. Cheating back will ultimately end your relationship anyways.

t-8900 · Answer

So basically he's cheated on you and now he's gonna bring you down to his level. He's won twice and stained you with dishonor. Just break up and wise up. Young people today...

dorksided1 · Answer

Why are you two even together? You send nudes to randoms, he sleeps with randoms both wrong in the end. Why even cheat when you can leave?

yucychan · Answer

You two are so childish. It's like "he took some of my stuff, so I must steal some of his stuff back". Grow up.

Anonymous · Answer

Why are you sending nudes to guys? You're upset about him cheating on you while you basically did the same thing to him. It makes you no different than him. better end it now before it gets worse

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

You two clearly deserve each other lol. Sending nudes is only one step removed from full blown cheating. Semantics aside, it's still a violation of your partner's trust.

dysrhythmicheart · Answer

Seriously? Neither if you deserve to be in a relationship. Talk about disrespectful behaviour

Randy888 · Answer

what type of relationship is this? break up. This seems like a very unhappy relationship doomed to fail.

Datboi65 · Answer

Sending nudes IS a form of cheating. Y'all are a mess, just break up and move on.

AviatorTom · Answer

If it will make you feel better, go ahead and cheat back on him. That won't help your relationship though. It will just send it closer to the gutter.

genericname85 · Answer

you wanna be a scumbag like him? or you wanna be better? don't wanna be a scumbag like him, i suggest not cheating but breaking up instead. or cheat back and be a scumback yourself. your choice.

Aurora1010 · Answer

You did cheat first. Sending nudes is definitely cheating lol

Sasha_Gee · Answer

No that's immature! Don't lower yourself to his level and just end things!

Clyde_123 · Answer

Omg! You already cheated when you sent nudes. Just break up with him. I don't see any respect in your relationship.

Flower7 · Answer

No, you should just break up with him. This seems like a very toxic relationship.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

You both suck, grow up, neither of you are mentally mature enough for sex. If you don't like a person, leave.

boggboss · Answer

U already did cheat so sure fuck some where u are both idiots anyway

Twalli · Answer

I do agree that nudes and sex aren't the same thing, but why did you send another guy nudes? Also cheating back on him doesn't make you even, you still sent nudes.

skyeee_ · Answer

"he cheated on me with another girls" damn i wonder why also cmon you're better than this, troll

Subarugirl · Answer

You should take some time to be single so that you can grow up before getting into another relationship you're not equipped to deal with

VikingWarLord · Answer

Yeah come here and we'll get his azz back.  I guarantee I have a bigger c0ck than him any dammn way!

Danny_dan92 · Answer

How about be an adult and just end it? Two wrongs don’t make a right you bafoon

Anonymous · Answer

If a girl sent nudes to another guy I'd cheat on her too. That means she started it. So I'd cheat and end it with her right there.

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

Why are you sending nudes to a guy, when you have a boyfriend?

Drumlin2001 · Answer

You're both in the wrong, it dosnet sound a healthy relationship. Why are you still together?

Anonymous · Answer

girl, you already cheated on him by sending other guys nudes.

Anonymous · Answer

No. You should have some self respect and dump him before pursuing relationships with other men. You are only making a count of yourself

Ekiewlen · Answer

You can always send me nudes if it helps you feel better 😂 Sorry I couldn’t resist

May_Summers · Answer

No reason to send nudes to other guys in the first place when in a relationship

driven159 · Answer

You both should go your separate ways you two are to toxic with each other and grow up while you're at it

Zolly99999 · Answer

Either break up or cheat away. . but just to be clear once the cheating starts the relationship is doomed..

Anonymous · Answer

No you should break up, you don't have a relationship anymore.

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Anyone who cheats is garbage. You DUMP garbage, you don't BECOME garbage.

In_Trance · Answer

Jesus

Surely · Answer

If there is still any hope of saving your relationship. That will probably end it!

Anonymous · Answer

I can't agree with either of you. What you're doing is wrong as well.

Anonymous · Answer

Wow, you both sound like shitty people. You should break up and not date another man until you can figure out how to be a good person.

prosmind · Answer

Better to leave him because none of you is serious about relationship.

Fuentes · Answer

He should dump you you cheated first, the relationship is now dead

This_Is_My_Opinion8 · Answer

Just break up. And don't send nudes to other guys in your next relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Both of you should avoid relationships altogether. If you send nudes in a relationship or have to ask if you should cheat then you are just as bad or worse than him

noohair · Answer

This relationship is bad for both of you. You are both acting like children.

Anonymous · Answer

What a sweet girlfriend, sending nudes to someone else.

DonkeyDan · Answer

You sound like a couple of 15 year olds.

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