My boyfriend of 5 years has never really been active on social media, and until recently only followed 50 people- male and female friends of his. He just recently launched his company, and wants to “grow his platform” for business purposes. I totally understand this, but he has only started following attractive women in our area. About a month ago I gently asked him why and he said he “likes their content and thinks they are the kind of girls who get cool opportunities”. I let him know if made me quite uncomfortable, but okay, please just mix in some males or other kinds of profiles so I’m more at ease.
He has continued to primarily follow only attractive women, but I decided not to bring it up again. He has never given me a reason not to trust him and is an amazing partner in every other way. He has re-assured me he loves me and isn’t looking elsewhere.
Anyways, a couple of nights ago we got in an argument (irrelevant to this post, but it was my mistake and he is quite upset with me). We didn’t resolve things and I texted him in the morning saying how much I love him. He didn’t respond to my message, and when I woke up the next morning I noticed he had followed yet another woman. It made me extremely upset to see that while ignoring my message, he was following other women. I voiced this to him and told him again how uncomfortable it makes me, that it makes me feel unworthy, not good enough, and like he’s looking elsewhere. I said this may be due to my own insecurities but I need him to know how it makes me feel, especially if it is happening while we’re going through a hard time. To this his response was “why don’t you trust me?” and “I am going to keep following who I want to follow, it is buisness”, with seemingly no regard or care for how I felt.
What should I do?
He has continued to primarily follow only attractive women, but I decided not to bring it up again. He has never given me a reason not to trust him and is an amazing partner in every other way. He has re-assured me he loves me and isn’t looking elsewhere.
Anyways, a couple of nights ago we got in an argument (irrelevant to this post, but it was my mistake and he is quite upset with me). We didn’t resolve things and I texted him in the morning saying how much I love him. He didn’t respond to my message, and when I woke up the next morning I noticed he had followed yet another woman. It made me extremely upset to see that while ignoring my message, he was following other women. I voiced this to him and told him again how uncomfortable it makes me, that it makes me feel unworthy, not good enough, and like he’s looking elsewhere. I said this may be due to my own insecurities but I need him to know how it makes me feel, especially if it is happening while we’re going through a hard time. To this his response was “why don’t you trust me?” and “I am going to keep following who I want to follow, it is buisness”, with seemingly no regard or care for how I felt.
What should I do?
