Is it normal to get tired of this after being together a little more over 2 years and feel this way?

[Anonymous]

Im tired of going to his house, sneakily having sex (that isn’t always fulfilling), and then having to leave to my house a few hours later. I’m starting to feel like I’m a sneaky link and im getting tired of it I just want to move in together and get married despite us being 20 and 24. I don’t understand how he’s so okay with this he has told me that he’s wanted to marry me since the first month of us being together. I want to start our lives together today I broke down in tears in front of him telling him that im tired of this and how us parting ways after sex makes me feel like im a sneaky link or something but I don’t think he understood I think to him he just saw it as me having a bad day.

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Im working full time he’s not

[Adam1978]

If you work full time and have your own place he should be the one coming over. No sneaking required.

[In_Trance]

So why don't you change it?

[Asker]

I mean I am working full time

[In_Trance]

ok... and?

[Asker]

How am I supposed to change it? I can’t be the one to propose and ask to move in

[In_Trance]

So why don't you start with the moving in? I don't get why you're sneaking around to begin with. Is this a cultural thing?

[Asker]

We can’t have sex in fromt of his parents

[Asker]

We always have to have sex in his room hoping that no one will catch us

[In_Trance]

Whatever works I guess. I don't know why you're sneaking around. You think they have no idea?

[Anonymous]

You know how to cook?

[Asker]

Yes I do and he does too

[Opinion Owner]

My guy asked me to move in but I said no cause I don't know how to cook & im embarrassed 😭 my mom didn’t teach me & I didn’t like her food growing up. I know how to cook some stuff but I want to know how to make more. I also wouldn’t want to make him comfortable since moving in is wifey privileges, I think it’s better to move in after marriage (my opinion) But it’s good you brought it up, follow up with him about it again and if he avoids it it’s up to you if you want to cut him out or not. But if he lives with his parents that’s probably why he hasn’t asked u to move in yet

[Opinion Owner]

Some girls who move in before marriage end up not getting the ring, after they realize it’s not working out. So that’s what I meant by not making him too comfortable and getting married first.

[Asker]

I want to do both get married and move in maybe i forgot to mention that. It’s kind of his fault for installing marriage in my head and bringing mg hopes up now he says that he wants to marry me in two years but I wonder why he doesn’t now other than for financial reasons i wonder why he’s not trying harder and why it seems like im the only one that wants to start a life with him soon. I told him “I want to start our life together” and he said “but we already are” this is not a life together sneaking in his house to have sex and only spending a few hours together cuddling

[Opinion Owner]

In his mind you guys are already starting a life together because he’s making time by spending it with you. And it’s likely due for financial reasons as well, rent is EXPENSIVE and he doesn’t work full time which he should. You can’t be the financial provider too, because you’ll likely be cooking and being his second mama once you move in. Try to be patient and follow up with him after today. All the best.

[Asker]

But is how i feel normal? I feel so sad i wish he could cuddle with me and we could spend the night but we’re not married he probably doesn’t understand how i feel because i lost my virginity to him but he has had 3 girlfriends before me and had sex with all of them so maybe im not that special to him

[Opinion Owner]

Don’t be sad! You’re definitely very special to him cause you lost your virginity to him. It’s because he told you these things and your expectations are high. He’s also very young still and the media makes it seem like marriage is a horrible idea. Men are worried about the wife leaving him and taking all he’s got. And to purchase a ring is expensive. But it’s likely due for financial reasons, just give it some time. (Not too much but yk what I mean) now that you brought it up he's definitely thinking about what he should do

[n4meAL]

🤣🤣🤣😂😂

[FTWorld]

Don't wait on marriage, most men don't marry anymore :/

[n4meAL]

I'm just asking nowadays is it true that there are men who think women should cook. as far as I know, almost all men nowadays can cook🤔🤔🤔

[Asker]

@n4meAL me and my boyfriend both like to cook

[n4meAL]

Waitt... I'll be back later... I want to take a bath first

[exitseven]

Maybe he is already married to somebody else.

[Asker]

No he’s not he’s 24 and lives with his parents he’s never been married before.

[exitseven]

he should be living on his own by now. then you won't have to sneak having sex.

[Asker]

He has 8,000 dollars and is trying to save 30,000 dollars dor us to move out

[exitseven]

Well, at least he has a plan. That is a good start.