Am I wrong for telling my boyfriend not to do things for his child’s mother that’s unrelated to there child?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend lied to me and told me to wake him up 5 In the morning so he could take his “cousin” to the airport but then a few days later he told me he was going to have his child for longer than he usually has her because his child’s mother was out of town i figured out he actually took her to the airport and not his cousin and I told him she shouldn’t be calling him to do things for her that’s unrelated to there child because they are not together anymore and he says I’m over reacting am I wrong?

[sunflower00]

I mean, you’re being a bit controlling. Maybe think about the child, it’s a good thing if the parents get on rather than him just having his daughter? (or son - i think you said daughter though) when he needs to and completely avoiding his kids mother. My parents got on after they split up, when my dad would drop me off at my mum’s he’d stop and chat, they would go to parents evening together, he would help her out when she needed help regarding her vehicle since he works in the motor industry, etc.


Since he has been with his new partner, things have changed a bit and it’s a lot more awkward for me. I feel like I can’t invite them to things at the same time, everything has to be done separate which is a bit inconvenient for everyone. Like, I’m moving into a new place soon but I’m only going to be able to have one of them help out at the weekend rather than both. And it’s awkward for me having to choose one. But there’s no hard feelings, my dad and his partner recently got covid and my mum offered to go grocery shopping for them and drive out to drop the stuff off, but he declined as his partner was probably uncomfortable with it.


Please, for the child’s sake, don’t be controlling

[SnakeBoop]

He shouldn't be needing to lie about it.
You shouldn't be trying to control him.

[20yearsolder]

I don't believe you are wrong, I can understand him getting up at 5:00 a. m. to get his daughter but she should have found her own way to the airport

[AviatorTom]

Yep, you are wrong. Why do you women think it's okay to control your guy?