Boyfriend told me he don’t want my child around his?

[Anonymous]

We recently moved in together the first week his daughter (3) came over she had stitches from falling and he told me he didn’t want my daughter (6) playing with his daughter until she was fully healed because she’s clumsy now she’s fully healed yesterday my daughter came into my room just to say hi to his daughter and he pulled me to the side and told me he didn’t want her playing with his daughter and now he closes my room door when he has his daughter here
Last week he even seemed bothered that she was just sitting down watching his daughter tablet with her

Is this a sign he don’t like my child?

[Anonymous]

This is your cue to get out of this relationship, and definitely living arrangement, before it gets worse. I don’t care about your feelings for him, this is about your daughter and how she doesn’t deserve to be bullied by a grown ass man living in her house. She’s a child and can’t choose or speak for herself, she’s completely dependent on you as her mother making choices that are in the best interest of her and being her voice. If you recently moved in together and there are already these sorts of issues then it’s doomed and the situation could escalate to him getting physically violent against her in the future. It’s not uncommon for stepkids to be hated and physically (and emotionally) abused by their stepdads/stepmoms. Many children have even been killed. Them having their own kids are no sign it won’t happen, actually the opposite - I’ve read some study that concluded abuse is even more likely in cases where the stepparent has their own child/children. Even if it doesn’t turn physical the emotional abuse and the dislike/hatred he feels for her will harm her permanently if you let it go on, and yes she will for sure notice no matter if keeps his mouth shut about his feelings or not. Kids pick up on everything.

[yucychan]

Yes, he doesn't like your daughter.
Go and talk with him and ask what's his problem.

[Anonymous]

Yes it is. You need to leave him immediately. Nonperson should ever put someone else before their child especially if it’s not even your child’s mother or father. If you continue to stay w him things will only get worse, possibly abuse w you making excuses for him as to why he treated your child that way. Fuck that dude. Walk!!! Don’t look back. There’s nothing to talk about, he’s not a good person.

[lofii]

Maybe he doesn't like her. Maybe it's gonna take some time to get used to her.

But you should monitor your kid yourself more as well. Who knows, she could be a viscous little monster.

I know someone's daughter who accidentally killed a cat.

[Asker]

No he never liked her he finally admitted that when we got into an argument he called her out of her name said she was dirty and he didn’t want her shitty hands touching his daughter he was never this way before he moved in he acted like he cared about her and always said he wanted us to be a family

[lofii]

Saying you want to be a family and actually doing it are 2 different things. Don't just let random people into your life or your daughters life.

How long have y'all been together?

[LikeALog]

You sleep in separate bedrooms? You with your daughter?
He doesn't want your daughter playing with his daughter?

Big red flag! Sounds like he doesn't want to be around your daughter.

[Asker]

Me my boyfriend and his daughter sleep in the same room and My daughter has her own room

[Asker]

And A few days ago before his daughter came over he told me he wanted to add a bed in my daughter room so his daughter can start sleeping on her own in a few months but now he’s acting like he doesn’t want my child near his

[LikeALog]

Are the two girls about the same age?

[LikeALog]

Seems he always has a reason to delay the two being together.

[boggboss]

Clearly or somthing is enough surly u should speak to him about this

[one1wild00]

Sounds like he is an overprotective helicopter parent.

[eblehe]

Wow that's a red flag.

[JoyGirl]

Yes, it is. Dip.

[clemdenim]

huge red flag