Would you stay with someone you loved, if they were hideously demformed in an accident?

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ohshee · Accepted Answer

I think you're totally depends on her I think it first it would be a struggle because it would be all negative from her point of view and I can understand that but if she could get past that I would stay when I fall in love with somebody it's not because of what they look like it's because of who they are what's it made of who they are on the inside that's the real person we all wear this little rubber body that means nothing really except it protects our soul our spirit and our energy but if she could find the confidence within her sure I would even though I know it would be tough at the very beginning but I'm pretty sure I can handle it I would want her to handle it though so I would I would give it my best shot and then again and again I wouldn't just walk away

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

I used to think my answer would be no for pretty much all of my life. But if I had a partner that I loved, I know I wouldn't leave them and I also know that it would hurt me very much if they forced me to leave them. So I think it's fair to not make a selfish decision and just let them make their own choice. I would say something along the lines of "Hey... I believe that physical attraction is a huge aspect of a relationship and I completely understand if you can't see yourself with me any longer. Don't feel obligated to stay with me due to the history we have. You have a whole life ahead of you. I will not force you to leave, but I will not ask you to stay. I will respect your decision regardless of what you choose."

Little_Bumblebee · Accepted Answer

Usually, people can get some to retrieve a lot of their looks after an accident.

My dad lost sight in one of his eyes, about 30% in the other, and he now has some metal plates in his face so he could keep the structure. You can only see it as his eyes seem a bit alternative and he has a scar on his face going from under his eye at the bridge of his nose, to down his cheek.

But yeah, I would stay with them as long as I could still recognize them. But it's difficult to say when you're not in that situation or haven't gone through it.

DermalPunch · Accepted Answer

Well if they became all miserablr and dumped their misery on me a d expected me to be miserable with them abiutnitnI would leave. But if we kept lines of communication and worked towards acewptance and positivity with patience yes I would stay. Why would I leave a loving relationship?

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I have not been in love with someone in 18 years so I do not know how I would act if I was in love.

Guy__ · Answer

I would've said yes but I'm saying double yes yes because I know "miracles" happen, (even look at bending and kneading spoons... many people do it with their first try, consciousnesses is the only reality) and after you've gone through this and their body is beautiful again, they'll love you even more than you did when choosing to stay.

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

I definitely would. I love my boyfriend from the inside and out. He'd still be beautiful in my eyes no matter what happened to him. I intend to grow old with him and that's means being there for each other no matter what and still loving each other even when are looks go

Pyrofox · Answer

If it was love on a level we planned before the accident to get married I'd probably just live in my fairy tale interpretation of them. And keep loving them. Its still ultimately them on a soul and mindset level. If anything I'd just make my hugs a little bit tighter just so they know I haven't left. them.

GagsUgliestMember · Answer

depends who and if im jus with them for looks or care about them, if i cared about them i might still be a friends with and talk to them, but its hard to be sexual or romantic with someone u find physically disgusting now, id want to keep my distance as mean as that sounds,
im jus a visual guy, can't help it.

but if i was jus with the girl for her looks i wouldn't even want a friendship after, i jus wouldn't bothered for anything, id jus ghost her lol

Kaneki05 · Answer

Of course. When you love someone it's not just a easy thing to walk away nvm for that reason, if you can then that wasn't love just lust and if it was just lust then just be dating. Not 'together' together.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Yes of course! I certainly wouldn't abandon them when they needed me the most!

HeartFullOfGlue · Answer

Yeah As long as it didn't cause a drastic change in behavior (Like if they started acting aggressive, controlling, or abusive) I'd stay with them.

brriaannna · Answer

I definitely would. I feel like looks shouldn't really matter if you love a person. As long as the love is genuine and you feel as if you can be with them and the relationship is worth your while, I'd stay in it. Don't think too much about what other people may think of you and your relationship because at the end of the day, it's YOUR relationship not theirs.

sage2021 · Answer

If we were married and loved each other I would stay with him. Maybe even if we weren't married by t loved each other I would be by his side and take care of him.

Squaresquirrel · Answer

I am saying yes now as if I loved them, I would be by their side. But it also depends on how that someone would change. An accident like that can change a person.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

I love him for his personality not for looks. Of course I will stay with him. I will try to help him get better by plastic surgery and stuff too so he won't feel insecure.

slatyb · Answer

I would stay with my wife. I'm sure she would do the same for me. If I were physically incapacitated I would tell her that it would be ok with me if she found another sexual partner.

linka_pat307 · Answer

Yeah coz they need love , care and being wanted to heal and move on in life

glowingrachel · Answer

Yea most likely. Unless they change as a person I wouldn't consider leaving someone because of them becoming deformed.

Nata2496 · Answer

Of course. In fact I would want to be with him more, so that I could take care of him when he needed me.

DizzyDesii · Answer

If we were married, yes. If unmarried then yes if they consider getting plastic surgery sometime that same year. If not, then no

garykingg · Answer

Yes, when I love someone I love someone not for her looks but for the person that she is.  I have yet to meet a remarkable person.  I don't think I will, but that's fine by me.  Amor Fati.

crossdressingrihno · Answer

Hideously? No of course not However if they got fairly nasty burn on their face or something less then sure why not

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Its easy for me to say I would stay, having not experienced a situation like this before but I really dont know honestly.

StrawberryShake · Answer

Definitely. Even if I wasn't sexually attracted to him afterwards, I could never live with myself if I left him after he went through something traumatic, and only for superficial reasons at that.

glennos89 · Answer

Terrible thing to imagine 🙈 But yes I would stay with that girl because I love her for who she is and for how she looks like ♥️

IM_SAM2 · Answer

If i truly love him Never leave him in any condition. In such time he need me more

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yes I would but I have to be honest if I met them that way we would've never been together but if we wad together already and I loved them and they were in a accident and got that way I'd stay with them

anton_dee · Answer

For me love is all about personality, character and morals of the person. Looks matter, but not at all over other traits. So if she disfigured, so be it.

expiredbraincells · Answer

Yes. I fell in love with your mind. your looks are a just a bonus

DWornock · Answer

No because they are no longer what I was attracted to. Of course it is not their fault, but it is not a matter of fault, if is a matter of fact.

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

I would. Looks are not everything. The beauty of a soul is so much more.

Paul09 · Answer

Honestly I have no clue. I've never been in love. Hard to say. But on paper , if you truly loved them, you'd always be there for them.

InstantKarma194 · Answer

I obviously will stay with a girl like that cause if that ever happened to a girl I love, I would feel responsible to take the best care of her as possible in my opinion.

whiskeyontherocks · Answer

Well I stay with my self and I was accidental born sooo….

Chthou95 · Answer

Most people would feel pressured to stay out of the backlash they might receive. Physical attraction and looks are important

Jeansnowstarkbastard · Answer

Yes i would definitely stay with them unless they wanted me to leave then i won't force it.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah I didn't fall for what they looked like I fell for their heart, brain and soul

Tomatotom90 · Answer

no we petty and shallow. But if we did it would be out of guilt and wed cheat on them too

Anonymous · Answer

If she can still recognize me I would maybe stay. She would probably leave me because I would joke how it's like censored porn

sunflower00 · Answer

Absolutely I would stay with him

ChiTownLov · Answer

Absolutely. Love is deeper than looks

daisy56 · Answer

Yes definitely!! Through everything!!

EmmaMary · Answer

Absolutely right I would.

AviatorTom · Answer

Yes. Love conquers all.

exitseven · Answer

If I was married I would. If not I am undecided.

Agape93 · Answer

Depends on the deformity.

Still-alive · Answer

Yes! i'd do everything to help her too

KatherineJ · Answer

Yep I would. Love is deeper than physical looks.

Mark987 · Answer

Yes... it's called love

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Yes, love is most important. Period

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

If married then yes, otherwise no.

Mahmoud_Madyan · Answer

Of course I will!! ❤️

Zygum · Answer

No, I will find other

Anonymous · Answer

No... But we could be friends. 🤣

Belgie · Answer

Of course

dustybiker · Answer

Of course.

NathanDavis · Answer

Yes.

BlckGrl · Answer

Absolutely

JoyGirl · Answer

Yes, I would.

TheLastRhodesian · Answer

Nope.

OddBeMe · Answer

Not the tits? Right? They’re ok?

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes….

Babygirl_S · Answer

Of course.

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