If you were stressed and overwhelmed, would you still like a daily text?

[Anonymous]

The man I’m dating is ridiculously stressed, to the point that I’m actually worried about him, and he has withdrawn from me (still replies to my texts, but as soon as there is a question of seeing him or a flirty text he doesn’t respond) I’m an hour away so we don’t see each other much.

I offered to come stay this week but he said he has to study as he’s going away the next weekend with his kids and will only fall further behind otherwise (I’m fine with that, I do understand) and I replied saying as much and then said I hope we can get together soon, in the meantime least try and have some texting fun, I’m sure you like to see me naked as much as I like to see you... and he never replied.

When we are together, we enjoy each other but since he’s been stressed he makes no effort and has told me I was all he thought about in the beginning and then everything in his life got hard and he can’t think about me atm.

I’m trying to be patient because I hope this will work long term but I do miss him and like to talk to him but i am always the one to initiate contact and I don’t know if he wants to hear from me everyday. (Note- it’s not like I text all day, I’ll send a text and if he replies we will have a bit of a chat but if he doesn’t respond I won’t text back all day, maybe something that night or the next morning)

[AmandaYVR]

Everyone is different. And every two people have a different and unique dynamic. And feelings change as life's circumstances change.

My advice to you is to give him some space and time. He already knows you are thinking about him. Sounds like you don't need to tell him that again or more. Tell him you understand, and you are here when he needs you or feels like talking, or doesn't want to talk but would like a nice distraction.

I appreciate when people reach out. The fact that they care matters to me. But it also can add pressure to respond sometimes.

Let him come to you. He's made it clear he can't fit you into his mind right now.

[wassim97]

Well it’s important to tell him how you feel you can’t stay on hopes if tell him that ur bothered by this and you care about him and want to be in his side to help him if he doesn’t want you in his life anymore let him tell you

[spartan55]

You cannot sustain any sort of relationship online... it just doesn't work..

[Asker]

We do see each other in person as well. But only once a week or fortnight. I just don’t know if I should let him be for a few days and not text him if he feels like I am just another obligation on top of everything else atm

[spartan55]

Doesn't sound like a relationship if it's being labeled as an obligation.

[Wise4myage]

Yes, but it would depend on what was in the text.

[guyinterested]

i'd like it