Do you feel no matter how stressed or busy a person is they should respond to a simple text if they want to be in your life?
Would depend how well we know eachother. If we’re actually together I would expect them to reply within a decent amount of time and not hours later. if we aren’t together and just in a talking phase than no. I use to buy into the whole if a guy doesn’t text consistently everyday then fuck him and I don’t want that, but that kind of mindset is rooted in codependency, insecurity, fear of abandonment. We have our phones 24/7 a day but just cause of that fact I don’t think its right to assume that they should automatically be accessible at all hours of the day, screams lack of boundaries. And on top of that men who consistently text too early into getting to know eachother is a red flag for me. Somebody who texts you off the bat are after a feeling. That’s why love bombers do what they do, they’re not genuinely trying to get to know you or build a authentic relationship with a healthy foundation. They’re after that dopamine hit and validation that’s why they do all these things inclusive of texting 24/7 because it forces the intimacy of a relationship.
@smashleyy I have been seeing this guy for 2 months. We aren’t in an exclusive relationship but see each other almost every week and not seeing anyone else. He made it clear from the start how busy he is. He works a full time job and works in events on the weekend. I’m busy too so I accepted that. In the past I have been love bombed so I know it’s not cool and rather someone give me space.. that’s why I was happy with the arrangement..
He went through a pretty horrible and stressful experience the other week. And I asked him if he wasn’t comfortable with me to let me know. Took him time to reply so I sent a follow up text. He replied, so sorry I was busy don’t think like that. Then I haven’t heard from him in 1’week so yesterday I sent a message text asking if he was uncomfortable with me.. don’t know why I sent that again since he already said he is fine.. yeah can’t expect people to drop everything. Especially if they have gone through a rough time.
@smashleyy hopefully he likes me enough and understand that us women overthink..
@smashleyy I want to avoid being one of those demanding women. Because he has dealt with demanding women in the past. Plus he is a busy guy. If he doesn’t want to reply then that’s on him. I’ll leave him be. But yeah like I said he has gone through a stressful situation and I need to be more understanding. It’s not like I needed the answer to an important question.
That's how one of my friendships ended. I was going through a hard time and texted her about it. Three days went by and no text back. So I texted her again letting her know how I was always there for her through sicknesses, etc. And now, this time I need some encouragement. Then I asked if she was dissing me. She finally texted me back and said she would pray for me, but that was it.
Sounds hypocritical to me.
There went a friendship that started in 1967 and ended with a lousey text in 2021.
Yes, honestly in today's world, its super hard for me to believe that you don't have 30 seconds to respond to text... unless you really just don't want to. And if you are really that busy, and everything else you are doing is that important that you can't. Well, honestly you have too much going on in your life to be dating someone like me.
It's a very commonly accepted fact that about 90% of texts are read within the first two minutes of receiving them. Even if they are not read, the person at least looks to see who the sender was. In that moment they are making the conscious choice not to reply... over time that's an issue to me.
I think most dating experts would tell you not to stress to hard over the fact you are not getting immediate reply's... but if hours are pasting pretty consistently and pattern of behavior is developing that is causing you anxiety... trust your instincts and consider finding someone that is willing to put in the required time you feel you deserve.
It's not even dating... it is the same with friends. You can always acknowledge the other person, free of charge. And I am saying that as someone who works 24h shifts and can't reply on duty.
I still make sure to get back to people and to notify them when I am unavailable due to work. It's not that hard.
Sure. But if I don’t respond because I ghost on days I’m in my darkest depression, and you want to cut me…that’s cool.
That’s hard, so sorry. Yes that needs to be taken into account. What if they are going through depression
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Um…. Depends. If it’s not important and they’re busy ir asleep. Leave to me alone. You probably don’t like it being down to you.
If someone ignores you for days…. Yeah that’s a problem.
But if you think someone should respond immediately to you. I’m sorry but that entitled behavior will chase people out of your life.
At the same time if someone responds days later…. It’s like I send that days ago why are you just responding to this? Yeah that’s weird.
People are glued to their phones. If they don’t respond, they are not into you. The one who likes you will make time.
It depends on how many fires there are to put out. Just means the response will take longer. Obviously, if a coworker has a heart attack, and some girl wants to flirt, I'll tell her something came up, and I'll get back to her later.
@ObscuredBeyond But you still say SOMETHING. That is the point.
@FireFox001 : That's true. I can't always respond to everything in a moment, but I don't give up. I might get distracted, but I don't forsake like nothing was ever anything.
I'd generally agree with that
@avicenna what if they are going through a hard time?
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Well of course. And that person will do so. If they are in or want to be in your life.. but always remember. Sometimes there are things that might make it impossible to do so
I was talking with someone I had just got a phone maybe. I had it for a month. I dropped it broke the screen .. it still worked tho. Just hard to read any way held off on texting this person or calling for 2 days went and got a new phone . Mean while for the last past mo th we had got over 47 Inch of snow. And that day we had a big down pour of rain so we were in a scramble to put up sandbags well I had dropped my phone and I didn't know about it as I was doing sandbags then two days later I went and got another phone and dropped it again in the water and lost it so I mean things do happen stupid things LOL things you should know better have you been doing but still anyway it's a guy likes you he's going to be in contact with you no matter what but that's when you have to be patient and not get pissed off and send him a message stating don't ever call me again like I said things happen but anyway I guess it all depends on what type of relationship it is
I don't know, this is something I have a lot of trouble with because I'm a bad texter. I barely look at my phone through the day and until recently, I've always been afraid that if I text back immediately, I'm going to get too busy to respond or the fact I'm working will make me forget. I feel like I'm being disrespectful if I text back and I'm not free to have a back and forth conversation.
Or when someone sends me a video and I can't play it with sound until hours later.
If it's someone you're dating, then you have to send at least a little something. And when you see them just let them know you were busy.
"Center this is United 48 heavy declaring an emergency. We have an engine fire and need an immediate approach clearance into Chicago and... sorry have to answer a text".
"Members of the board, that is why I think you should consider investing in Cyberdyne systems, ... sorry have to answer a text".
"9...8...7...6...5.. Main engine start...4...3.. Hold, incoming text".
"Mr president, we are tracking multiple inbound targets that appear to be a missile launch... wait I have text".
No, I don't. Heck they don't even have to respond to me when doing absolutely nothing - if they not in the mood to be social, I know they'll text me when they can and want too.
Just like me - I can be scrolling on my phone and not want to communicate with people.
NO! Especially if it is work hours as you are stealing time. Equally you shouldn't immediately respond to every email that crosses your desk top. Your efficiency is badly impacted as you lose focus. It is as pronounced as having no sleep or being a little drunk.
The best way of managing this is to allocate specific periods of the day to emails. I don't know why we wouldn't do the same for texts. Plus texts and emails are inefficient in complex nuanced conversations - voice is better. And if everyone always responds they don't terminate.
I'd expect a friend or date to show some respect for my work life.
Depends!
If it’s someone you’re dating or you’re romantically involved with, then yes.
If it’s anybody else, no. Mobile phones have given us access to everyone all the time and to feel entitled to people’s time is just unfair. A lot of the time people are busy or going through whatever they’re going through and it’s not fair to expect them to drop everything when they get a text. HOWEVER, I think the gap needs to be reasonable like a few days. And there should always be an apology or explanation. I get overwhelmed or busy a lot and I always apologise when getting back to my friends like, “hey I’m sorry I’ve been so busy with work” or “i wasn’t feeling well.” It’s not that hard and it’s literally free of charge to be a respectful and kind human being. I can’t do arrogant people anymore I’m sorry lol.
No. There are times where I don't have time to be on my phone and don't have time to do small talk. I expect everyone to understand that. I can't be on my phone 24/7 and that doesn't mean I don't like you or don't want to talk to you I'm just busy.
u Yes. If they don’t want to talk or they’re too busy to chat, they can tell you so. There’s no reason not to message someone back unless you don’t want to be in their life.
@petitedollbabee what if they are going through a hard time?
Then they can tell you that they don’t want to talk and that they’ll talk to you when they’re feeling up to it.
See sometimes I would be really busy at the moment and not respond but that is because she would just keep on and keep o Texting and then forget but always would text back if nit right away then it would be within a few hours but these days that butch won't even respond sometimes, she opens them and I don't know if she even reads them but it will show active if on messenger and she don't even look at them so if they don't respond back period it may be because they are a narcissist because come to find out after years of being together my wife is a narcissist.
I think they should respond by the end of the day.
But rushing them to answer or sending multiple texts may make you look needy or imature. Just wait if they dont answer or apologize to you for not answering the text. Then maybe you are not a priority in their lives.
A text message is an intrusion into my day demanding immediate attention. You should only text me if you need me and the need is time critical. Don’t demand a response (finger tapped on that terrible glass keyboard!) if it’s not important.
I do reserve the right to ignore a text message that didn’t need to be sent in that format.
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Also, I don’t “feel” anything on this subject. I have thoughts about your question, not “feelings.” I don’t mind sharing my thoughts. If you texted me asking my “feelings” about something, I’d probably ignore that message.
You need to remember that you aren't the only busy person in the world. Everyone around me, including even me now, who used to be impatient, usually takes anywhere from 15 minutes to 2 hours, sometimes longer to respond simply because we have a lot to do and our focus is constantly shifting. In an overwhelmong majority of times, give them the benefit of the doubt and just let it go if they respond late. They will appreciate you for it and see that patience is a virtue of yours.
To an extent, yes. It really depends on the circumstances and the type of relationship you have with the other person. You can't expect people to just drop whatever they're doing to text you back right away and you shouldn't be expected to drop what you're doing to respond immediately either.
With the exception of death in the immediate family or the person being debilitated for some reason beyond their control, a quick reply isn't too much to ask. I mention these exceptions because we have just seen both of these in the last couple of weeks when friend of ours had a heart attack when driving his car to fetch their dog that had broken loose. Never answered because the car crashed- died instantly.
Omg that’s horrible.. sorry to hear that.. yeah you never know what someone is going through
Yes, but not instantly. It's ridiculous to expect someone else's life to stop because you sent a text.
Sorry, my stress levels will always trump someone else's need for validation. I grew up in a world before everyone had my GPS coordinates instantly. In fact when my brother was killed it took two hours for my parents to find me.
Frankly, it was a better world and we had infinitely more freedom than we do today.
Respond, yes. But this idea turned into a demand of texting back within seconds, and then into a while day of random texts that we must drop everything for in an instant.
If you've never done a task that requires your full mental and physical attention, it's hard to understand that "simple 5-second texts" can cost you a few minutes worth of work each.
No and the way you phrase it is so manipulative aswell. Maybe if you want someone in your life you could take a second to think about them instead of your own wants and needs
@keishio best answer. Yep.. I need to take a second to think about him instead of my own wants and needs.
The answer should be yes but let look at reality. Being stressed is tired. Being busy make you loss energy that you ever forget to eat. At the end of day, you don't have enough capacity to care about yourself. So don't be mad or start thinking nonsense when someone is too busy he/she didn't ever text you. Just be a supportive partner and try to understand their situation. Keep sending messages to them to motivate your partner and try not to be too pushy.
Yes.
Now pick up the rocket launcher and do what you should have done 6 hours ago.
A possible misunderstanding? Nobody got time for that.
We embrace our German energy and step on the gas here……
The world war 1 Germans. Not the world war 2 Germans. I hate those guys.
No, not necessarily. I have learned that even best friend relationship groups needs a break and they will get to you as soon as they can. There could be all types of reasons why a person is not able to answer right away. I only get offended or concerned if it’s more than a week.
The thing is, I have a lot of friends. It's hard to respond to each one of them everyday especially when I'm feeling stressed or overwhelmed with my studies. As much as I'd love to, it's just difficult mentally.
Yes. I like quick replies and am talkative guy myself. So I expect that
@yourexlover69 what if they are going through a hard time?
So what. They can still reply later or as quick as possible
No. A lot of people use a simple text as a way to bombard you with multiple texts. I've been super busy and knew if I would respond then they would take ot as an invite for more texts. I'll respond when I have time or the mental energy to deal.
Sometimes you are just too dam busy , I think that circumstance should be respected , otherwise its overbearing.
Yes, even if you don't want to talk you should say something.. so the other person knows.. like I honestly don't get when people don't like you but they leave you hanging. Just say no I don't like you stop talking to me.
There is a very easy explanation to this behaviour. Will share l8r from a real keyboard.
So. The reason for this is that they still see some "utility" in you. They are hesitant to leave, because "what if you could prove to be useful one day?".
This is one of the most toxic behaviours on the planet. If you recognise this, just flip the table, say fuck it, and leave.
Whole bunch of drama you are putting on... texting...🙄
Yes, they could send a simple message exactly how you just worded it. Communication is only hard when they don’t want to communicate with you. That’s the way I feel about it.
Yeah. And it does not have to be instantanious. But being left on seen or not replying for a day or two signals that they really don't care. Found it out the hard way.
A person? I don’t care.
my SO? I call.
my family/close friends - I call.
even my co workers. I call.
text? What’s that? Like here? We are strangers.
Naw man... when I was busy killing people under the cover of darkness and hiding their bodies... I didn't respond to my chick's texts either. I simply didn't have time for that.
Well, within reason. Up until my current job, it was generally not plausible to respond to a text during work hours except during a bathroom break.
Well, no matter how busy I am, or how demotivated I feel, or how much of a bad time I'm going through, I will always text my fav people back, no matter what. It literally takes few seconds!!!
So if someone's taking hours/days to text you back or if they leave you on seen for a long time until they text back, you don't mean much/anything to them. You ain't a priority! 🤷🏽♀️
So I would suggest not to waste your time on people like that! And hey, also, reciprocate the same energy! 🙃
If I’m busy or stressed I turn on airplane mode.
Real friends talk to each other and don't waste time with texting.
People are great at coming up with excuses to why you didn't rely and I am equally skilled and blocking such individuals and finding new friends.
There you have it, you are what you put up with
Yes, and if its an SO, I'd want to respond, because I like company while I'm busy, and because she would be a source of stress reduction.
No we shouldn't have a phone as a required company.
Sometimes people are so held back that they never do. It's frustrating yes. Like example across the country or overseas just kinda forget. But life goes in what can you do 🫤🙂
Relationships should have rules for communication. Discuss these things with your partner at the beginning. Lay down your expectations and come to an agreement.
That doesn't seem like too much to ask.
@trueconfection what if they are going through a hard time?
We all get busy and we all go through difficulties. How long have you been waiting for a reply? A simple text should get a simple response within a day or two.
No, not at all. There is a difference between making no effort to answer people and having to always be at their beck and call.
not if you are the type to message constantly. Responding to a text just causes mountains more.
Nope. I think people make far too big of a deal about texts.
I know I would, but I've seen people so overwhelmed by stress that they can barely move. So because of that, I must say, "No."
It only takes a couple minutes to respond to a text. If they really cared they would try to keep in contact with you
It's a simple text won't take that much time form me there is no excuse
Definitely, no matter how much the person is busy they can out a few moments of their time for the people they care about.
Of course. They choosing not to
@aoihewgf what if they are going through a hard time?
If they ghost you over 6 months, being busy is no longer a valid excuse.
Unless they honestly just forgot about the text, yeah, a simple text is the bare minimum
I do, however maybe not instantaneously.
But it's inappropriate, juvenile and misleading for adults to act in that
manner.
Yes of course they should
@iron_man what if they are going through a hard time?
I’m not obligated to text somebody back, if me not replying as you wish - then it must be important; call me and don’t light matches.
No. The world doesn't revolve around you.
Agreed even if it short let them know you’ll respond when you’re ready.
Yes, it does not take too much time to respond.
it depends, it's not always easy to answer
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