My friend says, his wife snoops through his phone.. what should I say to him?

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Why are the females too nosy, do they expect all males to be open. Why is it so important? Does it mean...

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

Your phone is, sort of, like your journal. There's no reason for a wife, partner, girlfriend, boyfriend to be reading your journal. No reason for any of them to be looking through your phone.

If a spouse IS looking through your phone, something's wrong and you need to sort it out on the spot. I'm guessing this hasn't happened before. What's changed?

I'm thinking of my own phone. There's nobody in there who would worry anyone on any account. No dic pics, no numbers of questionable characters/lovers/drug dealers. If a spouse is looking through your phone, there is some lack of trust going on for some reason.

My son broke up with a girl because he did this precise thing. I was embarrassed and angry with him and told him I'd break up with him too. It was a complete breach of privacy and etiquette. And it WAS about him not trusting her. No apology worked. But he certainly knew he'd fucked up because of the breakup and my reaction.

Even if you have suspicions. This isn't the way to go about working out this problem...
Really.

whereismyjohnny · Accepted Answer

I voted D.

Snooping on someone's phone is not okay. If they give you permission and let you use it, okay I guess (Although I wouldn't do it even then. It's his phone. I would feel uncomfortable even using his phone to check up weather app or whatever lol).

DWornock · Accepted Answer

All women snoop. It is in their DNA so it is impossible for them to NOT snoop. He should know that. Cell phones have secure methods of protection such as a fingerprint or drawing a pattern required to open. Tell him to use them.

If she is technically competent there are methods to access many cell phones. In that case he should store anything she doesn't have a need to know on the internet that only he can access and then quickly and every time (before he sets the phone down) delete from his cell phone. Even if a women snoops every day for 20 years (they all will) and never finds anything she will still continue to snoop everyday.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

I'd tell him to keep his phone in a place where she can't snoop through it. Privacy is important and he should tell her that. If she gets upset about that, then she should ask for her phone so he can snoop through it. I'm wondering if she would agree to that.

moonlikefire · Answer

He wouldn’t be bothered by it if he wasn’t hiding something. Simple as that. I never checked my partners phone before. Then he cheated on me. And now i check it sometimes since we’re still together. And he gets super defensive about it. I know he’s hiding stuff, but I’m not in a financial position to leave him. But yeah if a man is so worried about his girl going though his phone, he’s 100% hiding something or cheating. If my partner asked to see my phone I’d hand it over no questions asked.

JoyGirl · Answer

Depends on the couple, tbh.
My boyfriend doesn’t care what I do with his phone, and I also don’t care if he wants to go through mine. 🤷🏾‍♀️
I am the only one with a code on mine, because I grew up with a family that didn’t give me privacy. If he wants the code, I will give it to him. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Gloree · Answer

He has no right to snoop through her phone. She has no right to do thesame.

At thesame time, you won't blame some partners. The snooping is sometimes caused by suspicious behaviour. After all, a toad does not run during the day for nothing. Either it is pursuing something or something is pursuing it.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't even lock my phone so I couldn't care less if a girlfriend wanted to go through it.
I don't cheat, I don't keep old text conversations with friends or family. I just delete them, not that they're full of secrets anyway.
If she did see any porn i checked out, it probably wouldn't be a surprise to her.
The female Pornstars would probably look similar to her because I have a type.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

It shows lack of trust His wife doesn't trust him.

Anonymous · Answer

She is insecure, and she could be straying herself, so she assumes the husband is doing the same, if he has nothing to hide just leave his phone unlocked when at home and have no dubious apps on his phone.
Then he asks to see her phone, they are married, there should be a quid pro quo,
if she looks through his phone, then he should be able to look through hers, if she baulks at it she is hiding something.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

No idea, personally I don't need privacy, I add my mans finger print to my phone and mine to his, why would either of us have anything to hide from the other? if so maybe we shouldn't be together.

Ghen30 · Answer

Send him dick pics and hope she sees them and doesn't assume he's cheating on her with a woman? xD I don't know Just ignore me.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Depends on their relationship. Maybe your friend is ok with this. Also, how do you know she's snooping?

TheFlak38 · Answer

well he made the mistake to sign the slavery contract called marriage. He should stay in the plantation now like a good slave.

SnakeBoop · Answer

Her feeling the need to snoop is a red flag. But while he ponders how much of a flag it is, if he has nothing to hide, he wouldn't care?

rosegirl08 · Answer

Every relationship is different. But if you aren't comfortable with then looking through your phone, then they have no right to

dustybiker · Answer

Trust is earned. Be open. Prove you are. Fully against snooping though.

Twalli · Answer

The problem with looking through your SO's phone is that you already don't trust them. If you find nothing you just assume that they're good at hiding it.

BraveRiver · Answer

Have you figured out how to tell her about that smell/taste she has? or are you going to wait it out and hope it just goes away?

zagor · Answer

Bad sign. Most of the women I've known who were always on about their husband cheating on them were in fact the ones who wound up cheating.

Iron_Man · Answer

Let her do that most wives are concerned even if you’re innocent and if you have nothing to hide don’t worry about it

genericname85 · Answer

well i'd tell him that the most important pillar of their relationship is lacking: trust.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

She is projecting, start digging through her phone.

Pudsmucker · Answer

I too have friend that his wife through phone. She has trust issues.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

privacy is a must, men dont want commitment because of the extreme control some women want

driven159 · Answer

there is trust issues there are they for a reason or not

LilLove96 · Answer

Yes h they have every right to look but should not have to he either fears cheating or one of them is

Anonymous · Answer

Its abusive control. Most women do this because they know what they get up to on their phones and assume men do the same on our phone.

jimmy2 · Answer

It's no problem for me just don't be lusting over girls

Anonymous · Answer

Shouldn’t need to look through his phone because that just looks like she doesn’t trust him

Anonymous · Answer

Tell him to tell her that he is an adult and he is not obligated to compromise his privacy for her or for anyone.

CarolineW · Answer

I'd say "Secure it with a passcode, idiot"

slatyb · Answer

That would be deal-breaker for me.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Its a bad sign. But what has he got to hide?

MelonJuice · Answer

That's a serious invasion of privacy

Anonymous · Answer

It's option D for sure.

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