Girls, is it bad if a guy is in his 30s and never kissed a girl or had sex or a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Should guys that reach that age only date younger girls? Maximum age 20-22. Minimum age equals age of consent or girl looks like an adult.

Yes

No

[IMuser]

The simplest way to be would gain some experience: let's assume this guy in question did not have the luck and time to spend his teens and twenties working on themselves (or studying and putting finances at a higher priority). If the 30 year old has a decent financial situation, then the best solution is to pay for sex at "reputed" brothels (by reputed, I mean legal and where appropriate testing for sexual infections are available)

I am sure you would be feeling ashamed regarding brothels and stuff. The feeling of "am I so miserable that i can't get into a relationship or seduce a girl to have sex with me so I have to pay for it". Yes, you are that miserable. Due to various reasons, you never experienced all this. In contrast, you have things which now allow you to explore this world. Get familiar with women and your own sexuality by paying, experimenting, reading and everything possible.

For finding virgin girls, it totally depends on where you live: if you live in a culture where sexual pleasure is openly encouraged, the chances are similar. If you are in a region where the principles of religion are followed, high chances. All you gotta do is look. You have the experience due to brothels (or other means) and now have nothing to be afraid to.

[Asker]

No, I would be against paying for sex and I can't do sex within relationships. I would be trying to get a girlfriend in countries which are like everywhere else because most girls anywhere in the world start having sex ar 14-16 but I really want a girlfriend that is a virgin.

[FilmGuy93]

A lot of women will see that as a bad thing, yes. You're starting to get to the age where people will hear that you're a virgin and never had a girlfriend and they'll wonder why. It's not necessarily that they will assume being in your situation is an inherently a bad thing; it's that they won't know what to make of it.

The problem with people wondering why you haven't dated at all is that they also know it's not really any of their business. So rather than asking probing questions into your personal business that might make you uncomfortable, they are more likely to just distance themselves from you to avoid a socially awkward situation.

[courtney06]

I know a couple of guys like that. Quite handsome and intelligent too. Their minds are focused elsewhere as they don't find any significance in romance or messing around at the moment. At first I found it odd but I just respect where they are. Some people start much later in life and would rather wait until they have their lives together.

[Asker]

Thank you for the opinion. I really thought about trying to mess around and I even turned down an opportunity once after I relocated to another country. I just don't want to risk STDs and I really would like a long-term relationship because I don't want to invest time, money, and energy for something short-term or that doesn't have long-term potential. I sort of see my life as fine and if I add anyone to it, it needs to be mutually beneficial or enhance my life in some way that is lacking.

[Anonymous]

no.. but if he ever wants it he should probably change his approach to have a fair chance

[Asker]

What are some things you might recommend a guy change? Imagine the guy guy really wants a virgin and isn't interested in girls over 20-22 years old. He doesn't want a girl that is too experienced compared to him.

[Opinion Owner]

if he keeps beeing stuck on a certain age then I'd work on that. That seems the most limiting to me

[Asker]

Yes but no girl will be a virgin past 18 and most girls are too experienced by 20-22. If a guy dates older the he will be dating girls with too much experience. It's bad for a guy with no experience to date a girl with amateur pornstar level experience.

[Opinion Owner]

some girls past 18 are virgin, I was personally 22 the first time.
amateur pornstar level experience? what are you talking about?
some women at 30 only had 1-2 partners, some are also still virgin like you.

[JBlade]

No, there are many people who haven’t done that stuff by that age. A lot of those people aren’t on this platform though cause this is GAG lol. Majority of the user base is people who are relationship/sex focused and do this stuff irl constantly.

[UniquelyBasic]

Its definitely strange to not have had anything relationship wise by age 30 and it would raise red flags for me personally but everyone moves at their own pace.

[Asker]

What if the guy was raised in America and couldn't get friends or a relationship? And the guy really wants a virgin and to go to other countries because he didn't like the available options, and isn't interested in girls over 20-22 years old?

[UniquelyBasic]

Living in America isn't a good excuse and its still strange but people can live their lives however they want. Live your best life.

[Asker]

Yes but girls in America are extremely picky, interested in hookup culture, and has a high overweight/obesity rate. Also, they won't be virgins.

[UniquelyBasic]

I dont know what to tell you then. Its just the way it is.