Do you really like super busy men?

[Anonymous]

Half of the times girls complain that their boyfriends aren't interested. Others say it's a turnoff when they care too much.

It's a turn off when I text him and he replies instantly every time

It's a turn off when I text him and he doesn't reply for a whole day

I'm a guy

A total of 19 votes were cast: 10 girls and 9 guys. See detailed results

[Smoke-n-Growls]

What's super busy mean?

Like, working during the day and maybe 2-3x a week he's got stuff going on after work before he comes home to me?

No problem. I work during the day and 2-3x a week like to have activities that take me outta the house or keep me busy.

I prefer a man with a life to someone who either doesn't work and doesn't have hobbies, or someone who works but then just goes home to sit on the couch.

[Asker]

I'm talking about every other questions on this site, to get a clear solution for all of them. Is it a turn off if he replies as soon as he could? Do some girls really want us to make you wait by ignoring for any period of time?

If all he does is couch he'd probably be unattractive in person anyway, regardless of how good he seems when texting.

So is waiting to pretend that you're busy ever a good thing?

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Everyone is different and everyone has unique expectations.

There's no use in coming up with hypothetical answers - the REAL answer is "whatever works for you and your partner".

Personally, I like to respond to people I love as quickly as I feel able. Or as quickly as needed if it's a logistics thing.

But if I'm working, busy, or not in a good place to have a proper conversation, I'll wait to respond. If it might take a while and my cadence in response time is changing, I might give a heads up.

Just be genuine.
If that means responding right away, good. If that means taking your time to make sure you put together a message you're satisfied with, good.

But be you. The last thing someone interesting in dating you wants is for you to pretend to be someone you're not. Because, again, they're choosing to date YOU. As you are.

[Asker]

I fully agree with you. There's just a ton of stuff even on this site about people ignoring their partners trying to attract them, which is nonsense to me.

[Anonymous]

No, but if he is in a busy it's still possible to prioritise such as a simple text. Not having time to send a message is 99 % of the time bullshit.

[Asker]

That's what I'm talking about. And it's never a turn off for you when you're cared about, is it?

[Opinion Owner]

don't think so.. did not experience that and cannot imagine it either

[Vendela]

Why is "I'm a guy an option"? You know there's such thing as gay men right? 😂
Anyway, it's a turn off if I'm their last concern.

[Asker]

That's what I always think, yet so many men on the internet say you're unattractive by caring about women, that women only start caring about them when they get more selfish.

[Asker]

We are on girlsaskguys, not on guysaskguys. com

[Vendela]

Huh?

[Asker]

Plus gays can click one of the first two options.

[Vendela]

Mmkk

[Flower7]

I’d rather him respond fast than slow.

[Asker]

That's what I always thought, but other internet guys tell us not to appear needy.