I've been seeing a guy for little over two months. 3 weeks ago he was out with his friends and wanted me to come home to him. He said he would rather be with me than with them. While we lay in his bed and cuddle, he was drunk and in the middle of a conversation he said that the reason why he was unsure of us was because he had been hurt earlier and did not want to go through that again.
On Monday I went to his house and mentioned that he said this, which he does not remember. We had a long conversation where he said he did not want a relationship right now. He like me a lot and does'nt want to stop seeing me but that I am the one who decides if we stop or not. I want to se where things go and go out because we have only been at home at each other. He has a very bad view of relationships, that once you go into one everything will crash. He has been cheated on and been with psychogirls before and seems to think that everyone is the same. He said he is afraid of getting hurt and has been through a lot in past relationships. I wanted more, see where it led. We agreed that we would be heard later in the week.
On Saturday I was out in the same city he lives in and wrote to him that we should talk. He came right to where I was. I started crying because I dont want to stop seeing him. He said that it has nothing to do with me which I have a hard time believing. We did came to a conclusion that we were going to continue seeing each other and and see where it goes. I ended up sleeping at his house, we had a nice day the next day, he did said he was drunk and didn’t remember much of the night. I went home and since then we have not spoken, and it has been almost two weeks.
SO..1. Am I stupid for wanting to reach out?
2. Should I take this as his answer that he doesn’t want to speak to me?
3. Has anyone been in the same situation as me or him?
4. Has anyone like him been afraid of letting someone in that they liked and didn’t want a relationship because of fear?
On Monday I went to his house and mentioned that he said this, which he does not remember. We had a long conversation where he said he did not want a relationship right now. He like me a lot and does'nt want to stop seeing me but that I am the one who decides if we stop or not. I want to se where things go and go out because we have only been at home at each other. He has a very bad view of relationships, that once you go into one everything will crash. He has been cheated on and been with psychogirls before and seems to think that everyone is the same. He said he is afraid of getting hurt and has been through a lot in past relationships. I wanted more, see where it led. We agreed that we would be heard later in the week.
On Saturday I was out in the same city he lives in and wrote to him that we should talk. He came right to where I was. I started crying because I dont want to stop seeing him. He said that it has nothing to do with me which I have a hard time believing. We did came to a conclusion that we were going to continue seeing each other and and see where it goes. I ended up sleeping at his house, we had a nice day the next day, he did said he was drunk and didn’t remember much of the night. I went home and since then we have not spoken, and it has been almost two weeks.
SO..1. Am I stupid for wanting to reach out?
2. Should I take this as his answer that he doesn’t want to speak to me?
3. Has anyone been in the same situation as me or him?
4. Has anyone like him been afraid of letting someone in that they liked and didn’t want a relationship because of fear?
