He wants to find himself?

[Anonymous]

There’s a guy who says that he like me and he told me that more than once and i keep changing the subject because we don’t know each other so much Last time i went out with him it was nice and we have a good time And he asks if i like him and i said yes The next two days he asks me if i can go hang out with him but i said im sorry that I can’t (i really couldn’t go out those two days) After that he became so cold and left me in delivered for hours And now he post a story that say that “he thought he wanted someone to care about him and someone to love him but he realised that he only needs himself” What should i do now

[HollyK21]

He’s probably a guy who has a bad history with women, and so he doesn’t handle certain situations well now as a result. If you were interested in hanging out again, even though you couldn’t hang out those two days, you could’ve suggested another day/time. But given the way you responded he may feel rejected, and that has less to do with you and more to do with him needing to heal from the past hurt still so he doesn’t automatically think women are going to disappoint and hurt him. Anyway, if you like him, or at least interested then it doesn’t hurt to let him know. That way he isn’t trying to read signals and come to his own conclusion. If you aren’t interested, tell him that too so he isn’t wasting his time or getting his hopes up. Whatever you’re feeling, address it, whether it’s taking things slow, disinterest or whatever your hang up is.

[Asker]

I’m interested but he doesn’t know and he didn't open that subject any since then because i told him to take things slowly
But actually I’m too shy to open up all of the sudden and tell him that i like him,,
Should i reply to his story saying something that will make him feel that i do like him?

[HollyK21]

I would say not to do that. All of those insinuations and hinting to this or that is just childish, and I mean that politely. I understand you are shy, but do the grown up thing, be brave and just tell the guy you like him. You’re relying on his ability to decipher what you mean and hoping that he’ll know you’re interested just because you are afraid. Don’t do that to him or yourself, because there is simply no need, especially as an adult. You already know he’s interested as well so there is nothing to lose. If he’s all in his feelings and rejects you then that is his loss and you don’t want a man-child anyway. At least you could be proud that you stepped outside of your comfort zone.

[KelleyNice]

Count you blessing that you learned what he is like so soon instead of after you had a lot more invested in the relationship.

[1step]

He was scared after a date but he is too needy and a cry baby