Are younger people not ready for marriage?

Question

I find some lack confidence while others are jealous and possessive and others have anger issues, it seems older men are better

jammcm · Accepted Answer

My wife and I did not get married until we were in the mid 20s. We have seen a lot of marriages go bad over the years. One of the elements that has caused the breakups is that they did not experience life as a single person before they got married.

We also have good friends who have gotten married right out of high school and like us have been happily married for over 50 years.

I think the key is to really know the person. My wife and I dated on and off for 5 years before getting married.

Waldoe · Accepted Answer

No one is ever ready, you learn as you go...

Kaamraj · Answer

Marriage was traditionally seen as a pact, a trade between the man's resource provisioning exclusivity and a woman's reproductive - sexual exclusivity. So, it involved a compromise, in that women got married young when they were at or near their sexual mean value (SMV) peak to a man who society and her parents and well-wishers vouched for was honest, hardworking, and successful or well on his way to achieve his sexual mean value peak (SMV).

What has happened now is that the sexual market has become completely deregulated, especially with the arrival of social media and dating apps. Most of the women are after only the top 10% of men who are gifted either genetically (looks) or socio-economically. The data from swiping patterns from dating apps show that for the average woman, the average man is invisible.

Most of the men on other hand get tired of investing in a system / game which is stacked against them. Combine this with the fact that most marriage end in divorce and women initiate vast majority of them, coupled with the family court system, men are rightfully staying away from marriage.

Graci_e · Answer

Just because a guys older, it doesn’t necessarily make him a better person. Potentially more mature, by logic; but someone from an older age group could easily be more immature than someone from a younger age group.

People are individuals. We go through different things, we’re raised different, we have different personalities, minds and morals. Generations can have trends that impact those things, but it’s completely down to the individuals and themselves as people.

You can’t group people together based of age, gender, race or any defining feature. We’re all widely different.

Rei02 · Answer

In the end, what counts is the emotional age, not the biological because one can still be 18 despite having a 40-year-old body.

Even older people can have does emotional issues of jealousy, possessive, anger, depression, anxiousness, etc. The maturity and emotional age is relative in each one of us, some can mature faster while others can't or they mature moreless around the biological age they have.

And after centuries of lies and fantasy created by romantic stories, we recently are becoming aware about their fallacies about how destructive behaviour like jealousy or hating don't equal to love.

HighlyVolatile · Answer

I don't know if anyone's ready. I see it as similar to having a child. Hardly anyone's really ready. You become ready or you don't.

The advantage of older people as I see it is that we become settled in our ways. So if our ways work with someone else's, then we're unlikely to change much. That might also be our weakness growing older.

Strengths and weaknesses.

notwoke · Answer

people raised by a single parent where the parent was also raised by a single parent are at a great disadvantage due to lack of learning basic emotional self control during upbringing. this is going to greatly impact the success and living standard going forward.

missmels · Answer

People are prioritizing other things in their lives nowadays - themselves, their careers, experiences, etc. In my circle of educated “young” professionals, barely any are married at the age of 30 and most of single/casually dating and still focusing on themselves. Just a societal shift.

Emilyis · Answer

No they aren't. They are all watching porn and have no idea the difference between sex and making love. They don't want to work and think that everyone owes them something. They buy things that they don't need and can't afford and they all think they should be making $100,000.00 as soon as they graduate high school or college.

YungBahlr · Answer

Generally, I don’t think they are. But I would argue it has less to do with personal choices or collective personality deficits compared to other things.
To name a few: being in a highly transitional/experimental phase of life regarding self identity and place in society, lack of long-term dating experience, and a small unstable pool of resources.

Kkstarzz96 · Answer

what the point of getting married if you don't have any money for the wedding or let alone place to live together. now if they do and they're not doing it, they're greedy is honestly my belief. or they don't trust them, but from what I've seen, they don't even give you a chance to be trusted.

Reaper1985 · Answer

many people in modern western countries from late teens to mid 30s. would rather engage in hookup culture for as long as possible. rather then find a partner to commit to. much of this can be blamed on verse élite class people. who slowly ruined the traditional family unit over the last serval decades.

mantelk · Answer

Love is dying. Lust and partying have taken over. To revive things how it should be we need some responsible artists to be famous. Young people's mentality is shaped by culture and music.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, some younger people are not ready for marriage they get married and they face breakups and divorce

mandyfire98 · Answer

Younger people aren't prepared for a lot of things lol.

Anonymous · Answer

It seems like more and more people are never ready for marriage at any age these days, especially guys.

Avicenna · Answer

Yeah, most younger people are not ready for it (I sure wasn’t).

KelleyNice · Answer

I don't believe I'm ready for marriage. However, religious scholars believe the Virgin Mary was my age when she was married; a common age at that time. I believe I will be ready for marriage by the time I graduate college.

exitseven · Answer

Everyone matures differently. Some people grow up and some people just get older.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Younger people are still inexperienced and have a lot to learn still.

lovethislife55 · Answer

Honestly, i find it difficult to find a mate worth marrying in a society that uses dating apps and easily cheats and has access to catalogs of different options at the snap of their fingers. And times have changed, we want to have a career, travel, not rush children, so marriage is on the back burner it seems. If you're common law living together there is no real push for marriage

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

I want to get married one day and I wouldn't mind doing so right now but I haven't found the right guy yet. I think it really depends on the couple and how they view the relationship and marriage.

sheikalana · Answer

I guess marriage is not a priority for young people nowadays.

achilljoeythor · Answer

I'm open to marriage but it'd have to be a open non-monogamous marriage. I HATE MONOGAMY honestly. It sucks and SOOOO restrictive to me, I don't think you should be limited to just 1 partner for MULTIPLE decades. I'm not saying just sleep with any female who can birth a child, but having multiple lovers isn't a bad thing.

Jabberjaw · Answer

Wouldn't say a matter of being ready. It's are you a partner that could make a good marriage and do you even want one?

HighValue · Answer

More men at any age are realizing that marriage is bad for them so don't be surprised if they don't want legal marriage.

glennos89 · Answer

The younger generations are definitly screwed in finding love. Things changed for the bad in finding love sadly 😕

sarah5513 · Answer

I think maturity can change according to what people experience, so we cannot say that young people are not suitable for marriage.

Mikeysoda · Answer

It depends on their training and their mindset on things.

Straight2thepoint · Answer

No. Older people may think in their traditional ways. But it's not about that. It's about the current society. It has set standards ways out of context. that it makes it unique and cool. (Sarcastic)

RuthlessAggression · Answer

I'm 33 and I don't WANT marriage but that doesn't mean I won't do it. I don't want it because I feel like marriage is just a piece of LEGAL paper to me

admles · Answer

Life is a lot more expensive these days, people are waiting until older to get married. Plus, a lot of people see it as just a piece of paper these days, which is fair.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Generally speaking it's not easy to answer questions for entire populations of people as if they all think and act exactly alike.

YoMan1 · Answer

Marriage will become a thing of the past the way society is moving. So to be "not ready" will be irrelevant.

front2back · Answer

My plan is to just hitch some clueless 18-22 year old and we'll figure it out at this point.

Anonymous · Answer

Most men are not mature enough for marriage till they are at least 35.

BCRanger10 · Answer

Some are, others aren't.

Ozzie_Cheddar · Answer

Noone wants to marry because of how expensive it is

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

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