Are younger people not ready for marriage?

[jennifer_bloom]

I find some lack confidence while others are jealous and possessive and others have anger issues, it seems older men are better

[jammcm]

My wife and I did not get married until we were in the mid 20s. We have seen a lot of marriages go bad over the years. One of the elements that has caused the breakups is that they did not experience life as a single person before they got married.

We also have good friends who have gotten married right out of high school and like us have been happily married for over 50 years.

I think the key is to really know the person. My wife and I dated on and off for 5 years before getting married.

[Waldoe]

No one is ever ready, you learn as you go...

[Kaamraj]

Marriage was traditionally seen as a pact, a trade between the man's resource provisioning exclusivity and a woman's reproductive - sexual exclusivity. So, it involved a compromise, in that women got married young when they were at or near their sexual mean value (SMV) peak to a man who society and her parents and well-wishers vouched for was honest, hardworking, and successful or well on his way to achieve his sexual mean value peak (SMV).

What has happened now is that the sexual market has become completely deregulated, especially with the arrival of social media and dating apps. Most of the women are after only the top 10% of men who are gifted either genetically (looks) or socio-economically. The data from swiping patterns from dating apps show that for the average woman, the average man is invisible.

Most of the men on other hand get tired of investing in a system / game which is stacked against them. Combine this with the fact that most marriage end in divorce and women initiate vast majority of them, coupled with the family court system, men are rightfully staying away from marriage.

[madelyndrae]

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[Graci_e]

Just because a guys older, it doesn’t necessarily make him a better person. Potentially more mature, by logic; but someone from an older age group could easily be more immature than someone from a younger age group.

People are individuals. We go through different things, we’re raised different, we have different personalities, minds and morals. Generations can have trends that impact those things, but it’s completely down to the individuals and themselves as people.

You can’t group people together based of age, gender, race or any defining feature. We’re all widely different.

[Rei02]

In the end, what counts is the emotional age, not the biological because one can still be 18 despite having a 40-year-old body.

Even older people can have does emotional issues of jealousy, possessive, anger, depression, anxiousness, etc. The maturity and emotional age is relative in each one of us, some can mature faster while others can't or they mature moreless around the biological age they have.

And after centuries of lies and fantasy created by romantic stories, we recently are becoming aware about their fallacies about how destructive behaviour like jealousy or hating don't equal to love.

[HighlyVolatile]

I don't know if anyone's ready. I see it as similar to having a child. Hardly anyone's really ready. You become ready or you don't.

The advantage of older people as I see it is that we become settled in our ways. So if our ways work with someone else's, then we're unlikely to change much. That might also be our weakness growing older.

Strengths and weaknesses.

[notwoke]

people raised by a single parent where the parent was also raised by a single parent are at a great disadvantage due to lack of learning basic emotional self control during upbringing. this is going to greatly impact the success and living standard going forward.

[missmels]

People are prioritizing other things in their lives nowadays - themselves, their careers, experiences, etc. In my circle of educated “young” professionals, barely any are married at the age of 30 and most of single/casually dating and still focusing on themselves. Just a societal shift.

[missmels]

Also the scarce few that did get married prior to 30 are already filing for divorce

[Emilyis]

No they aren't. They are all watching porn and have no idea the difference between sex and making love. They don't want to work and think that everyone owes them something. They buy things that they don't need and can't afford and they all think they should be making $100,000.00 as soon as they graduate high school or college.

[YungBahlr]

Generally, I don’t think they are. But I would argue it has less to do with personal choices or collective personality deficits compared to other things.
To name a few: being in a highly transitional/experimental phase of life regarding self identity and place in society, lack of long-term dating experience, and a small unstable pool of resources.

[Kkstarzz96]

what the point of getting married if you don't have any money for the wedding or let alone place to live together. now if they do and they're not doing it, they're greedy is honestly my belief. or they don't trust them, but from what I've seen, they don't even give you a chance to be trusted.

[Reaper1985]

many people in modern western countries from late teens to mid 30s. would rather engage in hookup culture for as long as possible. rather then find a partner to commit to. much of this can be blamed on verse élite class people. who slowly ruined the traditional family unit over the last serval decades.

[mantelk]

Love is dying. Lust and partying have taken over. To revive things how it should be we need some responsible artists to be famous. Young people's mentality is shaped by culture and music.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, some younger people are not ready for marriage they get married and they face breakups and divorce

[mandyfire98]

Younger people aren't prepared for a lot of things lol.

[Anonymous]

It seems like more and more people are never ready for marriage at any age these days, especially guys.

[Avicenna]

Yeah, most younger people are not ready for it (I sure wasn’t).

[KelleyNice]

I don't believe I'm ready for marriage. However, religious scholars believe the Virgin Mary was my age when she was married; a common age at that time. I believe I will be ready for marriage by the time I graduate college.

[AlphaGhost]

You would not be ready for big decision like marriage until you are at least 25 years old with enough dating experience to make calculated decisions regarding your future. Pleaseeeee don't have kids in your teenage years or before marriage cuz they will tremendously effect your dating options and career. If I put it in simple words, nobody wants single MoM's and kid's life is ruined in process

[Red_Arrow]

You should not expect to be ready for marriage upon graduating college. It varies depending on your expectations and experiences. You may need a few years after that to find what you want and the guy that fits in.
That said, it could be that you don't even finish college before you find the right guy. I was 27 when I met a college girl who was a junior and 21 years old. Within hours we knew we were right for each other. Shortly after that we were married. It lasted till her death from cancer. Wait and see what happens in the future.

[exitseven]

Everyone matures differently. Some people grow up and some people just get older.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Younger people are still inexperienced and have a lot to learn still.

[lovethislife55]

Honestly, i find it difficult to find a mate worth marrying in a society that uses dating apps and easily cheats and has access to catalogs of different options at the snap of their fingers. And times have changed, we want to have a career, travel, not rush children, so marriage is on the back burner it seems. If you're common law living together there is no real push for marriage

[Jemini_Crocket]

I want to get married one day and I wouldn't mind doing so right now but I haven't found the right guy yet.

I think it really depends on the couple and how they view the relationship and marriage.