Is marriage out of reach now for most young people?

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sage2021 · Accepted Answer

It depends on what type of life style you want. Not every married couple HAS to buy a house. This isn't like the Leave It To Beaver TV show anymore with the perfect all American family.
Not everyone can have what they grew up dreaming about. The house with the white picket fence and a Weber grill on the backyard patio.
People are not a compatible as they once were.
Social media has changed people's minds about the type of person that is acceptable enough to meet your criteria list and marry the person. Still with no guarantees that they will be together for very long.
I think that the odds are against younger people getting and staying married are not in their favor, not just because they can't afford to live in a house, but because people just aren't very compatible anymore.

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

If they want it they’ll do it. If they believe in marriage they’ll live a life that reflects that.

They’re not helpless. It’s just few choose to focus on that. They don’t see it much, and they don’t value it. If they don’t see it, understand it, or value it then they’re not gonna want it. They just won’t see the point in it. But not everyone is that way.

conanbdetective · Accepted Answer

No. It's a matter of the current dating generation facing a lot of apprehension at this moment in time. We're broke. Future prospects are uncertain. There hasn't really been a time of relative peace with regards to having a family. Everyone appears to have 1 foot out the door with a list of iron clad demands on the other in search of stability in relationships. Romantic relationships can be volatile so most settle to be in flimsy "situationships/mutual understanding" relationships, opt to only have platonic relationships, or just be on their own for extended periods of time.

Zack-Bann · Accepted Answer

Easier now than they’ve ever been in human history

While marriage used to be a communal affair that involved 2 families in and also the town elders, today it’s a personal decision

2 people can chose to get hitched and make it so

Not that it’s a good idea but it’s definitely not out of reach

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Loyal and very hard working men, kind and non confrontational women, are still popular when healthy, employed, and sane. The fact is, many societal elites do not have time to change their personality because they are too busy earning money, but personality matters a lot, and money cannot eliminate loneliness or health issues but personality can reduce the risk.

DishLady · Answer

Not really, though the generation needs a wake up call to move from what they refer to as “talking”/“seeing” (virtual) vs actually being with someone, registering the degree of significant ave and so on. I was just coaching someone today who registers his texting as “seeing” but that’s just not real….

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Yes, because you can’t get married online and how else would they manage to do it?

LazerBean · Answer

No. Plenty of Young people are still getting married, and the ones that are not getting married are putting it off until later in life for various personal reasons. There's also a kind of unspoken expectation that people should wait until after they are graduated from college to get married otherwise it is somehow irresponsible.

purplepoppy · Answer

It depends on whether or not girls are willing to settle in fear of being left on the shelf or not. In a perfect world men would pull their socks off and turn themselves into husband material but these days they're too busy riding the pity pony.

I think the problem is there's too much crap advice on the Internet, instead of telling guys it's about confidence, tell them to get a decent haircut and a proper job. Don't chase that nurse if all you've got is high school education and a burgerflipping job. In the dating game, we hold all the cards and the sooner guys realise that the better.

Tomblebee · Answer

When the sales pitch says its too early to talk about a family and marriage, that's a two year thing at the earliest, and your 4 years in and haven't made any plans kinda thing. Yes it does feel out of reach. Men find it more daunting now with having to share half their shit.

Luopio27 · Answer

No! The higher the standards the slimmer the chances!

Those who fall in love with loyalty, personality, intelect, humor and other non looks based qualities are the luckiest ones cuz their pool of options is widest conpared to the shallow version of them!

Miristheiss · Answer

No.

Their personal character and value system may rule out marriage but for those who are worthy of it, it is easily available.

A lot of weak porn addicted simp men or womanizers who just want to screw a lot of women and move on. There are a lot of vain, entitled, promiscuous women who want a fancy life and who will divorce the instant she doesn't feel "happy" so there are tons of people not worthy of marriage.

RavVid · Answer

Marriage has value if it is what it was meant to be; a couple making a life together.

The median 8 years duration today is just an extended hook up.

I would say it is out of reach for most young people because it is "till bored do we part"

loveyouoak · Answer

Marriage is now out of fashion. It is normal for religious and old-fashioned people to insist on marriage, but young people no longer want a hindrance like marriage. Freedom and living alone seem more reasonable.

Gwendoline · Answer

I don't think so. I think a lot of young couples get engaged at maybe 22 and spend the next 8 years saving for a big expensive wedding.

katiesmuff · Answer

Not out of reach and two people truly in love can get through tough times pretty easily sticking together.

thegreenyogi · Answer

I wouldn't say so. What I will say though is that it's the reason why you get married that is more important. Marriage doesn't always equal happiness if it's not for love.

ravagesavage · Answer

It feels like it... Almost like I'm dumpster diving and coming out with the worst ones. I know she's somewhere out there tho, I just have to keep pressing forward, pushing the worse types aside.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, nobody is getting married anymore. Nobody can afford a wedding. The average wedding was $30,000.

NicholasRedone · Answer

I don't want to be de-gloved wearing a ring on my finger you see 💍 - even my ideal girlfriend wouldn't wear rings even for fashion lol 😅

Anonymous · Answer

Not so much out of reach as unappealing, especially to men.

bddddd · Answer

Finances minus expectations make it harder.  I do agree with Dishlady too. Online dating is unhelpful for most people most of the time.

DrPepper12 · Answer

No. Just takes longer to feel comfortable to take the plunge and that's not necessarily a bad thing

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

Yes, because there are no good and kind men and young people have no money.

douride2 · Answer

Why would it be out of reach?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Only in their minds. You can easily have a good relationship if you have the right mindset and attitude.

altaboy · Answer

Why would it be out of reach? A simple wedding is not expensive.

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

Watch the glaring difference in opinions between men and women, what does that say about what the problem really is?

Anonymous · Answer

For most young women? Yes. Men are not avoiding marriage though, men are avoiding divorce. Not going to change until divorce and family court is made fair, and stops favoring women.

DCVsMarvel2 · Answer

Of course not, we see it happen all the time. GOOD marriages however, are, though

ABC1x1x · Answer

Everything is out of reach for young people. They should give up.

Dongie · Answer

Sure, I don't know, who cares!

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

yes, we’ve understood its pointless

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

Certainly for me it feels that way.

Anonymous · Answer

It is for me :(

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Out of reach? No. Unappealing? Yes.

serious · Answer

I think so.

Panthero · Answer

Why would it be?

Jay-_- · Answer

Most likely.

In_Trance · Answer

No it's not

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think so

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