If you read comments from a lot of guys on G@G I didn't realize how wide spread it is. I think most people would like to get married, I still do, but I started giving up its hard to start dating and form a relationship until we have built trust for each other, there used to be more places people could go to on dates like dancing together that are different to a nightclub.
Society bases relationships on just sleeping with others now, it needs to go back to governments and schools being proactive not reactive and start educating a better way about respect, love, loyalty, trust, sex, etc.
One problem is the bad people with not much of a moral compass that would use. You can try and be one of the most loving individuals but it takes two, divorce has become easier for those in abusive relationships to get out quick but like a lot of things what was meant to help some is abused by the rotters, users that make it worse for everyone. You could try to introduce your potential partner to people you know.
My examples, my mum's friend Sonia knew me for 8 years from age 13 so she knew me very well at 21 she tried to match me with this girl she knew, I never had one date with her but said I was too nice.
The girl I got engaged too when I was 26 was my sister's friend so we had known each other before dating but it was on the rebound for her the issues she told me are a long story I just want to forget her what I did for her.
There is the issues of f***boys, Misogyny metoo whoever is to blame or both as bad as each other I don't know, the feminists that are like misogynists want to be above the other sex instead of building for the good of both. Guys get dagger looks just for being friendly smiling and looking away, or fancying but again when you have guys going over the top and making a girl feel threatened and unsafe answer teach them to be gentlemen the way it used to be. Some people have been hurt then really hate, some don't want a family now one reason is because the way society has become, others just don't have interest in having children.
There are more girls play hard to get and then reject a guy and bad experiences like if you see a failed relationship/ marriage which I have at an early age it can put negative thoughts of our relationship failing in future, but for me now I know I am total opposite to my father, it takes two to come as one to make a relationship, the relationships that are stronger seem to talk issues through. I will stop there.
I think the reason for it is the hook up culture. It´s not feminism but the fact that people jump in a bed together before they know each other properly.
The reason is that because many people believe sex is all that a relationship is about they choose the short pleasure because it´s easier to get.
We live in a over-sexualized culture where many guys start to watch porn before they actually date girl. That´s the wrong because porn is portraying women either as dump and addicted to dicks or mean with a shitty character just wanting to make fun guys.
It´s creating a misconcept in the head of many guys which lead to all dick size question like they´ve been asked here at numerous times.
The thing this porn consume by guys lead to is the constant request for nudes. Because I´d argue that guys would ask less for them if they watched less amount of porn.
I don´t think feminism has destroyed dating because women asking for their rights isn´t bad at all. It shouldn´t be out of question that a relationship is a giving and taking without the need of actually talking about what each person gives.
I think the main problem is that our young generations have lost the patience for dating. Many of us want a relationship pretty soon, some dream/think of asking the other one out after the third/fourth date. Don´t get me wrong that can be the ideal moment but I think in some cases people get too soon together and later realize they don´t match in character and split up.
If people had more patience and would be willing to wait and connect on the emotional level before they looked for the sexual connection I´d think they would be happier in relationship and would be willing to commit on a deeper level.
But that´s not the case today because especially many of us guys we think that an emotional connection comes when we had a sexual connection.
Creating and having an emotional bond is why harder so people prefer to start with the sexual connection but that distorts the balance of a relationship. People become needy and self-oriented because they´re driven by lust and not by love. Sex is only love making in my view when you had love before you had sex because sex can enhance love but it doesn´t create love.
If you don´t have love for the other one before you had sex you´ll probably not having it afterwards either.
I think that´s problem of our generation. Everybody´s look for love and ending up having sex because it was the easier of pleasure.
I would love to get married & have children someday... but probably not till my 30s. I'm 18, and I just don't see myself settling down till then... after I experience the dating world a bit more with some trial & error. I just know too many people who've gotten divorced in their 20s. I have a huge respect for marriage & I take it very seriously. I think men in their teens & 20s are very immature and are incredibly lust filled, whereas women think their in love with someone who only wants sex. Marriage has been so disrespected, like back then divorce was legally punishable... now it's just another drama.
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As a girl you need to stand up for the men you want. Ie since you are waiting for a guy instead of taking action yourself. You should also fight modern feminism. Since they killed dating, it wasn't the men that did it, they are just seeing what can happen and want no part of it. Marriage is off, kids and family is still wanted by some men, but they no longer can trust that they get to keep it. Just the bills so they avoid that too. So fix what feminism broke. Or you will see this trend continue.
In my opinion the love for each other is far more important then whether you're married or not. Being married or not shouldn't change anything to do with how they feel towards each other. I personally don't require marriage from my partner but if she really wants that then sure. Having kids is a different story. Some people do some don't.
Because the world is becoming a colder place, people switched their priorities. Many people can't even marry because of economical reasons. I know many people that can't afford to get married sot hey let it be. It's a rough time, money ruined everything according to me.
Marriage doesn't equal good relationship, or commitment anymore.
People still leave, "families" still get broken, whether you have a signed piece of paper or not.
For the most part, it looks like it. I haven't, but its hope at best. I am a weird dude and I need a very particular person. I don't think my odds of find that person are great. So I am real about the possibility that I am done. But I live a simple life and I am very grateful for everything I do have, because its more than most and I have no chaos in my life.
Marriage is only a piece of paper telling government worlds that you’re married. Getting that piece of paper doesn’t make you any happier or anything like that. It’s only a paper
The institution of marriage socially, legally, and economically, is detrimental to men. The new generation of men have realized this and are checking out. Until the playing field is levelled, there is no use to even think of marriage.
It's more accurate to say that many people are finally realizing that marriage is a scam.
I porbaly won't be marrying anybody it's financially not worth it. And most of them don't last longer than 5-7 years anyway.
I honestly don't know, this generation is all about sex.. sometimes people tend to just do it before marriage, it's not like before where people get to know each other with a simple "Hi, how was your day?" Now a days it's just "Hey, wanna fuck?" Something like that. You'll be lucky enough if you find a guy who's a gentleman/lady, if you do find one.. NEVER let go of him/her and treat him/her right.
They should. They should give up on having sex, too. Kids should focus on being kids and not be messing around in grown folks' business.
Yeah. I dont think ill ever actively try to look for people to marry. And even if i do (most probably i will) , i dont want children.
Well yk marraige fails are way too common in this generation and people have become self centered nowadays, there's very less cases of true love , so people don't marry more often nowadays
Yeah
I don't even care anymore but if no one gets married then you have no divorce and I have no scrap wedding bands to deal in
I don't want the government involved in my love life.
Right? I'm always like, dude.. man up a little and appreciate the lady that loves you... You will regret it later
In California marriage is a scam so someone can take half of your stuff, so it's not worth it where I live.
Approach people you like -- as a normal person would do.
To me marriage is a religious ceremony. If you are not religious you'd be just as well of with a registered partnership. Although this could depend on where you live.
Yes they did its religiously wrong but yes due to gender issues
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