What are some reasons your not girlfriend material?

[Anonymous]

I realized about two years ago that I am not girlfriend/wife material. My purpose is just to help men pass time until the perfect woman comes along. At first, I would force relationships and fall into depression whenever I was let down. I wondered if I was ugly or too this or that or just not enough in general. Although, I am unconventional far as looks. I've been a girlfriend and a wife, but I was just a torch holder for the next woman. However, I do feel free knowing my purpose. Whenever I meet a guy I know I’m very temporary in his life no matter how much he appears to like/love me. I do have sex sometimes, and I usually know to move on with my life immediately afterwards. I watched a lot of rom coms and disney movies growing up only to realize all woman do not experience those things. I know I can not be the only one. I think it is good to be honest with yourself to avoid heartache. For instance, I am currently seeing a guy who thinks he a master mind of manipulation. I see right through him though. After an encounter with him I know to move forward.

[unknownforever]

Try not to look at it too harshly. Not all relationships will last. Some guys already know from the start of the relationship if they could see you "as the one". I think the only reason it hurts more is because they stay longer until they find the person they're looking for. And this doesn't just happen with men. Some women do it too. It definitely sucks and hurts. but on the bright side, at least you know that none of those men were made for you, and that someone else is out there. Also I heard some advice where people will say do not treat your boyfriend as your husband. If you give him everything too soon, he may never want to take that stage. I don't know if it is true or not. At the start of the relationship, always point out that you are looking for something serious. Hopefully it helps a little.

[Anonymous]

have you tried dating an older guy? They will definitely marry you 😂. I noticed most people who feel this way and complain about not getting a date have completely unreasonable expectations and requirements. For example, I knew this oje guy who was mad at the world for not having a girlfriend at age 28+. The guy was a complete nerd, short, worked minimum wage job, barely graduated high school, wasn’t attractive and wasn’t in shape. But he wanted a girl who was hot and attractive and wouldn’t settle for any girl who was less than a 6-7/10. It’s honestly a mental illness at that point. If you REALLY wanted a guy to marry you, you could find one.

[Asker]

i dont want to get married and i dated an older man and it was the worst. i don’t have unrealistic requirements. did you even read to comprehend what i said. i clearly stated i was unconventional i just wanted someone who keeps their word and is honest! since i know ill never find that ill play temp agent

[Opinion Owner]

You like that type of lifestyle? I thought you were mad about it.

[Asker]

yes i actually like it now

[kinggeorge007]

Wow... That's bizarre. Bizarre because I understand you. You know there are guys like you too. I'm one of them. But I take the fallout pretty hard on myself. But the point is, you are not alone and I still have "some" faith left. But I've settled for single life. I truly am. I do everything for me, my success even though it's really really slow but still progressing during an economic fallout.

There could be more to this. Like maybe we are just not "regular" people. We need to meet special people. If there's no special people around, stay single; treat yourself - that's my motto.

[exitseven]

I have to wonder if you do not really want to be somebody's one and only.

[Asker]

i did at first but not anymore

[exitseven]

okay- now you need to ask yourself why you feel that way. Do you really like to be somebody's consolation prize or are you afraid of the responsibility of holding somebody's heart in the palm of your hand?

[TenkRealist]

You're literally cucking yourself. Anyone who wants it, tries for it, does all they can to make it work are relationship material.

[mannsharma]

It never happened like that everyone has different kind of ability, and don't worry one day you will meet with perfect man who will accept you as you are so be happy and chill and no body is perfect in this world

[KatherineJ]

Because I’m already married.

[Anonymous]

Because I'm a man